SELF CONCEPT SKILLS are also determined whether real actions

are performed in accordance with the plan.

ACTUAL SELF

 Is built on self-knowledge. Here are some skills that will greatly increase
 the efficiency of any person who owns them:
Self-knowledge is derived from social
interactions that provide insight into how 1. DETERMINATION - It allows you to focus
others react to you. only on achieving a specific goal without
being distracted by less important things or
 The actual self is who we actually are. It is how spontaneous desires. It may be developed
we think, how we feel, look and act. The actual with the help of self-discipline exercise.
self can be seen by others, but because we have
no way of truly how others view us, the actual 2. SELF-CONFIDENCE - It appears in the
self is our self-image. process of personal development, as a
result of getting aware of yourself, your
IDEAL SELF actions and their consequences. To develop
 On the other hand, is how we meant to be. it, you need to learn yourself and your
capabilities, gain positive attitude and
 It is an idealized image that we developed believe that by performing right actions and
over time, based on what we have learned achieving right goals you will certainly reach
and experienced. success.

 The actual self could include components of 3. PERSISTENCE – It makes you keep moving
what our parents have taught us, what we forward regardless of emerging obstacles –
admire in others, what our society problems, laziness, bad emotional state, etc. It
promotes and we think is in our best. reduces the costs of overcoming obstacles. It
can also be developed with the help of self
discipline exercise.
PERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS
4. MANAGING STRESS - It helps combat stress
Means making use of all the personal that arises in daily life from the environment
resources– talents, skills, energy and time, to and other people. Stress arises from the
enable you to achieve life goals. uncertainty in an unknown situation when a
Your knowledge of yourself and how you lack of information creates the risk of negative
manage yourself impacts directly on your consequences of your actions. It increases
personal effectiveness. efficiency in the actively changing environment.
Being self-aware, making the most of your
strengths, learning new skills and techniques 5. PROBLEM SOLVING SKILLS - They help cope
and behavioral flexibility are all keys to with the problems encountered with a lack of
improving your personal performance. experience. It increases efficiency by adopting
new ways of achieving goals when obtaining a
new experience.
TALENTS first are needed to be identified and
then developed to be used in a particular 6. CREATIVITY - It allows you to find
subject area (science, literature, sports, politics, extraordinary ways to carry out a specific action
etc.) that no one has tried to use. It can lead to a
EXPERIENCE includes knowledge and skills that decrease or an increase of costs, but usually the
we acquire in the process of cognitive and speed of action is greatly increased when using
practical activities. creative tools.
KNOWLEDGE is required for setting goals, 7. GENERATING IDEAS -It helps you achieve
defining an action plan to achieve them risk goals using new, original, unconventional ideas.
assessment. Idea is a mental image of an object formed by
the human mind, which can be changed before
being implemented in the real world.

ASPECT OF SELF

THIS IS ME AND EVERY BITS OF ME MATTER…

LESSON 4: POWER TRIAD IN EVERYDAY

SITUATION

THE POWER TRIAD

Thoughts-Feelings-Action

Manage Your Thoughts, Feelings, and Behaviors

 Let’s enumerate some risk factors of an
adolescent:
1. Drugs
2. Alcohol
3. Unsafe sex
4. Teenage pregnancy and parenting
5. School underachievement
6. Failure and dropout
7. Delinquency
8. Crime
9. Violence

A BRIEF SUMMARY OF THE MOST SIGNIFICANT

DEVELOPMENTAL ISSUES THAT AN
ADOLESCENT FACE:

1. Physical Transformation
Probably the most obvious changes are
physical; the teenager or adolescent is
literally transforming from a child to an
adult physically. A transformation that is
disorienting to both the teenage and for
everyone around him/her.

2. 2. Sexual development
The teenagers or adolescent years witness
the emergence of sexuality, with all of its
hormonal changes, all of its ups and downs
and all of its emotional complications.

3. 3. Separation from parents

It is on a crash course of how to live life
with primary dependence on him/herself
rather than being guided, taught and
supported by parents.
Developmental Tasks and
Challenges of Adolescence 4. 4. Identity v. role confusion
With growing independence comes the
whole challenge of a teenager or an
adolescent learning who he/she is and what
role he/she will be playing in the world
regarding friends, family, jobs and etc.

5. 5. Social issues/group identity v.

individuality
With growing adulthood, comes the
challenge of learning what groups and
communities a person wants to be part of,
and how those groups and communities
impact their own sense of individuality.
 6. 6. Growing responsibility that will influence the thoughts of other. Never give
A substantial challenge for a teenager or an up for your goal.
adolescent is learning to bear the personal
responsibility of living a healthy, productive, Believe in yourself and stop comparing yourself
compassionate and caring adult life. with others
Love yourself first, accept who you are. Do not look
SKILLS AND TASK APPROPRIATE TO for what you do not have but be thankful of what
MIDDLE, LATE ADOLESCENCE AND you have. By believing in yourself, you will find the
PREPARATORY TO ADULTHOOD courage to take action on your goals. You can do it!

5 Ways on How to Become a Responsible Have strong relation with God

Adolescence God already knows what your goals in life. When
you build a close relationship with God, you begin
1.Yearn to learn- school is without a doubt, a huge part to see things clearly. As your relationship deepens,
in our adolescent life you begin to see how God truly does oversee you.
in fact, majority of our time during our adolescent stage God never fail those who believe in him.
is spent inside the school campus.
THE FOLLOWING ARE EIGHT (8) SIMPLE RULES
2. Do the chores- Let’s face it, doing any kind of chores, WHICH COULD HELP YOU, TO BECOME A
be it picking up your room, washing dishes, or doing RESPONSIBLE ADOLESCENT PREPARED FOR ADULT
laundry, truly stinks. LIFE:

3. Embrace your Race- as an adolescent, you are 1. Focus on your studies and do well in all of your
expected to show gratitude to the place that cultivated endeavors. There is time for
you, accepted you and assist you in all of your needs. everything.
2. Take care of your health and hygiene. Healthy
4. Be a good Citizen- while you may still be young, body and mind are important
you are certainly not exempted from your legal as you journey through adolescence.
responsibilities. 3. Establish good communication and relation
with your parents or guardian.
5. Do your share for cleaner air- to recognize your Listen to them. This may be easier said than
responsibilities to the environment as young as done at this stage, but creating
possible will help you love and care toward mother good relationship with them will do you good as
nature. they are the ones you can
lean on especially in times of trouble.
Ways to become capable and responsible adult: 4. Think a lot before doing something. Evaluate
probable consequences before acting. Practice
Set your own goals in life self-control and self-discipline.
Be mature and be responsible, set an achievable 5. Choose to do the right thing. There are plenty
goal. There is no easy way to success. Just keep on of situations in which it is better to use your
trying, give your best and focus with your goal. mind rather than your heart.
6. Do your best to resist temptations, bad acts,
Know your limit, learn to control yourself and earthly pleasures and
You must be responsible of your actions, feelings, commit to being a responsible adolescent.
thoughts. This one of the biggest challenges in your 7. Respect yourself. You are an adult in the
life. If you face a difficult situation breathe and stay making. Do not let your teenage
calm, control your emotion, never let your feelings hormones get into you. If you respect yourself,
overpower your mind. others will respect you too.
8. Be prepared to be answerable or accountable
Always think positive for your actions and behavior. It is a part of
Responsible adult always thinks positive, it will help growing up and becoming an adult.
you to become inspired with whatever endeavor
you are in. Positive thought brings positive energy
Stress and Coping Strategies in • Chest pain and rapid heartbeat
Middle and Late Adolescence • Nervousness cold or sweaty hands and feet
• Forgetfulness and Inability to focus
1. You take the first small step • Changes in appetite
Do not be too in a hurry, make a plan that
you can accomplish without you being Common cause of teen or adolescent stress
pressured to finish it. • Family problems
2. Share the love • Beating the deadline for projects, assignments
Show love to your family and friends, do not and other activities
hesitate to say it. • Schedule Examination
3. Take time to laugh • Failing Grades
Laughter is a best medicine, smile it will not • difficulty in organizing work
cost you even a cent. • poor time management
4. Something bothering you? Let it out • difficulties with personal relationships and
Write it on a paper, make a poem or a novel peer pressure
or even a play script, it helps you to let it • balancing the demands of a family with
out. studying
5. Practice forgiveness
Forgive and forget it will give your peace of How to cope up with stress
mind and a clear heart. 1. Eat a well-balanced diet eat healthy food, go
6. Exercise regularly or take a walk for vegetables and fruits
Exercising at least 30 minutes a day can 2. Avoid excessive amounts of caffeine limit
help alleviate stress, tension, and boost your coffee, black/red tea and
confidence Go with the nature, it will calm soft drinks.
your mind 3. Exercise every day at least 30 minutes it a
7. Get enough sleep day, it is one of the best ways to
You should at least sleep 7 to 8 hours a day reduce stress
to make it easier for you to cope with 4. Go outdoors whenever possible say hello to
stressful situations sunshine stay a little while.
8. Have time to relax 5. Think positive always think I can do it!
Everyone needs free time to do things that 6. Set realistic goals for yourself
make them happy. Listen to music, dance or 7. Learn to manage your time well
do your hobby. 8. Make time for yourself have a “Me” day once
9. Strengthen your faith with God in a while, love yourself
Make your relationship with God stronger 9. Adopt good sleep habits do it in daily routine,
than ever. Invite God into your life and getting sleep 7 to 8 hours
everything will be just fine brings a lot of change to you.
10.Take a deep breath and count to ten
What is stress? Stress is a feeling of emotional situation especially with peers before arguing or
or physical tension, it is your body's reaction to doing anything. or even more if you face a
a challenge or demand. We all experience stress difficult
and we all know that it is normal for us to have 11.Learn to Meditate there are a lot of self-
it. As an adolescent what stress, you? How do learning video on how to do it.
your body respond to stress? So just keep on 12.Laugh out load for it is true that laughter is
reading to widen your understanding about the best medicine
stress. 13.Say a little prayer upon waking up or any
time of the day, make it ahabit to ask for
You can say that you are experiencing Stress if guidance and protection and everything will go
you have these signs: well.
• Low self-esteem 14.Talk to a friend or somebody you trust, let it
• Low energy out.
• Frequent Headaches
• Aches, pains, and tense muscles