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What Should I Do?

This is such an important topic because this question is so often asked.Sometimes
the question is being asked unconsciously – you are doing so much, and feeling
burnt out, overwhelmed, drained, or lacking inspiration and passion, and the
unconscious questions trying to be asked is, “What should I do… What should I
be focused on… What really matters?

The reason so many people can relate to this is because we get so used to being
busy that we don’t take care of the real business in our lives and don’t create real
productivity. We are so used to reacting, putting out fires and meeting everybody
else’s needs and agendas, instead of getting really clear about what our own
agenda is. You hear people constantly ask, “How’s it going?” And your reply is
“I’m so busy.”

There is something you are designed to be, to do, to create, to contribute. There’s
a way you’re designed to show up in the world that is uniquely your design, and it
comes with unique goals, projects, relationships, tasks, ways to show up, ways to
serve, etc. It’s all part of the design package. Just like nature, the apple tree is
designed to produce the fruit of apples, not to be a pine tree, an oak tree and a rose
bush. If the ecosystem started to act like that, the entire ecosystem would
collapse.

We have to start unraveling what our own vision and mission is – get back to our
core, back to our real yes, back to what we really want to do, and even look at the
things that other family, friends, and co-workers are excited about, but may not be
the thing for us.

Sometimes there’s things that appear to be working in our lives, things that seem
to be kind of going good. You’ve heard the saying, you got a good thing going
here, kid; don’t mess with it. Don’t fix it if it ain’t broke. Well, that’s not entirely
accurate. I put it another way, what’s working that’s in the way?

Just because something isn’t broken doesn’t mean that it’s not meant to evolve. I
use the example often of the Rubik’s cube, that little square puzzle, and it’s all
messed up, all different colors on each side, and the point of the puzzle is you
have to keep turning and twisting until you get every side a solid color. You start
to do it, and at some point you get one of the sides solid. You get a solid white,
and that’s a success. It’s working. However, what do you have to do to get the
next side working? You have to mess up what you just got working. You could
say, it’s not broken; it’s working. Why would I want to mess that side up? You
have to mess it up, if you’re going to get the next side working. Then you get two
sides working. Victory! But now what do you have to do to keep getting the next
side, the next side? You’ve got to keep messing up what’s working. You have to
keep messing up the level of success you’ve just achieved. You have to be more
focused on the grander vision than on necessarily short term payoffs.
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It doesn’t mean you don’t appreciate them and celebrate them. “I got another
side!” You’ve got to keep letting it go and moving and evolving. A lot of times in
our life there are certain things that are working at a certain level. Maybe your
marriage is not broken, but is it really thriving? Maybe you’ve got to kind of break
things, or at least shake things up. As I like to say, sometimes my work is not just
to comfort the afflicted, but to afflict the comfortable.

Maybe you’ve got a job that’s not broken, it’s kind of working. It’s paying the
bills. They’re not necessarily mistreating you, maybe they even appreciate you.
You’ve got a good thing going, but you’re not truly on fire. You’re not fully alive
and passionate, and there’s something more that’s trying to emerge. You might
have to mess it up a little bit at first in order to say yes to your bigger yes.

This is challenging, because we’re always seeking another level of status quo,
equilibrium, balance, and once we find that balance we don’t want to lose it. How
do you walk? If you never ever wanted to lose your balance, you couldn’t walk,
because every time you walk what you’re really doing is falling forward. You’re
going off balance, catching yourself. Off balance, catching yourself. Off balance,
catching yourself, but at a new level each time, in a new space, a more progressive
space. So you’re off balance, catch yourself, rebalance. Off balance, catch
yourself, rebalance… Before you learn to do that, you fell. As a child you got up,
you fell, you got up, you fell. You just kept falling forward, and eventually you
were walking. Because of this mechanism that’s always trying to bring us to a
state of equilibrium and balance, we are more inclined or have more commitment
to staying the same, rather than changing and continuing to grow. So that’s one of
the big things we have to begin to move out of.

One way to begin to do this process of determining what’s important to you now
is to make a list of everything you do and everything on your list that you think
you have to do. Perhaps it’s the next months’ worth of things, and some of them
are things you do all the time, and some of them are things you’re adding to your
list over the next month. Look at that list, and start to identify, “If I was
guaranteed success, what are the few things that would be a hell yes?”

You can also break the list down into structures, which might be a little easier.
You have several life structures: health, wealth, work, relationships, spiritual
growth, personal development, and service. You can break down all the tasks into
these categories. What are all the things you’re doing in the category of health?
What are all the things you’re doing in the category of wealth, work, relationships,
spiritual growth, personal development?

Then within those categories, identify the two or three most important things that
would really take your life to the next level, or that area to the next level, that are
passionate, that are a yes, that are a must. It doesn’t mean they’re not all
important, but there’s always one or two or three that are really calling out to be
developed. Rarely are all of them urgently needing to be developed, and what
happens is that when you focus on the one or two or three that really matter, that
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are hell yeses, the ramifications, because it’s really holistic, it’s really one, it
impacts the others. For example, some of them have higher leverage. If you work
on your health and get into great physical shape, the energy you have, the blood
circulation, it improves your thinking. You end up having more energy to do more
work. You end up having a better emotional state, and it improves your
relationships. You end up having more clarity, and you’re able to be more creative
and in your personal develop area. That’s a very high leverage category that
almost always should be one of your main categories.

As you break down this list, you want to just go through the list as an exercise,
and discover what are your reasons for doing everything you do. Start to notice
there are certain patterns that keep recurring: “I’m doing this so I don’t look bad…
I’m doing this so I don’t feel guilty… I’m doing this so I don’t feel shame… I’m
doing this so I don’t lose the job or lose the opportunity… I’m doing this so that
that person doesn’t think I’m selfish or a bad mom or a bad parent…”

Then notice also, what is it you really want to do? This can even be another list of
the things you really want to do, but you’re not doing. You can start to really see
what are some of the core patterns driving you. The more you see it, an expanded
awareness gives you actual real choice and begins the process of real change.

Now, begin the process of organizing out of your plan all of these other
commitments, all of these other things, to the extent that you can. The ones you
can’t, immediately begin the journey or the process of renegotiating those
commitments, so that you can begin to get them off your list and off your plan.
Ultimately, you want a plan that progressively reflects who you are at the deepest
core, your deepest yes, your deepest passion, your hell yes, your musts, the great,
not just the good, and it feels more and more authentic and congruent.

Now you’ve got a plan, a real plan that if you don’t already know what your
bigger vision is, it’s going to start to tune your more into it.

To support you in mastering this, listen to the in-depth podcast on the subject,
where we break it down and put it into real-life practice TODAY. This will be a
real game-changer.

Welcome, Derek Rydall here, founder of the Law of Emergence and author of the
bestselling book Emergence. It’s just such an honor and a pleasure to be here with
you on this journey of Emergence, as we continue this deep dive into
understanding and mastering the principles of real productivity, power, and
purpose, so that we can live our true purpose and make a mighty impact in this
world. We’re talking today about the topic What Should I Do, and this is such a
powerful topic. It’s such an oft asked question. I have so many things that I’m
doing, what should I pick? What should I choose? Out of all the options, what
should I do? Sometimes the question is being asked unconsciously, we are doing
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so much, and we’re feeling burnt out or overwhelmed and drained and lacking
inspiration and passion, and the unconscious question trying to be asked is, what
should I do? What should I be focused on? What really matters? What’s really
going to move the needle?

We get so used to being busy that we don’t take care of the real business, that we
don’t create real productivity. We are so used to reacting and putting out fires and
meeting everybody else’s needs and agendas, your inbox is a nice organizing
place for everybody else’s agenda, and we just get so used to that and in such a
momentum of that, and even sometimes you feel like you matter, you feel like you
exist. It’s the great Descartes, I think, therefore I am. Today it would be, I’m busy,
therefore I am. So we have a sense of self, a sense of we exist, we have solidity,
and we matter, when we’re busy. You hear people constantly, How’s it going?I’m
so busy.It’s like a badge of honor, even though on one level we don’t feel great
about it, but we feel kind of good about it. It’s this interesting dichotomy, right?

Ultimately, if we really want to live a powerful, thriving, healthy, truly successful

life, and by success I mean doing the thing you’re truly designed to do and be,
making the contribution and giving the gifts you’re truly designed to give. The
apple tree is designed to produce the fruit of apples. If the apple tree was busy
trying to be a pine tree and an oak tree and a rosebush, and it was getting all in the
other trees and branches and trying to create all these things in its life, even if it
managed to eke out a little rose, of course it would be impossible. Nature can’t
actually contradict its own nature, but we can fool ourselves. If the ecosystem
started to act like that, the entire ecosystem would collapse. There is something
you are designed to be, to do, to create, to contribute. There’s a way you’re
designed to show up in the world that is uniquely your design, and it comes with
unique goals, projects, relationships, tasks, ways to show up, ways to serve, etc.
It’s all part of the design package.

Again, mostly our schedules and lives get filled with reactions, with coping
mechanisms, with trying to not get hurt or not lose something, or make sure we
have enough to survive, or doing all these things for other people, because we
have a shadow, and we don’t want to be looked at as being mean or selfish or a
bad boy and girl, and we’re afraid we’ll get rejected and be unlovable and be all
alone and homeless, broke and die. So like literally that’s the unconscious
motivation. We have to begin to identify that compulsive drive, because it’s not
healthy. It’s not helping. It’s actually enabling others in our lives to also not be in
their power, and it’s completely draining us and burning us out and sapping all of
the energy we need to be who we really are, to create the life we’re really meant to
live, and to give the gifts and make the difference we’re really designed to do.

So we come back to, what should I do? What should I do with my life? What
should I do with my day, my time, my year, my body, my abilities, my energy?
What’s the very best use of it? Now, it’s beyond the scope of this particular
podcast to get into the idea of vision. Ultimately you have to start there. There’s
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other podcasts where I talk about how to tap into that, but there is a great vision, a
seed of potential planted in the soil of your soul, that you want to begin to really
cultivate and uncover and discover, and really ask, what is the great vision of my
life? What is the bigger purpose for which I’m here? That’s the 30,000 foot level.
Down more at the 1,000 foot level, or the 100 foot level, or the ground level, our
life is filled with so many things. For many of us we’ve kind of got to start there
and sort of get some breathing room again.

You’ve maybe heard this saying, that the good is the enemy of the great. What
that means, for example, is maybe you get invited to go out with some friends, and
it seems like a good idea. It might be fun, and you find yourself at the bar or the
club or wherever, and you’re sitting there, and people are having fun. It’s not a
bad thing to be doing. It’s fun. It’s enjoyable for a lot of people, but you kind of
find yourself wondering, what am I doing here? I’m telling myself I don’t have
time to exercise, my body’s feeling broken down and tired. I’m not making time
for that, but here I am appeasing a friend, or distracting myself by going out. I’ve
been saying I want to have more time with this other friend, or I want to be
writing my book or building my business, but here I am doing this thing. I don’t
really belong here.

Again, it’s not necessarily a bad thing. Maybe it’s like a charitable event, like a
fundraiser for the school or something. It’s not a bad thing. In fact, for some
people that is their great thing. That is the thing they’re really truly passionate and
meant to be doing. So there’s no judgment, but it’s not your thing. You can’t do
everything, even every good thing. There is supposedly a passage in the Bible
where Jesus is being asked to stay in this one area, and he’s like, No. I have to go
to some other town. I have to keep spreading the good news. They’re like,
Stay.He’s like, No. I have more work to do. I have to keep moving. There’s lots of
things you could be doing. There’s lots of people that could use your help, your
service, your support, including your children 24/7, your partner, your spouse,
your clients, your friends, your family. There’s lot of things you could be doing to
help them all, but that doesn’t mean you should be doing it.

Because of guilt and shame and our core shadows, we have a life not so much by
intention or design, but by default. We’re so busy doing all these good things, and
sometimes not even good things, because we’re doing so many things that aren’t
the great things, the right things, we are, like I said, tired, overwhelmed, feeling
more disconnected, unfulfilled, and then we have to turn to things to quell the pain
of feeling so unfulfilled, of feeling so tired. So we drink more caffeinated
beverages, or worse. We drink more alcohol. We drink stuff to put us up, and we
drink stuff to bring us down, or eat stuff to ground us or to comfort us, or watch
reality TV or binge watch entire shows on a night or a weekend that, again, in and
of itself might be a great thing to do in its right place, and for the right person at
the right time, but when it’s coming from that compulsive need, or that feeling of
pain and unfulfillment, a lot of times it’s another distraction.

Because we’re not honoring the great within us, the truth within us, the real yes
within us, we get burned out. We get tired. We get disconnected. We become
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unfulfilled, even depressed, and then because we don’t understand what that’s all
about, or even aren’t willing to feel it, we create another layer of coping and
defense mechanisms, and that turns into addictions and other compulsive
behaviors to not feel what we’re feeling, that we’re feeling tired, burnt out,
depressed, and unfulfilled. So we have to start unraveling that and get back to our
core, back to our real yes, back to what we really want to do, what we were really
designed to do, and even looking at the good things that other family, friends, and
stuff are excited about, but isn’t our great thing. It might be their great thing, but
it’s not ours.

I put it another way, what’s working that’s in the way? Sometimes there’s things
that appear to be working in our lives, things that seem to be kind of going good.
You’ve heard the saying, you got a good thing going here, kid; don’t mess with it.
Don’t fix it if it ain’t broke. Well, that’s not entirely accurate. Just because
something isn’t broken doesn’t mean that it’s not meant to evolve. Right? I use the
example often of the Rubik’s cube, that little square puzzle, and it’s all messed up,
all different colors on each side, and the point of the puzzle is you have to keep
turning and twisting until you get every side a solid color. You start to do it, and at
some point you get one of the sides solid. You get a solid white, and that’s a
success. It’s working. However, what do you have to do to get the next side
working? You have to mess up what you just got working. You could say, it’s not
broken; it’s working. Why would I want to mess that side up? You have to mess it
up, if you’re going to get the next side working. Then you get two sides working.
Victory! But now what do you have to do to keep getting the next side, the next
side? You’ve got to keep messing up what’s working. You have to keep messing
up the level of success you’ve just achieved. You have to be more focused on the
grander vision than on necessarily short term payoffs.

Again, it doesn’t mean you don’t appreciate them and celebrate them. Got another
side! I got another side! You’ve got to keep letting it go and moving and evolving.
A lot of times in our life there are certain things that are working at a certain level.
Maybe your marriage is not broken, but is it really thriving? Maybe you’ve got to
kind of break things, or at least shake things up. As I like to say, sometimes my
work is not just to comfort the afflicted, but to afflict the comfortable. Maybe
you’ve got a job that’s not broken, it’s kind of working. It’s paying the bills.
They’re not necessarily mistreating you, maybe they even appreciate you. You’ve
got a good thing, kid. You’ve got a good thing going, but you’re not truly on fire.
You’re not truly alive, fully alive and passionate, and there’s something more
that’s trying to emerge. You might have to mess it up a little bit at first in order to
say yes to your bigger yes. There might be a lot of good things you’re doing in
that job, or good things about that marriage, and maybe you’re doing a lot of good
things, but they’re not the great things. Maybe you watch TV together at night,
and it’s kind of good. Maybe you have a meal at night, and it’s kind of good.
Maybe you spend some time on the weekends, and it’s kind of good, but it’s not
the great. It’s not what you really desire. What you desire is a relationship that’s
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on fire with passion, with romance, with adventure, with creativity, yet to move
toward that you would have to start saying no to some of the good things. You
would have to start messing up what’s working, and open up to the great, open up
to the bigger yes, to the greater vision.

This is challenging, because we’re always seeking another level of status quo, of
equilibrium, of balance, and once we find that balance we don’t want to lose it.
How do you walk? If you never ever wanted to lose your balance, you couldn’t
walk, because every time you walk what you’re really doing is falling forward.
You’re going off balance, catching yourself. Off balance, catching yourself. Off
balance, catching yourself, but at a new level each time, in a new space, a more
progressive space. So you’re off balance, catch yourself, rebalance. Off balance,
catch yourself, rebalance. Before you learn to do that, you fell. As a child you got
up, you fell, you got up, you fell. You just kept falling forward, and eventually
you were walking. Because of this mechanism that’s always trying to bring us to a
state of equilibrium, of balance, we are more inclined or have more commitment
to staying the same, rather than changing and continuing to grow. So that’s one of
the big things we have to begin to move out of.

The other issue is, again, as I said in the beginning here, because to really go for
the great in our life we would have to say no to a lot of the good, including a lot of
good people. Including a lot of sincere requests that are good requests that deserve
to be answered. It’s just not our job to answer them all.

There is no way you can do it. You cannot give to every charity. You cannot
support every need in the world. You can’t help every hungry child or every
scared animal or lost animal. You can’t help every person that asks for it. You just
can’t. Not even Jesus could. Not even Mother Teresa could. Not even Martin
Luther King could. Not even Gandhi could. There is a portion that is saved out for
you. There is the ones, the people, the situations, the projects that you are uniquely
designed to serve and to help and to bring your greatness to, and that’s what you
have to begin to discover.

This puts you on a journey of real growth, real strength, real mastery, because,
again, it puts up right up against our core shadows, our core wounds, our core
fears of being seen in a negative way, being rejected, becoming unlovable, losing
something, and ultimately dying. It’s really the deep fear. The truth is that less
really is more. Doing a few things that are yours to do, that are the right things to
do, doing a few things that are a must is much more productive, effective, than
doing a bunch of things that are a maybe. As I’ve heard it put before, if it’s not a
hell yes, it’s a no. Now, a caveat to that is sometimes even our hell yes is covered
up by fear, fear of failure, fear of loss, etc. So it doesn’t feel like a hell yes. There
is a yes there, but it’s a got a yes, but. So sometimes we have to clear away some
of the debris and ask empowering questions, like if I was guaranteed to succeed,
what’s my hell yes in my life? So we have to kind of clear away the dust and grit
of the journey. Ultimately you’re looking for those hell yeses, or at least just a
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yes! The thing that you deeply resonate with the most, the thing you feel will most
move the needle, and that doesn’t mean it’s going to always move the needle
immediately. It means that overall it’s the most important high leverage thing you
can be putting your time into.

In truth, most of the most important things are not urgent. As Stephen Covey talks
about in The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, there is the things that are
not urgent, but important. That’s the most important category. That’s like dealing
with your health, your spirituality, your personal growth, your relationships,
before they become urgent. If you don’t deal with the important but not urgent, it
becomes urgent and important. That’s the next category. Now you’re kind of
always in this state of urgency, but it is important, and we do need to address that,
because we have a lot of urgent and important things in our life, because we
haven’t spent enough time in the important but not urgent category.

Then, because we get so stressed out or burned out, and it’s so much stuff, there is
the next category we tend to slip into, which is the urgent but not important. So
that’s everybody else’s agenda that isn’t really ours. Again, it might be important
to them, so we’re not judging anybody. It’s just not ours to handle, and yet it has a
sense of urgency, because they’re urgent. It’s all those emails. It’s those phone
calls. It’s the child pulling on you while you’re on the phone and saying, Mommy,
Mommy, I need this. Give me this. I need this.It’s urgent to the child, but it’s not
urgent for you.

Then there’s the final category, if you get caught into that third category too
much, now you’re really burnt out, and you just need to distract yourself and
numb yourself, and so you move into not urgent, not important. You just check
out. You just disconnect. You just pop a beer or two or six, and just flop on the
couch and watch six hours of Ice Road Truckers, or whatever. Nothing wrong
with that show. I’ve never actually watched it. Looks kind of funny. Whatever.
Honey Boo Boo, whatever the case may be. The Kardashians. You just check out.
It’s not important. It’s not urgent. You’re just so overwhelmed or burnt out you’ve
got to check out.

That’s what happens along the spectrum when we haven’t taken the time to
discover what is truly the thing or things we’re meant to do, the great, not just the
good. The hell yes, the thing I must, not just the thing that’s a maybe. We have to
be compassionate. We have to be patient, because there’s some unraveling that
has to happen as we kind of work our way back to focusing most of our time and
attention on the important but not urgent. There will still be urgent and important
for a while, and maybe to a little extent forever, but it will become increasingly
less. Then the other categories, urgent and not important, and not urgent, not
important, they just become ultimately delegated, automated, or eliminated out of
our life. So that we are only in the important but not urgent, and occasionally the
urgent and important. We’re mostly on the hell yes, with a little bit of the
urgently, oh my God, I have to. We want to be mostly on the I get to, but
sometimes we have to focus on I have to.
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Now, one way to begin to do this process is to actually make a list of everything
you do and everything on your list that you think you have to do. Perhaps it’s the
next months’ worth of things, and some of them are things you do all the time, and
some of them are things you’re adding to your list over the next month. Look at
that list, and start to identify, if I was guaranteed success, what are the few things
that would be a hell yes? You can also do this, break it down, in terms of
structures, which might be a little easier. You have several life structures, health,
wealth, work, relationships, spiritual growth, personal development, service, and
you can break down all these tasks into these categories. What are all the things
you’re doing in the category of health? What are all the things you’re doing in the
category of wealth, work, relationships, spiritual growth, personal development?

Now, personal development means things where you’re developing your personal
skills and capacities like, learning to ride a bike, learning to play the guitar,
learning to write a book, learning to become a coach, learning to grow a business.
That’s personal development. It also is connected to work, but it’s not the actual
work. It’s the development of that aspect of your persona. Okay? Then there’s
service, and that is the area where you are giving of yourself philanthropically, or
of service to the world. Sometimes these things connect. Your work ultimately can
also be your service. You can be developing your personal development, being of
service, and accomplishing your work all together, and that produces your wealth,
etc. You see what I mean? Breaking them up into categories, and then putting all
those to-dos, projects, tasks, within the right category gives you a cleaner snapshot
of what you’re doing or not doing in those very critical categories.

Then, look at the categories, and of those categories, what are the two categories, I
would say maximum three for now, to start. It doesn’t mean they’re not all
important, but there’s always one or two or three that are really calling out to be
developed. Rarely are all of them urgently needing to be developed, and what
happens is that when you focus on the one or two or three that really matter, that
are hell yeses, the ramifications, because it’s really holistic, it’s really one, it
impacts the others. For example, some of them have higher leverage. If you work
on your health and get into great physical shape, the energy you have, the blood
circulation, it improves your thinking. You end up having more energy to do more
work. You end up having better emotional state, and it improves your
relationships. You end up having more clarity, and you’re able to be more creative
and in your personal develop area. That’s a very high leverage category that if you
don’t have a handle on it it almost always should be one of your main categories.

The second main category tends to be spiritual development, whatever that means
to you, because when you don’t have a deep connection with who you really are,
and why you’re alive, and your heart, and your spirit, everything else suffers. It’s
like a branch trying to survive without being connected to the tree. It withers and
dies. Developing a deep connection to your heart, to your spirit, to who you really
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are, what’s above the Oracle of Delphi, know thyself. Knowing yourself, getting
in the best shape you Transcriptioncan, these are like almost always, if they’re not
already on good momentum, should be two of the categories you’re focused on.

Then I would say the next most important one is relationships. You know the
saying, community breeds immunity. We are relationship driven machines,
relationship driven beings. The connection to yourself is first. The connection to
your body is second, and then extending that connection to others is third. This is
the path of health, of wholeness. When you’re disconnected from others, they’ve
shown that many of the suicides, the depression, etc. are directly linked to people
who had connections with family, community, or like in the army or whatever,
and suddenly lose that bond, lose that connection and fall into depression and
ultimately addiction, drugs, and even suicide. Also they’ve shown that when you
have community you tend to heal faster and not get sick as often. Real authentic
relationships is, again, super high leverage. When you’re in love, you can conquer
the world.

So when you are feeling great about yourself, feeling great about your body, and
feeling loved and loving, you’re a superstar. You’re able to rock the world. That’s
why those are the three probably most important categories. As I said, they’re all
critical, because each one is necessary to a whole person, but each one that
extends, so from there the next level is work, your right work in the world. If
you’ve got all these things, but you’re not producing the fruit of your kind, you
will stagnate, and then it will back up and start to suffer all the other branches of
your life. So you have to then move to the next level, work, and on and on this
goes. So you can look at this, and you can actually decide for yourself what are
the areas that are most critical? What are the areas that would move the needle
most?

Then within those one or two or three, let’s say two or three areas, you look at the
two or three activities. Maybe it’s a project or some tasks that you then identify as
your hell yes, as the must, not the maybe, as the great, not just the good. For
example, in the area of health, maybe you’re taking yoga, you’re working out at
the gym, you are running. Maybe you’re doing a bunch of things, and you’re
spending two hours a day on your health, and it’s not necessary. Maybe if you just
spent a full hour in one area that would actually give you the greatest leverage.
You might discover you’re not spending much time at all there, and meanwhile
you’re spending all this time at work, or all this time trying to make money, or all
this time trying to put out fires in relationships, and that area is sacrificed, is
suffering. You want to find, what’s the one thing I could do that is really a must,
that’s really a hell yes, that would really give me a lot of leverage, the great, not
just the good? So you identify that.

You might notice that there’s some things you can let go of within that category
that is not necessary, and then the area, again, of relationships, maybe you’re
trying to keep up 10 different friendships and 10 different colleagueships, and
you’re networking, and always thinking you got to keep the network going. All
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this energy, and meanwhile your relationship with your wife is suffering, or your
relationship with your children is not as joyful and thriving, and when you look at
all these things, you realize it’s a good idea to keep up my network. It’s a good
idea to keep being a good friend to all my friends, but what’s the great? What’s
the must? If I could have really awesome relationship with my children, or with
my best friend, or with this one best friend, or with my partner, maybe it’s my
child, my partner, and my best friend. Let me, instead of trying to keep
relationships going with 20 people, let me really focus on making great
relationships with these three people. That doesn’t mean you just completely cut
yourself off from all these people, however it might in some cases, if you really
look at it.

You might realize you’re operating from a place of fear, a fear of missing out, a
fear of feeling bad, of being guilty, of creating conflict, of getting kicked out of
that club, or not being able to get another client because of it. So you want to
notice when you’re being moved by fear, by a shadow, a compulsive behavior,
versus being pulled by passion and vision and inspiration. If it’s being moved by
fear, you want to look and see what is the reason why? If it’s not something that
really adds true value to your life, that there’s something else that’s much more
valuable. It’s not just, well the mother’s will think I’m a bad mother if I don’t go
to every PTA meeting, or if I don’t go to the student car washes every time, or
bake the pies or whatever. You’re like, I’m only doing this because I don’t want to
look bad. I’m only doing this because I don’t want them to not like me, but I don’t
really want to do it. It’s not really the thing I bring the most value to or the thing I
can bring the greatest level of joy and love and passion and capacity for my
children. So what would be that thing? You see?

As you break down this list, you want to just go through the list as an exercise,
and discover what are your reasons for doing everything you do? Start to notice
there are certain patterns that keep recurring. I’m doing this so I don’t look bad.
I’m doing this so I don’t feel guilty. I’m doing this so I don’t feel shame. I’m
doing this so I don’t lose the job or lose the opportunity. I’m doing this so that that
person doesn’t think I’m selfish or a bad mom or a bad parent. I’m doing this
because I don’t want to lose. I’m doing this because I’m afraid. Then notice also,
what do I really want to do? This can even be another list of the things you really
want to do, but you’re not doing. Then you can make a list, I’m not doing this
because I’m afraid. You can start to really see what are some of the core patterns
driving you. The more you see it, an expanded awareness gives you actual real
choice and begins the process of real change.

Make the list. Break it down into these categories: health, wealth, work,
relationship, spirituality, personal growth or personal development, and service.
Identify within that list what are all the reasons why you’re doing it, so you can
understand your patterns, and then what are the two or three categories that are a
must, not a maybe, that are a hell yes, not just a maybe. Then within those
categories, identify the two or three most important things that would really take
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your life to the next level, or that area to the next level, that are passionate, that are
a yes, that are a must. Now organize that into your plan. Begin the process of
organizing out of your plan all of these other commitments, all of these other
things, to the extent that you can, and the ones you can’t, immediately begin the
journey or the process of renegotiating those commitments, so that you can begin
to get them off your list and off your plan. So that your plan progressively reflects
who you are in the deepest core, your deepest yes, your deepest passion, your hell
yes, your musts, the great, not just the good, and it feels more and more authentic
and congruent. Now you’ve got a plan, a real plan that if you don’t already know
what your bigger vision is, it’s going to start to tune your more into it.

That’s why really doing the work on vision is so important, because if you don’t
know where you’re going, every road will take you there, which means you could
go down every road, and you’re just going to be lost. Knowing really where you
want to go, like where do you really want to go with your family, with your
relationships, with your body, with your wealth, with your life and your
commitment and your contribution? Where do you really want to go at the end of
the year? Where do you really want to go at the end of five years? Where do you
really want to be at the end of a life? Then reverse engineer that back as a
template, as a North Star, as a compass. If that’s where I really want to go, am I
heading in that direction? If the things I’m doing and that are on my to-do list and
my plan are not, guess where they have to go? Somewhere else.

Now you identify, and you start to organize this plan, and then, and don’t freak
out, you have to put it on your schedule. Some of you have full schedules, and
that’s not a problem. Your problem is just the things on your schedule are keeping
you busy, but they’re not necessarily making you productive. For those others of
you, heart-centered, creatively-minded people, you don’t tend to have a real
schedule or real plan. You just kind of go with the flow, but, as I often say, if you
just go with the flow, you’re going to probably end up going over a waterfall and
crashing into the rocks below, or getting stuck in some branches or brambles or
crashing into a rock. Going with the flow isn’t a good idea, because you don’t
know what flow you’re going with, until you do know. It’s go with the flow, but
don’t forget to row. Row, row, flow, flow, row, row, flow, flow. For you people
that love to flow, don’t forget to row.

How do you know where to row? You’ve got to know where you’re going. Got to
know where to go before you know where to row. I feel like I’m going to start
breaking into a rap here. You’ve got to have a plan. You’ve got to have a vision.
Then you’ve got to put it on your schedule. Then you do it. That’s a whole other
topic. There’s other podcasts that talk about why we don’t do what we’ve
committed to, the value of commitment. It’s beyond the scope of this. This is
more than enough to play with, and it’s so important, because this is one of the
biggest questions. What should I do? Out of all the choices and options, what
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should I do? What’s the right thing, the right direction, the best thing, the thing
that will really move my life, move the needle, take things to the next level?

Listen to this again. Take notes, and follow the recipe. Again, if you want to go
deeper into vision, into understanding commitment and planning, go through the
archives of the podcast and check those out as well. While we’re talking about
that, if you haven’t already signed up for the podcast, sign up. It’s free. You get
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register, download all of them. Now you own them. Listen, and apply. Choose at
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What You Really Came Here For

(And What You Didn’t)
You came to this planet to use this dimension of duality and contrast to awaken
more fully to who and what you are.

You’re here to paint your unique masterpiece of love, life, and light onto the
canvas of time and space so that others can see it and be liberated and awakened
to their own greatness, joy, and genius.

Whether you call it painting on the canvas of life or performing your Divine
drama on the stage of life, you came here because you have gifts to bring, and you
have something to learn.

That’s where the very definition of human comes from, a Sanskrit term that means
the dispenser of Divine gifts. As we talk about in the Emergence work, and really
what all the great masters taught, everything is already within you – all the power,
presence, life, and love of God, all that you could ever want. You’re not really
even in the world, the world is in you. You have everything, and so this world
can’t give you anything, except for a reflection of where you’re living in
consciousness and a place or an opportunity to grow and to give.

There’s a unique way that shows up for you. It might uniquely show up as a
writer, teacher, dancer, singer, author, healer, doctor, plumber, parent, architect,
politician, lawyer. Yes, even a politician and lawyer! Although not everybody is
living the Divine purpose within their profession, we all came here in a very
unique and creative way to realize the life and the light of our true being and to
shine it in a unique, gifted way that helps others to awaken and to do the same.

What didn’t you come here for? You didn’t come here to shop, to win an
argument, to prove anything to anybody else, to win anything, to get a job even.
You didn’t come here to get anything, to get a bunch of money, or real estate, to
defeat the enemy, to get approval, validation or love from anybody.

That doesn’t mean that you don’t get a job, get into a relationship, don’t get a new
car, or you don’t get some clothes. That’s all beautiful and wonderful, but you’re
not here to get those things.

You get into the relationship so that you can have an opportunity to awaken to
who you really are and give more of the love within you.

You get that job so that you have an opportunity to awaken to who you really are
through the challenges and things, and to give of your giftedness.
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You get a new car so that you have the transportation in this dimension to travel to
the places you need to give of your love and give of your gifts.

You get a new home so that you can create a sanctuary and an environment where
you can love each other and create, meditate, grow, play, sing, love and release
more of your imprisoned splendor.

You go into the lands of the world so you can cultivate, nourish and honor them.
To create works of art and structures that support the awakening, loving , playing,
sharing and the healing of our soul.

No matter what it is, whether its relationship, health, wealth, work, or personal
development, we’ve been conditioned to believe that all of these things we need to
get is the end game. The end game is to get and acquire the perfect home and the
perfect job and the amount of money you want, the right relationship, and the
piece of land. That if you get all that you’ve won the game. No.

You’ve only just begun it. That’s not the end result – that’s the preparation. Each
one of those is like a plank in the platform from which now you can launch off
from and give of your true life, your true gifts and your true purpose.

There’s some simple ways to test this: Can you take any of that stuff with you
when you leave this planet? If you can’t take any of it with you, does that make
any sense that you would have come here to get it? Think about that. If you can’t
take the money, the houses, the cars, that person, then what can you take?

You can take the love that you activate. You can take the joy and the bliss that you
active from giving of your heart and your gifts, being of service. You can take the
wisdom you’ve discovered and developed and activated. Not necessarily the
human knowledge, all that you learned about how to sell and make great business
deals that will have no real value in the next dimension, but what you learned in
terms of integrity, loyalty, service, love and honor, that translates into any
dimension.

I invite you to contemplate this: once you leave this earthly place, will what
you’ve done in this moment, what you’re striving for or arguing for, will it matter
to the people you leave behind, to the world you leave behind?

As you begin to discover your ultimate purpose, some of the things you thought
mattered, will fall away.

Your values will begin to shift, and it won’t be as important to do certain things. It
won’t be as important to acquire stuff you don’t really need that aren’t truly
opening your heart and mind and allowing you to give your gifts. It doesn’t mean
you can’t have a big screen TV. You can have a home theater, but you’ll have a
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vision way bigger than that, and the vision will have something to do with truly
awakening your heart, your mind, your soul, your creative genius, your loving,
and helping others to do the same.

To support you in mastering this, listen to the in-depth podcast on the subject,
where we break it down and put it into real-life practice TODAY. This will be a
real game-changer.

Today were talking about what you really came here for, and what you didn’t. By
the way, if you haven’t had a chance to sign up for Emergence, this podcast on
iTunes, it’s absolutely free. There is about 100 episodes or trainings in there, but
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like what you’re hearing, please share it with a loved one, a friend. One of the
greatest gifts we can give someone else is education or inspiration. So what you
really came here for, and what you didn’t. Let me just start right out of the gate by
telling you absolutely what you didn’t come here for. What I mean by here I don’t
mean to this podcast; I mean to this planet. You did not come here to get a sale at
Macys or Walmart. You did not come here for that Fire sale. You did not come
here for Black Friday. No matter how much you like to shop till you drop, you did
not drop into this dimension to shop. That’s the first thing I want you to know you
didn’t come here for. I’m going to talk mostly about what you didn’t come here
for.

What you came here for, what we call came here for, is to use this dimension of
duality and contrast to awaken more fully to who and what we are, and to paint
our unique masterpiece of love and life and light onto the canvas of time and
space so that others could see it and be liberated and awakened to their own
greatness and their own joy and their own genius. Whether you call it painting on
the canvas of life or performing your Divine drama on the stage of life, you came
here because you have gifts to bring, and you have something to learn. That’s
where the very definition of human comes from, a Sanskrit term that means the
dispenser of Divine gifts. As we talk about in the Emergence work, and really
what all the great masters taught, everything is already within you, all the power,
presence, life, and love of God, all that you could ever want. You’re not really
even in the world, the world is in you. You have everything, and so this world
can’t give you anything, except for a reflection of where you’re living in
consciousness and a place or an opportunity to grow and to give. That’s it. That’s
what you came here for.

Now, there’s a unique way that shows up. It might uniquely show up as a writer,
teacher, dancer, singer, author, healer, doctor, plumber, parent, architect,
politician, lawyer. Yes, even a politician and lawyer. I’m sorry to tell you, that’s
also a Divine purpose. I don’t know how many are actually living the Divine
purpose within their profession, but you came here in a very unique and creative
way to realize the life and the light of your true being and to shine it in a unique,
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gifted way that helps others to awaken and to do the same, and to have fun. Its a
fun, dynamic, dramatic dimension of contrast and light, but that’s what you came
here for.

What didn’t you come here for? Again, you didn’t come here to shop. Nothing
wrong with shopping, but we’ve kind of turned shopping into entertainment. You
to the airport now, and a lot of airports are really just shopping malls surrounded
by planes. As one of my mentors, Michael Beckwith, says, People are walking
around looking for something to buy. Here what I said. There not walking around
to find the thing they really need. That creative impulse to give and share the gift
of their life has been aerated and corrupted into an energy of trying to get and
acquire for the sake of acquiring. How many people have things in their closet
with the tags still on them? Boxes in their garage that have never been opened
from Amazon or the Home Shopping Club or whatever? The trash heaps of our
country and the world are filled with this stuff. You didn’t come here to shop.

You didn’t come here, also, to win an argument, except the argument within
yourself. Whenever you’re in an argument, when you’re in a situation, and you’re
so committed, like life or death, to prove you’re right and that they’re wrong, to
somehow exact revenge, you didn’t come here for that. You didn’t come here to
prove anything to anybody else, except to prove the principle of truth, to prove
that God is all there is, or love is all there is, or love will win the day, but not to
prove that you’re better than them or they’re less than you, or even to prove
they’re better than you, which sometimes we unconsciously do. You didn’t come
here to prove any of that. You didn’t come here to win anything, except the
argument within your own heart, which is to convince yourself that you are one
with the One of all life, the Source of all creation, that you are whole, complete,
and beautiful and abundant and worthy and necessary. You came here to convince
yourself of that and to prove that, and then to help prove it for everyone.

You didn’t come here to prove that you’re better than anyone. You didn’t come
here to prove someone else is wrong. You didn’t come here to win a court case.
You didn’t come here to get a job even. You didn’t come here to get a bunch of
money. You didn’t come here to get a bunch of real estate. You didn’t come here
to defeat the enemies, except the enemy within your own household, which is the
only place it exists, within your consciousness. You didn’t come here to get
anything. You didn’t come here to get approval or validation or love from
anybody. No. You didn’t come here even to get love. You came here to give it,
because infinite love is within you.

That doesn’t mean that we don’t get a job, we don’t get in a relationship, we don’t
get a new car, we don’t get some clothes. That’s all beautiful and wonderful, but
were not here to get those things. We get into the relationship so that we can have
an opportunity to awaken to who we really are and give more of the love within
us. We get that job so that we have an opportunity to awaken to who we really are
through the challenges and things, and to give of our giftedness. We get a new car
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so that we have the transportation in this dimension to travel to the places we need
to give of our love and give of our gifts. We get a new home so that we can create
a sanctuary and an environment where we can love each other and create our
things and meditate and grow and play and sing and love and release more of our
imprisoned splendor. We go into the lands of the world so we can cultivate them
and nourish them and honor them and create works of art and structures that
support the awakening and the loving and the playing and the sharing and the
healing of our soul.

No matter what it is, whether its relationship, health, wealth, work, personal
development, all of these things that we have been conditioned to believe we need
to get, that that’s the end game. The end game is to get and acquire the perfect
home and the perfect job and the amount of money we want, and the right
relationship, and the piece of land. That if we get all that we’ve won the game.
No. No. Transcription. You’ve only just begun it. That’s not the end result. That’s
the preparation. That’s the beginning. Each one of those is like a plank in the
platform from which now you can launch off from and give of your true life and
your true gifts and your true purpose.

There’s some simple ways to test this. Can you take any of that stuff with you? If
you can’t take any of it with you, does that make any sense that you would have
come here to get it? Think about that. If you can’t take any of it with you, and you
can’t. You can’t take the money. You can’t take the houses and the cars. You
can’t even take that person. What can you take with you? You can take the love
that you activate. You can take the joy and the bliss that you active from giving of
your heart and your gifts, being of service. You can take the wisdom you’ve
discovered and developed and activated. Not necessarily the human knowledge,
all that you learned about how to sell and make great business deals. That will
have no real value in the next dimension, but what you learned in terms of
integrity and loyalty and service and love and honor that translates into any
dimension.

Did you really come here to learn how to build rocket ships or do brain surgery or
make great deals or master mathematics, or even become a great singer or
songwriter? No. Not really. You came here, and as part of your unique journey
you master a craft or domain specific knowledge, so that in that area you can shine
your light and life and give your gifts, but the gift you’re giving isn’t just the work
of art or that beautiful structure you built, or that computer you designed. No. The
gift is what quality of the spirit that particular thing allows to be activated in you
and in others. How it supports others in giving their true soul gifts and awakening
to their true self. So that work of art is not just a work of art. If you’ve done it
from that deeper place it liberates people’s hearts and minds and spirits, whether
it’s through emotional catharsis or spiritual awareness, and that computer gives
them the tools they need to do their work and give of their gifts in the world. You
see? When you really start to boil it down, the only thing that really matters, the
only
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thing, is the activation and the discovery of who and what you really are, and the
true qualities of your soul, and the full activation of those qualities, the love, the
peace, the joy, the inner connection. That’s all that really matters.

Another test you can do is when you’re in the midst of an argument or a struggle
to achieve or attract or strategies and tactics to win and succeed, you can stop and
ask yourself, especially if you feel constricted, contracted, pushy, afraid, angry,
you can ask, Will this matter in 20 years? Start there. Will this matter in 20 years?
You’re in the middle of a fight. You’re arguing with your wife about the fact that
she charged too much on the credit card, or you’re arguing with your husband the
fact that he stayed out too late drinking with the buddies. Don’t get me wrong. I’m
not saying you don’t deal with the mundane things, but when you make it an
issue, you make it an argument, you make it a fight, you make it a thing, you got
to ask yourself, Will this matter in 20 years? In 20 years will I really care that my
wife bought that dress without asking me? Will I really care that my husband
stayed out late with the boys drinking? Whatever the case. Maybe that’s kind of
cliché examples. Do it the other way around. The husband bought that golf clubs
that we couldn’t afford, and the wife stayed out with her friends really late and
didn’t call, whatever. Will it really matter 20 years from now?

Again, I’m not saying you don’t deal with the real issues of the heart. If you have
commitments and agreements, and they get breached, and you’re afraid,
absolutely, but that’s this inner work, but it’s because you want to perfect your
loving. It’s because you want to have a deeper sense of peace. You want to feel
more empowered. That’s what really matters, not the credit card bill or the extra
golf clubs, or the fact that he leaves the toilet seat up all the time, or whatever.
You want to ask yourself, Will this matter in 20 years? Then you ask yourself,
after that, because maybe you’ll still convince yourself it does, Will this thing
right here that I’m fighting for or that I’m struggling to attain, will it matter on my
deathbed? If you really ask with sincerity, you might hear an answer like, It’ll
really matter, but not for the reason I thought. If I make this about me being right
and them being wrong, and I fight, I might do damage to this relationship. I might
not have it in 20 years. I might be alone on my deathbed. It matters for that reason.
You’ll most likely get, No. I mean, think about it. You want to also test this?
Think about 20 years ago. Think about some of the things you thought meant
everything. It’s like life or death that you got that new shiny Mustang when you
were a teenager, or the whole world was collapsing around you because she broke
up with you, or your parent not letting you go out to that concert, and you hated
them and wished they would die. Now you think about it 20 years later, 30 years,
40 years, and you laugh about it, or maybe you kind of feel ashamed about it.
You’re like, how could I have thought that mattered so much?

Again, I have to qualify, because there’s levels. Its not that there’s not value and
meaning in all of our challenges. When the young teenagers heart is broken, that
does matter. There’s value in the work that that produces, but when we are
fighting for our life and fighting and making something life and death and putting
all of our energy into acquiring and achieving it or proving it, if we ask these
questions
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we start to loosen our grip, and we start to ask, What does matter in this moment?
It’s not that I’m right or wrong. It’s not that I get or don’t get. So what does
matter? There is something that matters when that teenagers heart gets broken,
when mom and dad won’t let you go out, or when the person breaks your trust.
There is something that matters, a matter of the heart and the soul. There’s
something in that for the evolution and growth of your spirit, and ultimately a
greater realization of your true purpose and a greater capacity to give of your gifts.
There is something that matters as it pertains to that.

So when you ask these questions you can ask, In this moment, did I come to
planet Earth in this moment to prove them wrong and prove me right? In this
moment, this conflict, this struggling or striving, did I come to Earth for this
thing? What did I really come to Earth for in this moment? If this was the only
moment I had, I came to Earth just for this moment, because in a very real way
that’s true of every moment, Then what did I come here for right now. In this
argument with my wife, what is the reason I came to Earth as it pertains to this
argument? It sure isn’t to prove myself right. What good is that going to do me?
That would be a silly reason to travel through Universes and galaxies and cross
the barrier of time and space, to make her wrong for buying a dress or make him
wrong for buying those golf clubs. That would be pretty silly. You start to tap into
the real reason you came here, the real reason for each moment, the real goal in
each moment, the soul goal, and you start to realize what you didn’t come here
for.

Now, you can expand this question even further. We said 20 years, the end of your
life, on your deathbed, will this matter, the thing you’re fighting for or striving
for? The next question you ask is, What about when I leave this dimension, and
I’m in some other dimension? Will this matter? Will these golf clubs really
matter? Will this credit card bill really matter? Will any of my debt really matter?
Will the fact that I might get a million dollars or $100,000 or $1,000, will that
matter when I’m flying around in some other dimension? No. Then that must not
be the real reason you came for, you came to this moment for. That must not be
really what you’re here in this moment for. You could be making a deal, but the
real reason you’re making that deal must not be about the money you’re going to
get. There must be a deeper truer, purer reason. The more you can be tapped into
that and coming from that while you make the deal, now you are in league and in
alignment with your soul’s goal, your soul’s purpose. You understand what I’m
saying?

Then you can expand it even further and say, Once you leave this earthly place,
will what you’ve done in this moment, what you’re striving for or arguing for, will
it matter to the people you leave behind, to the world you leave behind? In other
words, if you fight and prove you’re right and they’re wrong, once you leave will
that have been of value to them? Once you leave, the fact that you managed to
make millions of dollars, is that going to necessarily make a difference for the
world? It might. If you’re earning the money to grow a non-profit organization
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that’s going to then use that money to feed people and help people and educate
people so they can live their lives and give their gifts, then if that’s in your
motivation for attracting or achieving or attaining that, you are more aligned with
your true purpose. Do you see what I mean?

Again, I’m not saying that any surface activity is, in and of itself, wrong. A fight
isn’t wrong. A conflict isn’t wrong. Acquiring things isn’t wrong, but its deep
down is the actual acquisition the thing? Is the money the thing? Is the proving
yourself right or them wrong the thing? Is there something deeper? The more you
can be anchored to that real thing you came here for, which has something to do
with awakening to your true potential, your true selfhood, and giving of your true
gifts to the world so that others can awaken to their self and give their gifts, that’s
the ultimate purpose of everybody. That’s really why we all came here, in our own
unique ways. One might do it as a banker. One might do it as a plumber. One
might do it as a healer. One might do it as an artist, but it’s not the plumbing and
the healing and the banking that we came here for. It’s not to get something in that
relationship and puff up our ego and make us feel better than or less than. It’s this
deeper purpose to awaken to our true self, to perfect our loving, our giving, and to
give forth of those qualities in a way that helps others wake up and give of their
own.

As you expand this you begin to discover, and as you really do that you start to
feel yourself losing your grip around this situation. It doesn’t mean you wont still
have some fear, some anger, some sadness, but at least now you’re going to know,
what am I meant to do with this fear, anger and sadness based on this new context
of what I’m really here for? If I’m really here to wake up to my true self, which is
a unique expression of life and love and God, now how do I work with the
sadness, the anger? Do I try to make them wrong? That’s not going to help me
realize my oneness with God or perfect my loving, but there is something in here
that will. You keep working until you find what that is. That’s going to change the
context of that argument. It’s going to change the paradigm or the context of that
conflict. Its going to change the context of that ambition, until more and more
you’re rooted in the real reason you came here for.

Some of the things you thought mattered will fall away. Your values will shift,
and it won’t be as important to do certain things. It won’t be as important to
acquire stuff you don’t really need and that’s not really opening your heart and
mind and allowing you to give of your gifts. You’ll have a bigger vision than your
flat screen TV. You’ll see that reverse. Most people, unfortunately, have bigger
TV screens than the vision for their life. That will begin to reverse. It doesn’t
mean you can’t have a big screen. You can have a home theater, but you’ll a
vision way bigger than that, and the vision will have something to do with truly
awakening your heart, your mind, your soul, your creative genius, your loving,
and helping others to do the same. Are you getting this?
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What did you really come here for? What didn’t you come here for? You didn’t
come here to prove you’re right and someone else is wrong. You didn’t come to
hurt someone, get revenge, acquire a bunch of stuff, a bunch of money, a bunch of
titles behind your name. You didn’t even come here to get your body in the
greatest shape ever. It’s okay to do that, but if you’re compulsively into I got to
lose this weight or gain these muscles or look better, all that vanity, what good is
that going to be on your deathbed? What good is that going to be when you’re
flying around in another dimension with a different body? What good is that going
to leave behind for the loved ones in the world that you’ve left? Nothing.

Again, to put it in context, maybe you did come here to help really learn how to
honor yourself through the body and model what good health looks like so that
that particular structure is strong and doesn’t become a liability. So you have the
energy and strength to keep growing and awakening and giving your gifts and
teaching others and modeling for others to do the same. Now in that context, the
energy you put towards looking and feeling great has real merit. It’s in integrity
with your emerging soul. So what did you really come here for? When you’re in
the midst of a conflict, of something you’re striving to achieve or attain, ask that
question.

Then expand it. Will this matter in 20 years, what I think I’m here for in this
moment? Will it matter in 20 years? Will it matter on my deathbed? What will I
think about it when I’m out of this dimension in a completely different one? Will
it matter to the people in the world I’ve left behind? You want to keep asking and
adjusting until your answer is yes. This will matter 20 years from now. This will
matter on my deathbed. This will matter when I leave this place, and this will
matter for those I leave behind. In some way it will help for the greater expression
of my heart and soul and love, and it will help others for their greater expression
of that too. So that were creating a world that works for the highest good of all,
that reflects more and more the ultimate nature of reality, of love, of wholeness,
and when that’s the answer you consistently can give, you know you’re on track,
you’re on purpose, and you’re living your purpose.