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ulmncaontarbolokomon
Fundamental, Social, and Spiritual realities made visible via retention w/ some
personal backstory
Hello Semen Retention Practitioners. Welcome to my post, I hope you are able to get something good out of
it. It’s a long one. Feel free to skip the backstory if it isn’t interesting to you. You might not agree with all of it
either, and that’s fine too. There’s a lot I simply don’t understand or perhaps can’t accurately translate to
writing. Nonetheless I think I have some important things to say.
This post is for everyone, but much of this will only make sense to the initiated. You are a retainer so I write to
you, my fellow initiate. Let’s keep the candle lit.

Backstory:
A bit of back story, I am writing this post as a former coomer. I was raised primarily by my Mother. My Father
was always around but he just didn’t seem to want to raise his first or second son for whatever reasons I won’t
get into here. My Mom, who God bless her, did her best and was a wonderful Mother, was also very, very
attached to me as a child. This put a lot of mental and emotional stress onto me the child and even more
stress on me into young adulthood. Having a Father I couldn’t turn to for anything and an unintentionally
overbearing and sensitive Mother, in hopes of finding some comfort from my constant anxiety and depression,
I turned to porn and masturbation around the age of 10 after having my first sexual experience at the age of 8.
It made me feel good and it helped me forget about all that turmoil going on inside me. I was hooked. We’re
talking sometimes 10 times a day and minimum 3 or 4 times a day. Truly a coomer, truly an addict.
Fast forward a bit, I would meet women I wanted a relationship with/wanted to hook up with and I wouldn’t
even show any interest, or show interest and then kind of shy away after realizing the danger of actually
caring, go home and rub one out, obsess over these women and even worship them in my head. In hindsight,
extremely pitiful and self-destructive. Somehow I was still, by most standards, successful with women BUT
and a big butt, I would never go after those women I REALLY wanted. The women I wanted something serious
with. I would mostly date women I really didn’t want anything serious with.. who were less dangerous for me,
who I had less invested in. A life unlived really when it came to my goals with women. I also hurt them, many of
them, and for that I will always feel remorse. They were up against insurmountable odds. I had built myself a
prison I couldn’t taste, touch, see, or smell. A worshipper of pixels and what ifs.
However, there were two women I went after that I really truly liked and the end of both those relationships
nearly destroyed me. I still haven’t fully recovered in fact. I think this goes to show how needy I had become. I
had no solid ground of my own making so the loss of those relationships was like losing the better part of
myself. I was proud of my relationship with these women and losing it was like losing that fragile bit of ego I
had constructed around them.
But enough backstory, I want to stay on track about what this post is all about. Let’s just say this continued
without much of a change until 25 and I found SR. But I still couldn’t retain for long, so can honestly say I
coomed for a decade and a half, quite heavily, and over 2 decades total. A long damn time.
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I Skip
am 32tonow,
mainand my practice continues to grow, I’m about to hit 3 months Feb 2nd and Create
content my longest streak was
almost 4 months. Over the years I’ve had a lot of “streaks” and they seem to have added up. This “streak” is
different, so I am here writing with a newly refreshed mind to hopefully reach you, the reader, and give you
something you can take with you on your journey. Somewhat ironically, just like retention, my main goal is to
plant a seed in your mind (the seed rising from lower to higher). Nothing more, nothing less.
I’m going to give you some thoughts and ideas I’ve had recently and if you want me to expand on any of them
I can in the comments or in a separate post. These are things that are meant to make you think and seek out
your own knowledge, not necessarily be an exhaustive view on the topic. Look inward for your final, yet
ultimately interim, answers. The only constant here is change.
There are some other things I’ve been meaning to write about for some time now, and down the road I’ll be
posting some of that here. Thanks for being here.

End backstory, bulk of post:

Fundamental
Might as well start with the most controversial stuff first right? This world isn’t what you think it is. What you
have been taught is not true. What they tell you on the news is not true. Politics are meant to distract and
divide you. Technology is used to distract you and take away your autonomy. The wage gap is meant to put
you in a constant state of lack, to dishearten you. Inflation/low wages are supposed to make you despair and
fear the future, and most importantly to keep you in a constant survival loop. Religion while based on
something holy has been primarily used as a tool of control by corrupt individuals and institutions. Only fans
models are meant to distract you, to siphon your money, time, and most of all your energy. “Self-
improvement” and hustle culture is more toxic than enlivening and puts you into a constant state of lack and
mindless doing because so and so said so.
This is not all just by chance. It is by design. This place is ruled by a class of beings that DO NOT want you to
succeed. Technology, specifically the internet, gave them access to all of us all the time if we allow it. They
want us to fight amongst ourselves, to be distracted, to be drained, to be WEAK. Strong men and women are
what they fear most. That should tell you a little about your power.. that they have to do all this to keep us on
our metaphorical hamster wheels.
At a fundamental level your seed is the absolute core of everything holy and good within you. Waste it and you
become a slave to everything I’ve listed above. Instead of technology being useful, technology uses you.
Instead of beautiful women energizing and motivating you to be the best you can be, they drain you and put
you into a state of lust and lack. Instead of developing a personal faith, you follow blindly what you are told
you’re supposed to believe. Instead of taking action that you know is deepening your core self, you trust
mentors blindly and take action that they say you should take. You flip these scripts when you retain, and only
when you retain.

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WeSkiplivetoinmain
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where it seems obvious there is something off.. we don’t know exactly what, many of us.
Those who are awake to it all must battle with internal and external demons day in and day Create
out. Those still
mostly unaware, they fight their own battles surely but stay asleep to the larger workings around them. But
there’s an itch.. this constant itch that can’t be scratched. Everyone feels it. This core feeling that something
is just… off with the world.
Knock, Knock, Neo.
If you feel that I urge you to explore it, it’s there for a reason. Follow the proverbial white rabbit. If you don’t
know where to start.. just try sitting in a room by yourself and just do absolutely nothing. The answer, or an
answer, will come to you. I guarantee it. It’s a start.
How does this relate to anything social you may ask? Because we all feel it. It’s in the background of
everything we do out in the world. It’s behind our eyes, an ache. It shapes our smiles at the edges. It stares
back at us in the mirror as we brush our teeth. Every interaction we have we sort of wonder “are you feeling
that.. unease too? That feeling that something is just.. off here.” But we dare not ask. That would break down
our carefully constructed personas and it wouldn’t be comfortable for us or them, and this is certainly valid.
So we avoid it. We push it down back where it came from. Hence we give it power over us. We give it room to
fester. To Grow. We hide from it when we’re alone, we push it down around others.
Now, we really shouldn’t be bringing this up to everyone me meet, I don’t propose that. What I do propose is
that we give this discomfort and pain, this itch, space to breath in our consciousness. Only then will it not
fester. This can be done anytime we’re alone or perhaps with someone we deeply trust. Meditation in any form
can facilitate this. We’re not here to feel comfy. We’re here to transmute suffering into personal growth. It’s
okay to get comfy every once in a while but it’s not okay to ignore your duty to transmute and to grow and to
find your inner core.
Lastly, fundamentally we MUST RETAIN to accomplish this end. I really don’t think a man can look at all this
without being completely swept away in the current unless he’s retained. The cooming mind just simply
doesn’t have the tenacity to face all this and not lose the safety of solid ground. He will be swept away without
retention. Whether he recovers or not is largely up to chance and personal predisposition. A deep retainer
need not worry. A retainer has the most solid base possible. He is grounded in nature’s purpose; her roots
hold him. Roots no coomer has.
This ultimately leads me to my connecting point and that is that with all this, with these roots, social
connection and interactions become so much easier as a retainer. You no longer risk being swept away by
your own currents, as well as the currents of others. If you are a feeler like me, you feel it, this current of
unease in our society. Well retained, you can feel it and not be swept away. With retention you can truly
weather any storm and this leads to so much social confidence. Even in uncomfortable social situations or
around people you don’t relate to, it’s a light breeze. A rustling of leaves, a bending, not a breaking. Others
will feel this and appreciate your presence, they will feel safer around you than if you lost your seed
constantly. Even those who plain don’t like you will acknowledge that you deserve some form of respect. A
powerful presence changes everything. As you retain and progressively unplug, your presence will grow. This
can be a gift and a curse but properly harnessed it is purely gift.

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Spiritual
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Hmm perhaps I actually didn’t start with the most controversial. Here we are at a very divided and personal
topic. If your beliefs differ, that is completely fine. I am not here to proselytize, I am not here to convince you
of anything you don’t personally believe. You must come to your own conclusions. Keep in mind I come from a
background of experiential and inclusionary beliefs. I believe there’s some truth to it all but at the Center it is
the same. All differences converge at some point when they truly move towards the Center.
I’ll start with a question: Do you know the core of your being? If the answer is yes, then I ask this next: how
well do you know it?
Take a second and really think about it. What internally might you be hiding from?
This question elicits us to really face ourselves. The male ego may urge us to emphatically say yes but if we’re
really being honest I think most of us know that on some level we haven’t dug deep enough to really honestly
say “yes, I know it fully. I have plumbed the utter depths of my existence.”
Somehow someway the most profound quote I’ve ever heard among an endless sea of quotes is “you don’t
know what you don’t know.” Sounds painfully simplistic right? Kind of a useless thing to say. Well no, it’s not
simple and it’s not useless. It points to something exponentially elusive: the absolute vastness of reality. We
can spend our entire lives learning and still end up knowing very little in the grand scheme of things. The more
we learn the more we realize how little we actually know.
This brings me to awareness and back to the obvious core of this whole topic: semen retention. With semen
retention we become AWARE. We are propelled into awareness, whether we like it or not. Our consciousness
expands and we become aware of what we don’t know. We see all the gaps in knowledge from our past and
inevitably surmise there must be more we can’t currently see. Past, present, and future unite and we can
finally hold space for those things that always eluded us, and often perhaps still do. We become awareness
itself at times: unjudging, grounded, and alert. Here, in this space, we begin to the bridge the gap to ultimate
awareness, to awareness incarnate: the one true God. Only semen retention can propel us into this
enormously vast space, of accepting paradox, of finally seeing things for what they really are and not be
swept away.
When we connect with God through becoming more Godly via semen retention, we propel ourselves into a
reality that’s always been there under the surface. It is EVERYTHING and so are we, while we are also
NOTHING. We are eternity itself, yet transitory. We are collective, yet obviously individual. We are limitless
beings, yet seemingly limited in many ways.
All paradoxes align on the way to God. All diversions serve a design. All failures lead to success. All people
are One and the One is All people. We finally see a grand design despite our inability to understand it.
To finally admit we don’t understand, is to finally begin to understand.
Even as I write these things I don’t fully understand them, yet I very much do on a more basic level. I know I
have not yet experienced the depths of these truths, yet I know they are true from my experience so far and
the experiences of others. Even our understanding is paradox and exists on many different levels.
In conclusion to this section of Spirituality and the post in general: there are potentially endless levels of
understanding. By starting retention earnestly, we enter into that journey. We prove our worth and sincerity
along this path: we move up the levels. We retain longer, we keep our minds on good things, and we progress.
There’s no other way. Greater understanding stays elusive without retention.
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layers of misdirection that have been handed down to you, unplug yourself from the endless
distractions, from the lies. Free your mind, Neo. The One is you, the One is me. Wake up.Create
Retain, Retain,
Retain.

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ProvidenceOfJesus • 5d ago •
Yeah longer streaks on chastity and SR definitely takes your awareness to a whole new level and makes
you realize that God is real, Jesus did die for our sins, and it's 100% possible to go as long as you want
on SR and become your best self through our Lord Jesus who strengthens us. The peace of our Lord
Jesus Christ be with you always.
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ulmncaontarbolokomon OP • 4d ago •
Thank you 🙏
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Supahfuture • 5d ago •
Good post. Idk if the majority will understand it unless they've been on this journey for years and years
already.
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ulmncaontarbolokomon OP • 4d ago •
Thanks, yeah I agree. This post is definitely more geared to an intermediate retainer. I just sort of
wrote what came to mind, thanks for reading!
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flippartnermike • 5d ago •
Well said, thank you.
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ulmncaontarbolokomon OP • 4d ago •
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