Personal

Relationships
Part I
Group #3

Angela Rose P. Kylene Arins Zae Nesha Emperador

Espiritu Bajamundi
Basic Definitions
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Relationships Personal Relationships Love

- a relation between - relationships between -strong affection for

people people, especially those another arising out of
- a state of between friends, lovers kinship or personalities
connectedness and family members (maternal love for a child)
between people -attraction based on sexual
(especially an emotional desire: affection and
connection) tenderness felt by lovers
-affection based on
admiration, benevolence,
or common interests (love
for his old schoolmates)
 Basic Definitions
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Commitment Attraction Responsibility
- the act of binding - the act, power, or - the social force that binds
yourself (intellectually property of attracting you to the courses of action
or emotionally) to a - attractive quality; demanded by that force
course of action magnetic charm; - a form of trustworthiness;
- a message that makes fascination; allurement; the trait of being answerable
a pledge enticement to someone for something
- a person or thing that or being responsible for
draws, attracts, allures, one’s conduct
or entices
 WHAT DO WE MEAN BY
PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS?
- Personal relationships refer to close connections between
people, formed by emotional bonds and interactions.

- Relationships are not static; they are continually evolving, and

to fully enjoy and benefit from them we need skills,
information, inspiration, practice, and social support.
 Three Kinds of Personal Relationships
Family
- The Bureau of the Census defines family as "two or more persons
who are related by birth, marriage, or adoption and who live
together as one household.
- But many people have family they don't live with or to whom
they are not bonded by love, and the roles of family vary across
cultures as well as throughout your own lifetime.
- Some typical characteristics of a family are support, mutual trust,
regular interactions, shared beliefs and values, security, and a
sense of community.
 Three Kinds of Personal Relationships
Friends
- A friendship can be thought of as a close tie between two people
that is often built upon mutual experiences, shared interests,
proximity, and emotional bonding. Friends are able to turn to
each other in times of need.
- Nicholas Christakis and James Fowler, social-network
researchers and authors of the book Connected, find that the
average person has about six close ties—though some have
more, and many have only one or none.
- Note that online friends don’t count toward close ties
 Three Kinds of Personal Relationships
Partnerships

- Romantic partnerships, including marriage, are

close relationships formed between two people
that are built upon affection, trust, intimacy,
and romantic love.
 WHY PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS ARE
IMPORTANT

- Healthy relationships are a vital component

of health and well being.
- The health risks from being alone or isolated
in one's life are comparable to the risks
associated with cigarette smoking, blood
pressure, and obesity.
LIVE LONGER
● A review of 148 studies found that people with strong
social relationships are 50% less likely to die
prematurely.
● Dan Buettner’s Blue Zones research calculates that
committing to a life partner can add 3 years to life
expectancy (Researchers Nicholas Christakis and James
Fowler have found that men’s life expectancy benefits
from marriage more than women’s do.)
DEAL WITH STRESS
● In a study of over 100 people, researchers
found that people who completed a
stressful task experienced a faster
recovery when they were reminded of
people with whom they had strong
relationships.
BE HEALTHIER
● According to research by psychologist Sheldon Cohen, college students
who reported having strong relationships were half as likely to catch a
common cold when exposed to the virus.
● 2012 international Gallup poll found that people who feel they have
friends and family to count on are generally more satisfied with their
personal health than people who feel isolated. And hanging out with
healthy people increases your own likelihood of health.
● Christakis and Fowler show that non-obese people are more likely to
have non-obese friends because healthy habits spread through our
social networks.
FEEL RICHER
● A survey by the National Bureau of
Economic Research of 5,000 people found
that doubling your group of friends has the
same effect on your wellbeing as a 50%
increase in income!
 25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS
1. Affairs / infidelity / cheating. This includes emotional
infidelity, one-night stands, internet relationships
(including ‘sexting’), long- and short-term affairs and
financial infidelity
2. Sexual Issues, particularly loss of libido and
including questions around your gender, or your
partner's gender
3. Significant differences in core values and beliefs
4. Life stages – you have ‘outgrown’ each other or have
‘changed’ significantly for whatever reason
5. Traumatic and/or Life-Changing Events
 25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS
6. Responses to prolonged periods of Stress, such as Work-
Related Stress, long term illness, mental health issues,
Financial Problems, problems with the children, infertility
and many more.
7. Bored in or with Your Relationship
8. Dealing with a jealous partner
9. Having 'blended' family issues
10. Domestic violence, which includes verbal as well as
physical abuse: THE most serious relationship problem.
 25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS
11. Knowing you should not have got married in the first place!
12. Lack of responsibility regarding finances, children, health and
many other issues
13. Unrealistic Expectations- still thinking your partner / spouse is
the princess / knight and not seeing the 'real' human being
14. Addictions - substance abuse
15. Excessive reliance on social media, at the cost of the
relationship
 25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS
16. Lack of support during particularly difficult times from people that
matter to you
17. Manipulation or over-involvement in your relationships with family
or friends
18. Lack of communication about important matters
19. Poor division of and / or one-sided lack of responsibility for chores
and tasks. It is not always women who complain about this relationship
problem!
20. Perceived lack of concern, care and consideration / attentiveness:
feeling the relationship is one-sided is a big one!
 25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS
21. Significant personal disappointments and traumas that lead to a change in
relationship dynamics
22. Long term depression or other mental health issues suffered by one partner or
both
23. Significant differences in opinion on how to discipline / deal with the
children
24. Long-term stress, particularly when not taking responsibility for doing
something positive to address the cause, or about learning to handle it if it cannot
be changed
25. An unsupportive partner during pregnancy and / or significant problems after
the birth your baby.
“ The person you love (or used to love) was
always bound to hurt you - it's sadly a fact of
life and we all do it to each other. However,
we can become better at solving our
relationship problems by taking
responsibility for ourselves.’’
— REMEMBER!

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THE END
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