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Translator's Notes: This manual began to be translated based on version 1 made by

Los Players Rápidos X File2. KunFuchanel therefore wants to thank this team for the
work they have done.

There is also Version 2.0, better known as “ The Natural Art of Seduction”, published
in paper form by Pennant Books.

This is Version 3.0 which includes numerous photos, expanded paragraphs and complete
new chapters compared to the original version expanded by the author himself.
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About the Author

RICHARD LA RUINA was born in London in 1980. Always shy and reserved, he moved to
Cambridge with his mother at the age of 12. Although his own teachers considered him a
boy who did not perform at the required level, Richard's initial ambition was to be a
primary school teacher. However, he soon discovered the stock market, purchasing his first
shares after his eighteenth birthday. He spent five years trading stocks from home. This
became both a gift and a curse, he made enough money to travel the world while
completely neglecting his social life. At twenty-one Richard had never kissed a woman, or
even dated one. His first relationship lasted two and a half years, which gave him a bit of
confidence with women. From this point, she decided to increase her self-esteem by
improving her fashion sense and body language, taking part in activities such as public
speaking or salsa dancing to develop confidence. After returning to London, Richard joined
the international “pick artist” community. up”, meeting literally hundreds of women every
month to enhance his seduction skills and make up for lost time. He soon realized that he
was perfectly suited to teach these skills, creating a website to offer one-on-one training. In
2007 he created PUATraining.com , the only British company of its kind, whose staff have
already trained hundreds of students.

Content
INTRODUCTION………………………………………………………….…………4 HOW TO READ
THIS BOOK……………………………………………… …………….5
GLOSSARY……………………………………………………………...………5 TRAINING- FROM

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ZERO TO HERO. MY STORY…………..……………….……7 THE NATURAL EVOLUTION YOU

WILL EXPERIENCE……………….……..…17 THE SCIENCE OF
ATTRACTION………………………… ………………..…….19 PRE-
GAME…………………………………………………………………….….…23 HOW I FOUND MY
STYLE ……………………………………….…….……..30 THE 3 CHARACTERISTICS OF
SEDUCTION…………………………………….……37 DOING THINGS
EASIER……………………………….…………41 THE SYSTEM- FROM OPENING TO
CLOSING……………………………………..45 OPENING……………
……………………………………………………………..47 HALF
GAME………………………………………………………… …………….54 PROVOK HOOKS-
CONNECT- DEEP ISSUES…………..57
CLOSE……………………………………………………………………..… ……….75 DAY
GAME…………………………………………………………..…………87 OPTIONAL AND
ADVANCED TECHNIQUES…………………. ..……..…………...94 INNER
GAME……………………………………………….……………….…..107 FINAL THOUGHTS……
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Introduction
MY FULL-TIME JOB IS TEACHING MEN TO FEEL GOOD WITH WOMEN. I run a company called
PUATraining.com which is the largest of its kind in Europe. 'PUA' comes from 'Pick-Up Artist' , the term
for someone who is an expert in meeting, attracting and seducing women. I'm the best seducer in Europe,
and I'm good at taking a guy with no skill at all with women and turning him into a cool , confident guy
who can get all the women he wants.
This book outlines every necessary element that will maximize your chances of success and minimize your
chances of chickening out in the most important moments of interaction. It was an amazing day for me
when I discovered that I could learn to be great with women, that I wasn't forever destined to be that guy
who could never get girls. This isn't the kind of thing you can learn at home - people are actually going to
watch you when you're learning - but it's what will stop most men and allow you to stand out.
I have dedicated the last few years to this area, first influencing myself, and then helping others follow in
the same footsteps. All the material in this book is done, tried and tested. This has worked for people all
over the world, of all ages and backgrounds.
The natural reaction is to assume that this stuff is for losers and geeks , that real men don't need it. But
think about this: how many guys do you know who could get any woman they set their mind to? And in
any situation?
Let's recognize that this topic touches the male ego, and it is hard to confess that one could improve. Best
of all, if you are humble enough to admit this and put in some time, you will soon catch up with the self-
important men who like to think they have nothing to learn.
This is a new area of study. Over the years, people have developed different methods of learning skills.
You can take piano lessons or learn to drive a car: the common element is that someone who already
knows how to do something teaches you how to do it too. They know how to teach their subject, and they
know how someone can learn. Being good with women is no different; There are people who have needed
a long time to understand that the skills that some naturally possess can be learned by others and to find a
way to communicate it clearly.
It has taken so long because most kids who are natural don't know how to communicate it well to others.
Women, I'm sorry to say, are generally not the best to ask for advice: "just be funny" or "just be confident"
isn't particularly helpful. (I probably wouldn't know what to do with that advice.)
I can guarantee you that if you read this book and apply what you learn, you will be better with women.
This is not a scientific textbook in the sense of statistics and telephone polls. Everything I have written is
based on my own experience and has been tried and tested in the best laboratory of human interaction - the
real world: cafes, streets, bars and clubs in London. Human interaction is not something that can be studied
from the sidelines. PUA cannot teach seduction techniques or theorize about it without addressing real
women in real situations. But what's inside these pages works. You will be able to look back with the
benefit of this new knowledge, and realize that you could have been luckier.

How to Read This Book

YOU WILL BENEFIT MORE FROM THIS BOOK IF YOU READ IT IN AN ORDERLY MANNER. IT
IS PRESENTED IN A LOGICAL SEQUENCE TO LEAD YOU THROUGH THE NECESSARY

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ELEMENTS OF AN INTERACTION, UNTIL “CLOSING”. I've placed 'the inner game' (the mental
attitudes and beliefs that will make you more attractive) last because it's something that can work in
conjunction with your interaction skills - I want you to practice as much as possible right now, not using
the excuse of: “I hadn't read the inner game chapter and that's why I haven't left.”
Some PUA will read the book and not actively use the proposed methods. You will still do slightly better,
because the information will be in your mind and any interaction will go more smoothly than before you
had this knowledge.
The kids who will achieve the most will be the ones who go out the most and put my methods into action.
Those who are determined to try new things and go out many nights a week. They will put theory into
practice, observing the results and refining their approaches for the next time.

GLOSSARY

IN THIS BOOK, I USE A SMALL NUMBER OF TERMS SPECIFIC TO SEDUCTION. There is 'a
seduction community', groups of guys who post messages on specific websites, and meet in bars and clubs
in major cities around the world, with the aim of developing better skills with women. I've never been a
part of this community, searching for posts is the worst way to engage with people in live situations, but
the terms originally used by these guys have increasingly seeped into the mainstream. I'll use those that
make it easier to explain certain concepts, trying not to sound like a geek!
AMOG : Alpha Male of the Group.
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Direct/Indirect : Showing interest directly / Under-the-radar approach once the group is disarmed and the
target begins to give indicators of interest.
High Value : A high value woman could be a celebrity, in the extreme, or just a girl who stands out in the
environment: a waitress, a stripper, a model - basically what all men want. The high-value man has status -
he could be the owner of a club, a millionaire or someone in a similarly desirable position.
IDI : Interest Indicator (the girl shows it when she likes you).
In Set : In an interaction with the girl or group that has opened.
Kino : Physical contact.
Mixed Set : Group containing men.
Natural : The man who is very lucky with women and apparently makes no effort.
Opener : The first thing said when addressing a set.
Routine : a sequence of previously written and memorized material.
Set : Group of women (for example, two, three...)
Social Proof : Increasing your attractiveness within a venue because everyone knows you and talks to
PUA, or by getting the attention of other women. Body language and behavior can also raise your social
value.
Target : the woman he is interested in.
ALA : Someone who dates PUA to meet women and help him

Training - From Zero to Hero, My Story

I HAVE DEVELOPED THIS SYSTEM AFTER MANY YEARS OF THEORY AND PRACTICE. WHAT I HAVE ACHIEVED IS A SYSTEM FOR MAKING

YOURSELF "A NATURAL", A MAN THAT WOMEN FIND NATURALLY ATTRACTIVE WITHOUT USING ANY CLEVER TRICKS OR ROUTINES .
Of course, I have a huge collection of routines and pranks, from palm reading or Derren Brown -style mind
tricks. These things work and I'll show you some. However, what the System allows you to use your own
personality and natural attractiveness as a basis, thus reducing the need to rely on pre-programmed
material. Pick-up lines, routines, and tricks will give you play, something you can use in the early days
when you run out of things to say. It's like using the little wheels on your bike while developing your
natural confidence.

When I was a very shy and introverted kid, a goose, I felt like a loser in terms of social interaction. Until
the age of twenty-one, he had had no success with women at all – not even a kiss! What held me back
were these simple things:

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events asked everyone, “What's wrong with it? Oh, it's fine?"
• I had low self-esteem, a bad self-image and I was even clinically depressed at some point.
• I was nervous, shy and socially uncalibrated - I often made people angry by saying the wrong things.
• They called me 'ugly' until the end of school and college.
• People were amused by my voice, so I was afraid to speak out loud, or in public, and I even avoided
making phone calls.

As an introvert, I had close friends, rather than a large social circle. My friends invited me to games and
clubs all the time, but I never went. As I got older, more of a constant worry became. Any girl I knew
could be more experienced than me, and it was embarrassing. I wondered if I would ever find anyone. At
the same time I was moderately successful in terms of my career. This would have been a surprise to my
school teachers, who were sure I would be a failure. I was good at marketing, and even gained skill in
stock market trading in my spare time. I wasn't going to be a millionaire, but for the first time I was
recognized as a smart, hard worker.

To allow you to fully appreciate my difficulties with women, here are some of my worst moments from
ages sixteen to twenty-one:

• At school there was a girl who liked me and so did I. Why? I have no idea - I was probably the only one
at the time. I wasted the entire year trying to muster the courage to say something as simple as, "Hey,
what are you doing?" but it never happened. It wouldn't have been too difficult - • she sat next to me most
of the time. One day I left a note on his motorcycle to tell him that I liked him, and that we should go out
together. Yes, I'm too embarrassed to admit it - and, no, this didn't work.

• At university, a very hot aunt I shared the hall with was very happy one night. She came to me and said,
"Richard, I'm so hot!" She was beautiful and I was enormously attracted to her from the first moment I
saw her. We were like friends, and I guess I was just in the right place at the right time to move things
forward. I handled the situation like a coward and said, "Ah dear," he stroked my arm and excused
himself to leave. I didn't feel very sorry then; I wouldn't have known how to kiss her properly, no matter
how things would have gone on a sexual level. He looked puzzled, and mentioned some time later that he
thought she must be a virgin. I regretted for a long time not taking advantage of those university years,
when it was much easier to connect with women.

• One day on the street, two girls came up and one said, "You look like her ex-boyfriend." They were
paying a lot of attention to me, but I said, "Oh yeah?" and let the conversation go to waste.

• One day on a train, a group of girls started approaching me and asking if I had ever had a threesome. I
didn't have enough courage to ask for his phone number. Instead, I let them go.

• One night at a bar, a girl came up and said, "Would you like to lick my lizard?" "She showed me the
lizard tattoo on her belly; I actually licked it, and she stood there expectantly. I didn't say anything and
she left. Not only did I not fall for sex, but that situation was too much for me. I wanted to hold hands,
hug, kiss - basically have a girlfriend. Overtly sexual women were scared of me because they knew I
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Now I can look back and see all those women with the perplexed look on their faces, thinking, "What did
I do wrong with that guy?"

THE STORY CONTINUES

In September 2001, a friend invited me to a club and something unusual happened, I accepted. The night
before, I almost sold my soul to the devil saying I would give up all my worldly possessions for a girl. A
funny thing happened in the car: he wanted to go to a certain club, but I insisted on going to another. At
the club I had chosen, my friend was approached by a girl who was very hot. I looked there when he
chatted with her. After a couple of minutes, her friend returned from the dance floor. Our friends left us
alone, and began to forget about us. I can't remember who spoke first, but we got into a boring
conversation and I bought him a drink.

Because we were forced to be together, she had to talk to me for an hour or more. I was nervous, and
couldn't maintain good eye contact, but I guess he liked my good-guy behavior. My friend and the other
girl were progressing so well that he wanted to get her out of that place. He wanted to drop us off at
home first, so we went to my girl's street, she said goodbye and got out of the car. He walked several
meters and I was paralyzed. The seat grabbed me, but I had one of those life-changing moments before
me when you force yourself to take action – I told my friend to wait and I chased after her. I called her by
her name; She turned around and I said, "Can I have your number?" She gave it to me. It was the first
time he had gotten a girl's number!

The next day, I didn't call her because I was too nervous. I called the next day, but she didn't answer. I
was immediately grieved; She obviously had better things to do than talk to a loser like me, it happened
because her friend had abandoned her and that's why she talked to me in the first place. Remarkably, he
called me a couple of hours later! He had been at work. We agreed to meet for drinks in a couple of days.
On the second date, I cooked at home. Afterwards, she sat next to me on the couch, put her head on my
shoulder and I... stroked her hair!

On the third date, I found out she had a boyfriend. Now I was no longer working at the stock market full
time, but I was trying to get this girl to be my girlfriend. We met during the day for the first time, and I'm
sure she would find me ugly in the light of day. She was getting rid of her boyfriend because it was a
long distance relationship and things weren't working out. Then she started going to university: she took
a four-hour train, but I booked a hotel room for her first week and arranged to visit her every weekend.

It took me three dates to kiss her, and after ten more, we still hadn't slept together.

To make a long story short, I worked to overcome all obstacles and, for some strange reason, my
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love, and I gave up more or less all my interests. After two years we started to have problems; I had
changed a lot and so had she, and we began to argue more and more over the next six months. Things
deteriorated and we mutually agreed to break up.

In March 2004, he was alone again. But now I think meeting girls is easier, I'm more confident and I
have a 100% opening and closing rate in clubs! Over the next couple of years I made a few approaches,
got phones, and a few bad dates without much kissing.

In that same period, I did a lot of personal improvement. I wrote down all my problems, ways to
improve, and made a plan to address each one. Much to my shyness, I decided to give an English course
for foreigners in Seville, Spain. This is what people who love to travel do, become an English teacher for
foreign students. This forced me to be the center of attention and be in front of a class of people for an
hour. In my first class, I was nervous and my voice was shaking. Finally I felt pretty well. I largely
overcame shyness and even fear of approaching women based on desensitization. The course helped me a
lot.
I started reading two self-improvement books a week. I studied Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP),
which is a branch of psychology that uses different techniques, such as the artful use of language and
visualization to influence our subconscious minds, and the subconscious minds of others. It can be used
to remove limiting beliefs, cure phobias and get better with other people. Some people make strange
claims about NLP, such as that it is able to speed up your metabolism to lose weight, or even create time
distortions in martial arts, so that you can see the other person in slow motion and kick them in the face!
Matrix style ass! This is going too far: unless you can claim to be an NLP guru, you have to take these
far-fetched claims with a grain of salt. Anyway, NLP has very powerful and "easy to apply" techniques
that were of great help to me.
I also studied principles of psychology, hypnosis, Buddhism and other self-development texts. I didn't
expect the effects this would have, it made me calmer and more serene, happier and more content.
Buddhism and hypnosis improved my internal state. These books were the perfect antidote to watching
MTV videos with hot women, the ones that make us even more dissatisfied with our lives. I also took
several business and finance courses, which added nothing new to my skill with women, but helped one
of my perceived weaknesses: a lack of qualifications on my CURRICULUM VITAE.
It took me two years to establish my fashion sense. I went from wearing baggy jeans, Nike t-shirts and
sneakers to stylish designer clothes. At first I made mistakes and bought terrible items (a fake Versace
polo with a huge logo, the Zegna suit that was two sizes “too baggy”!), but over time I refined my style
and learned a lot about etiquette, design , tight knit.
During this time, people began to consider me as confident and women began to pay more attention to
me because of this - and also because of my improved sense of style. But I was too focused on learning
and stayed out of the social scene. Therefore, I did not sleep with any women between March 2003 and
November 2005 - except a few times with my ex-girlfriend!

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I was sitting with a group of strange looking guys; They carried papers with charts on how to approach
women. I tried to listen, but nothing made sense to me. I asked Tyler if this was a speed dating event they
were preparing for, and he explained it all to me. He told me to buy a book called The Game and
explained to me what it was about. I later found out that he was one of the biggest “pick-up artists,” or
PUAs, in the world. His job was to teach men how to flirt with women, and he spent all his time
calculating routines and openers - prepared lines to say to women, how to start a conversation, little
stories, jokes and tricks. He took his name from Brad Pitt's character in Fight Club, a rebel against
society and leader of men. A true alpha male.
Looking at these guys, I didn't buy the idea that they could be successful with women - they seemed too
geeky - but nevertheless, I bought The Game as soon as it was published. It tells the story of Neil Strauss,
a journalist who infiltrated this underground society of pickup artists. The book wasn't very good at
techniques to use, but it was an introduction to a new world of possibilities. After reading it, I searched
for big names like Mystery and David Deangelo and spent the next six months devouring all the material
I could find in the form of ebooks, DVDs, and audio courses only available on relatively obscure
websites. Both Tyler and Deangelo were notable influences: Deangelo is one of the best-known teachers
in the world of seduction, one of those guys who (rather than seeming strange or geeky) I couldn't
imagine attracting women. He is naturally funny, very confident and knowledgeable. The others seemed
strange to me, and I couldn't understand how a woman would find them attractive once their banter wore
thin. This was the beginning of my divergence from established methods, and led me to where I am now
- a teacher of Natural Play.

I did less than ten boardings in those six months, but I felt like I was having a good handle on the area I
was studying as thoroughly as the business courses I took. Shortly after reading The Game , I went to
Singapore on vacation. I was visiting my ex-girlfriend, who I still had feelings for, but I was no longer in
love. However, I had a colleague to whom I was attracted. I was there for a month and bumped into this
girl a few times. She studied at Oxford , and I fell in love with her Liz Hurley accent. One night when we
were at a club, she sat next to me, so I put a small amount of my new teachings into practice. She put her
hand on my leg and I put my hand on her leg. She started rubbing my leg, and then I did the same. She
took my hand, so I leaned down and kissed her.
I would have been happy with just one kiss, this was the second girl I had ever kissed in my life!
However, things escalated further; “Let's go” she told me, we left, took a taxi and went to my hotel. She
did all the work. In the hotel room, he took off his clothes, laid me on the bed and made my job very
easy. I felt very good after this; like a real man, after all he was getting somewhere! For me, one-night-
stand sex is never as good as when I feel truly attached to someone. But, as someone who felt sexually
inexperienced, there were certain things I had to cross off my “to do” list!
My confidence was boosted by the whole pick-up theory in my head. I felt like I had a secret weapon that
I could deploy with devastating results. And why not? I had a 100% success rate so far! Other kids didn't
know this stuff. They were idiots! I was going to clean them! Well, then she was the one who said, “Let's
go,” who got us a taxi and took me to a hotel; she was a friend of a friend, rather than being a cold
approach. But hey, he had achieved the result, and he would be able to achieve it any time he wanted...

In March 2006 I moved to London. I chose the exact position to meet women, going out and being social
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I had wanted to move to London for years. My life in Cambridge was never happy. I found it too small,
the people unfriendly and boring, and I didn't have the kind of social life I wanted. Why did I wait so long?
The answer may be the same one that holds one in many other areas of life; the fear of failing and
returning to the old life.
Look, any important steps you've avoided taking may be for the same reasons. But finally, I did it. I
basically didn't know anyone when I moved. My roommates were good people, but they didn't have any
social circle, so I didn't make many friends thanks to them. Over time I met some PUA's from London
through forums and contacted them.
I hung out with these guys and at first gave them the kind of respect that any PUA described in The
Game deserved. I thought that someone who had spent years working on something would be very well
prepared in it. However, I quickly found out that most of these guys could hold a good conversation and
be cool, but they weren't able to start a conversation and hold female interest, let alone close it. I watched
them approach while the girls looked at each other with a “help me” look or smiled politely at them, then
put their heads together and said, “What's wrong with that guy?” after the boy turned his back on them.
The boys were very happy with their abilities if they could only manage a short conversation without
being rejected. Luckily, I had better role models (video and audio), but this made me question my
potential. If it had taken these kids years of effort to reach this level, maybe I would never be able to
achieve what I wanted to be.

I had to lower my expectations a few degrees. I quickly realized that my goal should not be to 'play the
game' as a PUA, but as a natural, someone who exudes the qualities to which a woman will naturally be
attracted. Someone who doesn't need clever tricks and tricks or lies to make a woman fall in love with
him.
Over the next few weeks I met more of these guys. I didn't last long with most of them, but I met two,
Eugene and Conor, who were great, so I tried to go out to the clubs with them as often as possible. He
went out four nights a week. So I had been to a club at least thirty times and had found the atmosphere
very uncomfortable. Those nights we usually committed to opening twenty or more girl groups, although
with little success on my part.
I was trying to overcome my fear of talking to women, and sometimes had a pleasant conversation
thanks to my past ability to be a good listener. I think I might have been disappointed at this point if I had
focused purely on the end result. I could have come home each night and complained, “Well, I didn't get
any numbers again,” but I managed to see each week as good progress. At first it was: “Today I got X
number of approaches”; then it was: “Today, I have had X number of good interactions.” That way I was
able to maintain a positive attitude in the first few days. One night at Covent Garden with Conor, I
started to get good results. We acted as 'wings' , one of us took care of our targets' friends for a strong
connection and to be able to close with the phone. Then we took turns and thus, working together, we
achieved good results. I had gone out with other kids from the community and it was something like a
military operation; We had divided ourselves into teams and had a strategy to open groups. I remember
one night someone put us in groups and sent us on a mission to approach ten women with an opener he
had given us. This felt strange and unnatural, it would have been nice to get results, but there were none;
I never saw anyone get a number. I had fun with Conor and tried to make everything as natural and loose
as possible. Even if we didn't go anywhere, we still managed to have a good time.
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friend, she will be forced to continue chatting with you, instead of telling you that she has to go to the
bathroom or the dance floor. Working alone requires a lot more skill, because if you lose her for even a
second she will get bored and leave.
I had the opportunity to close with a number in several clubs when I was with Conor, but nothing came
of them. A girl who I was sure I would meet for a date (we had a great conversation, I took her number,
we agreed to meet on a Wednesday at Salsa) sent me a message telling me she had hurt her ankle while
she was at the gym. . After this I tried to meet up a few times but this never happened. I don't know if the
excuse was true or not, but these kinds of things don't happen to me anymore. I had no idea how to use
physical contact (kino-escalation) to get a kiss at the club, although I was already quite confident when
interacting with women. The girls I often approached were very hot and some of them complimented me
on my looks. This was new to me and it suited me very well. I think there were several things that had
changed that increased my attractiveness: I was better dressed, I had a better haircut, better body
language, I had shed most of my nervous tics and mannerisms and - probably most importantly - I
radiated a new confidence level. If you have high confidence and self-esteem, people will be attracted to
you, unlike what happens if you feel like a loser. I projected a more attractive energy.
The next big step occurred three weeks later in London. I was in a club in Soho with Conor and another
guy when Conor approached two Swedes. I didn't act like his wingman right away because he was with
an Australian girl. I didn't get very far with her, so I approached the three of them. Conor focused on his
girl and mine was eighteen, Swedish and quite cute. At first I sat on the arm of her chair for an hour,
addressing her; I finally sat down next to him and continued talking.
I couldn't get him to touch me and I didn't know what the hell I should do. My fuck-close in Singapore
only happened because she touched my leg first, and I only matched her kino-climb to my kiss. Anyway I
said, “fuck it” and I put my arm around her and went for the kiss. Look where it worked; She was inside.
Now I know I probably could have done it after the first thirty seconds, but the point was that something
had changed in my mind - you don't need to wonder if kissing is okay - women like it when men go for
the kiss; If you ask her if she wants you to kiss her or wait years to do it, that's unattractive. In this case I
didn't have the knowledge I have now, so I could have been rejected at that special moment - but if you
don't try, you'll never find out if you connected or not. (I should warn you that lunging suddenly for a
kiss is a terrible thing, and you should read the later chapters of this book to learn how to do it gently.)
Conor left early because the topic with his girl didn't work out. Reflecting on this episode, I realize that it
would have been very easy to take my girl home (her friend was happy to abandon her in my care!) I
didn't do it, probably, because I was in full boiling spirit from the closing of the kiss and I didn't suppose
it was possible.
I was now happy in London; I had friends and I felt like I had a little more control over things. He was
very confident and at the top, because he was able to attract women. He had learned the basic structure of
a seduction from six months of theory and a few weeks in the field. It's true that I wasted a lot of time
hanging out with community geeks, or sitting at home thinking I was moving on and postponing the
difficult event – which would really test me. I now have much more experience in dating and addressing
women and spent the next month refining my approaches. I used a lot of “canned material” (which I will
explain later) and it worked to help attract girls. The next milestone was a night at a C ovent Garden club.
My friend identified a very pretty girl. She was tall, blonde, thin, with blue eyes. Now it would be the
usual standard. I think it was a natural consequence of the increased ability and option to choose women.
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important to me. Spending so much time with women can desensitize you to so much beauty, and it takes
something more special to get my attention. You date a girl with a slim stomach and then you want this
every time; you date a girl with beautiful eyes and you want this every time; You date someone with a
nice ass and then you want it every time.
Anyway, I sat next to this babe and chatted with her for a while. After some teasing to challenge her, I
lightly touched her leg and arm and she reciprocated. I went for the kiss after about five minutes. Then I
led her around the club - “Come on let's have something to drink. Let's Dance. Let’s sit here.” We got
very hot and intense, so I just got up, took his hand and said, “Let's go.” She started walking with me, but
asked, “Where?” I said, “somewhere else” and he walked from the club to my house. I let him sit on my
bed (you couldn't sit anywhere else!) and left to get some wine. When I came back we chatted, he drank,
and then I moved in for some more kisses. I took the cup from her and laid her on the bed. I lay on top
and kissed her, but I didn't really know how to escalate to sex. My actions were not very decisive and it
took me a long time to reach the end. Maybe she thought it was nice to have long strokes! An hour later
we were naked in bed, and we finally reached the end. She left at dawn to return home, and I was boiling.
I had met an attractive girl, and within a few hours I had persuaded her to sleep with me. I guess it's a
form of validation. We have the unconditional love of our family, but it is a nice compliment when a
stranger falls in love with us.

I thought she could be my girlfriend, but I met her another day and the attraction was gone. I didn't like
that she smoked; I didn't like his accent; I didn't like his shoes or the way he walked. We went to the
movies and he took off his shoes, wow how his feet smelled. We watched a scary movie and my palms
were sweaty. After all these little things I didn't feel attracted to her, and so she left. I thought I was Jerry
Seinfeld when I broke up with the girl for stupid reasons, but I didn't call her again and she didn't call me.
Over the next month I got a lot of kisses and slept with a few more girls. I took approximately four salsa
classes. I didn't manage to pick up any women in the class, because they weren't my type - but I came up
with my 'salsa climb', where I go and ask the girl if she wants to dance and then go for the kiss.

During that time, I was still studying theory and going out to refine my technique. Step by step, I gained
confidence and added more skills to my repertoire. I kissed a Serbian girl in a minute with my salsa
climb; She was taller than me, muscular, tanned and blue-eyed. It took me seven hours to sleep with her
and then she was my girl the next month.

While I was with the Serbian girl, I think I only kissed one girl, and that's when I trained with Brent (a
renowned American PUA). He arrived in the UK in May, and I decided that I was going to learn a lot
from him or perhaps make a determination to become a coach. I paid $1,000 plus expenses for an
afternoon with him from 7pm to 2am. He looked good, confident and cool, but the training was a
disappointment. He couldn't show how good he was. He couldn't entertain two girls after I connected
with his cute friend. He just told me I should talk louder and climb faster. It was his only advice.
Although he was a very nice guy. Maybe my level was already too high. Anyway, I wasted a nice girl
that night.

This was the first time I was disappointed with the abilities of a famous guru. There were many more to
come over the next few months! Now when I meet famous pick gurus up, my attitude is, “Hey, if they're
great I'll learn something - and if they're not, it'll make me more confident.” I win for sure!

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Over the next few months I upped my game, gained more confidence, was with gorgeous girls and met
several influential people - most importantly Steve Jabba and Anthony P, who were introduced to me in a
bar by one of the guys I met when I moved to London for first time. They were naturals who had
discovered the art of the pick-up after having success with women. We started going out together a lot.

In June I started PUAtraining.com. I was an expert teacher, I could communicate clearly and I was able
to analyze a person's strengths and weaknesses quickly to give them practical advice. Thanks to teaching,
I perfected my subject and was forced to play finer. I learned to control my state, instead of only being
able to play when the time was right.

In July I started traveling to eleven countries for two months with my friend Steve. During this vacation,
my skills in kino, non-verbal flirting, dance floor play, and other areas increased tremendously. I returned
calm and confident to the nightclubs. Steve is a legend, and few people have seen his abilities when he is
at the top of his game. I saw him do things on vacation that gave me the shakes! It was a next level game.

Fast forward to today. I go to parties with celebrities to learn the game in that environment. I'm working
with the guys at PUAtraining.com to further refine the system. And I travel to different countries to test
my game internationally. How do I flirt now? I have plenty of routines that can be successful for every
day of the week, unwavering openers followed by calculated responses, building emotional states,
seductive language patterns and a host of psychological tricks. But you know what? I don't use that stuff!
I want to be able to achieve natural play. I don't want to know what I'm going to say next. I like to test
my intelligence and exercise my mental muscles. I want to make a better me, instead of building a
fictional character.
Success? I am completely satisfied with my love life. I know very high value women who are in the top
1% of the population in terms of desirability, and I feel like if I'm ever alone, I'll be able to find a girlfriend
without too much trouble. I've dated strippers, runway models, FHM and Maxim models. I just have
options with women now. I prefer a real relationship to a casual one, but this is just an option - I will only
be alone when I want; I will have the kind of women I want in my life and I won't have to settle for
someone who isn't right for me. Mainly, it means that I will never crawl into bed at night again wondering
if I will ever get a date!

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The Natural Evolution You Will Experience

If you have never approached a woman, you will be nervous, count on it. You will also be very focused
on your body language, voice, what you say and what you will say next. This means that you are paying
little attention to the other person and not listening as strongly to what they are saying. Think about when
you're on the phone talking to someone but watching TV or browsing the Internet at the same time, you
pick out just enough information to say "aha" or "oh yeah?" or why? at appropriate times but you
wouldn't be able to answer if they asked you what you thought about it. It's because your attention is only
10% with them. When you're hitting on a girl and you think about all the other stuff, this is what
happens.
This means you're going to have shitty conversations. The kids say “I don't know what to say”, “I'm left
blank” etc. That happens because your focus is centered on yourself, you concentrate on all the things
that happen in your head and your body.
That's why we give you openers and routines. Now I'm a natural and I don't use any of this, but it was a
natural part of my progression to use these things. When you have an opener, and the transition in your
mind (and you've already used it a few times), what happens is that you no longer have to focus on this
area, you can focus on your body language, tone of voice or even better - IN THE WOMAN! In this way,
you begin to be able to learn to see IDI's, notice when they are about to leave and start dancing, when
they get bored, notice things like their body language and make observations about their appearance.
Think of it like the computer's CPU, the more programs it handles, the less processing power can be
dedicated to any one process. You spread yourself too thin when you have a lot to worry about.
Women don't have this problem. They don't have to approach, they don't have to be interesting, funny or
confident, they just have to be there, no pressure and be as boring, dull and unfunny as they want and
they will STILL ask for their number at the end of it all. They are not nervous, much less aware of all our
burdens as men, so they have 100% of their resources analyzing us! It's the reason why it's often said that
women are more sensitive, perceptive and whatever you can think of - they get a lot of practice. The
average guy doesn't get 20 interactions in one night, but attractive women do get this average!
So, the next thing that happens is that you start to free up some resources, by not focusing so much on all
the other things - body language, what you say, etc. and these resources can be used in reading the
situation and potentially responding dynamically. It's like when you drive a car for the first time, you
have too much to think about, but after a while you don't think about those things at all and you have
spare resources to operate the radio, make calls on your cell phone or anything else.

So right now you're a routine guy, but you're comfortable. Then it is possible to go to the next level and
become a natural. You are more attractive - you are comfortable and confident in the game. This has come
from experience, desensitization and with some level of success. Hopefully you will also be more
comfortable socially and speak better. What you can do is put yourself in a situation where you have a hard
shell, but no content. The content will be formed on the fly based on what she gives you. You go and open
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then direct the conversation towards the goal, making micro adjustments, checking the boxes that you
think are necessary in this situation and dealing with the specific challenges that the pickup presents .

You've gone from "OK if he punches me I block them, but if he elbows me" to Jeet Kune Do closer to
"whatever he does, I'll be ready." You have the basic structure and an understanding of the things she
needs to feel and what you need to show her, communicate and sub-communicate and see what stage she
is at and what she needs most. When you put yourself at this level, it is no longer a numbers game, you
can pick up any woman, adjusting to her needs. Women are not machines that simply do not work. There
is no magic routine that can hook you up with ANY woman. But, you have the ability to develop the
skills to hook up with ANY woman, being aware and expert enough to generate a unique “routine” just
for her, and at that moment.

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The Science of Attraction

What is a woman really looking for in a man? What makes you different and special compared to other
men?

Styles: men VS women

Many men think that they have to be very handsome to be able to get women. This is because appearance
is an important consideration for men. Beautiful women require a man who is 'good enough', someone
who is not unpleasant, they don't have to be magnificent. In fact, many women have told me that it is
better for the guy not to be super handsome, because then he is less likely to cheat on her or look for
someone better. She wants to be the prettiest one in the relationship! Over time, a woman will find your
physical imperfections 'cute' and when she is in love with you, her attraction to your particular
appearance will grow. If you are an average man reading this, then yes, you can have a beautiful woman
who is attracted to you. On one occasion a girl told me that one of my friends, who is very good with
women, is handsome. Technically, he is not. What she really said was that she was attracted to this man,
and she assumes he is handsome. In fact, she was attracted to other qualities:

His alpha masculinity.

Its non-reactivity.
Its powerful frame.
Adding up.
Your sexual confidence.
Your peace of mind.

I have dated students who have had bad reactions and girls have not found them attractive. After working
on their confidence a little, and after they had achieved a little success, the same women said “Wow, this
is so good!” and they wondered if he had new clothes, if he had been exercising or whitened his teeth. In
reality he hasn't done any of this, but he projects a new self-image. If you don't have any beliefs, if you
think you are worthless, you project an ugly self-image. If you think you are an important man, you
project an attractive image and actually become more attractive. I've seen this in hundreds of students
and I've realized that a huge element of attractiveness comes from your mood.
Attraction process: men vs women
If you had a hundred men in a room and a beautiful woman walked in, how many of those men would
sleep with her right there based on her looks? I would estimate approximately ninety percent. If you
reverse the situation, with a hundred women in a room and an attractive man walks in, how many would
sleep with him right there? I think twenty percent or less.

Men give themselves to women before even having spoken to them, based solely on their appearance.
They would buy her a drink, spend the entire night with her, take her out to dinner, go out for the
weekend, or maybe more, all based solely on her looks. Consequently, this means that when we see an
attractive woman we approach her too enthusiastically, we show her that she can't be too wrong, that we
have already made a decision. That is why women say that men are men only after one thing, it is
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has already made a decision: that he loves her, she cannot "lose" him during the conversation, he is still
going to ask her number. If a man gets a girlfriend, he usually loses attraction after a certain time and
feels attracted to other women, especially those with the opposite physique and character to the ones they
are with. If he is with a brunette, he will look for a blonde.
The attraction process in a woman is different; she becomes more attracted to a man over time. Your
imperfections become cute, she gets to be comfortable with him, and your appearance becomes the
standard by which she measures what she likes. If you ask a woman to describe what she admires in
terms of looks, she will often describe the last man she was with. I will meet girls who will tell me that I
am not their type, but after some time they begin to describe me as their ideal man and consider men on
the street as attractive because they look like me. The process of attracting women is why most
relationships happen via the social circle (see below).

Relationship Problems – Men VS Women

The number of people who are dissatisfied with their love lives is high. We know many single people
and others in relationships with whom they are not completely happy. It is rare if we have within our
social circle an example of a truly solid relationship.
This book is intended for men to become better; The reason it can't be for both sexes is because men and
women have their own problems at different stages of male-female interaction. The most common flaw
of a man is not having enough courage to start a conversation, and if he can, he will find it difficult to
develop the date and eventually a relationship. Even if he is very attractive, very often they will not
approach him at all. The man is still expected to make the first moves, start the conversation, ask for the
woman's number, ask her out on a date, go for the kiss etc. You are required to be more active at the
beginning of the relationship.
An attractive woman can go to a crowded nightclub, guaranteed to be approached by men several times.
All she has to do is decide whether to talk to the guy, give her number, whether she will meet him on a
date, and whether she wants to let the man kiss her. In most cases, the man has decided that he wants her
before he has even spoken to her, and there is not much more she can say or do to change his mind. She
doesn't have to be funny, confident or fascinating.

But not everything is so easy for a woman. His problem comes later when he has to separate the good
guys from the bad. Your logical mind wants a nice guy you can trust, someone you can introduce your
parents to and who will always be there. However, your emotional mind wants to tame the wild man,
find someone who is unpredictable and
Amazing, someone to work with who could lose at any moment.
The good guy is usually the dumper and the bad guy is the one who breaks many hearts. For a while I
thought I would have to become 'a bastard in love', and an idiot in order to get more women and avoid
having too many friends - but then I realized that it is actually possible to stay a good person, by
introducing some characteristics of the bad boy, without really being one. (See the topic 'The Mental
Framework of the Relationship'.)
This is how society works right now. But even though this book is for men, I hope it helps women
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How Most People Are Together – The Social Circle
Most people who are in relationships are in relationships thanks to their social circle. They worked
together, went to school together, or at least are friends of friends. It's a powerful factor to find someone
who is part of your social circle (even if we define 'social circle' as having a common acquaintance):

-They know you are not a serial killer.

-You can immediately add the mutual-friend value as your own- how many years have you known each
other, how much do you like being with them, etc.
-Convenience comes built in - all it takes is attraction.
-You can work on seduction for a longer period of time.
-Your mutual friends will usually help you be together.

This is why it's easier to pick up women at a birthday party than at a bar. At the party, even if you don't
know the woman, you can approach her with, “Do you know Bob?” There is some element of trust, and
also some obligation of social courtesy, that helps smooth the interaction.
Safety (being part of your group) and exposure to the person over a long period of time are two powerful
factors, but the social circle is not really a matter of choice or true desire, but of convenience - almost
settling for something. . It might be good, but if everyone felt they had complete choice, they would
make better decisions .

How to Have More Options - The Hardest Skill: Cold Approach

This is the great theme of the book. You will see benefits to all your social interactions, but the skill of
someone who is amazing with women is the ability to thrive in an interaction with a complete stranger.
There may be women you like in your social circle - but how many do you really like, how much of your
attraction is due to the time you've spent together, and how approachable are they? Having the full option
means we can get any woman we want. This means that if we see a woman in a Starbucks we can
approach her, and if the situation is right, we can have a relationship with her. In this way we will not
only see women at work or friends of friends, as potential companions, but also women in bars, clubs,
supermarkets, women's clothing stores or walking down the street.
Are Johnny Depp and Brad Pitt amazing with women? I don't believe it! They are in a position where
they have everyone in their social circle and are not going to be treated like strangers. They also have
incredibly high status and social value. But there is a rumor about Brad Pitt that he was the worst with
women when he moved to Hollywood. The man who is the best with women is not a celebrity - a
celebrity can be lazy and still get all the women he wants. The best in the world is a man that no one
knows, who can approach a woman in any situation and get what he wants. People can buy a modeling
agency, or plot a life that guarantees them attractive women - think Peter Stringfellow and Hugh Hefner -
but wouldn't it be better to be able to get these women without social advantages, without them working
for you, just by being attracted to you and your qualities, instead of what you offer?

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Pre-Game
Your First Impression - Preparing the Ground

THE FIRST IMPRESSION THAT A WOMAN FORMS ABOUT YOU IS NOT WHEN YOU OPEN YOUR
MOUTH, TO TALK TO HER, FOR THE FIRST TIME; BUT WHEN SEEING YOU FOR THE FIRST
TIME FROM THE SIDE OF THE EYE.
A few years ago, a woman would have been able to tell that I was insecure, unhappy, unconfident,
unfashionable, low energy, unsociable, non-sexual and shy, just by looking at me. Why would you want to talk
to me? How would you feel if I approached her?

Guess I already knew this, and that's why I didn't bother trying to target girls. But it's frustrating; You know
you're a nice guy, nicer than the guy she's with, nicer than your friends who are in relationships. You know
you'd be fine with her, but she's not interested in the slightest. The good news is that you can maintain your
good qualities, learn some new ones, and become a man who naturally attracts women.

It's hard to know what you look like to others, because you don't have a video camera following you all the
time. However, we can work to make the first impression as good as possible, being aware of the necessary
components. There are several elements that affect a woman's initial perception of you:

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I'll go through each of these points and break down into
understandable steps below how you can make improvements
that will give you a great first impression. Most of the examples I
use will be based on being in bars or clubs, since these are places
where most people interact, and also where the mistakes that kids
make are more obvious to see.

Pre-opening Body Language: Standing Out

positively
When I went to bars and clubs, I remember feeling very
uncomfortable just being there; I had to go get a drink, I drank it impatiently, walked around a bit, went to the
toilets and got another drink. He was never relaxed in that environment. Now when I'm in a club, I'm as
comfortable as I am at home. It's a process of desensitization, and also being aware of how you look, while
taking some techniques to fake it until you do it naturally.

Wrong way
Most guys in bars and clubs don't seem happy; They get their drinks and stand shoulder to shoulder, looking at
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When you approach her , she gets cold. If this is how it
• He's out flirting.
stops you, when you first open your mouth, the optrttt • It's not interesting to your friends.
The k 1 thing you have to say has to be n ble! • Is not happy.
• You are not enjoying the music or the atmosphere.
• He's on his way to getting drunk.

Of course, these guys do one thing right – they're out and about! I remember being literally scared to be in
a club, even if I didn't approach any girls. Getting comfortable in the nighttime environment is the first
step. I remember one of my clients couldn't maintain eye contact, people laughed at him, and he had all
kinds of self-love issues. The first two times we dated, we just went to a club to get him comfortable in the
environment. This always has to be the first step.

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Right Path

How can you positively stand out from the rest of the guys at
the bar or club? The first thing you have to do is look like you are having a good time and that you are happy
in that place. When you are with your friends, face them and get them involved. If you are standing face to
face, you can cover 180 degrees of the room and check all the girls by looking over their shoulders. Women
are subtle and this is what they usually do. When I started going out in London to meet women, I saw a huge
difference in the success and attention we got when we enjoyed the company of other guys. When I had fun
with my friend this was visible and women were more attracted to us. A woman looks at a guy for a long time
and, on some level, IJ wants to be part of the fun. When we were simply looking for women, Terminator style,
we didn't get this positive attention. Your mood will also affect your results; You will do much better when
you feel good and have fun.

When you walk around the place trying to find beautiful girls you should make a face like “Where's Bob?”, as
if you were looking for someone. This subtle difference allows you to check out everyone in the room, without
looking like a guy who's looking for girls to “pick up.” Something funny happens to me
Sometimes: I actually get more attention when I “go looking for Bob,” because if I do it next to
very attractive women, they end up wondering why I don't look at them.

When you're talking, facial expressions and gestures draw

2- ^'.ntoncet, What does this communicate? It's not attention and make you look like you're having fun.
just that it's creepy but very definite! Look how an
Someone who seems fun and social is someone women want
attractive stiff can again look very unattractive with
a terrible body language. the hands in the bones, an to talk to. Someone who isn't having much fun with their
inequality of the head seeking approval and an friends and just wants to study women is not someone who
insecurity. It's not U will get a good reaction when you try to approach them. I
never found natural gestures or movements, but now I do.
When you introduce a new way of behavior, it will feel
unnatural at first. A good way to get comfortable is to bend your arms at the elbows and hold your hands in
front of you when you speak. Do the gesture occasionally, in this position, and it will quickly become a
habit. Take your hands out of your pockets, and make sure the gesture doesn't make you look weird!
People who gesture naturally can easily work on occasional touch - the upper arm, back, etc. People who
barely have any movement will hardly touch the woman in conversation. Most kids are standing around
restlessly, shifting their weight, moving their feet, moving their hands, constantly sipping their drink. To
stand out from the rest of the types, incorporate the following alpha-male behavior:

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Legs : Stand with your feet wider than normal. It will feel
unnatural at first, but afterward you will also feel completely
rooted like a tree. You will no longer shift your position or
shift your weight.

Arms : Most people I have trained have a problem with

movement due to nervousness, they move their hands, play
with things, put their hands in their arms.
*pocket and you can't sit still. This is a sign of lack of
confidence and women will think that you are out flirting.
Here's a trick to eliminate this: put your thumb against your
middle and index fingers and let your hands fall to your
sides. This eliminates the natural tendency of the fingers to
move. You can be in this position comfortably for hours
without moving. Don't touch your face.

Eyes : Don't look down! It conveys weakness. Be

confident, keep eye contact with people. But remember, it is
not a competition, gently and naturally
2 is what you need.
3. There is visual contact but it is diminished by
the body being in line with the body and by the Head : Move your head slowly, convey high status.
use of gestures. The foot is pointing outwards Quick head movements make you look nervous.
which feels less closed and more casual.
Space : Takes up a lot of space. When you are seated, make yourself comfortable. When you are stopped,
have a stay or gesture of safety. When you're dancing, move around the floor and use big arm movements
(without hitting anyone). In the past I was always pushed and stepped on, when I started using alpha body
language, people give me more space and this doesn't happen to me anymore. You'll know when you're
doing things right when this doesn't happen to you anymore.

Mission 1
Practice alpha posture at home, see how you look in the mirror. Next time you're at a bar, watch
other people's body language based on the rules above. See who has good and bad body
language. Be very aware of yourself and try to engage with the alpha position of body language.

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Revision:
Your first impression is very important, and like many
ho Men create a bad first impression, it is easy to highlight them
in a positive way. Breaking old habits is a process, first
realizing what you do wrong, and then noticing when you do
a
it, stopping and finally replacing it with the right thing. If I
coach someone I will tell them all the things that no one else will tell them, about their nervous tics, their ugly
mannerisms, the things that negatively affect their first impression. I used to laugh nervously and touch my
face, and I looked for my brutally honest cousin to help me.

I often videotape students to show them how cool they are;

It's usually a big surprise.

A good way to tell, if you don't have someone who is

completely honest, is to observe how your behavior affects other people. Look at other guys talking to girls, at
men standing at the bar; Look who seems serene and who doesn't, who seems needy and who doesn't. Look at
other people doing the things you do, and see what they look like.

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tetiieitda aa^jttien standing in front will put you on They have calculated poses, body language and voices.
Look at the faces they make when they appear in photos and
guard immediately. If you barge and start standing, sit
movies, they are not poses that normal people do. That's
for the first 10 seconds. (you can use time restrictions "
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particular ways. Tom Cruise's smile, Brad Pitt's eyes, Colin
m Farrell's bad boy look, George Clooney's voice, they're all
manufactured.
Hollywood actors are not nat
You can imitate celebrities and create a look that stands out as much as theirs. I imitated the “looks” I saw
in movies and magazines in front of the mirror. Some people will find it embarrassing, but believe me,
Hollywood actors have done the same thing. Knowing how you look at all times and manipulating the way
you look to achieve very particular effects is very powerful. Knowing how to put on a sexy and seductive
look at the right time, you will melt a girl.

Body language

There are two ways to do a cold boarding. One is to walk up cold and directly to approach a girl and hook
her up. The second is more casual, seeming like a spontaneous way to open up your target. You're a step or
two away and you casually turn around or stop and open it. In both cases, there are steps you can take to
create a favorable first impression.

Wrong Body Language

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Most men walk by and come face to face with the girl. Do this with someone
whoever you know and it's bad enough. Ask someone to do this for you and see how they feel.
It creates a reflex response of wanting to go back and put your hands up. This is putting a lot of pressure on
an interaction before starting it. Unless the girl is obviously interested in you, it's a bad
motion. This type of face-to-face interaction also feels like it
could last forever, both people lock each other in and the only
way to break the interaction is if someone turns 180 degrees. In
the event that it goes wrong, everyone will see what happened,
and then you will be putting more
in you. Once you understand body language and
h you can read the woman's reactions, you can see how badly most
men do it. This is the kind of knowledge that will increase
confidence, because you know how to do things better than other
men.
Good Body Language:
Here's what you should do: Opening, your feet should point
away from the target and only your face should point toward it. By doing this, you can comfortably do a lot of
kino, the interaction is not closed and you do not invade their sonal space. To leave the group, you would just
have to turn away and not face it anymore. I think most people respond well to being open in this way, because
I've had many short, innocent interactions like this in the past, with people who are on their way somewhere.

Approach to a Seated Group:

When you approach a seated group, you have to lower your
6. If not ftay siffas or fa have to ask to move spirit. It is very difficult to close when you are standing on
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■ To make room for you, you should start in a position them.
G. that makes it seem like you are at their level. iMien
The paragraph above is the essence of indirect body language. Direct play obviously puts more pressure on
The s an early interaction, making the girl feel comfortable and
minimizing the chances of her rejecting you. Direct body language is usually approaching in a sexual state,
touching quickly and escalating sexually. Direct body language is used to present a sexual vibe – this
comes from a state of mind.

Fashion
Women notice your looks. They judge it instantly and unlike your friends they can tell you if something
doesn't match, is out of place or is simply ugly. Good fashion advice is hard to find, and most guys don't
feel a need to focus on this topic. I used to wear gym clothes, baggy jeans, and clothes that never flattered
me. I dressed for men, not women, I wore what, to my friends at school, was cool. I was comfortable and
confident, but I didn't communicate positivity with my clothes. I got my first compliments on my clothes
when I switched from sneakers to shoes, bought a suede jacket, and ditched the sportswear.

A change of look takes a long time if everything you wear is wrong, and it is not as simple as buying a new
pair of shoes. If the shoes don't match your pants you will need new ones, and then the jacket will look
strange, etc. A few simple rules will make a huge difference:

1. Don't dress like everyone else.

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If your clothing is so ordinary that a woman can't comment on it even if she was trying to say something,
then you are dressed generically. If you use gray colors with standard cuts and usually mixed with the
background color, you are not getting much out of the fashion. Look at other men and see how much you
can tell from their clothing. If your pants have details and fashion touches, they are dressed better than the
standard Levis. If the shirt or t-shirt has a custom fit, a slogan, cool details, trendy colors or a photo, it
means that you are not too generic and reflects your personality in some way.

2. Spend money on the right things

An expensive shirt or pants are a waste if your shoes are ugly. Spend money on a pair of good shoes (one
black and one brown). You can mix cheap jeans and t-shirts with some great shoes and they will make you
look like you are wearing an expensive suit. After you have some nice shoes, the jacket is the second most
important thing (in winter), next are the pants.

3. Correctly Combine Your Clothes

-Blue jeans with brown shoes are better than with black shoes.
-Do not wear more than three colors.
-Tight pants with a loose sweater is incorrect, the whole outfit must match.
-More than one strong color that clashes.
-Sports shoes have no place, but if they are branded it is fine.

4. Accessories

A fashion bracelet is more valuable in terms of female attention than a white gold watch that costs €15,000.
Find accessories like rings, bracelets, and necklaces that look good on you.

5. Get the best haircut

If you haven't received any comments about your haircut, then it can be improved. Go to an expensive
salon for a free consultation, find the best haircut for your face shape, and then go get it done somewhere
cheaper!

6. Make yourself look like you have sex

Unbutton the top buttons and copy sexual styles. Looking like you're having sex is something you can't do
in generic clothing. Think Colin Farrell!
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How I found my style.

We now have a full time image consultant at P UA Training because I realized how important fashion is to
most guys. Men can go unnoticed by women or make themselves noticed. Here's how I improved my style. I
wore: Nike shoes (I had 5 or more) with the white t-shirt underneath (always visible), baggy jeans and N ike
sneakers. To match this style, I also had A virex leather jacket in 2XL (see
next photo, I could fit people in it and still wear it!) Girls generally didn't
like it. I did not realize! I didn't spend almost anything on clothes, everything
I had was from a few years ago. Things changed for a couple of reasons: I
got older, I had a job and I was more professional, and my street thug image
didn't really satisfy my new status.

He dressed well, wore designer clothes, and always seemed to like

everything.

Sometimes I tried to go into clubs with me because I was wearing sneakers.

of So, the first thing I did was allow myself to go into clubs. The point was that
the shoes didn't match so it seemed strange. Happily one day my tight black
I you to me suede, since the previous type I also got some less Nike jeans. I got some
to
It felt good. cheap sweaters. It seemed:

ex-girlfriend and they wouldn't let

me in

Thus, he buy medium value shoes problem

was wearing good pants, shoes and had a when I did this with my jeans and
shirt. On the other hand, I had something my jacket, cousin gave me a hip
against my hair, it was terrible. My jacket hop jacket it was not very well
was too big (baggy body, long sleeves) and I received. baggy and I bought other
still had the white t-shirt underneath. polos that time, this is what

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The next step was to buy designer clothes. I bought a lot on eBay. I focused on brands
and what I had seen and heard from others. This means

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Versace and A rmani jeans . One of my favorite polos in the early days was this fake
Versace polo (again with the white t-shirt underneath), which I would wear for any
occasion I wanted to look good. Over the course of a few months, I bought a lot more
and learned what size I wore. I usually bought these things on eBay. The first suit I
bought was a 42 R /52 R , the first coat, the same size. Now I really wear a 38/48
although it is a bit tight. When I took my coat to be tailored, they told me there was 12
inches left! This took a while but I understood what suited me. I found out other
brands. More than a year, I became educated in fashion and began to improve:

• Versace pants.
• Zegna sweaters.
• Armani Jeans t-shirts (casual).
• Armani Black Label shirts (elegant).
• Hugo Boss Baldessarini suits and jackets.
• Armani suits.
• Ralph Lauren and leather jackets.
• Prada and Gucci shoes.
• Uni jersey and Qlo pants.

There my style classified, then see the rest of my appearance:

• I have whitened my teeth.

• Laser hair removal for the hairs between the eyebrows.
• I removed freckles, I think it was psychological.

Armani Collezioni, Ralph Lauren Purple Label Leather

Jacket, Versace Couture Jeans, $20 Umbrella. I still wear
many of the clothes from this time and at the time of
writing this I haven't bought much new material.

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He still had to influence my hair style. Here is the evolution of my hair and facial hair:

This is my evolution. It wasn't as easy as it could have been because the effort was unguided. I only had a rough
idea of where I wanted to go. If you want to add 4 points to your attractiveness like I did, see if you can do some of
the things I did!

The wrong strut

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attracts attention. There is a right way and a wrong way to do it. Many desirable men will copy the clothes and
accessories of famous pickup gurus. I see these guys and the problem with them is that they look incongruous.
What I mean is that it seems like they put something on because they think they should put it on. It doesn't
look good on them, it's not their style. They look weird and stand out in a bad way. If you strut, wear things
that you would like to wear because of your personality.

One night I was wearing a cowboy hat to Chinawhite, which is one of the most famous and stylish clubs in
London. It was very effective! Compared to a normal night when no girls wanted to talk to me, I now had five
or more standing there, grabbing my hat, trying it on, praising it. A woman who was a model tried it on and
we started chatting, and eventually I got her number. I probably wouldn't have had the courage to approach a
girl like her under normal circumstances. I would like to say that the story ended well, but I called her and
couldn't make an appointment, then I lost my cell phone along with her number! When you start getting
numbers, remember this rule: make backups!

Stay in Control: Stay “In the Zone” All the Time

The state is how you feel at each particular moment. Everyone has had moments when they feel in the “Zone”
and others where they don't. Being in control is trying to take the feelings of being “in the Zone” and being
able to generate them at will when necessary. Being in control is something I didn't learn until I started
training. Before that, my status fluctuated based on what was happening in a place, my mood that day, the
mood of my friends, the quality of the girls and my first interactions. When I started training people one-on-
one and spending twelve hours focused on one person, I needed to always be “on” and so sometimes I
couldn't be on and other times I could. Develop a system to consciously put myself in the state on demand.
Neurolinguistic programming teaches anchoring, which is basically a method of attaching a state to a
movement of the body. I took these things further, because anchoring wasn't enough for me. Here is my tested
system to get the status:

-I have affirmations (see below) that I read to myself. At the same time I play music that has very positive
associations for me and lifts my spirits. At the same time I snap my fingers and move to generate energy.
After doing this several times, each thing is associated with another. Before training, I do all three and while
I'm out any of these will be enough to get me in shape.

When I am in a state I feel completely safe, able to approach anyone, I feel like the most attractive and
powerful person in any situation. This belief means that I can open up very large groups, I am able to generate
high energy for large high energy groups, but I can obviously calibrate and tone down for low energy groups.
In the past, I was intimidated by high-energy groups, so I only approached low-energy groups.

In the early days of training, if I didn't have a connection with the student I was teaching and I felt tired, my
interactions didn't go very well. Now I can sense when my status is not good enough and generate it instantly.

->Tools for status control:

• MP3 player so you can have your music (and recorded affirmations) anywhere.
• A sheet with affirmations.
• Associate a body movement. (snap fingers)

My status control was put to the test one day by a client. We had established weekly three-hour meetings. The
first time after meeting him, I taught him some theory. The second time, I went out to give him a demo, did a
lot of boarding, got some numbers, and impressed him. The third time we went out, he told me that he was
going to do all the work and that I could observe him, get feedback and adjust. It was great, because that night
I was tired and I wasn't in a position to play any game. But when we met, he told me he felt tired and out of

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shape, so he asked me to open up to some girls. He even pointed me to a table of five women and said, “Go
there.” I was completely unprepared and humorless; I didn't have the energy to maintain the attention of five
women, so I snapped my fingers, entered the state and three seconds later, I went there with enough energy to
maintain attention completely.

I addressed them with an opinion opener (see the openers section). The client doesn't come to help me, instead
he just looks there, letting me do the difficult work. For ten minutes I keep the girls' attention; constantly
watching who loses interest to give them more momentum and energy, like a juggler who spins many plates at
the same time.

Finally, they ask me who I am with and I call them; Each of us took a girl and the others started talking
among themselves. If I had not been in control of the state, those girls would have continued their
conversation listening to a guy with low energy, indifferent and tired.

Relaxed state control

I also have a relaxed state. It is very similar to the previous one with the exception that I have associated a
body movement and hand position (similar to yoga) to a state, with very relaxing classical music or a self-
hypnosis audio. Now only the position of the hands is necessary to relax and lower my heart rate. Pranayama
yoga is one of the coolest things I've ever done; Someone who would like to be more relaxed and peaceful
should try it. When I did my first lesson I could hold my breath for one minute and forty-five seconds, which
is about a minute longer than usual, just relaxing and using my lungs correctly. I use the relaxed state to calm
down before any kind of stressful event and then break into the high energy state a few minutes before the
action.

Mission 2
Write some affirmations (see the inner game chapter) collect all the music that motivates you, in one place.
Play the music and read the affirmations aloud and associate a body movement. Do this before you leave.

Energy Levels and Maintaining Attention

Your energy levels are a tool you can use to better manage the reactions you get. You must be aware of the
energy levels in a place and also the energy levels of the groups you are going to open. You should stand out,
at least, in terms of your energy level. If you're somewhere where men are trying to look cool, then you're
better off being a fun, sociable guy. If you're in a high-energy environment, you should be James Bond,
moving slowly and smoothly to stand out that way. Observe the place and see the energy of various groups.
As a general rule you should try to arrive with higher energy than the group you are addressing . The
reason is that you want to be more interesting than what they were doing before you arrived to maximize your
opportunities to connect. All the sets have a level of energy, even on the street. A large crowd at a bar who are
drunk, laughing and joking will require more energy to open than a lone woman reading a book in the coffee
shop. Don't open them the same way! If your energy is too high you will impress the woman reading the
newspaper and it will be very uncomfortable for her. If you open a large group with low energy you are going
to steal their energy and that is not what they want. On the street, a tourist walking aimlessly looking at things
can be stopped very easily. A woman on her lunch break rushing through crowds will quickly dispatch you
unless you hit her hard enough in the opener. Look at the group, feel their energy level and then tune in to the
level needed to open it - it has to be slightly higher!

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hold the attention of an entire group. I've seen guys with nothing more to say than attracting attention for their
interesting looks. Although I have also seen very interesting guys being dumped for not being able to keep the
group's attention. This was a big problem for me, at first, due to my calm and shy nature. However, it is a
necessary skill for flirting. When you interrupt people you need to be more interesting than whatever they
were doing, otherwise they will lose interest.

The words you use are just part of it. Statistics show that only 7% of communication is words. How do you
learn to be more interesting? I have broken down the basic components. As an introvert without these skills, I
have been able to apply them effectively and you can do the same.
->What are the elements that really affect your energy levels?:

• Gestures
Gestures with your hands keep the attention of large groups. If you are used to gesturing, it will be easier for
you to touch the woman and it will seem more natural to her. At first the gesticulation feels forced, when you
are not used to it, but it quickly becomes natural. To get used to the gesture, bend your arms at the elbow and
grab your hands. Make this your new default position when you're with a group and emote from this position.
A gesture or touch that comes from the hands from the side always seems strange – notice the difference in
other people.

• Voice Tone Variation

Another thing that adds interest and attracts people's attention is the variation in tone of voice. Listen to a
radio host, you don't need to go that far, but you do need some variation in the tone of your voice. Some
people will just try to go up and down randomly. The real way to vary your tone of voice is to speak with
passion and emotion. Listen to Anthony Robbins, he is able to hook you and keep your attention for hours and
he does it by speaking with passion and emotion all the time.
• Body Movement
For larger groups, your feet should not dig in, you should move, shifting your weight, it is bad when you do it
out of nervousness but in this case keep moving. Bending, walking and shifting leg weight are the main
components. The reason we gesture and move is because the eye is attracted to movement. If we are
completely still and are in a place with movement in the background, women's eyes will be drawn to that
movement. When you lose eye contact with someone, then they are paying less attention to you. Their eyes
move, they notice other things and then their minds wander.

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People will be more interested in what you say if you make facial gestures. Be expressive. Practice and
study others who do it well.

• Eye Contact
To maintain attention, extend your eye contact to the entire group; if you are losing one person, give them
more attention. If you are making eye contact with someone and they reciprocate, they are focused on you
and what you are saying. If you don't look at them, they may turn to different parts of the room and their
attention will disperse and you will lose connection. If you maintain eye contact even if they are turning
away, they will be attracted to return their attention to you through eye contact.

Energy levels can also be managed dynamically during an interaction. This is a more advanced use of
energy levels, but what you are doing here is raising your energy levels when you notice that you are
losing the attention of the group or members. You direct your gestures and eye contact at people who
aren't paying attention and you bring them back, they're like spinning plates!

Dynamic management of energy levels to keep the set engaged.

Mostly useful for large sets (+3). Energy (eye contact, gestures) can be directed at set members who are losing
interest.
Interest

Levels
of Energy

Content (words) Eye contact Animation

Facial

Voice Variation Gestures Motion

Body

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The 3 Characters of Seduction

IT COULD NOT BE MORE SIMPLE THAN THIS. HERE ARE THE STEPS YOU CAN USE TO
IMMEDIATELY GET BETTER RESULTS. YOU COULD MAKE THIS CHAPTER A WHOLE BOOK,
SO JUST BECAUSE I HAVE MADE IT AS CONCISE AS POSSIBLE, DON'T UNDERESTIMATE
ITS IMPORTANCE. These are three characters that you can assume during interaction with a woman. It
doesn't mean acting, it just means being aware of how you are presenting yourself at different stages of the
interaction. We all have different ways of behaving, with our parents, our girlfriend, our friends. What we
do here is consciously use our different ways of behaving to take an interaction to the next level. You can
even use them in existing reactions to scale to the next level.

Mr. Sociable, Mr. Comfort and The Seducer

Most men have a single character during the seduction process. For a fun lover, it will be Mr. Sociable is
the person who likes to be the center of attention and feels comfortable in social situations. Most men are
“Mr. Comfort,” the nice guy who might be interesting once you talk to him, but who isn't especially fun,
sexual, or sociable. The third is the sexual type that goes straight and has a strong sexual vibe. These guys
will get some results, but they won't be consistent. Once described, it's very easy to see that you need a
little bit of each to be successful in any situation.

I was always Mr. Comfort. I had a hard time starting interactions, making people laugh, and having fun
with jokes. Once, in a conversation, I was making a good connection with the girl, but unfortunately I was
also forgetting some sexual vibe and had no idea how to escalate. I talked like this for a while and thought
about going for a kiss. The problem was that the conversation had no sexual tension and then going for a
kiss would have seemed strange and I would probably have been rejected. Boys who experience this also
call him “the good boy who is late” and the guy that girls only want as a friend. At work, sometimes I
would go to lunch with the team, they were all women, and we would talk openly about sex and
relationships in front of me. They did this because I was not in sexual mode. They saw me as the best gay
friend.

There is a moment in the interaction where a woman makes the choice between seeing you as a friend or
as a potential romance. You need to be able to spice things up to avoid falling into the friend category.
Over time and without anything pre-planned, I have developed my other two characters, the fun social type
and the seductive one, and my success with women has increased enormously.

To increase your success, you need to use the three characters as follows:

1. Mr. Sociable

This is the guy who makes a great first impression, has high energy levels (see the energy levels chapter),
is spirited, quickly makes a good impression, and puts people at ease. He is capable of entering any group,
making them laugh and generally brightening up the evening. We are glad that this person is with us
because there are no strange silences, they will keep the conversation going. Someone who is naturally Mr.
Confort may think a lot about what he says, he thinks he is being thoughtful, but people relax a lot more
when the person they are with is relaxed. This funny guy embodies this relaxation because he is obviously
being very natural, saying whatever comes to mind because he is comfortable and people will relax around
him.

He will be fine for the first few minutes, but he might find it somewhat difficult to connect with the person
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to him because he can't be serious or deep. We've all been in situations with someone who constantly
cracks jokes, it's good for a few minutes but quickly gets boring. Use this character for the first few
minutes of a conversation, then when you connect with the girl you can leave it. Extroverts will find it
easier to get into this character, while introverts will find it more difficult. I knew for a long time that I had
to be more sociable, outgoing, fun and interesting - but how to do it? Everyone can think of someone who
is the archetype of Mr. Sociable and to be him you need:

• Have high energy. Remember - tone of voice, body movement, eye contact, gestures and facial
animation.

• Be positive. People in England are generally less positive than our American cousins. We like to
complain about the weather, what stresses us out, how I dress, how bad the food is, and anything else.
Although we can connect with people by talking about these bad things, people would rather be around
people who make them feel good and positive. Find the positives and if someone starts a negative
conversation try to turn it positive as quickly as you can. I'm not talking about being "a happy fool" but
realistic, but if you have the option to talk about something positive or negative, talk about the positive.

• Enjoy yourself. Enjoy the music, the place, the drinks, the food. Most people don't seem to enjoy
themselves very much, but we are always drawn to people who look like they are having fun. Enthusiasm,
passion and happiness are contagious. You will make people want to be a part of your life if you look like
you are enjoying yourself. One man could be a billionaire and have the perfect life, but he may seem
boring and uninterested, another could be an average man in every aspect, but have a real passion for life
and women will want to be with him subconsciously because that person can make them feel good.

• Smile. You already highlighted, most people don't smile!

• Do most of the talking. Ask little. Keep the conversation light and situational.
• To develop this character, there are a few active steps and exercises you should do: Do something
that involves public speaking – TEFL courses, drama and acting classes.

•
Try this acting exercise with a friend: Improvise a word. The way it works is that you have to try,
make a story out of a word. You say one word (me) and then your friend says another and you continue.

2. Mr. Comfort
After you have integrated into a group, you can take out Mr. Comfort. When you first approach strangers,
they are usually in a “wait and see” mode. It could happen quickly or it could take a while, but they will
soon open up to you and accept the interaction. How do you know when this has happened?
-Nonverbal: They will stop looking at each other or looking away and will focus on you and what you
say. - Verbal: They will begin to enter the conversation, giving longer answers and asking you questions.

Mr. Comfort is interested and interesting. He listens 50% of the time, doesn't talk too much about himself
and tries to understand women, find common interests and build rapport. He should be there until he has
connected with a girl, at which point he should start bringing out some elements of the next character. The
seducer

Usually Mr. Confort doesn't start conversations very well and is not very seductive, so it will be strange
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subdued character and will be at home in this mode. The problem is staying there! 90% of the time, when
guys tell me they've moved into the "friend zone" with a woman, it's because they were Mr. Comfort for a
long time. No matter how good you are at conversation, if you don't have a sexual presence it means that
you are nothing more than his friend or his gay best friend!

3. The Seducer
The seducer, if it comes from the previous two, will be very effective. Some behaviors of the seducer are
the following:

->He looks at a woman in such a way that he tells her that he loves her:

-There is a difference between eye contact when you have a normal conversation and when you are
attracted to someone. Show desire by the way you look at her. Don't break eye contact or hide your
feelings. Sight is one of the things that will get her into a sexual state.

->Speak slower, with a deeper voice:

-Imagine the crazy high-energy guy, which is interesting, for sure. But is it sexy? Does the woman look at
you and want to kiss you? Seduction has a rhythm and it is slow. Slow down and go deeper into your
voice, speak from the diaphragm.

->He touches her by increasing sexual forms:

-This is an optional element, you can really have sexual tension without the escalation of Kino! But if you
play it, it should be progressive, slow and soft.

-> He holds her hand when he talks to her.

-> Maintains intense eye contact.
->Is comfortable with pauses in conversation and uses them purposefully.

These are 100% the essential elements of a seducer's character. Your eye contact has to be constant and
comfortable. It is IMPOSSIBLE to seduce a woman if you do not maintain eye contact with her. Think
Hollywood, the part before a first kiss. They look at each other's eyes, they don't speak, they approach
slowly and then the kiss. Imagine any seduction without eye contact!

Mission 3
You might have one or two characters, but you need to work on the others. I'm sorry but the best way is to
use a mirror. You can also watch movies and observe the evolution of the game. The woman is never
going to feel turned on in the action scenes, just like with the sociable and fun guy. He's not going to get
turned on by the cafeteria conversation, that's Mr. Comfort. Observe how the actors change the state by
looking at it differently and speaking in a different way.

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seductive, it's easy to see how this can apply to the real world! Become self-aware and practice your
seductive look in the mirror.

The Three Characters in Action

SHE RESULT

awaken
desire

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Making things easier

AFTER MONTHS IN THE FIELD, I REALIZED THERE ARE WAYS TO MAKE THE JOB EASIER. I
COULD DO A COLD BOARD WITH A SITTING GROUP OF FIVE, DANCE AND GO ELSEWHERE
WITH SOME OF THEM AND GO FOR THE CLOSURE. HOWEVER, I LEARNED THAT BY
CONSIDERING ONLY COLD BOARDINGS I WAS MISSING MANY OPPORTUNITIES. I also realized
that I could do certain things to increase my cold tackle success and increase my value in a spot first. The
easiest approach is the hot approach. The second easiest way is a cold approach in a place where I already
have a lot of courage. Here's how to make your approaches easier and maximize your chances of success:

Cold Open vs. Hot Opening:

A cold approach is when you open up to a girl and you're not sure what response you'll get. She has shown no
interest in you and could not have even seen you. A hot approach is when you think the response will be at
least somewhat positive because you have made eye contact or received some signal of interest. Obviously if
all your approaches could be hot, our results would be much more consistent. There are ways to increase the
boarding percentage, from hot to cold. These are:

Highlighting in a Positive Way:

Being Mr. Sociable and talking to other people other than just the most beautiful women. They will see that
you are having fun with people and when you approach them, they will be much more open and receptive.
This is easier than trying to stand out in a club by being super cool because there are so many guys trying to
do the same thing.

Forcing your interest

Most guys treat a girl's eye contact in three different ways:

-They look nervously away.

-They maintain contact.
-Force a smile.

These are all pretty bad. You can keep wondering why a girl was looking at you and use the uncertainty as an
excuse not to approach her. Maybe she was looking for someone else, maybe you have a spot on your nose,
maybe she was just daydreaming. In ninety percent of the cases she's looking at you because she'll welcome
your approach, but there's always the other ten percent and that's enough to dissuade most guys from
approaching her! Here's what you have to do: Force their interest! When you've had eye contact with a girl,
provoke a response from her by doing something like: pointing at her, moving your hand, raising your glasses,
making a cheeky face, sticking your tongue out at her. Personally I make my trademark “point.” The girl is
obliged to answer. The number of responses may be limited. She can:

• Reflect your action.

• Smile.
• Smile and turn away embarrassed.
• Turn in disgust.
• Twist your lip as if to say “What are you doing?”
If you get a positive reaction, you can board right away. If you get a negative reaction, you probably won't get
anything good when you address it. I hooked up with many of my girlfriends by forcing interest. It's one of
my best skills and makes my life so much easier. It should become a reflex act, as if you have studied kung fu
and you move without thinking about someone's attacks. It takes a lot less confidence to force a girl's interest
than to approach her cold.

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Addressing after an Interest Indicator
If she gave you a sign of interest, she's in doubt, she's not attracted. So go for it.
I usually use “Hey, how's everything going?” Then use longer or opinion openers to relieve tension. Just be
bold, direct and assume the attraction.

Maximizing Interactions-Take advantage of every opportunity

If you only limit yourself to hooking up in clubs or bars, then you are limiting things for yourself. There are
many opportunities around you all the time to engage in an interaction: Women who step on you “Hey look,
(saying it with a smile), let's see this, let me see (flex and point at her to do it, after she feels the muscle)." The
women passing by with a drink “Cheers.” Women push you to pass “No dear, do it like this (you demonstrate
a polite movement to pass), excuse me.” All of this will allow you to enter into interactions without the
pressure and effort of a cold approach.

Working the place

It refers to speaking to all the groups you are interested in and some other local people, being very indirect. At
the end of a short interaction, the key is to pretend to leave and then as an afterthought, ask for their name.
What you should be able to do in a short period of time is:

• Know and obtain the name of all the objectives.

• Create a positive, confident, non-threatening impression in the targets' heads.
• Establish yourself as Mr. Sociable.

After you have done this, you will be able to reopen each of these groups at any time during the night. You
will also notice that girls are more interested now than when you first approached them. Getting the name is
the key factor, I have found that reopening using the name is much more effective and they really treat you
like someone they have known for a long time.

This technique is best used in small places at the beginning of the night. That way, as the night progresses and
people open up, your options will continue to increase. Plus you won't have the problem of opening when
there is a lot of noise.

I used to work a room in a small club in Covent Garden that I went to regularly. One day I agreed to meet a
friend there, but I picked up a girl on the way to the club and took her with me. Now I found myself in the
difficult situation of trying to be with a woman I liked, and also the need to not leave my friend alone. I told
him to wait for me for a minute, and I went with my friend to walk around the club, saying hello to everyone
and asking their name, I would talk for thirty seconds, introduce my friend, and then continue with the next
group. I did this to every person in the club and on the way back, literally every girl in the club was looking at
me. He had warmed up the entire club, and my friend could easily re-open any of the girls who were there. I
was like his base in the club, and he was able to get a lot of numbers because he already had enormous social
proof as a fun-lover, and as a gregarious guy who seemed to know everyone. If he forgot a name, he would
come back and ask me, because I had already memorized them all.

Mission 4
Go to a bar, buy a drink (or get tap water!) and say hi-toast to everyone. You'll find that people always
reciprocate, and then you'll get a lot of attention from girls wondering why you don't try to pick them up. It's
an easy way to work the room, and eliminates the need to think of something to say.

Build a Social Circle

In London there are probably over a thousand kids who are in the "Game". They are the guys who go on
forums and go out and try to hook up with women. The problem is that these guys are usually in a pretty
strange situation. They look like another cheap PUA copycat and only engage with women when they try to

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pick them up. I found myself in a similar situation in March 2007. He had come to London without friends,
and although things were good, they were slightly strange. Every guy I knew was either friends with a PUA or
related in some way. This didn't seem very normal to me, so I decided I was going to make "normal" friends
and went out with that goal. What happened surprised me...
Before long, I built a social circle of great No-PUA guys that I enjoyed hanging out with and being able to
hang out without talking about IDI's and gaming. The second part was the female social circle. I stopped
trying to hook up with every girl I met and started just making friends. If a woman was fine but for whatever
reason, the timing or situation wasn't right for the game (she had a boyfriend, I was too busy, she wasn't the
best choice for me, she wasn't good enough ) I would still make friends. Most guys will only ask for a girl's
number if the situation is right - they are always in a flirtation setting. The thing is, they could be a lot of fun
to be with, plus if they're nice then their friends probably are too (and they might be hot). If you can make
friends with girls, hang out with them, and have fun, the more you'll be on the right wavelength when you go
to actually hook up with them. If you spend all your time plotting and plotting on “how to get them” and
talking about it with other men, you will not be a natural when you talk to one, instead of being constantly
surrounded by them. Think how many friends you could have if you considered them just as friends, instead
of just as potential f-closes!
We know that social circle play is the easiest way to get women. But what if you don't have one? Build one
using the game! When I write this in November 2007, I have approximately 50 friends and acquaintances. All
of them are attractive and 30% are very good. If I have a party, I can fill the room with girls. I often invite
these girls and my Non-PUA friends over and we have fun together, and this means that if I didn't want to I
would never have to do a cold approach again. Many other P UAs seem strange, have mental problems, or are
not normal. This is a risk that can happen when you delve too deeply into this matter and lose perspective. I
felt like this was happening to me and since I didn't want to end up like Mystery I did something about it. The
result is that I now live a normal life in terms of social circle but use my extraordinary abilities to make the
most of it.
Oh, by the way, making Non-PUA friends, I have amazing connections in London - I can walk into any club
and get drinks all night. You're going to meet a lot of people, make the most of it and don't limit yourself!

Direct or Indirect? Both!

There are two very different schools of flirting and most of the methods fall into direct or indirect. This
system takes both into account and I suggest you use both.

Direct Play
Direct play involves approaching immediately by communicating interest, then quickly escalating the
interaction with words and kino escalation. An example of direct play is approaching the girl, telling her you
think she is pretty, and holding her hand and increasing physical contact. You are basically approaching in
seduction mode (see the three characters above). The benefit of direct addressing is efficiency. It allows you
to quickly test a girl's interest and ideally close. Who wants to wait hours for a kiss? Who wants to chat for an
hour before finding out the girl isn't available?

The disadvantages of direct play are that:

• You need a lot of personal and sexual confidence to do it.
• Create more anxiety when approaching by exposing yourself too much and adding pressure to the
interaction.
• You might be rejected from a group that would have been more receptive to a more subtle approach.
• Women generally require more time to warm up and don't place as much importance on first impressions
as we do.

The Indirect Game

Indirect play is basically going under the radar, getting the girl to feel comfortable with you, and slowly
introducing sexual intent.

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The benefits of an indirect approach are:
• Less anxiety when approaching by minimizing the chance of being rejected.
• Easier to do with groups of girls or mixed groups.
• More and longer interactions, allowing you to have pleasant conversations with women and practice your
conversation skills.

The disadvantages of an indirect approach are:

• Sometimes the target likes you and you lose them because they think you're not interested.
• You can spend time with a girl you have no chance with (she doesn't find you attractive, she's engaged, or
she's a lesbian) and you'll never find out why she thinks you're being friendly.

I suggest using the direct game when you are getting clear signals of interest. If you're not so sure, take the
indirect route. I also suggest that your approaches be indirect until you have a lot of experience reading the
situations and have overcome any anxiety when approaching. If I have a client who is really afraid of
talking to women, I'm going to ask them to do things like ask for directions - as indirect as possible.

Mission 5
Go out and hang out with 5 girls that you find interesting or fun, in some way, and make friends with
them. Don't be sexual, don't use attraction builders, just friends.

The System – Of Opening

at the closure
THE IMPORTANT THING ABOUT HAVING A METHOD OR A SYSTEM TO FLIRT IS NOT THAT I
CAN SAY THAT MY METHOD IS BETTER THAN ANY OTHER OR THAT IT IS THE METHOD TO
ATTRACT WOMEN. What is important is to have a structure in your head to be able to flirt at any time, in
an interaction with a woman you like. This allows you to know what you are doing and what you need to do
next. My system is simple enough that you can learn and understand it in less than an hour and that you can
always keep it in mind.

“The System” as stated below, refers to a type of indirect approach in a day or night environment. It involves
an opening, a transition that is what follows the opening (you must have these two prepared). Next you should
use your “Natural Skills” until you reach a point where she has opened up enough to contribute something to
the conversation. This may be immediate but you may need to do most of the work until the target feels
comfortable enough to have a conversation with you. At this point you can ask more questions and go to
Rapport.

There is a goal in every step. Initially, the goal is to have them involved in the interaction. You know when
you've "hooked" them when girls do any of the following:

• They open their body language to you.

• They stop looking at each other and focus on you.
• They ask you or make attempts to extend the interaction.
• They give you more complete answers about what you say.

Once you've hooked, we move on to the next goal which is to use rapport to find common interests and
discover their current situation. This puts us in a better position for a phone closure.

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After rapport, which puts you in the best position to achieve closure, comes deep rapport, in which you need
to achieve a strong connection with the woman and make her see that you are someone who understands her.
Kino-escalation is necessary to have a certain sexual tension, so that you avoid being a 'friend'. It allows you
to test the water, gradually increasing the intimacy of the contact that leads to the kiss.

Understanding the System from opening to closing will greatly increase your success rate, because you will be
constantly focused on the objectives that you will have to achieve step by step.

The three characters of seduction and the System.

How to apply the three characters with the System? Mr. Sociable should be used until you reach the hook
point. Mr. Comfort should begin at this point, especially if you have managed to be alone with the girl. The
Seducer should come after you have established some type of connection to prepare for a physical closure
(Rapport). Think of it not as an on/off button but as equalizer bars that you gently move.

The first minute

The first minute of the match is the most important. This time, when you have identified a target, don't feel
nervous, overcome any anxiety you have when approaching, position yourself, open up and with optimism
you will achieve a hook. Typically within the first minute, you will know how receptive the target is and
whether you have a realistic chance of success. If you're not opening up to many girls, you need to work on
eliminating approach anxiety. If you're trying to open, but you're not getting any response or you're not able to
engage, you need to work on the first character.

The Power of “Hey” as a Pre-Opener

Why do all openers start with “Hey”? This is an important point that needs to be explained. If you throw an
opener at a woman or a group, you will almost certainly be interrupting them. They are probably having a
conversation at that moment, or at least they will be thinking about some conversation inside their heads,
when you start talking, you are interrupting that state and their responses will be “What?” They will say
“What?” Even though they heard what you said. Think about how you do this in your own life. I learned this
very well when I started training and watching students open without saying “Hey” – the girls would say
“What?” and the interaction always seemed to go wrong after that. They started off on the wrong foot from
the beginning. The “Hey” is followed by a pause and this is to ensure that you have the attention of the group
BEFORE launching your opener. It's the “Hey” [pause], the group looks at you and… “girls…” The pre-
opener can be anything that gets the group's attention. It can be “Hey”, “Hear”, “Hello” whatever you choose.
Or even something non-verbal, like a click, an expression, or some other action that makes them stop what
they're doing to look at you.

Openers and transition

Everyone wants to know what the best starters are, but in fact the transition is more important. I like to say
that openers don't matter. The most important thing is what follows the opener. For that reason, until you can
improvise using “The Skills of a Natural” you need to know your opener and also the transition before starting
an interaction. If you open with “Hey should I dye my hair blonde?” and they say “yes”, and to this you
answer “ok thanks, goodbye”, that is not very good to say the least. You need to know in advance what you
will continue with. So if you use that opener, the transition would be something like “well, my stylist tells me
all the time that I would look great with blonde hair, he is a great stylist. But he's gay so I'm not too sure about
this. In fact I say he's gay because I think he seems gay, he always tries to talk about women but he seems
very gay. Do you think you can tell when a man is gay? If you go in with all this ready, you have what it takes
to get hooked on a lot of possibilities. If you only have the opener ready you will be putting a lot more
pressure on yourself.

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Personally I don't think the opener is the most important thing. And I test this with my students by having
them give me the dumbest opener possible and still showing them that I can hook or close. An example would
be “my elbow hurts”, this was one that a student gave me who believed that the opener was important. I
walked in on a couple of girls sitting down without knowing what would occur to me as a transition. Use the
“I was testing the theory that you can use anything to start a conversation.”

They were very negative at first, but despite this opener, they opened up after a minute or more and I spent 15
minutes talking and got the number of one of them. I could have also used “I'm taking acting classes and I
wanted to see if I could make you believe my arm really hurt.”

The transition needs to be as solid as possible. If it's weak, you shouldn't talk much. Change the subject
quickly.

Opening
THE OPENER IS THE FIRST THING YOU SAY IN AN INTERACTION. THE BEST OPENERS ARE
THE ONE THAT MAKE THEM LAUGH, MAKE YOU LOOK COOL, AND MUCH MORE
INTERESTING THAN ANYTHING ELSE THEY ARE DOING BEFORE YOU APPROACH. THERE
ARE VARIOUS TYPES OF OPENERS. The indirect opener is one that doesn't immediately convey your
interest in her and doesn't put a lot of pressure on the interaction. If you say “you are very hot and I want you”
that would be direct and puts a lot of pressure on her, if you say “when does this fill up?” there is no pressure.
Opinion openers work great in quiet bars and clubs. He usually gets along quite well with them.

Indirect:
Here are some indirect openers and how they should be used. Different people are comfortable saying
different things. You can choose a few from below, modify them or make up your own. You don't need
hundreds. A couple of them tested will be enough.

Oh, there's a guy there who would be perfect for you.

This opener involves approaching a woman, targeting a guy you think is “perfect for her,” and trying to get
her to meet him. Without a doubt, she will refuse and then you can tell her that she should trust you because
you are a great matchmaker. This leads very well to conversations about dating and romantic relationships.
Your objection is projected onto the other guy, so you have less chance of being rejected. This opener is also a
disqualifier, making it easier for you to engage with the group.

You are... in my way.

If you are in a situation where you are walking and a girl blocks your path, raise your hand as a signal for her
to stop. Look at her seriously and say the sentence. The key is the pause. It makes her think you're going to
say “you're so pretty” or some other trite thing. If you do it right, it guarantees a laugh.

Are you girls sociable/friendly?

Standard opener, it can be said with a suspicious face. You should be ready for a yes or no answer so have the
transition ready.

Are you girls super shy or what? I've been here for 10 minutes and you haven't offered to buy me a drink or
say hello.
This first puts them on the defensive and then releases tension, laughing if said correctly.

Are you rich? Are you rich?

This allows the funny transition to “I'm looking for a rich girl who can buy me things.”

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Did you invite all these people? I thought it would just be us.
This is a semi direct.

I know you probably don't have any attention from guys at all, so I thought I'd come over and give you some
conversation.
You should get a few laughs. Have something prepared to make the transition.

(fixing the dress) What's your name?

This is good for a girl with a hat or other kind of accessory. You look at it, wait a moment, look at the
accessory and make a face as if something is wrong. Take your finger out and say “wait,” adjust the
accessory, then study it again and give the thumbs up sign. Don't let the opener end there or that will be the
end. Follow it with something like:
What's your name?
Her: Tanya
You: Tanya “I just made you 38% more attractive. You owe me!

Hey, I went out tonight to meet people, what's your name?

Very low risk standard opener that fits into a sociable and fun guy frame.

Is this piece of track occupied?

This one is funny, it's like “is this chair occupied?”
Other variations include: ( park) “Is this patch of grass occupied?”

“Get ready!” “Let's talk a little.”

What you do here is tell the girls that you are going to talk to them. You can add something like “I don't know
how many times they've tried to talk to you, but this is going to be the best one ever, you should sit down!”
Then you do a little whispering and come in with the silliest of lines to chat – something like “Did God miss
an angel since you're here?” release it with an unpleasant lack of confidence. Then you let them reject that
version of you that has gotten past their anti-slut shield and offsets their objections. Then you can start talking
about how to meet girls in bars, flirting, and dating in general. Ask questions about what was the best and
worst approach.

Are you undressing me with your eyes?

If a girl is making eye contact with you, this is a good opener.

My girlfriend thinks you're pretty .

Use fake social proof to make it easier to open. Target some random hot girl to be “your girlfriend.” Then you
can reveal to her that she is a friend and that you are actually single although you are friends with a lot of
girls.

Are you girls up to mischief?

This one is funny, delivery is important, suspicion, mixed with joy works well. Tell them that they seem
restless as if they are going to steal something.

My friend wants to know if you guys think I'm hot.

A somewhat direct opener that compensates for the direct question by asking it from the friend's point of
view.

I know that look, are you abusers of men?

When you see women talking seriously, you can open with this one. There's a good chance they're talking
about men so they'll laugh. If not, even so, they will probably laugh because they know that sometimes they
are abusers of men.
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to follow me home. I don't need another stalker.

What's up? We go out to pick up girls.

Why did not you call me?

(Suspicious) You look familiar, have we had sex?

This is very funny but more for the boys saying it than for the girls. I like it a lot but there are much more
effective lines.

Are you listening to our conversation? So why are you acting so nervous?
This is a good way to open up a group that is standing to one side of you.
You can continue with:
“So, what do you think?” "about what?" “what we were talking about”
“We weren't listening!”
“okay well we were talking about if…”
Opinion opener.

Girls, which one of you do you want to hook up with the most?
This is a good opener for two attractive women who look a little different.

Are you confident enough to accept a sincere compliment? That

well, me too, you first.
This is a classic, it will usually make them laugh. Expect them to get bored after they laugh, so have
something ready to transition to.

Are you single? When are you going to ask me out? Are you nervous?
This one works very well because it puts the girl in the center and frustrates her. You can free him by hitting
him with your elbow and laughing or saying “ wow how pretty you look when you get angry ”. You need to
fire off the questions in rapid succession without giving him much time to think or respond fully.

If I didn't have a girlfriend and I wasn't gay, you would be mine.

This is a variation of the one if you are gay or have a girlfriend. I think this one is better because most of them
don't want to make the girl think that they are gay or have a girlfriend.
It's confusing but his subconscious will pick up that you're saying “you're mine.”

“Hey, sorry, I was late.”

How on earth do you approach a large group that is waiting on the street or sitting at a table in a bar/club?
With this there is only one way. Talk about how terrible the traffic is. That you're Paul's nephew's cousin or
whatever. It is funny. When you run out of stuff, don't delve into it, ask a few names and find out what's going
on and then proceed normally.

Which of you is the toughest?

You have very thoughtful eyes. I think you have a lot of things in here (touches head).
This is a very good direct line to use on a girl who seems bored. Most guys come in with “you look bored.”
That's never going to work. This is a nice direct compliment that works.

Hey, I have a policy of meeting the prettiest girls in bars when I go out. My name is Rich (wave). Nice opener
that has let me in consistently many times.

Hey, I have a policy of meeting the prettiest girls in bars when I go out. My name is Rich (wave). So, do you

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know the girl over there (points to another hot girl)?
Cheetier, funnier, but it doesn't work too!

Opinion Openers:
Opinion openers are the easiest way, for a newbie, to open in a quiet bar/club. They are such good starters that
they can start a long conversation pretty quickly. A well-formed opinion opener can guarantee you a few
minutes of conversation. However, they are widely used by PUAs. You will have to be careful when using the
“classics”. The way to launch an opinion opener is to make it seem spontaneous and justified. Spontaneous
comes from a reaction to something your friend supposedly said and you ask whoever is closest, who happen
to be a couple of hot girls! Justifying the opener means that you need to tell them the reason why you are
asking so they know why they are spending their time giving you their advice.

When is it too early to commit?

"I hope you can help me with this. My friend is coming in an hour and needs my advice. He has been dating a
girl for three months and is going to ask her to marry him tomorrow. He says he wants my advice, but I think
he's already made up his mind. I think it's too early, but if I tell him this he might get mad at me. But if I tell
him it's a good idea and it doesn't work, I'll feel responsible.
So, what do you think? "When is it too early to commit?" This is a fantastic opener that leads right into
relationship talk and builds up a ton of drama. It usually hooks very well.

The jealous girlfriend routine

You : hey girls, I need to know your opinion on something. I'm trying to give my friend some advice, but
we're just poor guys and not qualified to comment on these matters. OK, well my friend has been seeing a girl
for three months. And she just moved in with him. Now, this question has two parts. So, imagine that you
have been dating someone for three months. And he's still friends with an old college girlfriend. How would
you feel about this?
HBs : answer.
You : Yes, they are just friends. They don't have anything else. They talk once a week at most.
HBs : I think it's okay/I don't think they should be talking/whatever.
You : OK, now let's say he has a drawer in his apartment. And inside that drawer he keeps all his photographs
and letters. Now what happens is that some of those letters turn out to be from his ex-girlfriend and so do
some of the photographs.
HBs : blah, blah, blah interested comment blah, blah question.
You : It's not that I always look at them. They are just there. Like old memories and memories of your past.
HBs : I think it's okay/I should put them in a frame/he should destroy them/whatever.
You : Okay, the reason I'm asking you is because my friend's girlfriend says she doesn't want him to talk to
his ex-girlfriend at all. She wants him to cut off his relationship with her completely. And he wants me to
destroy all his old photos and letters from the ex-girlfriend. She says he is holding on to the past and should
let it go. Personally, I think it's a bit extreme and a bit unsafe. But I don't know anything, I'm just a boy. And,
as we all know, boys think differently than girls...

Piercings
I deliver this as follows: “Girls, what do you think about piercings? Because my ex-girlfriend was a bit of a
rocker and used to tell me (pinching her eyebrows to indicate where she would go), “You should get a body
piercing.” I'm not going out with her anymore, but I'm still considering what she told me. Do you think
piercings are sexy?" This is about different areas of male attraction and exactly what they consider attractive
in a man.
Do I look gay?
This one is deadly. It never seems to fail. The root of it is that a guy tried to pick you up or your friend said
you look gay in that shirt or shoes or whatever. They will laugh, and it will make you look charming. The first
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easily. I have used it successfully ever since.

Does PUA think Derren Brown/David Blaine is attractive?

The transition is to say that you've been studying magic/psychic topics/ESP or whatever, and you're
wondering if it was their look or their ability that made them attractive to some women. This leads to any
skills you claim to have, or any routines you can perform in these areas.

Do you believe in people who read palms?

Follow up with “me too,” or “not me either, but then…” and you go into a story about a relative who does it
and showed you some things. “I was skeptical, but I took a friend and he got everything right. “I'm not
completely gullible, but I've been learning it a little and I want to see if it's a way to get to know people better,
faster.” This is a nice way to open up and drive to one of these areas in a flat way.

My friend's girlfriend deleted all their kissing photos from her digital camera, do you think that means
anything? I would also classify opinion openers into “seemingly spontaneous” and “forced” if you have three
girls sitting in the corner and you need to go and approach them, it would seem strange to go just to ask if they
think you look gay. However, using “How long do you have to wait to commit to a woman?” It will work
very well. You generally need a more serious opener to address them...

Direct openers:
Direct openers require some time to gather enough eggs to launch. You need confidence. You have to believe
in what you say and put yourself in line. You must have complete authority. If there is a sign of weakness and
she picks it up, the opener will fail. When you are confident and successful using other openers, or if you are
confident because you know the girl likes you, use the direct game and it will be fantastic. You will have
super fast results, women will think you are incredible because of your daring. With a direct opener, if she
doesn't respond negatively, take the direct route and escalate quickly.

I know it seems a little trite, but I had to tell you that you are very pretty.
Do you know who you remind me of? Someone I want to meet.
I have seen you and I knew that if I didn't come and introduce myself I would never get to know you. My name
is…
I like you you're really pretty. And I want to meet you.

Skills of a Natural - The Situational Openers

These are the ones I use the most at the time of writing this. A situational opener is taking something from the
current situation and using it to begin the interaction. It could be something you noticed about her, it could be
something like Seinfeld “what's your deal with that guy?” Usually it would be noticing something about the
environment and saying a question that's on your mind. “How can you eat snow in winter?” “Would you wear
that?” “Which one do you think is healthier?” I know that when I use a situational opener and try to remember
what it was I can't. It's so natural and unconscious that I don't remember it. The way to be as natural and
comfortable as possible is to just get used to saying whatever comes to mind without delay or planning.

Don't use this section until you feel comfortable tackling and have used the canned material, then go back and
practice developing these life skills.

I think the best opener to use in a given situation is the spontaneous and circumstantial one. A canned opener
is often effective because it is designed to be interesting but there are problems with canned openers:

• -When you use your can opener, you will find that it is very difficult to remember the things you have to
say, use hooks, and be spontaneous. It's a mental change. It's easier to have a spontaneous midgame if you
don't use the canned material for the first few minutes.

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• -The use of canned material means that you do not exercise the mental muscle of spontaneity, being
interesting, different and funny.
• -It's inherently insincere and unless you're a very good actor, she's going to pick up on this on some level.
Don't get me wrong, you can do it this way, but you are basically a liar.
If you use the same opener you will realize the difference between using a canned opener and a genuine
spontaneous thought, you would see that the reactions are 10 times better with the latter. The reason is
simply that people realize authenticity, they may not do it consciously, but they will realize it on some
level.
To develop your skills using situational openers, I suggest you do the following exercises:
1. When talking to your friends, see how you could turn the topic of conversation into a spontaneous
opener. For example, you talk about the day game and you want to know if it works, turn it into an
opinion opener "I was talking to my friend, and I would like to know your opinion about something, we
always meet girls in pubs at night and bars, Never during the day, but do you think it is correct to flirt
during the day? “Did you meet any of your ex-boyfriends during the day?” Create these questions and if
there is a girl around you open it, if not, file it because at least it is something really curious, of your own
creation.
2. When you are in any environment, whether it is on the street or in a bar, observe the environment
and try to imagine what you would use to open up a woman in that particular situation. I live in Leicester
Square in London , and if I walked around I could look at the movies advertised at the cinema and look for
an opener about which movie to see, I could use the hand prints of famous actors to ask if they were in X
movie, or I could use the theater queue to ask an opinion about a particular show. There are hundreds of
situational openers in any environment.
3. In any situation, you can also look at all the women, and think of observation openers. Things like
congratulating her for choosing that nail color that matches her top and her hair bow, or asking her if that
strange piece of jewelry was from Africa. Look at each woman and see what you find interesting. Men
generally wear dull clothes that don't say much to comment on, but women have more colorful and
interesting bags, accessories, jewelry and clothing. There is something that stands out in 90% of cases.
4. When you do this, you will also find that you become more observant and more outward-focused,
which is another natural skill.
5. Get in the habit of saying the first thing that comes to mind when you're in a conversation. Let go
of what you think. By saying what you think when you think about it, you are more likely to be
spontaneously funny or steer the conversation toward a single topic. This is what you do with friends and
family. You don't filter or censor or double-check your speech, you don't change your mind thinking
something will be too boring. The result of doing this is that you take conversations and interactions into
more interesting terrain.
6. Use my method to force yourself to develop this muscle and become more natural - go up to the
woman, start walking towards her, and then decide what to say, or just say "hello" and continue with
whatever comes to mind! Have an open mind and you are more likely to say something interesting and
particularly relevant to her and the situation.

Mission 7
Write 3 openers you like, go out and open three groups, your goal is to just open and stay as long as you're
comfortable, give an excuse and leave, get their names and leave. This is so that you are more comfortable
when opening groups. You will notice that by being more comfortable, interactions will naturally last
longer.

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Middle Game
SO YOU OPENED UP AND STARTED THE CONVERSATION. THE NEXT THING YOU NEED IS
TO ADVANCE THINGS TO THE POINT WHERE YOU CAN CLOSE WITH THE PHONE. A key
element will be "Natural Skills," improving your small talk to the point where you give the woman a
unique and extraordinary conversation experience.

Natural Skills – From Opener and Hook Point to Rapport

After the opener, we can successfully use the natural skills to reach the closing with a telephone. Closing
requires a certain amount of rapport and connection. For anyone who wants to become a natural with
women, someone who looks like they've always had skills, this is the section you should pay the most
attention to.

I used to be a terrible conversationalist, boring on dates, useless in groups, a terrible speaker, and unable to
keep people's attention. Now I play like a natural. This means I am able to analyze exactly what it takes to
be a naturally good conversationalist and generate attraction. I can also give you exercises to practice these
skills.

During the first minute of an interaction, you need to do most of the talking, anything that puts the
pressure of the conversation on her is something she could use as an excuse to end the interaction. When
she is comfortable and ready for interaction (which can be instantaneous, but usually takes longer with a
cold approach) you can put some conversational load on her.

The art of small talk

Women are tired of boring conversations with men. They have had the same ones over and over again. If
you can be different, you will stand out greatly and quickly generate attraction. First, what should you not
do if you are a great conversationalist?

Hairdresser conversation
What kind of conversation do you have with a hairdresser, with a person at the post office, or with your
aunt that you see once every 6 months? It's probably boring, superficial, and what I like to call
“conversation on rails.” When we meet someone new, we ask “what do you do?”, “where are you from?”,
“do you like movies?” blah, blah, blah. We hate answering those questions over and over again, and yet
we ask them of others. For attractive women who are approached all the time, the problem is even greater.

Interview her
Many women are approached and immediately subjected to questions and answers. The man's only
response to her answers is usually “oh, really, then…” This gets boring quickly and any woman who
tolerates this either really likes you or is very, very polite. Don't ask series of questions. Ask one question
and connect on that point, then ask another. For the advanced level of skills, try to get the answer without
asking the boring question – make a guess or guess what he does, where he's from, or what food he likes.
You get the same information but it is more interesting to her.

stating the obvious

If a girl has pretty eyes, she's probably heard it 500 times. Find something more specific about her,
preferably something that doesn't refer to her appearance, or better not say anything at all. It's okay to give
an obvious, heartfelt compliment when you're already together, but in the early stages it's not what she
wants.
The methods above try to get information out, put the burden of conversation on the girl or are boring.

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Get information with hook
Here's what you should do instead. The following are some ways to get the standard information without
asking the standard questions.

1 .Ask questions with a direction

Instead of asking “where are you from?”, ask “are you Swedish?” Make some kind of personal assumption
that shows you're paying attention.

2 .Make funny guesses and guesses

Instead of asking him what he's doing, say, "OK, so you're waiting to meet up with Steve, the guy you chat
with online who you have no idea what he looks like, but he's going to be wearing a red shirt." . She will
laugh and tell you what she is really doing or even better she will play along and you will have a fun time.

3.Make up a funny scenario.

What are you going to do with your friend? Why are you visiting London? Another example: “ok, so
you've been shopping all day, you've bought a lot of things and now your feet are killing you, so let's go
have coffee together.” These kinds of things also get you in the habit of focusing on them and doing
observations and cold readings. Over time, this skill will develop and you will be able to guess correctly
on a regular basis!

Connecting the hooks

After talking to many women about seduction (many work for me at our events, or even as coaches), I
have discovered that they really don't understand why men are afraid to approach them. They think that
men who approach in this way are not funny, charismatic, without charm, without any confidence, etc. The
thing is, the guy will probably have a lot of qualities, shown to friends and family - the people he's
comfortable with. They don't understand that all this goes to hell when an attractive woman is in front of
them. This took me a while to realize that I had to stop worrying about how I looked, how I sounded, what
I was going to say next, and started focusing 100% on her. When this happened, I developed many of the
theories and techniques that you will find here. One of the most important things that happens when you
can focus on it is that you start using the hooks.

“Hooks” are something you can use to extend the interaction without having to start a new, unrelated topic.
Every time a woman opens her mouth she is giving you a hook. It could be their accent, the words they
use, or the information they give you. If she says she's Brazilian and is studying English in London for
three weeks, you have three hooks you can pull (Brazil, studying English, here for three weeks). The way
to pull a hook is to relate the information they give you with other information that you know, which
establishes a connection and only then can you ask another question to get more hooks.

Your goal with each hook should be to connect with a positive experience about the revealed topic.

The best way to do this is to speak positively. The least effective way is to relate the topic to your own
experience, to hackneyed topics or to be negative.
Let's look at the three levels of evolution in these areas:

1. The high pressure interview

"What do you work at?"
“I am an artist.”
"Where are you from?"
"Swiss".
"What is your Hobbie?"
"Go to the movies".

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Put yourself in the girl's shoes. She is constantly under pressure. The spotlight is always on her and she is
being interrogated to give a lot of information without getting anything in return. She is not being
rewarded in the slightest for giving you information about her. Regardless of his answer, you go straight to
another question. This is because you are thinking about the next question as she answers instead of trying
to use what she is giving you in a unique way, depending on her answer. That's how most guys flirt.

2. Obsessed with himself

"What do you work at?"
“I am an artist.”
“That's great, my brother is an artist too, he makes those sculptures with plasticine, the other day he made
one of a fish, it's very good...
Where are you from?
From Switzerland.
Oh great, I have a Swiss watch and I like Swiss chocolates. My friend went to Switzerland on vacation, he
said it was great.
What is your Hobbie?
Cinema.
Oh I love movies, I saw the last one with Johnny Depp, that's fine... but I want to see the new one that's
coming out next week, I forget the name..."

What's happening here is that the guy is using the hook and taking the pressure off the girl, so it's better
than the interview. However, you are not making any connection, you are putting up a barrier. He is saying
“whatever you say I am going to relate to my reality and I am not going to try to understand yours.” When
someone is talking about themselves, it's less interesting than when they're talking about you. In this kind
of conversation, the girl will not want to give more to the interaction because you have not shown empathy
or understanding. At this level of rapport, it takes much longer to get rapport and solid closures. Sure, it
will work sometimes, especially if you have other talents that shine when you're speaking – humor is the
most important one that can save the day.

But to get faster rapport and connection, you need something like this:

3. Talking about deep things.

"What do you work at?"
“I am an artist.”
“How interesting, I like it, I imagine you must see the world in a different way than most people; You
must be able to appreciate the beauty of all things.
"Where are you from?"

"Swiss".
“You don't look like you're from Switzerland, but I've heard that Swiss people are very traditional and
really stick to the rules. You seem more like a rebel. Look at your hair!”
"What is your Hobbie?"
“Fl cinema”
c ne
“I think that being a creative person, you should enjoy seeing other people's creativity, but when you see
art I think you always see the technical aspects so it must be nice to go to the cinema and just enjoy the
experience.”

The above are snippets of real conversations, but in real conversations I don't jump around topics like that,
because I was talking about her. Naturally, it flowed deeper into those areas, because he was making an
attempt to understand her and get things right, he opened up more, skipping topics and expanding, and the

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conversation quickly became deeper. By giving examples of the most boring questions possible and seeing
how they become acceptable, you can see how this is a very powerful technique.

She will tell me more about her art and natural questions will arise imagining what it would be like to be
her. If I'm imagining being an artist, I can talk globally about it, then I might ask what kind of art. I would
ask her and then I will have more information which I can use to imagine her more deeply and thus
connect deeper. This process usually continues until the theme changes to something else from the staccato
(short intervals) style of examples one and two.

Provoke Hooks – Connect – Deep Issues

Of course, you can relate things back to you if they are particularly relevant and you have something
interesting to say. But try to connect with her with the hook first, that way she'll be 10 times more
interested in what you have to say. This way you invoke the law of reciprocity – someone is interested in
me, I'm going to be interested in them! If you just talk about them, you'll find that sometimes they have a
little mental dialogue that says, "Wow, this person is really good at talking. . . One moment! I don't know
much about him" and then they start asking you a bunch of questions.
When I connect, I do so by being empathetic, and imagining what it would be like to be like them. I build a
descriptive image and get more information to fill in the blanks.

Another kind of hook is the observational hook. It's something you observe about her—her shopping bag,
her clothes, her makeup, her nails, her body language, her facial expression. Those are all things you can
use to create a new conversation.

Natural Skills - Conversation Skills and Evolution to Comfortable Conversation

When I do a 2 in 1, which is when I analyze a boy when addressing a girl and refine his technique, this is
carried out in several stages…

Step 1 – The Essentials

First I'll correct the eye contact, most guys break eye contact almost all the time, or break it exactly at the
moment they should NEVER break it.

A small number of guys have creepy or strange eye contact that would make a woman uncomfortable.
Instead of never maintaining eye contact, these guys need to work on their excessive eye contact. A few
things dictate how your eye contact will be received by other people:

-If you blink more than usual.

-If your head is pushed forward and it is the farthest part of your body.
-If your eyes open more than natural - as if surprised. If you TRY to maintain eye contact, you will stare
and this could happen.

If a guy has good eye contact, he can still break it like this:

"Hey, do you like pizza?" " - No - <breaks eye contact> <2 second pause> “emmm" <looks back> “What
food do you like?

This might seem good, but imagine the situation. We try to do several important things:

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1. Keep your attention
Try this, have someone look at your foot and talk to you. Think about how that makes you feel.
Then make him maintain eye contact in the conversation. Think again.
The first time, you notice that you are not attracted to them. The second time, you are aware of them
holding your eye contact and you feel more attracted.

If you are talking and you don't look the person in the eye, they will start to think and their attention will
fade. Next thing, they won't fully listen to you (like when you're typing emails on the phone - you can
respond but you're not really listening), they'll get bored and want to leave.

2. Build connection and attraction

Our eyes are the most beautiful part of our face, and possibly our bodies. They look like precious gems, of
different colors, and are attraction builders. Imagine these two scripts:

In the first situation there is a couple of two people, where they do not look at each other, they look around
the room, and at other people.

The second situation has them without conversation, but each examines the other's eyes. Do you have
experience of the second situation? It's a dramatic moment, connection and attraction being built without
words. The eyes reveal everything.

This way, when you speak you get 1s and 2s to a certain extent. If you hold eye contact but don't speak,
you also get 1's and 2's to some extent. You always have to talk or maintain eye contact.

Often, guys who run out of things to say or complain:

"Hey, do you like pizza?" - No - <2 second pause> “well, what food do you like?

By simply substituting the eye instead of the pause and the ermm, you maintain their attraction and their
connection.

If you feel the need to break eye contact you should do it when you are talking and they are looking at you.
In a game, extend eye contact regularly, but address a particular person if they begin to break contact and
look away.

Step 2 – Self Awareness

Then I will focus on removing nervous tics (tapping, touching the face, playing with the clock, etc.). For
this, you have to be completely aware of your body when you are in a stressful situation, make a video of
yourself, or find someone brutally honest to tell you what they do. I have had all three for years and have
gone through the process of:

-Notice the nervous tic (touching the face, tapping on foot, gestures).
- Discover myself doing it.

-Stop while doing it.

-Stop doing it.

Step 3 – Have a comfortable conversation

Then we have to work with the conversation.
If there are silences, the first step should be to say something, this will usually be a statement or a question.
Most people will not say “you are dressed in red”, they will ask the question “What are you doing?”

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When I look at a guy who has had no training and talks to a girl who behaves naturally, the conversation
will normally follow a pattern like the following:

Boy asks question. The girl answers. Boy says "cool" or "right" or "good" and then asks another question.
"What do you study?" Psychology – Well, what year?

If there are not many details to talk about, then change the conversational threads:

“Do you have any pets?” - No - <pause> “Have you been on vacation recently?”

There are many problems with this structure:

-All the pressure is on her, it is easier to ask a question than the answer to this.
-Asking her to reveal information before she feels invested in the interaction, she will often not want to
answer and will give as little as possible.
-When she actually gives him some information, she doesn't feel rewarded because everything PUA says is
"cool" and then asks another question.

-PUA doesn't bond with her at all. PUA could have emailed her her questions beforehand and then
collected the answers later.
-Generally the conversation does not deviate based on their answers, they follow a predetermined
sequence predictable scripted.
-She's had this conversation hundreds of times before.

In this way, what we have to do is:

-Remove a little pressure.

.Reward her for giving us information.
-Make an attempt to unite with her at as many points as possible.

Every time PUA gets a piece of information, this is called a hook, PUA can use it to extend the interaction
by making a statement. Every answer she gives is a hook. PUA has to be able to make a statement or
observation, ideally in the 2nd or 3rd person about what she just said and then follow it up with a question:

Me when speaking: 90% statements, 10% questions.

Step 4 - Making that Interesting Conversation

Keep things interesting and don't run out of things to say.

This is a problem for most people. They usually run out of things to say and hit the target in the next case.
He might ask: “Have you been to France?” She says “Yes a few years ago when I was a little girl”, he says
“oh because I could go there soon” and she says “uh-huh cool”. So that thread has been cut short and he
has to change the subject. There is a pause and he has “run out of things to say.” This has happened
because you have used the lowest possible level of connection and the least interesting speech - talking
about yourself in an area about which she doesn't have much to say.

If he keeps the conversation in the 2nd and 3rd person, he connects more with her, he will get many more
responses, he will have more to say, and if he really ran out of things to say he would have two options:

Go down to a lower level (talking about him) or change the conversational thread.

Storytelling:

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I don't like storytelling as a pickup tool. I think a story doesn't take into account connection and therefore
doesn't help an ending. Women can get great stories in books and movies. They don't have to hear our
stories. What I miss in books and movies is a sense of connection and understanding. That story might be
interesting, but the most interesting of stories is the one where you meet someone who you feel completely
connected to and who understands you. All you can do with storytelling is seem uninteresting or unfunny,
which many others can do.

It's worth noting, that talking about yourself is okay once there is a connection or attraction. A girl could
sit and listen to Brad Pitt talk about him all day and she would like it, because the attraction and interest is
already there. Also, when someone feels connected to you, they naturally want to find out more about you.

Here, we mainly talk about the early stages, before the connection is built. You will be able to feel it and
notice it when his interest increases enough for you to talk about yourself.

Step 5 - Leading the conversation towards a solid closure.

You should always know what you are doing. There are two main objectives when you have a
conversation.

->The first is to bring it towards a natural closure. This is easily achieved by finding things in common and
discovering an activity you could do together or a reason to see each other again. A simple case is that they
both go out to the same club. Another deeper one could be that you both fed the ducks in the park when
you were kids and can do it again. Once you have some of these points in common, it can easily be closed
by suggesting doing it together.

->The second mode of conversation should be aimed at making this person stand out from the other guys. I
try to cover the following areas:

V Character Traits
V Motivations
V Emotions

I like to bring out character traits. Are you introverted or extroverted? Leader or follower? Party person or
calm? Hardworking or lazy? Do you have many or few and intimate ones? Do you live life in the present
or are you always planning for the future? Modern and independent woman or family type? Most of these
things are 50/50 and tell me a lot about her and also how compatible we can be. Most subjects have a
character trait as their root.

When you talk to a girl, you generally want to lead the conversation. This means you have to have a
conscious idea of how to direct the conversation. There are bad areas to focus on:
-Talk about yourself all the time.
-Generalities - the weather, television, about work.

If you talk about flat topics, the best thing you can achieve is to have her thinking about you like:
-Comfortable, confident, interesting and maybe funny. This is good, sure, but she can find guys who have
those qualities just around the corner.
To take it to the next level, you need to connect with it.

Step 6 – Changing the subject and keeping things fresh

Men often get stuck in useless areas and don't know how to change topics smoothly or unearth good
material from a thread that seems boring on the surface. Draw the flow chart of a conversation you had
with a girl. Could be:

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family - dancing - clubs - meals - relationships.

For each area, think about how well you connected and whether that part was interesting or not. If it
wasn't, pull out lines and think about how you could have changed the thread or made it more interesting.
For example:

P olitics - Democrats - Environment - Travel and Nature

Politics isn't often a big topic, so you decide to change the subject, the Democratic Party's care for the
environment, which leads to a soft topic change to nature and travel. For example, “I try to do what I can
for the environment, do you consider yourself a city or country woman? If you could wake up anywhere in
the world tomorrow where would it be?

And another example:

Shopping - fashion and style - I express myself with my clothes - men's fashion - the type of clothes that
guys like to wear - the type of man she is looking for.

This appears when you use your hooks in step 3, use your own hooks in this step to take things to deeper
topics.

Step 7 – Build Attraction and Stand Out

So now you do almost everything. You have an interesting, unique conversation, and you connect with it.
The only thing that fails are the attraction builders, the things that set the tension and get her to pursue you
and love you.

Build Attraction- Making your conversation more interesting

At some point, she will contribute to the conversation by asking you questions. The dangerous thing here
is that they are super boring and will kill any kind of interesting topic you have to talk about. Here's how to
get ready for it:

Have interesting answers to standard questions.

Here are certain questions and conversational patterns that can occur again and again for each person.
Think about where you are and make your contribution more interesting. If a conversation gets boring
because the girl is asking increasingly boring questions, she won't remember that she's the one who failed,
she'll just know that she's bored!

Stay away from topics like:

· Religion.
· Policy.
· Violence.
· Bad past relationships.
· Negative things.

Speak with passion

If you can speak passionately about things that concern you, this attracts people. If you enjoy something,
let it be seen, be expressive, use visual and emotional language. People get caught up in that and they start
to feel good too. When they feel good, they want to talk to you more too. Use storytelling skills.

Challenges
Challenges are ways of establishing that you are the one who selects, the one who has the high value in the
interaction. You choose it , not the other way around. Most types will allow themselves to be passively
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before she responds and tries to meet your challenges. The time to start challenging is when you have
reached the point where she probably won't leave, when you feel she is comfortable and maybe even
getting too comfortable.
The first time I used challenges was a big moment for me. I noticed that things were changing. I was no
longer doing all the work, trying and trying to convince that woman that I liked her. I put pressure on her
and turned the tables, so she had to respond by working for me and seeking my approval. It will be a great
moment in your game when you start using challenges to build attraction and have more interesting
conversations. Some examples:

“What quality do you have that makes you stand out from the rest?”
"You know how to cook?"
"You are rich?"
“Beauty is common, so do you have something special that attracts men?”
“There are three things I look for in a woman. The first is (confidence), the second is (passion) and the
third… well, I better not tell you because you could falsify it.

The above examples communicate that you are demanding and that you don't date just anyone – looks are
not enough. This makes you more attractive because you subconsciously tell him that you are of high
value. This is an outside-game to challenge the girl. The problem is, if the thoughts in your mind are about
how much you love her and everything you would do for her, then there will be conflict between your non-
verbal and verbal communication. Women are sensitive and will notice on a subconscious level; They
won't be able to say it consciously but they will have noticed it, but this. For a challenge to be truly
effective, you have to be consistent and only worry about whether she passes the test or not. The problem
with using “canned challenges” is that you don't care much about getting a genuine response from her. The
best way to challenge a woman is to follow mission eight.

Mission 8
Grab a pen and describe your ideal woman.
What character qualities does he have? Do you smoke?
Do you have to stay in shape? Do you practice dance? It can sing? Is she clever? It's formed? Do you read
poetry or gossip magazines?
Do you like Disney movies or action movies? Do you like sushi? Likes to travel?
Do you watch Sex and the City?

If you are thinking about this when you meet a woman, you will not give as much credit to her appearance,
and if you can work these issues in the interaction you will change the dynamic. She will have to start
qualifying herself for you. You position yourself as the coach, and see if she meets your demands. 99% of
men don't do this, and you will see how women start chasing you if you do.

Challenging it with a touch of NLP

These are statements that get her to agree with your chosen behavior. They may include subtle language
and cues that link behavior when they are with you. ( You can decide what you want and do what you
want.) Check the NLP section for more information on using this in a flirt. The following are examples:
Are you determined ? Do you know what you want when you have it in front of you? (Point to yourself
when you say this to activate the subconscious.) Imagine what it would be like to get it and then go for it
without hesitation. Or do you let opportunities slip by? ( Lean back when you say the last part, to show
her that she could lose you; this subtly affects her subconscious mind.)
Can you act crazy and be spontaneous? Have you ever done something that you knew would be an
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told you to do it? I think those kinds of actions give you (point to yourself to indicate that she should go
with you) the happiest memories and all kinds of possibilities. We have to live more in the moment, follow
our feelings and enjoy things when opportunities present themselves.

When you first use the challenges, you should notice that they start to barely work. They realize they could
lose you and increase your game. They ask more questions, and try to prove their value. An example
would be if you ask a girl if she smokes with a questioning look. She feels like she might say the wrong
thing and say “yes, but I'm trying to quit” and later tells you “oh I passed my driving test.” It's pretty funny
when this role reversal happens!
Challenges work on a deep level, the reason being that most guys decide they are going to ask for a
woman's number as soon as they see her. She can't lose. He ca n't do anything wrong. Think about it,
suppose you are in their shoes. Would you like to think that the man who talks to you would also go talk to
anyone who looked the same or better? No , you want her to love you for your unique qualities. How do
you give a woman that unique experience? How do you stand out from all the other guys? Now you know,
use challenges, and not just canned challenges, but real ones. You can also break the rapport...

Breaking Rapport
Along with challenges, breaking rapport is one of the most important things you can do to build attraction.
I include it in the optional advanced techniques because I got good results without them. However, by
adding this to your game you will see another dramatic improvement.

Breaking rapport is disagreeing with her on a point or expressing a contrary opinion. It can be very
powerful. To exemplify its importance, imagine being a very good woman for a moment. You are being
approached by smiling, nodding men and you feel like you can't do or say anything wrong. You could say
you love cats, and they will say they love them too; You can say you like torturing cats and they'll say,
"cool." Well, maybe I've gone too far, but we know that the normal thing when we are with a beautiful
woman is to go into “me too” mode, where you agree with her on everything and try to connect. The fact is
that you think that similarities will attract her more. In general, this might be true, since it is what ninety-
nine percent of men do, but you may have realized while reading this book that doing what 99% of men do
does not achieve success.

Imagine being a beautiful woman again. Men will agree with you on everything and think that everything
you do is great. You know there are things they won't like, but they don't express it. This means that you
will not give them complete trust, you will think that they are only after one thing and their praise will not
be well deserved.

The answer to this is to break rapport, but you shouldn't do it on big things that have an emotional
connection to her. Don't criticize his passion for painting pictures, but you can break it into occasional
interests like Harry Potter books, Hugh Grant movies, etc. When you say that something she likes upsets
you, this means that when you later tell her something you like about her it has a devastating effect.

If you say, “ I love Harry Potter too,” “ Yes, I love musicals,” and then say, “I have a good connection
with you, we should meet again,” you don't seem authentic. Better to say, “Harry Potter puff can't even
read the first chapter for me” “I saw Chicago, but I wouldn't see another musical for a long time” and then,
“I love how you laugh.” Praise has a much stronger effect, because you have shown that you only say what
you mean and mean what you say.

When to break rapport

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that you shouldn't lower her self-esteem or make her feel stupid, it just shows that you can disagree and
that you have your own opinions. If you break rapport, the best thing you can do is quickly change the
subject and avoid turning it into an argument.

Don't be afraid to tell the truth, it really increases trust and connection as well as attraction. Trust and
honesty are key to earning people's respect. This is a way to be honest without hurting people's feelings.
Try breaking rapport by combining it with genuine praise - and also try challenges.

So, let's put it all together in an observational situational opener example.

The following interaction is a real demonstration for a student. Location: Leicester Square, London, 3:30
pm, record the interaction on MP3 and below is the transcript. There are many techniques you can use, you
will see more as you search.

(A girl alone with her arms crossed and with an unfriendly look).
Me : Hello, you have your arms crossed and I study Body Language so I can tell you that you are
uncommunicative or in a bad mood, but I have noticed that a lot of people are like this recently and I don't
know if it is because they are in a bad mood or they just have cold. So are you in a bad mood or just cold?

HB : I'm cold.
(No conversational pressure, I talk and joke without pressuring her in any way. This is necessary because I
have no indication of interest and she seems unapproachable).

Me : Look, people take this form of body language as if it were very serious, they need to pay more
attention to that kind of thing. People who close their arms are closed, unless they are cold. People stroke
their hair, unless their hair is in front of their face and they can't see anything. You seem to be waiting for
someone.

HB : Yes, I'm waiting for my friend.

(At this point, I don't ask immediate questions like "Who?", "What time did he say he was coming?",
"What are you going to do?" That would be natural but not very interesting. She's given me a hook I can
take advantage of, so I should do it. Her body language opens up and she is receptive to interaction.)

Me : I hate waiting for people, you can't call them because they are on the subway and there are so many
people that you are left thinking "is that them...? Are they...?", time passes more slowly than when you
wait somewhere less hectic, it takes less time when the road is less hectic. So, let me guess, she's your old
friend from school and you're seeing each other for year 10 dinner?

HB : <Laughs> Well, she's my friend from university but we're going to have coffee. What's your name?
(This is a great sign of interest. He is asking me a question that is off-topic and personal which means he
wants to know more about me and extend the interaction).

Me : Richard, what about you?

HB : I'm Anna.
Both : Delighted.
(We shake hands).

Me : Wow, your hands are cold <take your other hand too>, high five them.
(I did a quick kino, and I have done something that is the beginning of a sexual framework).
So is your friend pretty?

Hb : <laughs> It is.

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else. Tell him I'm your boyfriend, that we met last week, it was a whirlwind romance and that we flew to
Vegas, got married Elvis style and came back yesterday.
<Laughs>
The natural skills end there because the conversation took several paths and rapport. The interaction
continued in a more relaxed style, she began to do the other 50 percent of the conversation and ask many
questions. Her friend showed up (who was very hot), and we went to have coffee but not before
convincing her friend. I did a phone close and ended the interaction after 30 minutes. I went to bed with
her at the next meeting and then she became my girlfriend.

The key for day game students is this: there is no way to verbally block an interaction unless she is
directly rude and tells you to leave. Hang in there and learn to stretch yourself with things to say; pay
attention to what she says and use the hooks.

Now you have a series of 8 steps to become a fantastic conversationalist, all naturally. This means you can
have interesting conversations with women who are also unique! If you still think that it is better to use the
opener "who lies the most..." or "the best friends test", you need help! This should be your ultimate goal, to
develop your skills and abilities so that the girl is attracted to you and who you are, without pre-planned or
pre-written content. If he likes you, he likes YOU , not your routines! It's not as easy as memorizing a line,
but it's much more helpful. A guy who masters the Natural Skills will have the ultimate game. Good luck
with that!

The Attachment Point and Indicators of Interest. How to Know if She's Attracted.

The hook point is when a girl shows interest in expanding the interaction. She is happy to stay and talk
more. So, you can say that you have reached the hook point when:

• He asks you questions.

• He asks your name.
• Give expanded answers to your questions.
• Your body language changes and you become more open.

Once you've reached the point of hooking, you should look for indicators of sexual interest.

If she feels sexually attracted:

• He touches his neck while talking to you.

• Look at your mouth.
• He tilts his head to the side as he talks to you.
• His pupils dilate.
• He laughs a lot at your jokes, even when they aren't funny.
• He listens to you happily, even when what you say is of no interest.
• She maintains eye contact and does not look anywhere else or at her friends. ( Note: If she is nervous,
and it is in her character not to maintain strong eye contact, that does not mean she is not interested.)
• She is comfortable with you, touching you and invading your space.
• She shows a willingness to leave her friends and stay with you.
• He laughs and hits you on the shoulder when you joke with him.
• He looks at you in a special and dreamy way.
• He asks if you are alone.
• She is comfortable with pauses in the conversation.

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• She says his name in the conversation.
• He leans towards you.

These are just some examples. There is no way to know them all 100%. That's why we take the interaction
and force a stronger response. If we put pressure on her or create sexual tension, we force a clear answer as
to whether she is attracted to us or not. Think about this:

If a guy walked up to you in a bar and asked you about football scores and then had a general chat with
you, you would be fine in the interaction with him and he wouldn't get a clear sign from you about whether
you were gay or not. Therefore, if he had the goal of kissing you, it would not be a good strategy to
employ since he would not be able to figure out if you are gay.

On the other hand, if he approached you and started creating sexual tension, you would break eye contact,
make an excuse to leave, or show very clearly that you are not gay. You wouldn't try to be nice.

This is what we do with women, we lead and push lightly and see how they respond. If they follow us, we
continue, if not, we turn back. If we wait for a signal to come out of nowhere, it might never come!

Check the kiss closure section below for the application of this.

Rapport

In "Natural Skills" I talked about how to make a connection with it. I will expand on this in more detail.
The difference here is finding a reason to see her again and discovering mutual interests. You know the
process of connecting, but how do you get the desired result?

1. Be observant.
Notice things about your appearance (clothes, accessories, hair, nails, jewelry). Women generally put a lot
of time and effort into looking good; Her bag may have been chosen to match her shoes, belt, earrings, and
dress . Most people don't notice it, they will be happy if you do. Jewelry and accessories often have a story
behind them or mean something to them.

2. Speak to evoke passion and feelings.

What are you passionate about? It could be something related to friends, family, traveling or ballet.
Connect to these points by showing that you understand why she is passionate about it.

Rapport and Comfort Creator Questions.

I told you not to ask boring questions. So what should you ask?
The best questions build comfort and create a connection that brings out emotions.
The following are some examples of good questions:

Do you remember your first day at school?

This is a question that brings out strong emotions because it's something she probably hasn't talked about
in a while, and she probably has intense emotions. This can also make you go back in time, that's a
hypnosis term. Don't be surprised if she suddenly starts acting like a child. To ask questions like this you
can't say "Where are you from?" What are you doing? Do you remember your first day of school?" The
first thing you need to do is enter the question. This means you need to insert it gently . You could do this
by saying, "You know, I was walking down the street this morning and as I passed by the bakery I smelled
apples. This immediately took me back in time to when I was 6 years old and I spent the rest of the walk
walking like a child with a happy expression on my face because I was remembering my childhood
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correctly and there are several ways to do this. After she gives her answer you should connect. Then you
can say, "I can imagine you wearing your little dress and jumping rope . " Then you must tell your own
story. If you connect like this with some emotional topics, you have to build a deep connection in a short
amount of time.

You will have already talked about topics that are not normally discussed until you have spent 3 months or
more dating.

If you could land anywhere in the world tomorrow, where would it be?
This is another good question and replaces boring questions like "Where would you like to travel?" or
"Did you go on vacation this summer?" This one doesn't need much introduction, just say "I need a
vacation, let me ask you, if you could land anywhere in the world tomorrow, where would it be?" Connect
with the answer "Yes, on the beach, with the sun beating down under the sound of the ocean." Then tell
your own answer in detail. This is a good way to create a trance state, visualization, evoking feelings of
comfort and relaxation which she will later relate to being with you.

Are your friends mostly men or women?

This tells you something about her character and also makes her talk about people she loves, and her
friends.

What would be a good thing, to which you couldn't say no?

This is a good way to find out something you really enjoy, it could be chocolate. Maybe orange juice, this
should make your eyes shine. Then you can describe how good it would be to eat chocolate or drink that
fresh orange juice, and see how you can get her to that desired state.

What talent do you have that could surprise me?

This is a great question and a challenge. At the beginning of the interaction, they don't want to feel any
need to answer challenging questions. Because of the level of rapport, they will feel some pressure to
answer questions like these to prove themselves. Remember that she will ask you back, so you have to
have something ready.

Have you been in love?

Introduce her, ask her little by little about when she was in love. Focus on the moment when she was really
in love, don't ask what happened - that would be focusing on the breakup! - You'll make her want to feel
that way again, since you're a cool guy, she'll imagine being with you. This is great, for several reasons,
first, it brings out the sensations and memories connected with love. Second, this gets you into the topic of
relationships, and makes it easier for him to imagine relationships with you.

Think of your own questions and follow the process:

· Introduce.
· Ask.
· Connect.
· Reply.

When you have done this, you will already have a deep connection with the girl. On numerous occasions,
girls tell me, a couple of hours later, that they feel as if they have known me for three months. The reason
is:

· I am completely comfortable, open and relaxed with them.

· I'm making them feel comfortable as if we've known each other for three months.
· She is feeling things she only feels in relationships.

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· She's talking about things she normally only talks about with her best friends, family, or long-term
boyfriends.

Using hooks and connecting

When you find out something about the person, this is a hook you'll want to use. Something like where
you are from, where you were on vacation, a passion, an interest, something with emotional content, a
future dream. You want to connect in a positive way. Here are seven ways to deal with a hook. Let's use
the example of finding out that the person wants to go to New York. "I really want to go to New York, I've
never been there before." The seven ways are:

1. Cool. I wanted to go to Barbados, O ooohh, New York? I don't like big cities (Rejection, BAD).
2. Yes, me too (It's very obvious, WRONG).
3. Cool, my brother just came from there. (semi-rejection, NEUTRAL).
4. Great, shopping is great and you can go see shows on Broadway (Logical positive connection: OK).
5. Oooh, the people there are supposed to be rude, busy, and cruel. (negative logic connection: NG).
6. Wow, New York. You can walk around and imagine you are in a movie, with the yellow taxis, the
pushing and shoving, the lights in Times Square and a walk through Central Park. What a great vacation.
(Positive connection, affirming your choice, with visualization, emotional connection. GOOD).
7. Well, you seem like that kind of person. I think you will connect very positively with the energy of that
city, you will feel good in the streets, seeing people, flowing ( Purely emotional connection, cold
reading , GREAT):

This is a powerful tool for connecting. You are making her feel good about herself and her interest, and
you are also showing understanding. The dynamite comes next in Deep Rapport.

Isolate
To close with the girl, in most cases, you will need to isolate her. Have you noticed that conversations in
large groups are very light and typical compared to one-on-one interactions where you can go deeper?
What conversations will be best able to bring out emotions, help you get to know the girl better, and form
a bond? That is the reason for isolating it.

My definition of isolating does not mean that you are the only person in the room, but rather that you are
the only one in the conversation. Your friends could be three feet away, far enough away that they aren't
involved. For me, the easiest way to isolate is to take her outside the group. She doesn't need to leave them
completely and go very far with you, just far enough to not look at them. A student once asked me to open
a set of 6. I was able to have the entire set open, throw a nega at the target and try to isolate her from there.
But there are two reasons why I don't like doing this:

First: I don't always want to spend a lot of energy entertaining an entire group in a noisy place. Second:
My problem in the past was that if I showed too much coldness towards the group, they all wanted to talk
to me and isolating the target was difficult - she feels social pressure because all eyes are on her.
So I wanted to find a way to isolate it "under the radar." What I did in this case was realize that the group
had many ruptures in the middle. I boarded, quickly established physical contact (I grabbed her shoulder
before saying a word), introduced myself and to my surprise we were already isolated because she was
taken out of the group by two of her friends. With a couple of girls, isolating is very difficult. You
generally need a wing in this situation.

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For a group of three, my isolating strategy was to open everyone up, reach the hook point, and then say
something personal to my target (e.g., remark about their jewelry). The key here is to speak at a low
volume and break eye contact with others. The eye contact and attention you are giving to the target should
ensure that she stays with you. Your next step is to walk lightly around the target and away from obstacles,
then she has to turn around to face you. Now you are isolated. Is not easy?

Lead to isolate
Generally you will have to lead the girl all the time. "Let's dance", "Let's sit down", "Let's have a drink".
All these, ways of leading and isolating. Others include “Let's go where there's light” to do a palm reading,
see their eye color” “Let's go there, it's less noisy/smoky/crowded.”

deep rapport
Use this technique carefully. I'm talking about CN-CLOSES, bridal closures. I can often make a girl fall in
love with me using my rapport skills. I'm careful to only use this with girls I want to see again. It is
immoral to use it with girls who will only be casual relationships. Deep Rapport is a way to get a soul
connection with the girl and goes beyond what she felt before. Coordination is important. It has to be used
at the level of intimate interaction, where you are one-on-one and focused on the girl. It's a simple two-
stage process. Once mastered, you can do it with any girl. The steps are:

1. Bring out emotional content.

2. Feedback and connect.

First I will explain the process and then give an example.

These themes contain emotions:

· Passions and interests.

· Memories (of childhood).
· Future ambitions and dreams.
· Close people.

Let's use the example of passions, but remember to apply everything. Your goal should be to achieve a
deep emotional level and connect. All people have things they are passionate about. These are not "should-
do" critiques, but rather provide a sense of playfulness, success, or "Being alive."
Some examples could be:

· Dance
· Theater
· Museum
· Art
· Play an instrument
· read fiction
· Fishing
· Golf
· Poetry
· collect something

These are all common elements. They are ways that people use to pass time. You have passions, I have
passions, and the girl you know has passions. Let's look at the typical way these topics are discussed by a
guy who doesn't have any knowledge:

Girl : I really do ballet, since I was 10 years old.

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Boy : Great, you must be very flexible.
EITHER
Boy : Great, I saw Swan Lake.
EITHER
Boy : Oh, my mother made me do it when I was a kid, I hate it.
EITHER
Boy : I would like to see you in your tutu.
EITHER
Boy : Me too.
EITHER
Boy : Ok, I like football.
EITHER
Mystery Method Guy : Oh my god, I can't talk to you anymore. Oh god, are you a ballet dancer? Wow,
that girl from school who scared me of ballet......................................

This covers many of the possible responses to ballet or many other passions. Let me think about this for a
second. She revealed to you something that she is very passionate about. He did it for 10 years out of a
personal feeling of commitment. In the examples above, he offers you something that you reject. You may
have asked him if he likes oranges, but it is a superficial passion. If you do this, you will always remain on
superficial topics.

Don't dismiss their passion in any of the above ways. Plug her into that. You could lie and say how
much you like ballet. I don't like lying, so I don't do it. What you can do is emphasize. Imagine why you
love ballet, what you feel when you dance, I show that I understand why you love ballet without saying
that I love it. It's something she's never heard before and establishes a soulmate connection. My answer
should be emphatic and understand why perhaps he loves ballet:

"Wow, awesome, you must be very committed to keep it up for 10 years, I mean when you're young it's
easy, but when you get older you have more and more commitments" (this is a standard connection for any
long-time passion).

"People might think that dance is just learning steps and performing, but I think dance is something
that brings out someone's soul, you can dance perfectly and robotically by learning the steps, but it's
when you feel it that you become great." . I also imagine that it is a way to express your feelings
through the movement of your body, like an artist does on canvas or a musician does through his
instrument. When you are in the moment, you are expressing yourself through the way you move. It
must exist before speech since dance and ritual express our emotions. I would love to see you dance. "

Now you can see why this is dynamite. It can be with any passion. Whether you like it or not. You can do
it with anything.

Examples:
Fishing is being in nature, serenity (being alone with your thoughts) mixed with the excitement and
excitement of reaping the benefits obtained.

Collecting stamps is about the sense of achievement. Remember that each stamp has a memory attached to
it because you made it for years, so each stamp is part of a different moment in your life. Your book of
stamps is like a book of memories.

Going out and having a drink on a Friday night helps you escape from that whole week you've been
stressed and working. It is in that moment, when you are with your friends and having drinks when you are
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sense of liberation from everything.

Kino- Climbing
This was a sticking point for me for a while. I missed the point where people hug each other when they
meet. I couldn't even get two kisses on the cheek. I didn't feel totally comfortable touching people. The
fact is that most people like to be touched. Hugs feel good. Someone touching your arm when they offer
you emotional support feels better. Many guys have trouble touching because they're afraid of being
perceived as gross. Yes, women hate being touched by drunks at the bar, but if they are touched by a guy
they like, they want to touch you too!

Kino-Escalation is the process that goes from all forms of secondary touching to sex. Obviously the first
time you touch her can't be when you kiss her, that would be strange. You need to keep her comfortable
with your touches, and to do this, there are several ways to do it.

→ Key points of KINO:

Intention: Women can feel the intention behind the kino. An arm on someone's shoulder: "OK, I'm going
to climb by putting my arm on your shoulder" will scare her. She subconsciously knows the difference
between a gross touch and a nice touch because she's been touched by so many men! The average number
of times they have been touched is 18,472 in their lifetime* When she is attracted to you, you can walk
away with anything you want, but until then, the intention must be pure. When YOU touch her, do it as
part of your natural movements, touch her the same way you would touch a friend and think that the intent
behind it is positive and natural. Don't think bad thoughts! When you have attraction, you can put a sexual
intention behind the kino and it will be very good.

*I love statistics!

Speed: The faster the kino, the further you will go since it is harder to refuse. Your brain doesn't have time
to register the hand on the shoulder if it's only there for a second. If you do a lot of gesturing, build a quick
kino and it will allow you to climb faster and smoother than usual.

Eye contact: Don't look at the part of her that you are touching. This sets the intention and makes her feel
"uncomfortable." When you are going to escalate kino in a major way, such as putting your hand around
her, eye contact will put pressure and intensify the moment negatively. If you are looking away when you
do this movement, it is much more comfortable and acceptable. Use the trick of looking away when you
touch his hand or something that is very intimate at that moment.

Excuses to touch
During an approach I did the other day, I used a few methods with the goal of advancing the kino to the
kiss closure. I normally only date young women and I was genuinely surprised to find a girl my age (26)
who looked so young! I told her "You should use a good moisturizer" and ran the back of my index finger
over her face. If she flinched, the kiss closure wouldn't happen. I also touched her hair and asked her if she
ever tried to put it up. The kiss would happen right now, we both knew it. I did a couple of things to treat
the pressure, and then I kissed her. I'm still thinking if there is any benefit to delaying the kiss to create
more tension, or doing it as quickly as possible.

Having excuses to touch her solves the kino-escalation problem for anyone not used to touching strangers
in conversation. Here are some types of kino-climbing:

> Don't shake his hand when introducing yourself, hold it for three seconds, it's enough time to be noticed,
and very little to be objected to.

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> High five when you find something cool about her.

> If she goes to the gym, exercises, looks strong, or something like that, an excuse would be to feel
her
muscles, flexes his arm and touches it with a finger.

> Check her jewelry. Hold your hand to see the rings or bracelets. Moves his hair towards
back to see her earrings, you can use many excuses to touch her hair. "What shampoo do you use?", "Is it
your natural color?", Was it always long/short?"

> Take your pulse.

> If she dances salsa or another type of dance, dance with her. Don't ask if he wants, just lead.

> If he says some shit to you, you can put his hand on your chest and say "Oh, you're breaking my
neck."
heart".

> Palmistry.

> Lead arm in arm.

> Play tricks - pinching, playful fighting, tickling - all the playful ways of doing kino.

Sexual Escalation Techniques

There are more of these in later chapters. These are purely physical, the others are verbal or a combination
of both:

V Finger fight. When they are holding hands, play with her fingers and see if she reciprocates, this is a
surprising and sexy test.

V Handshake. Squeeze his hand and see if he returns the squeeze. This is a great indicator and the kiss
close is definitive and probably something else.

V Triangle Look. This is a method to make her think in a sexual way. Look at his left eye, then his right
eye, then his lips and repeat.

V Slow blinking. Blink slowly. It's very sexy.

Playful and Sexual Climbing

You can escalate kino in two ways, sexual or playful. The best way to escalate with a friend or in a social
circle is in a fun way by checking their receptivity, rather than creating pressure by moving in a sexual
way. Sexual Escalation has a sexual intention behind it. Playful climbing seems safer for them because it's
what brothers and sisters do. But also boyfriends and girlfriends in a comfortable relationship. So it's a
great way to escalate and thus create amazing feelings of fun and sexual tension.

Kino-Scale: process
All these steps can sometimes be skipped and go straight for the kiss. This may work sometimes. But to
smoothly drive there, you must expand the kino little by little. The process described below is a gentle way
to go from nothing to kiss. You can also combine it with some type of sexual verbal escalation.

1. Touch the shoulder.

2. Hold his hand (use excuse).

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3. Dance.
4. Hold the hand.
5. Handshake.
6. Touch her hair (use excuse).
7. Touch his face.
8. Kiss.

I tend not to use any of these excuses for playing, but they are a good way to start. As soon as you feel
comfortable, you should switch to projecting a sexual state and creating tension as a way to lead to the
kiss. Combined with Kino-Climbing it will be incredibly effective.

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Close
Close with phone number
Going for a phone number is a moment of great pressure for most guys, they don't know when to do it and
they don't know if the girl will accept or reject them. Plus, even after you get the number, it can be difficult to
turn it into a date or hookup. I used to have good conversations and then not ask for their number, either
because I felt bad about showing that I was really trying to flirt, or because I was afraid that he would say no.
I realized that it is easy if you do it calmly.

→ This is what you have to do:

Conversation that leads to closing with a number

Most guys make the mistake of doing small talk for a long time and then asking for the phone number. That is
wrong. It can be connected (but usually does not happen) by doing small talk , but it is time-consuming.
Instead, the conversation has to be goal-directed at all times. A conversation, focused on getting a number,
needs to be based on connections and common interests.

• What does she do when she is not working? How do you spend your free time?
• What food do you like? What places do you like to go at night? Is she a party girl? Likes
the art? What is it that you would like to do but haven't done yet. (salsa classes)?

These are basic questions of common interest that lead you to a possible connection. Think about what you
would like to be asked. There are hundreds. Taking two opposite examples, let me show you how to reach a
closing number in a general conversation:

You : What places do you like to go at night?

Her : I like club/bar X.
You : Wow, that place is good. Have you ever been to club Y?
Her : Yes/No
You : Well, my friends and I are going on X day, you should come.
Her : Good/OK
You : Great. What is your phone number?
EITHER
You : What do you do when you're not working?
Her : I like going to the theater/exhibitions/museum/Ballet.
You : Were you at the new show/exhibition/whatever?
She does not.
You : Me neither, we should go.
Her : Ok.
You : Barbarian, give me your number
(At no time did you ask him directly for the number. This should flow naturally. The closure should be
assumed)

What if you can't find a connection, don't have time, or for any other reason don't have a conversation like the
one above?

You can use the universal:

You 're nice. It's interesting talking to you, we should go for a walk.

Her : Yes

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You : <hand on phone> What are you doing on Tuesday?

Finally, most guys get numbers that are hang-ups. So how to minimize this?:

-Also put your number in her phone.

-Have a connection or something you can do with her, as described above.

-And most importantly, make an appointment there. If you already set up a date, she may be thinking about it
and when you call her she will be waiting for you. Using these tips, all your interactions should end with solid
phone number closings.

Now is a good time to mention future objections. This topic is long and has its own section, so pay attention.
The situation: She is happy, lively, you meet her in a bar, you have a great opportunity. Easy to see it again?
Not always. The problem is that she's going to go home, talk to her friends, and hang out with all the other
guys who chased her. You can easily become “the guy I met when I was drunk,” even if you had the best,
most amazing conversation ever. You may be thinking that she will fall in love with you, but the truth is, she
will just disappear! The way to deal with this is to give him comments that dismiss the potential rejection
before he thinks about it later:

“I know we're drunk, but I can tell we're going to have a great time.” “It will be great to meet somewhere
quieter and get to know each other better”

“I can't believe we met in a bar, I didn't expect to find a quality girl in a place like this. When we get home we
will think that there was an incredible connection because of the environment. That could be the case, but I
would love to realize it by getting to know you better in a quieter place.”

By doing this, he will focus on meeting you again, and not dwell on potential problems. This is especially
important if you climbed well in kino, you will also have to deal with “he's a flirt over there” and “if I see him
again he's going to be on top of me.” You can use the same method to deal with these cases as well.

Transcription of an Experience
Situation : Friday night, leaving a bar at 10:00pm with a friend. We left because there are no pretty girls. I
hear a door open behind me as I walk down the street and see a beautiful Italian woman and her less attractive
Croatian friend leaving the same bar we were at. Since we didn't see them inside, I don't know. I let them talk
to each other, and when they get close to us I tell them:

Richard: Where are we going now? 10

Because that place was pretty bad.
Croatian: I don't know.
Richard: There's a place there called Digress ; We can look.
Croatian: Good.
At this point, the Italian girl is cold, and doesn't make eye contact. Her Croatian friend sees that we are nice
people and probably thinks, free drinks!
Richard: Over here! (when the Italian girl goes the wrong way).

We take them to the site. At the bar we spread out slightly to let them buy their own drinks (I might buy a
drink, but I never do it soon, let alone their friends too). We chat, we return to them. I turn to the Croatian girl
(D ubravka) because I wanted my friend to try his luck with E va. I bond well with Dubravka, exchanging
some pleasantries, but I try not to generate too much attraction since I'm not interested in her. My friend
doesn't make much progress with the Italian girl, and goes to the bar. I attract their attention and then switch
to E va when he returns, staying on the wing with the Croatian. I ask boring questions, but I engage well.
Richard: do you like London ?

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Eva: Yes, I love London.
Richard: London is a great city, and it's quite unique ; It is also very varied culturally and even has a mix of
historical and modern... What is your profession?
Eva: I'm a scientist.
Richard: Wow, attractive scientist, that's nice (smiles) What 's your area?
Eve: Cancer.
Richard: It must be very exciting to help people and make a difference. I like that - most people are just out
to make money, it's nice to find someone who does something for the good of humanity. That's why you do it,
right?
Eva: Yes, I love what I do. I couldn't do anything different. What do you do?
Richard: I'm coaching .
Eva: So you help people too?
Richard: Yes, I suppose so; I wouldn't like to say that it's very important, or that I do it just because I'm a
good person. (I feel a bit of a connection) What kind of compliments do guys usually say to you?
Eva: Usually about my eyes.
Richard: Your eyes are nice, but mainly because you always seem to smile with them. I love your hair! What
actress do people say you look like?
Eva: Monica Bellucci.
Richard: Hmmm, I don't know, maybe, but to me you look more like S andra Bullock or Eva Longoria. Who
do I look like?
Eva: You look like E than Hawke.
Richard: E than Hawke? Do you like E than Hawke (with a satisfied smile)?
Eva: Yes
Richard: I like S andra Bullock (seductive face).

After the first tu a tu: I decide to take them to the club we were planning to go to. I call the club and add the
two girls to the guest list. The attraction is there, there is a certain sexual tension. I find that when I create
tension the woman will enjoy waiting for the kiss, instead of wondering, “When is this idiot going to kiss
me?”

On the way to the club, my friend jokes; we make some jokes, he plays with D ubravka. Mix humor well. We
give a little demonstration of courage in the club when we enter for free and without waiting in line. I ask if
they would like to share a bottle of wine. They say yes, we buy it and collect half of the money from them.

Crystal is a club where if you want to sit, you have to get a table, and to get a table you have to spend
hundreds or thousands on bottles of champagne or vodka. I managed to talk to the staff and get us seated at a
table for twelve. We were the only ones with a £20 bottle of wine, everyone else at the adjacent tables was
spending a lot of money.

We take our seat and unfortunately, due to not paying attention, she sits adjacent to me instead of next to me.
I'm still close enough to touch her, but it's not as intimate as I'd like. I decide to leave things as they are
instead of asking people to move. I'm also working to quash any future objections:

Richard: I'm glad we met on the street and not in a club. I don't like meeting girls in bars. It was incredible
how we met, because if we left the bar ten seconds earlier or later, we would never have seen each other.
Surely our parents met in a similar way (union and deepening of connection, suggesting destiny). When you
return?
Eva: In two days.
Richard: Well, then we better not fall in love tonight (looking into his eyes). How many times have you
fallen in love?
Eva: Twice. And you ?

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Richard: One, maybe two. You seem like an independent woman, you would probably like a man who also
has clear goals and a vision for the future together. I think since you are independent you don't feel a desperate
need to find a man, but you would like to find the right one. A relationship in which together you are worth
more than apart. I don't think you like being tied up or being with a sloth. I think you have so many things you
want to do and barely enough time to do them. ( She nods her head, very attracted. Are your friends mostly
men or women?
Eva: Men. I get along better with men.
Richard: My friends are mainly women, friends can get jealous and it is rare to find someone who is really
happy when good things happen to me. There is always a bit of competitive spirit. On the other hand, my
friends are happy when something good happens to me.
Eva: What kind of women do you like?
Richard: I 'm looking for a woman who has her life, who is happy with what she has, who doesn't need a
man, but wants one who knows how to make her happy. A relationship where together we are more than one.
Do you smoke?
Eva: No.
Richard: Good. What color are your eyes?
Eva: Brown. ( We approach and examine each other's eyes) Yours are green. (I stop talking, smile, look at his
lips.)
Richard: If you took a kissing test, what grade would you get?
Eva: Definitely an A+.
Richard: An Outstanding? I don't think so ! Only a small percentage can achieve an A.
She knows I know I can kiss her, but I lean in a little and make her wait a little longer. I try a new thing,
increasing the loads of sexual tension. Also, I like this girl, so I don't want to use the kissing test with the
smell of cheese around us.
Eva: How old are you?
Richard: Twenty-six, but I don't normally date girls over twenty-four! You fooled me, you look younger, you
must have a good moisturizer.
(stroking the face with the index finger).
Realize that I am in a knockout phase, where I continue to challenge her in a path that shows that I have high
standards and certain demands that have to be met.
Richard: You're a good girl, but you know how to have a good time!
Eva: Yes I know.
Richard: (I lean in when I say that and kiss her.) Hmmm, nice, Remarkable, room for improvement. We
Dance?
Eva: Yes.
I take it to dance; The dance is attractive, so I take her to dance in the middle of the club. We stand out and act
crazy, we attract a lot of attention. I'm kissing her, rubbing my cock against her ass, and when the song '
Smack That' comes on I slap her ass. This intensifies a lot.
The club is too loud now to talk; I kiss her on the neck, weave my fingers through the back of her hair, I go
from sensual to sexual.
Richard: How tall are you?
Eva: One seventy three (look of semi-approval).
The other two look at us a little tired and bored; It's getting late so I suggest we leave. We leave the club and it
turns out that their bus home passes very close to my house, so I pretend that we are taking them on the bus.
When we are near my house, I tell him:
Richard: Let's have one more drink.
Eva: Well, where?
Richard: I live there, I have good wine (normally it's more difficult, but in this case it was already there.)

My friend tells the other girl that we are going to the ' Club Rich '. We take them to the house. Inside, we sat
in the kitchen; I give him some time to relax and get comfortable, then I say I'll put on some music and tell
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this girl, so I'm happy to take a while and step up quite slowly, keeping the tension and letting her know I'm in
control. We have sex. Her friend is still in the kitchen and is quite angry. Our friends don't really like each
other, even though they did kiss at the club. I tell her it's a shame she can't stay; We could talk more and have
a nice breakfast.

Richard: I would love to have another time to talk to you, there is more we need to know about each other.

We walked them to their bus and said goodbye.

He was gone in two days; I didn't see her again in London because she would have to make peace with her
best friend. I get a text from her when she gets home from Italy, asking me to come visit. I plan to go when
disaster strikes. I get another text that says, “I might have fallen in love with the boy who wanted to be a
teacher, but not with a Player, someone who seduces women as an experiment.”

I was with a friend when I read this and I was devastated; he thought it was very funny. I felt terrible; We had
made a fantastic connection and she ruined it. I felt like screaming. It turned out that he went to Google and
put in P UA training.com, my website. I actually present myself on this website not as I really am. For
marketing reasons, it has to be sold as 'Sleep with the Girl Today!' Actually, what I teach is quite healthy;
Many ex-girlfriends work for me on this project, we have a female coach. I love women and I never abuse
them, or try to trick them into going to bed with them.

I went home and called her; she answered. I spent about forty minutes trying to tell her that the feeling we had
was genuine, that she can think about it and see that I didn't use any tricks or tricks on her, that I was natural
and spontaneous.

Over the next few days it gradually changed. He wanted to believe it was true, and it was; My impression
during the night was so strong that she still wanted to see me, and told me that she loved me. I booked a flight
a couple days after the initial text message. I visited her in Milan, we had a lot of fun, but it wasn't as good as
in London. She has a fantastic body, a pretty face, she is intelligent, but I think there is one thing wrong. She
lacked passion, being a bit impassive or repressed. It is important to me that a woman expresses her emotions
and passions in the way she looks at me, speaks or says, and, of course, in bed. We had a good weekend and
have planned to see each other again in the future, but obviously it's not going to go to the next level.

Different Levels of Difficulty

This can apply both to when you are on site or on the phone, but it applies to your reason for closing and
your proposition for the first date or meeting after you get the number.

If you're with a girl and you ask her to meet up for an intimate, romantic dinner and then come home for a
glass of wine, you're putting a lot of pressure on her. Instead, she will be better off with you if you suggest
leaving the club she is at with all her friends. In this case, there is not much pressure. You reveal your
intention of what you want to do. If you've met her for 10 minutes and then say something like “we should
continue with a date,” “go to lunch,” “watch a movie,” or “meet for drinks,” she'll go home, think about it,
She will talk to her friends and change her mind easily, and then leave you hanging. Taking the friends
test could be a good idea to use as a guide. They would say:

" That ? Did you meet a guy for 5 minutes at a Starbucks and go with him to a bar? He will probably put
something in your drink and rape you.”

If she had this kind of talk with a friend, it wouldn't help much with closure, you'd need a lot of connection
for her to feel safe enough with you and also be attracted and intrigued.

The easiest number possible is where you invite the girls to a nice club or party with their friends. This
would pass any test:

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“So you met a guy and he told you to come to the club with us?”

"Yes, but he seemed right to me and you always want to go to that club."

Use low pressure when you're not sure you're making such a solid play. Use higher pressure ends when
you're really connecting and you don't want to beat around the bush and neither does she. The girl's
personality type will also be a factor, if she is indecisive and easily gets carried away by her friends, then
she may leave you hanging and the low pressure closure will work better.

Closing with Kiss

This is a difficult point for many guys. Going for a kiss is another point where you put yourself in a
position where you can be rejected. The way to take off the pressure of the moment is to work slowly with
a variety of escalation techniques and using tests to see if the girl is ready to be kissed. If you don't have a
seductive nature at the moment of the kiss, she may not be feeling the mood! Remember that all this is
unnecessary if you can master the third character - The Seducer. However, here is the technique to get a
kiss:

1. Touch her in an increasingly sensual way.

• Touch his arm emphatically when you talk to him.
• Touch his hand . Talking about your jewelry is a good excuse.
• Touch her hair . Ask if it is the natural color. If you've ever dyed it, cut it or left it long, or even washed it,
it's a good excuse. If she is comfortable when you touch her hair and doesn't flinch, then she is ready for
you to kiss her. You can go look for it.
• Smell her hair.
• Take his hand and hold it while you talk to him. If you have already done the above, it will be acceptable.
Don't look at his hand or pay attention to it, just do it.
• Squeeze her hand and see if she squeezes too, this is another indicator of “kissability.” No girl is going to
shake your hand if she's not ready to be kissed.

• Stop talking, pause, move your head and look at her. See if she is comfortable. If she is, you can kiss her.
• What happens if she turns her face away when you try to kiss her? Kiss his cheek and then his neck! She
will turn around and kiss you. This is not a rejection but most guys take it that way and leave. Do this and
you can turn her on even more. It's only a rejection if she backs away – she goes back and leaves.

You already know how to touch her, but it still won't be 100% hassle-free if you're still in the same
character as if you were her hairdresser – for example:
bored and acting like a friend instead of a lover. Do you remember the Three Characters of Seduction? It's
time for the Seducer...

2. Establish a sexual climate as you escalate to contact. You do it by:

• More intense eye contact.
• Slow, calm, deeper voice.
• Look at her in a sexual way, start looking at her lips, and also at her eyes and see if she does the same. If
she does the same she is imagining kissing you.
• Use the pause combined with eye contact to build sexual tension.

3. Sometimes, even without doing the work on your part, she will want to kiss you. You will notice
it because:
• Squeeze your hand.
• Look at your lips.
• She touches your chest instead of your arm.

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• She is comfortable with intense eye contact, even if there are no words.

Once you master the third character and create sexual tension, you can go for the kiss without
complications and without worrying about kino or verbal escalation. You simply introduce a lot of pauses,
look at it the way you want it, slow down and adjust your delivery and movement. If she goes from neutral
to positive in the answer, she's done (remember the gay guy assumption? -Would you stand before a man
who created sexual tension in you?). If she backs away slightly, breaks eye contact, increases energy, etc.,
then you haven't connected and you can shift to a more neutral interaction.

Same Night Sex

I think all girls are persuadable! I am not going to use the term “One Night Stand”, instead I will say
“Same Night Sex”. This means sleeping with the girl the same night you met her, but you may very well
see her again. I always try to sleep with the girl as quickly as possible, even if it's for a relationship
because it makes things a lot easier once it's happened.

Why go for sex on the same night?

Sometimes you meet someone and there is a great sexual atmosphere between you. If you had gotten the
number and seen each other another day, he would be gone. I am trained to have a very strong connection
with each girl very quickly from the way I conduct conversations. I can generate attraction on many
levels. Either way, I've had my best experiences when things seem to be perfect on the same night. If you
want a casual relationship, sleeping with them before they know you well enough is the correct policy.

Remember, I'm a PUA, I don't go around grabbing drunk, ugly girls on the dance floor at 3:00 AM. I'm
meeting a good quality girl, usually the best one in the place, at 10:30 PM and getting to know her and
then taking her home later (usually!). This means that we can create romantic, intimate and passionate
experiences. I love romance, Hollywood moments, I don't like sex in toilets. And I think you can achieve
the same thing on the same night if you are both sober and have more than a physical connection. I've
done everything from meeting a supermodel on the street and going up to her house after 20 minutes (the
hottest girl I've ever slept with) to a 10-hour marathon of objections with a virgin (I wasn't being a
bastard , she later became my girlfriend!). There are different types of Sex in the Same Night and it
generally depends on the girl…

Easy:
You get girls who have a lot of one night stands and are open to it because they want it. What they are
attracted to is a dominant, sexual man who seems like he can take care of his sexuality. He should have
external manifestations of confidence. You should approach her directly, and escalate without problems,
almost without needing to touch her or kiss her, telling her what you want to do, etc. With this girl, you can
just walk her out of the bar and there will be no questions about what's going on. “Where is your jacket? So
let’s go.”

Half:
There are other girls who may have done it once, but it's not something they look for. They are not sluts and
do not want to be considered as such, but they still enjoy sex and are not squeamish. These girls need more
than just the physical and will reject you if that's the only thing you offer. You can give them a taste but you
should also slow down to show her that you have self-control and take the time to get to know her. She needs
to feel that Hollywood moment. How she met a fantastic boy. It's OK to do it because you are special and
tonight is special. Stare into her eyes in a romantic way. Find out things about her and connect. Then become
more and more attracted to her as you find out more. You need to connect with emotions, show your
emotional side, you are a modern man. However, deep down, it's some sexual tension that comes from the
way you look at her! In short, arouse her logically, emotionally and physically.

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song, look at some photos, your beautiful dog. You should say “Let's go somewhere else” and then when she
says where, you can say “I want to show you something” and take her to your place. You will have objections
along the way if he realizes your plan. You say “Well, you can't stay up that late, I need to get up early” and
then quickly change the subject. DON'T GET INTO A LOGICAL DEBATE. Keep leading her and change
the subject.

If she objects to you verbally but plays along physically (for example she says she shouldn't go with you but
you are walking hand in hand), this is a symbolic objection, but it can change to a de facto, real objection.

If she objects to you physically and verbally, for what you are doing, she is not going to come to your house
or do anything with you. Respect it and stop. If she objects to you only physically, but seems like she's
enjoying it, wants you to guide her, and isn't saying anything verbally, she's getting turned on. You can
continue. This is very risky so make sure you judged her correctly. If you are hurting her instead of just
controlling her physically, in my opinion that is also going too far even if she likes you.

Advanced:
The third type of girl is one who is not very sexual and would always react in horror at the mere thought of a
'dirty' night or sleeping with a guy so quickly. Connect to her on an emotional level. Have a little sexual
tension, just enough to generate attraction and avoid being taken as a friend.

Taking her back home won't be very difficult because you will build trust and you won't kiss her before she
arrives. You connect on all levels, then make an excuse to go somewhere quieter, more comfortable, and
where the drinks are cheaper to chat a little more. You need to talk about future plans with this girl, things you
can do together. If there are some objections, I try to avoid them with 'I want to show you where I live.'
Anyway…' You arrive at the house. You sit her on your bed.

You take out the wine. You give her time to get comfortable. After 5 minutes, go for a kiss. Remember that
you could have kissed her sooner because you have comfort, trust, connection and attraction, but you waited
to avoid the 'Oh I'm hot, let's go to my house' climate. The kiss has been 'exciting' and for a while so it's easy.

You kiss her, run your hand over her breasts. You scale very slowly and gently. You unhook her bra before
taking off her sweater. You touch her breasts over her bra. You touch her pussy over her panties before taking
it off. You put her hand on your penis because she won't do it herself. Any time you feel discomfort on their
part, back off, hold it there, and then escalate again. Have an excuse to go to bed (we'll be more comfortable).
Have an excuse to take off his clothes (it's hot). All while physically climbing. It's good that everything kind
of happened by accident. Once she is naked, she passes the point of no return and should be completely ready.

Girls will be much more willing to go home with you if you don't directly explain to them that you want to
have sex again. Of course, they will know this on some level but a much higher percentage of girls will sleep
with you simply by changing the phrase: 'Do you want to have sex with me again?' for 'Do you want to come
and have coffee?' Which makes it a little more likely. "Do you want to go somewhere more comfortable?" For
"Let's go somewhere else," it's even more likely.

The difference is that you are leading, not asking. It is easier for one to 'follow' than to commit to following.
For example: 'Let's dance' always works better than 'Would you like to dance?'

Tips:
Dirty dancing is generally good for getting into the mood, getting her comfortable with you physically etc.
You need to be confident and comfortable so that she feels the state, also treat her like a friend. Touch it with
familiarity.

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Logistics:
Is she able to leave her friends or is she taking them home or has other commitments? Is your house close to
theirs? It helps a lot if it is.

Getting Physical Quickly in Clubs - Solid Closings, Buyer's Remorse, etc.

When you're making good progress with a girl in a club and there's a lot of potential for things to get very
physical, there are different ways to play. You've probably heard of something called buyer's remorse, which
is when you escalate too quickly with a girl and then she looks for an excuse not to see you again. I can
illustrate this with an example of what happened to me:

I approached a very pretty girl in a club and we kissed very quickly, with very sexual touching, almost to the
point of getting kicked out. I decided to slow things down a little and stop, I took her hand and walked her
around and sat down. Along the way my friend stopped me for a photo and I stayed with him for a while, she
left with her friends. Finally she almost left the club without telling me, and was very reluctant about seeing
us again. It's all because she had kissed a boy she knew nothing about or had no connection to. If I wanted to
see her again, I didn't know her well, I was basing it solely on her appearance and exclusively for sex . This is
what she thought. If I had managed to sit down with her, and spend 20 minutes talking to her and discovering
things that we like, I would have been able to arrange a date. The other option would have been to be with her,
take her home, and then build comfort with breakfast in bed.

Basically, you have to do a couple of things if you make a very quick physical stopover and intend to see her
again: If there is no possibility of sleeping with her that same night (because she has to take friends home or
something like that) and you really like her, don't spend the whole night kissing her, lean back and talk, then
kiss her some more, then talk a little. Mix it well.

If you can sleep with her that night, do so and spend some quality time with her afterwards.

3rd Edition Update –

Guys, I sent a message to the girl in the story 9 months after this event. We recently started dating. So
here's the scoop - I called soon after that night and she wouldn't have the coffee. Now that we've seen each
other, she told me that she actually left the club after what happened because she felt bad for going too far
so quickly.

She also told me that she could have met me 2 weeks later, but not that soon. He also told me that if we
had had a conversation that night and been calmer, it would have been great. By the way, here was the text
message I sent:

"Hey, I'm sorry, I forgot our first anniversary! How did it go?"

She replied: “I think it hasn't been a good year. IM fine, how are you?"
Since I thought it was a lost cause and didn't care about the outcome I risked:

“Let's see each other tomorrow”

She wrote "Good"

And we agreed.

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Principles for the Message Game
Here are my rules for texting. These are the things I keep in mind when I'm chasing a girl. I used to break
them all and that's why I had so many crashes, now they rarely let me and it's because I show myself
alpha, not only in person, but also in text.

❖ Only one question mark per message.

❖ Your messages, unless canned, should be shorter than theirs.
❖ Use the " fire-and-forget " strategy - send the message, put the phone down, and do other things. If she
answers the message, there is no rush, don't rush to get the phone, take as much time as she took.
❖ When you write a message, wait 10 minutes before sending it, then go back and read it again and make
sure it's not embarrassing!
❖ If she asks a question to which you can only give a boring answer - what you did today, how are you, etc.,
you don't have to answer it. If they ask you multiple questions, don't answer them all.
❖ The best time to send a text message is when you are busy or on the way somewhere. This way it doesn't
look like you spent a lot of time writing it. That's why short is the best.
❖ Don't use emoticons , even if she does.
❖ Never send two in a row within 48 hours. If she doesn't answer, wait at least 5 days before trying again.
❖ Don't try to agree on a date in the first text, this is immediate death!
For a more complete guide on the text game, check out the work of my friends at P UA Training with
example messages, and this guide:
http://www.bristollair.com/outer-game/techniques/specifics/number-closing/ultimate-guide-to-text-
game.html

Telephone Game
Well, you now have the number and your goal is to turn it into a date. We don't want to rescue situations
here - it's much more difficult when you're not face to face, so the closure needs to be as strong as
possible.

Receptivity Detection
If you call after closing with a number, she may answer enthusiastically or not. If she answers
enthusiastically, you've connected. A couple of minutes of chatting and you can probably arrange a
meeting quite easily. If you call and she's a little cold or indifferent, try to be as interesting as possible, tell
a story, talk about cool things that have happened to you, and then end the call before she does. Don't try
to arrange a date. Let it be for a few days and call her again. Keep doing it until one day you call and she
is more receptive. She will wonder why you haven't asked her out but you keep talking about fun things
and interesting stories.

The rules
> If you call and get an answering machine, it's usually best to hang up and send a text.

> Always end the call first. If you sense that she is about to end the call, go ahead and say that you have to
leave.

> If you plan to call her in 3 days, don't say “I'll call you in 3 days” or “I'll call you on Thursday,” just say
“okay, I'll call you soon” and leave her wondering when that will be.

> The best time to call her will be when you're on your way to another appointment, when you're on the cusp
of a successful day at work, or when you've just done well at something. Thus, you will naturally sub-
communicate attractive qualities (busy, good energy, you have options, you are not needy, not dependent
on the outcome) that are very difficult to fake.

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> Don't plan the call to last 3 hours and do it from your bedroom in silence, better do it walking down the
street or on the way somewhere.

The structure
Here's how you should structure your telephone game. Once she is receptive, you should try doing the
following:

Re-establish the initial connection – use humor, show her that you remember things she told you and ask
about them (how was it at the zoo with your nephews?).
Put her in a positive and comfortable state (a first call after closing the phone at night is not very
comfortable).
Listen to their plans for next week.
Suggest something you can do together.
Arrange the logistics and make an appointment.
The conversation will last a little longer and then you will end the call first.

Skills of a Natural - F-Close in a Day-2

Most guys meet girls for dates after the phone closes and then find that the attraction has completely faded, or
at the very least they go on a few dates before getting physical with the girl. Meeting them for lunch or coffee
during the day are mistakes. There is an 80% chance of closing on a first date, even with a 5-minute phone
call.

You need an outline for these quotes. Your goal should be to sleep with her as quickly as possible. Whether
you just want her for something casual or to be your girlfriend. Either way, you should sleep with her quickly.
If you want casual relationships, you achieve your goal quickly. If you want a girlfriend, this makes things a
lot less complicated. So how do you do it? There are a few essential principles. Meet her at night. There is
more sexual climate so you can do it. Find somewhere close to where you live, preferably within walking
distance. I can fix this with a girl by saying: "Let's meet in Covent Garden, what time is best for you, 8 or 9
pm?" The question offers an illusory choice on a point that is irrelevant to me in terms of outcome.

When you meet her, the most important thing is to treat her as if she were your girlfriend. Kiss her on the
cheek, hold her hand or put your arm around her, and lead her away from the date location. Remember that if
she goes on the date, she is attracted to you. By treating her like your girlfriend, you basically trigger all the
feelings inside her associated with guys she's been dating for years. You touch her like her ex-boyfriends. You
are comfortable and she will be comfortable too. When you are uncomfortable and nervous, she will be too.

When you get to the place, let her sit first and then sit next to her. You will be in danger of losing sexual
tension if you sit in front. In terms of conversation, mix playfulness, banter, sexual tension and build comfort.
For my appointments, I take her to a place that closes at 11:00 Pm, so it is natural to leave and then take her to
my house. If you don't have a place like that, you can say, “ Let's go somewhere else,” and take her. When
you walk down the street, don't talk about where you're taking her. If she asks directly, you can say, “ Let's go
to a more comfortable place where the drinks are cheaper” or “I'm going to show her where I live.” You can
also have an excuse to take her home, like Juggler “Come and watch my cat do jumping jacks.” backward."

The key here is to distract her immediately; ask or talk about something else. “Hey, did you see that new
movie?” So you keep carrying it and walking. If she objects verbally but still hangs out with you, don't take
part in the logical debate. Remember that a woman has a logical mind and an emotional mind. Your emotional
mind is expressed by your body and your logical mind by what you say. It distracts your logical mind.
When you get home, sit her down (on your bed if possible!) and give her some space. Don't go for it right
away. You must do some crucial things, such as showing him that you have self-control. This builds trust and
she will feel more comfortable with you.

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After a few minutes, he gets into the seductive mood again and builds some tension before kissing her; This
will make the kiss more passionate and turn her on. Kiss, for a little. If she's not in your bedroom, give her a
tour; Prepare something in your room so you can watch together, and do it sitting in bed. Slowly intensify. He
kisses her neck and nibbles her ear. He touches her breasts under her shirt, then you take it off. You undo her
bra without removing it completely. He touches her ass with her pants on and her pussy in the same way.
When she is hot and horny, unbutton her pants and pull them down. From there you should sail under full sail.

If you receive an objection, take a step back and try again later - then it should be ready without any problems.

Day Game
Day game and night game are different and you will probably have your preferences. There are benefits and
drawbacks to both one and the other. Day game means the game outside of bars and clubs. Includes street
play, shops, gym, public transportation, etc. It has many benefits and differences compared to night gaming.
The day game allows you to approach girls who are in their own environment (they probably won't be there at
night). They are not usually used to this situation, so they will not have the shield activated.

You will be perceiving the real person, most people adopt the club personality. You will be sober and being
yourself, any number you get in the day game is much more solid. Girls usually regret closing numbers at
clubs because they were drunk. The approaches in the daytime game are the opposite, they are actually
romantic, a nice story to tell your friends or your future children. Telling your friends that you are meeting the
guy who talked to you at the post office is much better than “the guy I met at a bar on Friday night.”

The problem with day game is that the girls you approach will be harder to hook up with. Girls during the day
are doing something, they are hanging around somewhere, waiting for someone, buying something or doing
training. You can open any group that is in a bar and hold it for a minute, it shouldn't be much of a problem. A
girl walking down the street will only stop if you have a good reason to do so (the opener about whether you
should dye your hair blonde/brunette don't do it) and it will take you a lot longer to distract her from what she
was doing.

Dayplay is a more advanced skill because it works best when you use something spontaneous and
circumstantial to start the conversation. The canned material, opinion openers, routines and magic tricks seem
a little strange during the day. The day game is more focused on your skills in maintaining a natural
conversation and your personality. And another aspect against the day game is that it is difficult to climb with
kino. A kiss closure in one minute in the day game or sex in the same encounter is an advanced level skill.

When you start the day game, we expect it to be more difficult to get a good response directly from the
opener. Remember , these women do things, they are having lunch, taking a train, shopping. This doesn't look
like a pub where they are having a conversation with friends. It is not a sociable environment, they do not
expect to be approached. In a big city, they are often bothered by charity workers, beggars, advertising
deliverers and they are used to rejecting all these people.
I remember walking home one day when a guy said “£50 for a 30 minute survey” and I said no straight away.
Then I started thinking, “what would the survey be about?” I was so used to

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say “no thanks” that I rejected a good offer out of hand. Anthony P and I once tried to give an envelope
with more than $5,000 to passersby, we only tried for 30 seconds, but no one would accept it.

So don't expect to be greeted with a big happy smile when you open your mouth, you should work hard for
a few minutes to warm things up and get them to commit to the interaction. This doesn't mean they are rude,
you would do the same.

During the day you will find sets of varying difficulty. You will have girls waiting for someone, others
walking somewhere, women shopping, etc. With a girl who is standing, it is good to even use an opinion
opener, it is easier to hook and harder to be rejected. Stopping a moving set is more difficult because they
are doing something.

Here's how you can do it, the hardest skill of all:

When you are a few meters away, you have to telegraph your intention, and you do this:

• Eye contact with her.

• Make a curious face as if you are going to ask him something.
• Raise your palm slightly toward her to subtly show her the “stop a second” sign.

If you wait until it's three feet away, it won't stop. You have to release your opener when she is further
away than you to give her time to stop. More tips:

• You need a pre-opener. Use “Hey” or something similar and don't “excuse me” because you don't want her
to think you want something from her like all the street workers. Don't release your opener too quickly.
• If possible, get her to stop walking when you say, “Hey… I have to ask you a quick question.” If you
quickly throw your opener, he's more likely to walk along as if listening to you and then give you a quick
response over his shoulder.
• If your targets don't stop, you need more energy (see the section on energy levels) and you have to open
them when they are still further away.
• If your sets don't engage, you have to do most of the talking after the opener, transitioning to another
question, an observation, or something circumstantial. Once they're invested in the interaction, you can
move on to more personal things and lead it toward an end.

Structure of a Day Game

The day game is different from the night game as I have already pointed out. The first thing that's different
is that the structure is much simpler.
Open - Hook - Connect - Close

Your opener is the first thing you say and it counts if you get a response. Hooking is when she stops
walking or whatever she's doing and stops to address you. Hooking up is when she wants to see you again.
In day play, you only require that she feel comfortable with you and enjoy the interaction. Sexual tension,
kino, attraction builders, etc. It's really optional. Having a pleasant daytime interaction with a stranger is
very rare, so you don't have to work very hard to get a solid closure. Closure only requires one simple thing
- a reason to see each other again.

Objective and Structure of a Day Game

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→ Staying on the initial topic too long.
→ Do not close (leaving too soon)
→ Ask too many questions.
→ Take things personally right away.

The diagram below illustrates a structured Day Game interaction. According to an indirect initial method.

It begins with an opener that is generally impersonal. Asking a niece for directions or a gift recommendation is
impersonal to her so that she feels comfortable taking part in the interaction with a stranger. The opener will be
good if he can hook her and get her involved.

After the opener, the goal is to talk for the first minute with affirmations based on the opener or other similar
topics and then take the interaction more and more personal. By staying on the initial topic for too long, you
will make the interaction alien and it will become more and more difficult to move things towards more
interesting topics and transition. As soon as you have her engaged in the interaction, it's time to move away
from the initial topic. It is time to address increasingly personal topics. This could be done with personal
introductions, asking what she does or where she goes, and questions that elicit information about her.

This part of the conversation would still need to be structured correctly so that there is an attempt to connect,
rather than asking one question after another.
The next job is to close the phone and find something you can do together. Some examples:

PUA: Do you like to dance?

Her: Yes

PUA: Have you tried the Salsa.

Her: No, although I would like to.
PUA: Ah well, well, I go to Salsa class on Wednesdays, you should come!
Her: Yes it seems fun.

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PUA: Well, give me your number and I'll give you the details.

PUA: What do you like to do when you don't work?

Her: I like visiting art galleries and museums.
PUA: That's good, have you seen the Michelangelo exhibition at the National Gallery?
Her: Not yet, but I had thought about going.
PUA: Well, I was going to go one day too, let's go together.
Her: Okay, great.
PUA: We could meet on a Tuesday or Friday afternoon. Would one of those days work for you?
Her: I'm free on Friday .
PUA: Cool, let's do it, what's the best way to get in touch with you?
Her: I'll give you my number.

PUA: do you go out to clubs?

Her: Yes sometimes.
PUA: I'm invited to some really good parties, you should go out with us sometime, bring your friends too.
Her: Yes good.
PUA: Cool, give me your number and I'll give you a call before the weekend.

PUA: What are you doing?

Her: I shop
PUA: do you apply fashion to your accessories?
Her: Without a doubt!
PUA: Well, I went to a fashion consultant and they gave me some great ideas. Next time you go shopping, I
could join you for an hour and help you get some new clothes.
Her: Okay.
PUA: Cool, give me your number and we can fix it.

Sometimes it doesn't happen that the closure is due to such a natural conversation and sometimes a hook from
before can be used to close later. For example, you could find out that he likes shopping, art galleries, and sushi
within the first 2 minutes. And then 5 minutes later, you can use any of these things to drive smoothly to the
end. The time in between that you were developing a stronger connection only increases your comfort and
makes the closure more solid.

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Complete Day Game Example

The following is an example, from open to close with several possible responses. Remember that this is just an
outline and ideally there will be room for jokes or conversations in a different direction. This is more an
example of structure that does not take into account what they say in response to your opener, you can still
follow the seduction and close.

Hey do you know where Trafalgar Square is?

Yeah NO

Are you sure? They have sent me before Seriously, are you a tourist?
around that place and I walked around for half
an hour. I can really tell if someone is lying huh. Yeah.
Come on, look at me and let me ask you again,
where is Trafalgar Sq? Hmm, you look Swedish, am I wrong?

It's over there. But.

(Use the country hook to connect if possible or make a

Okay, I can tell you that you are telling the truth. statement.)
Since you know where you're going, I should
definitely hire you as my guide. Can you help me What's the best thing you've done so far in London?
with something else... I'm meeting my friend in a
while, is there any place around here that makes BLA bla.
good homemade Italian cuisine? All I've seen so
far are tourist restaurants. Oh, I have/haven't. It's funny, when you live in one place
you never do all the things

BLA bla. (At this point, I hope you've connected tourist.

with the set and are comfortable talking to each
other. The next step is How long are you going to stay here?
take things to personal terms and lead towards
closure). BLA bla.

What were you girls doing?

Bla bla bla

My name is Richard. And yours?

Do you like to go out at night partying?

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Cool because I'm meeting my friend and I think we'll go to a pub later. I'm not sure of
where it is, but it sounded good when he told me, you should come.

(At this point, gauge receptivity, they may or may not go...if they do.)

Great, so you give me your number and I'll send you a message with the details.

Phone Shutdown in Day Game

A lot of guys ask me things like “how much should I be on set?” and “how do you close with a number for
the day?”

Let's get to the first question. You stay on set until you feel like you have enough connection/attraction to
be sure she'll want to see you again. The idea is that you open up as soon as she engages in the interaction,
shift into connection mode, and move toward closure.

An important issue is that the point at which you can get a phone call is not the same as the point at which
you can get a date with this girl. She might gladly give you her number, but then you may be left hanging
on the date. There are different levels:

Hook point: She is comfortable talking to you and does so for at least a while.

Email Closing: She doesn't feel comfortable giving out her number, but is happy to give you her email. She
might also take your number when you suggest taking hers.

Telephone Shutdown: You are able to get the number when you suggest it.

The Date Closing: When she is excited to meet you on a date, she goes after you and tries to set it up, or
shows a lot of IDI's.

What you will see from the above is that if you manage to close with a number, this does not necessarily
mean that you are going to turn it into a date. Some kids only convert their numbers 10% of the time, while
others convert their numbers 100% of the time. When you're looking for closure, there's a checklist of
things that will show you how to turn it into a date:

V You set the appointment or next meeting right there to do a specific activity on a specific day.
V She takes your number after you have taken hers or you make a loss.

V There are some attractions/IDI's on your part.

V She asks if you always do this (pick up women on the street), if you are single or another type of IDI.
V You can predict that when she is challenged by her friends, she will know some things about you and will be
able to paint you in a more positive light. She'll be pretty sure of your image if they say it's a bad idea to see
you. This means time and connection.

If you can check all of these boxes, you will be in a very strong position and the likelihood of her leaving
you hanging will be very low. To keep this to a minimum, you can ensure yourself with as solid a
companion game as possible.

Something that will help you be successful is to understand the diagram below. There are different levels to
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lot more pressure than asking her to go to a party with his friends (high versus the low difficulty level at the
end). Therefore, you will have to put in a lot less work and play to get closure if you only invite her to a
party.

The filter you can apply to this: when she is sitting at home with her friends and you send her a text
message, how happy will she feel to receive that message, and what will her friends say about the date? If
you've spent 5 minutes with her, the chance of meeting you is less likely to go to a party with you and her
friends. If you have the date instantly, and you spent an hour with her, then seeing each other is much more
likely.

There is no advantage in rushing the ending, and the number does not in any way mean that it is solid.

Advanced and Optional Techniques

The Game with Wing
Your wing is when you work together with a friend to meet women. This can greatly increase your chances.
If you are alone you can approach solitary girls, and groups to try to isolate your target. But it can be
complicated sometimes, especially when you start. If you have a wing, when you approach a couple of girls
you can isolate almost immediately, and you don't need the ability to maintain a large group for long.
Together you should achieve more. Sometimes one of you will have to target girls you won't be attracted to,
but it all balances out. There are several ways to work with wing, some of the best approaches are:

1. You stand close to the girls, have fun together and react to what the other says, then you open up to the girls
spontaneously: “No way! Hey girls, do I look gay? “He told me I look gay in this shirt!”
2. One of you approaches and opens the entire group; the other friend wanders around until the group is
hooked. If you are a couple of girls, you can both isolate. With a larger group, one should entertain the rest
while the other isolates the target. This could be the one that opened or the one that comes in next.
3. With a mixed group, I have found that it is best to open up to the men first and become friends with them.
As this continues, the wing moves in and takes the target. The guy who opens the group does the hardest
job – so he should have the first choice on which girl he wants!

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Other things that wings can do:

Show-off presentation: “This is my friend, he has the coolest job - he lives at the bottom of the sea!” What
it does is present the friend as someone interesting. If he did it himself, it would look fake, but if his partner
does it, it looks good.

Where's Michelle?: A PUA named Toecutter showed up with this. The wingman goes to the group and
asks if they have seen Michelle. He turns to leave; then you reappear on set with “Hi, I'm Michelle, how are
you?”

Codewords: You can create a code with your wing: for example, to change locations (“I like this song”),
take the girls home (“Do you want some candy?”), identify your target (“ this is my problem"), etc.

The importance of having fun with your wing in a non-club environment:

Do fun competitive activities - sports, computer games, bowling. Do high-energy things together. If your
only connection is hunting for girls, it won't be as interesting. Having fun stories to tell together is more
interesting for the holidays.

Structure on the Dance Floor

I've been trying to structure different areas of flirting with a flexible framework so that whatever happens
your style can still fit into a structure without becoming robotic. You can see this in my day-game structure
above. That can apply to more than 90% of situations during the day and is the closest we are going to get
to a universal structure while being very simple.
I have seen kids try the game on the dance floor and I have learned some lessons.

Guys make a number of mistakes on the dance floor, like trying to address the girl and being too verbal,
and this doesn't work very well. Sometimes they end up dancing in front of her and it doesn't escalate from
there and she leaves. Here's the process for climbing a dance floor into a kiss:

1. Non-Verbal Opener (shock/eye contact/gestures/other non-verbal recognition).

2. Dance in front of her for 20 seconds, maintaining eye contact 90% of the time.

3. Go ahead and introduce yourself looking for a verbal exchange (20 seconds maximum). This will tell her
that you are now in an interaction and she won't walk away, she knows that you are trusting enough to
approach her.

4. Dance in front of her again and after a little while offer your hands. Pick it up to dance and spin it around.
Maintain eye contact.

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5. Now that we have some progress, and we want to close with a kiss, we need things to slow down. Clubs
don't play music with a seductive rhythm, it's too fast. That's not necessary for me to stop you. You are
leading the dance at a certain speed to gradually get a little closer, maintain 100% eye contact .

6. To climb from this position into the kiss is easier since 90% of the work is done. Only one or two more
steps are required. You can try stroking her hair or kissing her on the cheek and then move on to her lips, or
if you see that she's ready just go straight for the kiss.

Have fun dancing, don't try to get close to a woman. Have fun with yourself, enjoy the music. When you
are the man having a good time on the dance floor, you are immediately standing out from the other men.
Women walk away from all the other strange guys to gather around you.

Then you can: Imitate the girl's dance, exaggerating it in a fun way, establish eye contact and a strong
interest, dance separately, with your gestures get her to notice your movements, a silly movement with the
chest and keep her expectant. At the edge of the dance floor with the girls who don't stay dancing, you can
say, “Do you like to dance?” If she says yes, say “salsa?” and the moment you say it you take it and start
sauce with it. With four kinds of salsa you will know the basic steps, everything you need to know.

Tagging and Disarming - Interactions with Other Kids

Maguear is the process of putting another man in an inferior position to yours. (MAG is the Alpha Male of the
Group) You subtract “alphability” to look better. Or obviously, the leader of the men is more attractive to
women, so this increases your chances of hooking up. You have to have a higher status than the others. I don't
agree with this tactic, but it's okay to be aware of it when someone outside tries to do it to you:

· Patting him on the back and throwing your arm around him are two ways to physically bully a guy.
· Shake hands like an Alpha – when you shake hands, shake from the top down and bend your hand to the side
so that your palm is on top. As an added insult, grab his elbow while shaking and then pat him on the back.
· Use Tyler Durden's “ Hey, that's a great shirt, look at those cool stripes, my mom bought me one of those in
high school and with similar variations . ”
· Don't answer the questions he asks you.
· Ignore him and continue talking to the girls if he tries to say something.
· Stand between him and the girls and turn your back to him.
· He might ask about your job, your clothes, or something you do, or something else in order to say ' I'm richer
than you ' or ' I'm tougher than you' . If he does something like that, you should say ' oh no, it's really cheap',
'oh you're much stronger than me' . He won't know what to say and will look stupid.
· If the guy talks about how cool he is, agree with him, and say something like ' wow, you must be proud of
yourself.'
· If he really looks cool and alpha say ' girls, look at what a cool guy, how he's standing with his feet spread
and that James Bond look on his face' . He will become self-conscious and lose his composure.

Disarmament
Disarming is the process of being friends with a guy within a group or otherwise bringing up the threat of him
ruining your interaction with the girl. It is a much better tactic than maguear. To disarm, you can open the guy
up first, give him several compliments and make him feel good, then ask him how he knows girls, make him
work on your behalf by introducing you to the girls. Guys rarely get compliments so it's easy to do it and
make them like you. Playing with guys is easier than with women!

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find out who he's related to among the girls. If he's your target's boyfriend, and you want to leave, it's always
good to ask how long you've been dating. Make them feel good before you leave. You don't want to be the
guy who walks away when he's told the girl isn't single.

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Intense Sexual Escalation - Detecting a Woman's Sensitivity

How do you handle the super-rapid sexual escalation? That one that blows your mind? Kiss a girl during the
day after two minutes, or in the club after ten seconds? How do you take a girl home after five minutes? The
answer is intense sexual escalation.

Most guys go for the kiss or sex when it's obvious. They hope it's as clear as day. Let's say a girl is ready to be
kissed after 3 minutes. I will kiss the girl after 3 minutes. Other guys wait until 6,10, 20 minutes or never kiss
her. By pushing the border, you learn exactly where it is. Sometimes it will be too soon, but it is the only way
to learn where you are. All the guys who play it safe miss the moment when girls' minds shift and turn. To feel
it, you have to know at what point it is open to the next stage of the climb. Otherwise, it's all guesswork or
waiting for something very obvious. The added benefit is that you will learn to force the signals that she is
ready, because you know what you have done in the past. In the end, everything becomes intuitive and helps
you project your energy.

Handling Objection and Boyfriend

In your mission to attract, you are going to get a lot of objections from girls. How you deal with these is very
important. Many objections are just tests to see if you are a great man. It is more a matter of showing an
attitude than learning routines or phrases. But by looking at these examples, you can develop the right mental
framework to come up with your own objection responses.

HB: “I have a boyfriend.”

PUA: “Cool, you can make us breakfast in bed” or
PUA: “What do you have a bull?” And where does he graze, in the countryside?
PUA: “Well, it will entertain you when I am busy.” either
PUA: “Excellent, you can go out with my girlfriend when we are together.” either
PUA: “Barbarian. Anyway… (continues seducing).

I hold you responsible to know that you should not ruin relationships lightly. You will be treading dangerous
ground. Personally, I haven't ruined any relationships, and I don't have girls who hate me for it. This moral
means I have less sex than I could under the circumstances, but I can genuinely say that I love girls and don't
want to hurt them unnecessarily. Having said that, there are several types of girls with boyfriends:

The first type of girl acts as if she is single. You can ask her if she has a boyfriend and she will say yes.
However, he expresses interest in you and shows no remorse in what he does. He's obviously not in a
relationship that matters to him.

The second type shows signs of interest but feels guilty, and will usually act nervous and unpredictable
because they don't want to cheat on their partner. This girl is not in an amazing relationship but she likes the
guy and has morals. She can easily be persuaded by slowly building comfort and taking her away from the
topic. If you take this girl, you need to consider that what you do is the right thing because unlike the previous
girl, she probably wouldn't cheat on him with just any guy.

The third type is the rarest of all. I had to approach hundreds of girls before I found this one. The girl has fun
with you, laughs and has good interaction BUT there is no sexual tension or indicators of interest. He doesn't
look at you that way, so you could be gay or a girl. The reason you can do this is that you are in a very solid
relationship. You know that no man can show you in 30 minutes what his boyfriend has had to do in months
or years of being together. Even if you're handsome, funny, and tick all the boxes, she's not thinking about
those things at all. This is a very pretty girl and you want one for yourself when you are in a relationship.
They are rare and you will not find them in many bars.

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and make very accurate assumptions about the relationship.
I remember one approach where she told me that she had a boyfriend and I told her “and I have a girlfriend
and she's not here” and then I said “come” and kissed her. He slapped me gently and told me it was bad, then
he came and kissed me.

Another time, I was with a girl who showed a lot of interest but seemed very nervous.
It didn't make sense and then I realized – she had a boyfriend but she wanted me! I told him this, I did a good
cold reading - 'Two months of relationship, you like him but not too much, when you're with him you enjoy it
but you don't think about him too much' - He recognized it and we got hooked.

One time, I was talking to a really hot girl, I played an amazing game, I had a lot of positive responses, but
there was no sexual element. I simply said 'You have a boyfriend, right?' and he also recognized it to me.
Students have seen me steal a girl from a date at a bar as a demonstration, but in a situation like this I won't do
it anymore, unless it's the girl of my dreams.

Rude responses
If a girl is very abrupt, leaves you blank or perhaps her friends are very aggressive, there are only 2 ways to
handle this situation. You can turn the situation around with a comment like, “Wow, you're so cute when you
get angry” or “Hey, is she your bodyguard?” You should take her to one of those positions with the big rugby
guys and make her turn everyone down” or “Wow, that was great, I'm going to write it down in my personal
achievement book” Or you can just be silent and walk away. I never recommend being rude or insulting girls,
no matter what you do. A girl has the right not to talk to you. You still have the right to have a bad mood
sometimes, or hate men or whatever. It's better to give her this than to hate her for doing it. Love women,
enjoy the good interactions you have with them and don't let the bad ones bother you.

Verbal Intensification
Often, you will be able to climb only physically with the kino, to get your first kiss closure. But you can also
use verbal escalation to get her in the mood and get some sexual tension. Most kids don't do it or don't do it
well. Here are some routines and lines you can use:

• “Great, you're my new girlfriend.”

• “I think you're imagining kissing me.” This is good, because you don't ask if she wants to kiss you, but if
she responds positively the kiss will come on its own. If she wasn't imagining kissing you, she certainly
will later. Look at his lips! Then you could say, “ Okay, now you can do it.”
• “(Taking her pulse) I knew, you are attracted to me.”
• When you're having a conversation, stop, look at her tits. Examine them shamelessly. When she asks you,
“ What are you doing?” or some wake-up call, you put your finger on it as a 'wait' sign, then you look up
and say, “Okay, continue.”
• " What is your favorite fruit? “W ow, I’ve never eaten (strawberries) with a naked woman before!”
• “The other day, in the chat I read that a guy said to a girl: I imagine riding you all night, even though I still
don't know anything about you…”
• “How much would you like to kiss me?”
• “On a scale of one to ten, how naughty or mischievous is your mind?”
• “If there were a kissing school, what grade would you get? Let's find out !”

NLP to seduce
Using NLP in seduction consists of using language in a particular way to generate attraction, create
connection, evoke feelings in the woman and relate them to you.

Get Emotions
The key to effectively using quick seduction is to arouse emotions in the woman. A woman who feels nothing
when she is with you will not be easy to win. The quickest way to make a girl feel something is to bring up

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memories from the past that she has a strong emotional connection to. Doing this is easier than creating them
from scratch. How should you do it?
Asking things like:

• Do you remember the last time you were in love?

• Have you ever been completely comfortable with a man you trusted?
• Could you imagine what it would be like to have someone to love completely and totally?
• When was the last time you had amazing sex?
• When was the last time you felt like you were in a dream?

Anchorage
Anchoring is the act of linking something, usually a touch, to a particular feeling of the girl. In theory you can
trigger the anchored sensation again in the future by triggering the anchor again. When the girl reaches the
climax of the particular emotion, touch her in a certain place, for example her elbow, so that when you want to
provoke those emotions again you will have to touch her in the same place with the same pressure.

Match and Mirror

When you are with your close friends, you will do things like use the same slang, gesture in the same way,
and speak at a similar pace. By spending time with these people you will achieve a rapport with them. You
may initially approach them because of their similarity to you. You can artificially create this with a stranger,
creating a feeling of intimacy towards you and a lot of comfort with you. To achieve this objective it
equals/reflects:

• Voice speed – speaks at the same speed.

• Tone of voice – imitates the tone of voice.
• Posture – imitate the same way they get up or sit down.
• Gestures –copy the gestures.
• Frequent words – if they say “fantastic” a lot, integrate it into your vocabulary.
• Match your breathing rhythm.

Rhythm and direction

Rhythm and direction is the art of matching the mood or state of a person and then leading him to another
state. If people are tired and you approach with high energy, they will not follow you. It is best to match their
low energy state for a moment, and then slowly raise your own mood and they will follow you. In addition,
people with low energy, rhythm and direction can be used subtly to redirect a girl with a bad temper or to
relax someone who is stressed.

Embedded commands

Embedded commands involve the use of sentences within sentences that act on the girl's subconscious toward
a specific goal. The words are emphasized with a subtle change in intonation that is only registered by the
girl's subconscious. An example of this would be: “Have you ever felt completely relaxed ? Now I have
discovered that…” This phrase will guide the girl to "feel completely relaxed" and will not be rejected
because it is hidden within a longer sentence.

Patterns
Seduction patterns are written fragments of expressions that are designed to guide a girl in a particular
direction and usually combine all of the above elements to produce a powerful effect. An example of a pattern
would be:

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Has it ever happened to you that you just met someone and immediately you start to feel incredibly
comfortable as if you had known this person forever, that you have put aside the barriers and allowed them
to get deeper into you and you begin to naturally feel a sense of well-being , as if it were predestined?

NLP patterns can be used effectively in almost any interaction, but are preferable in a quiet environment with
few distractions or when you are in a comfortable situation with each other.

Cold Reading
Why is this such a powerful technique? Everyone loves to be told things about themselves. Women are
especially susceptible to this; palmists will tell you that a large percentage of their clients are women. Cold
readings can be learned in five minutes and women will go crazy for this. It also builds good rapport because
you are showing understanding. A woman who thinks she has finally found someone who understands her
will feel very happy.

As far as I know there are two ways to do this. You can buy tons of books on the subject or read this, practice
and be better than most professional “mediums”.

Truisms
The first thing you could do is use statements that enough people would agree with. Here are some examples:

• “You are generally with people, because you like to be with others and you enjoy being around people.”
what do you like. But sometimes you feel like you need to be alone with your thoughts and have time to
yourself without interruptions.”

• “You know how to trust and I will tell you that maybe you are a little more honest than most people.”

• “You're usually happy with how things are going, but sometimes you wonder if you should give up.”
“Take a chance and try something completely different, the kind of thing that would surprise people who have
known you for a long time.”

• “You feel that you have many abilities to develop. People don't always trust you
skills. Some of your desires and goals tend to be lofty and unrealistic. You are genuine and independent. You
no longer conform to what people tell you to believe. You seek to discover your own reasons for making a
decision.”

As you can see these are things that you can already handle and that most people will give the thumbs up to.
Adapt them to their vocabulary and way of speaking. It is the idea that is communicated, that does not sound
prepared. Women are more susceptible to these things than men so if you think it wouldn't work on you,
chances are it won't work on the girl.

The power of “But” and “And”

The second method of cold reading is the one I prefer. Used in conversations where you tell things about her
in a 50/50 ratio. You start with point of view A and if you think you're wrong, you put it away before they
notice and tell her how much like B they are and you develop B so much to the point that they forget you ever
mentioned A.

Let me give you an example of how I use it in a seduction:

“I think you're very open and like meeting new people (shows disapproval), but on the other hand, it's not too
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getting to know people and having deep conversations. More than the casual chatter you find yourself
engaging in when you're in a large group. It seems to me that you also enjoy being on your own like when you
are alone with your thoughts. And you come back renewed with clear ideas about what you are doing.”

Okay, regarding the above, you start with a 50/50 chance of success. In fact, with other tracks it will increase
a lot. But assume a 50/50 chance of either getting it right the first time or making a first mistake. If you make
a mistake, use the word but or use something similar and give it a radical change. It works correctly because
you use the word “AND” to add more and more details to then give the image that you have gotten close to
95% correct but in fact each additional point is a continuation of the first correct one.

Topics for cold reading.

You can divide people in half, in attitudes like these:
· Introvert extrovert.
· Politics: left/right
· Like for physical activity/no.
· Creative/Analytical.
· Emotional/logical.
· Confident/ distrustful.
· Beliefs in paranormal phenomena/Science.
There are hundreds of examples. Using the above and practicing is the best way to learn. In a seminar, we can
usually teach you the skills of cold reading in just 20 minutes.

Push & Pull

It is a great attraction technique, as it accomplishes a couple of things:

· It places you with a high value. Other guys wouldn't dare to do this.
· You ride it on a roller coaster of emotions, a necessary ingredient for a great Pick Up.
Here are some examples of lines that you can use to cause this effect:

“You're like my little sister's brat.

“Do you have friends who are hot?”
“Do you want to buy me a drink?”
“You're too young/old for me.”

"Oh! You're asking me a lot of questions. Do you want my resume?”

“You are a good girl with bad manners.”
“You are a bad girl with good manners.”
“Normally I'd be attracted to you, but I think you're acting this cool to get me to buy you a drink.”
“The first impression of you is surprising, but in reality…”
“You're the coolest girl I've talked to...in the last fifteen minutes.”
“You're cool...you can help me pick up some chicks.”

Game on the dance floor

Do you know how to seduce girls on the dance floor? If you don't know, you are limiting yourself. There are
tons of girls who love to dance that you won't be able to get close to. My philosophy has been that I can
seduce any girl I am attracted to on any occasion, place and situation. As someone who had two left feet, I felt
uncomfortable in clubs and was very shy so playing on the dance floor was not easy. Now I know how to
dance a little – at least enough, but the important fact is that I don't cut myself short and I have fun dancing
and I really enjoy it!

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There are some ways to seduce a girl on the dance floor, it will always be more of a numbers game because it
is based on a direct non-verbal game. You want to differentiate yourself from the rest of the guys on the dance
floor. They're doing a couple of things you shouldn't be doing. These are:

- They remain around the girls looking at them up and down without dancing.
- They make a pathetic attempt at dancing, without following the music, just trying to get close to a girl.
- They try to rub against the girl's ass.

Here are a couple of things you can do to flirt on the dance floor:

→ Have fun dancing, don't try to get close to a woman. Have fun with yourself, enjoy the music. When you
are the man having a good time on the dance floor, you are immediately standing out from the other men.
Women will walk away from all the other strange looking guys to gather around you.
Then you can; imitate the girl's dance, exaggerating it in a fun way, establishing eye contact and strong
interest, dancing separately, with your gestures get her to notice your movements, a silly movement with your
chest and keep her expectant. At the edge of the dance floor with the girls who don't stay dancing, you can
say, “Do you like to dance?” If she says yes, say “salsa?” and the moment you say it you take it and start
sauce with it. With four classes of salsa you will know the basic steps, everything you need to know. You can
maintain a kino-escalation from the salsa opener.

The goal on the dance floor is to dance with them, do some kino-climbing, and get them to a quieter area
where you can talk.

Cross the Velvet Cord - Tricks to Get on the Guest List!

Okay, so you can get into the semi-exclusive clubs and also the places where you meet someone, but how do
you get into parties with celebrities? The first thing you should know about these things is that there are
normal citizens, they are not just full of models, millionaires and celebrities. Club owners and managers will
have a guest list and will often be key promoters. But, let's assume that you are none of them. How do you get
in? Here are my four secret methods revealed:

1. The person with the clipboard is at the door, you approach and give him the name Ben Harris +1. He
checks his list and while he does you look at the list. It tells you that you are not on the list. You make a quick
phone call and come back and tell him you're really XX – a name you saw on the list. This one will work in
limited cases.

2. You are outside the line, near the entrance, the person with the clipboard faces the line at a 90º angle to
the street. If you go to the door, he will ask you what you want. But, if you're on the phone, you'll be able to
get away with it. Show him something from your phone while you check the people on the list. Skim some
names and then get in line and use them.

3. Many clubs use markers to mark people who are going to smoke. You can buy a UV pen or whatever
they use at the club on Ebay. Walk around the entrance when people come and smoke (use the prank call),
find out what mark they are putting on their hands (could be a letter). Go away and put the signs in your hand,
waste a little time outside and then come in - this works best at busy times. If they use a seal, you can get
someone to press their hand against yours to transfer the seal.

4. Method four is the most unpleasant. You get in line. When you are approximately 3 minutes away
from entering, you ask your companion or a friendly person in line to save your place. You walk away from
the queue as if you were writing a text message. You pick a guy and look at him surprised “Hey buddy, how
are you doing?!” “We are not friends,” he says. “What's your name? I'm sure I know you!” “Bill” “Hmmm,

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Bill, maybe, what's your last name?” “Fraser.” “I definitely think I know you, I never forget a face, I'll see you
inside.” Finish your text, return to the queue, when they ask your name, say “Bill Fraser.”

Facebook game
Well, it's not exactly pure online gaming. I don't work on that subject, I think it's not the way to do things
well, you stay within your comfort zone and it takes a surprising amount of time. I really use Facebook
though. When you close with number , there are different levels of connection:

1. It's so solid you know you'll see it again.

2. You think there is potential but it could leave you hanging.
3. You are not in a position to get a solid close.

If you close and then add Facebook, something interesting will happen. First you need good profile photos,
mine have photos of me from all over the world, photos of me with pretty girls, photos of me with a black belt
in martial arts (my cousins), flying on a plane, with a puppy, etc. . This way , they're definitely going to look
at all of this when they add me. This builds intrigue, connection and value. In a couple of weeks, see when I
add new photos, when I meet other friends, etc. We are almost in a SOCIAL CIRCLE. She sees my face every
day when she logs into her friend list, she knows what I'm doing, it's better than a diary. This way , after a few
days, she is prepared for some messages and maybe even an invitation to a night out with a bunch of people.
Often she will initiate contact. I have received noticeably different responses from girls I have closed and
added to Facebook.

Online Dating Profile

I haven't put much energy into online dating. I've only met one girl online and I prefer to focus on live
situations. I really get a lot of questions about this type of dating so I've spent a little time creating a killer
profile.
This profile employs many principles of the game and claims to attract women. Here it is:
“She knows what she wants and is not afraid to go for it, she likes her man to be a man, but still able to
show his emotions. Balance is important to her, she works hard but doesn't use up all her energy. He
enjoys the pleasant things in life, but he is also spiritual and is not obsessed with the pursuit of material
goods. She wants a man in her life, but she doesn't need him. Together you will do more things than
separately. Enjoy the simple things in life, as well as being spontaneous. He likes to travel to distant
places, relax on sandy beaches under a hot sun and then relax in the sea, although he copes well with the
hustle and bustle of a city, this contrast and balance is part of his character. She is focused and content,
but she cares about the people who are important to her. She is kind and considerate and likes to take
care of people who have earned her trust. She wants a man who understands her, who doesn't have to say
what he wants, he just knows it. A man who is the closest person to her, to help her make decisions and
always be there and offer her strength when she needs it. “She doesn't expect to meet him right away, but
she will know when he has arrived.”
You will see that this says nothing about you, there is no reason because everyone will say the same things
so it is impossible to stand out. When you talk about her it is more attractive (as I said before, women are
more interested in being listened to than in hearing your story). Then qualify and challenge her in
everything. If the end comes and you think he's up to par, he'll want to claim his "prize" which can only
mean contacting you. My other profile is much shorter but I have gotten many more responses:
"Be careful, I'm troublesome!"

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Skills of a Natural - Instant Kiss Close

How do you walk up to a girl in a club and kiss her instantly? I'm going to tell you...
I started doing this about a year ago. It took me a long time for this to happen, but I knew I could do it
naturally. The funniest thing is that it took me many more months to understand what I was doing and be
able to teach it to people. This is a skill that is in the advanced section of this book for a few reasons - it is
difficult and has certain prerequisites, you cannot run before you walk, and you cannot kissclose
immediately until you can:
> Force an IDI and enter directly following a positive response.
> Create sexual tension and progressively intensify towards kissing in less than 15 minutes.
Once you can do this, the process for immediate k-close is relatively easy. Here is what you should do:
1. Identify the girl you are attracted to.
2. Make eye contact, look at her with desire and walk directly towards her slowly and gently.
3. When you are close to her, take her hand, caress her hair and slowly and surely move in to kiss her.
This works because you create sexual tension at a distance by using sexual-eye contact and walking
directly towards her so that she is forced to accept (maintains eye contact) or reject
(looks away). You should walk directly towards her even if she is no longer looking at you. You must do
it slowly to create sexual tension - the pace of sexual tension is slower and gentler than normal movement.

Skill of a Natural – Escalating Multilevel Communication

This is a more advanced and much newer technique compared to the rest of the book and is basically
escalating much faster than would normally be possible or doing things that would be socially
unacceptable and getting away with it because you are not fully committed to the action.
Let me explain it to you. Imagine two scripts:
1. We touch a girl on the ass, telling her how much we like this and looking sexually into her eyes, clearly
showing that we are interested.
2. We touch a girl on her ass while talking to her about the weather, looking away and talking to other people
in the group. We do not pay attention to the hand or the ass, it is as if there were two people relating to it,
hence the multilevel communication.
In script one, it's clear communication, saying to the girl - it's my turn, I pay attention to this and this
wakes me up. I hope to climb more and I will probably not be able to control myself and I will continue
climbing until you tell me “no, stop”.

Script two is a multi-level communication which means that on the surface we talk about time, but
beneath the surface there is intense sexual escalation. The fact that I'm not fully focused on it sub-
communicates to the girl that sex is no big deal, that I'm not going to become an uncontrolled being of
arousal, it's just a normal thing that can be enjoyed in a normal way. Sure, there is no reason to say “no” to
it.
The way to use this as a whole is in a playful, little-by-little way, perhaps hugging, jokingly wrestling,
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touching her ass or rubbing her breasts in front or caressing her thighs. This is in the advanced section
because you have to be confident enough to really do it without breaking down or being nervous around
her. The most that can leak out when you do this is a satisfied smile.
I was able to do things with girls that would otherwise result in them shaking my hand, slapping me, or
whatever. Some examples of this with women I've made out with:
V Pick up a purse strap and rub it between your legs, looking away as if you don't know what's going on.
V Sitting between two girls and putting my arm around a girl and running my thumb inside her bra and
touching her nipples. The other one I have next to me, I touch her ass under her jeans. This was in a
crowded place but it was done so that no one could see what was going on, both girls giggle and have fun.
V Squashed closely together with a group on a couch in a club, talking to the person on my left while I caress
the neck of the girl on my right.
V Standing in a group that was in a circle, inside a club and talking to each other while squeezing the
girls ass and then groping her.

In every case, the girls would have 100% rejected me if I had done this openly and in a committed way.
But in all cases it was not mentioned by them, but the attraction built was TREMENDOUS.

This kind of subtlety is what women love. They don't like telling a guy explicitly that they are ready to be
kissed or have sex, they want the guy to drive. The problem when he leads is that he constantly pushes in a
compromising way that forces the woman to enforce her boundaries and passively accept or actively reject
what he does. This is good because confident guys do it and women like this little game.

This is a high-level skill because you can dispossess almost any action you take physically and focus on
the safest surface level. This circumvents any resistance or limits and allows you to go far beyond what
would be possible on your own and along the way you stand out from every man making her feel excited
and safe.

This is even more subtle and sophisticated because you also communicate the general alpha qualities of:
take it or leave it, indifference, apathy toward achievement. Plus the quality women love of subtlety and
the ability to act without active acceptance of escalation.

Some things you can do to comply with the secure part of multilevel communication are:

• The laughter and the playful tone or what I have coined as Sleazy Funny. This is what the gay guy does to
not be threatening. It is not a complete communication, it is a varied message. It's 50% sexual, but also
50% safe. A boy's concern is that he is dirty, shoddy, socially unacceptable, etc. But if he does this with
confident playful communication, it makes it completely acceptable.

• Poker face with normal somewhat boring chatter, maybe with a satisfied smile.

• Looking away or talking to someone else. Try this – first put your arm around a girl and look directly at
her feeling the pressure. Second you do it and look away, feeling much more comfortable. The first is
generally unacceptable, the second is acceptable and comfortable. The same applies to touching it.

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Internal Game
Feeling good about yourself, staying motivated and oriented – Tools of the Trade

The first thing anyone who wants to be successful in this field should do is use a notebook. The notebook will
contain several things and if used correctly, it will allow you to stay comfortable with yourself, you will have
a clear understanding of what you are doing and you will stay motivated and positive.

The notebook will have the following sections:

1. Affirmations. (see section)

2. Brief notes on everything you learn about attraction – self-help books, other people, or your own
observations. Be brief. If you can't summarize knowledge in six lines, you're out of the game.

3. A list of things you want to try in the field –openers, routines, whatever.

4. A breakdown of your interactions, what went well, what went wrong, and what you should do next time to
make it go better. Even if you closed, you could have possibly closed sooner. It is possible that by only doing
it 30% right, you will achieve closures. Analyzing your interactions will be a great way to improve quickly.

5. A month-by-month summary of your progress. Example: July: read Gambler's book, Closing with Spanish
TB, Swedish TB, first k-close using the game, 20 approaches every Friday. August: k- close TB French, TB
Anna, first day-game close with number.

This summary should be concise, not like a diary. It is a quick record of interactions. This allows you to look
back and feel good about the progress you're making, as well as when something causes you to drop a notch in
your day-to-day life. You will be able to recover from these setbacks if you can see the pattern of average
progress month by month.

It also helps because it forces you to judge your own progress instead of other people's. You can meet
someone with more women, more money, more possessions, but whenever you are going to judge yourself,
do it on your own progress. Keeping a record means you won't forget where you came from and can be proud
of yourself every time you look back.

Starting sheet
At first, summaries of all the material you know help. You can even refer to it when you get stuck, go to the
bathroom, and come back with an idea of what you need to do. My contents:

1. My claims (for the state).

2. A list of openers.
3. High value demonstrations.
4. Cocky and Funny lines.
5. Seduction routines.

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The 3 Cs of Trust
If we go to a bookstore, you will find many books on confidence. A lot of people read them, but when this
happens, how many women do you think will actually perceive you as confident in a hookup situation?
Let's take that perspective. We know that women want a confident guy. That wasn't much help to me when I
was growing up, I knew what they wanted, but I didn't know how to give it to them. This is what I'm going to
do right now. Let's look at this from the perspective of an attractive woman in a bar or night club.
She looks around the venue and makes a judgment on whether the men seem confident or not.
Who will she be attracted to? Guys with good body language could be an answer. Guys who are attractive
could be another option. Although a better answer would be: Guys who seem confident. Which determines
whether a guy seems confident in a club. Very simple...he that seems COMFORTABLE.
That's why the first C of Trust is.
Comfort with the Environment
It's impossible to look confident if you're uncomfortable, and it's impossible to look unconfident if you're
comfortable. Therefore there is 100% overlap.
Examples: Bartenders, DJs and doormen are known to get along very well with women. They are the most
comfortable men in the room because they are there every night and are in sync with the environment. Let's
get one thing straight - bartenders are not high status guys. Others in the club might be millionaire
businessmen, pursuing $10,000 lawsuits. Bartenders earn very low salaries and are not high status types. It's
just that they seem comfortable. There is no other secret.
How to achieve it: The dating environment where you will normally show your lack of confidence at first
glance is the club. People don't feel nervous when they walk down the street or go shopping. However, in a
club, the pressure is more intense and this is an added problem in high-level clubs. What we have to do in this
case is simply de-sensitize ourselves. Pick a club and a day of the week and go there. Go with friends or alone.
Your mission is not to talk to someone or play any game, just to make yourself comfortable in the
environment. Learn the layout, you start to see familiar faces, you may have some occasional conversations
with the staff who work there or the people who are nearby.

The key is to get comfortable and start treating the place as you would your own home. Sit back or get
comfortable with a low energy, chill out type or really enjoy the music and move around without worrying
about what others think. Those are the only two ways to behave in a club. Nothing outside of this will seem
comfortable. If you try to look like you enjoy music by tapping your foot or nodding your head because you
think it's the right thing to do, you're wrong. (See the body language section for more description on right and
wrong)
The first time you go, be very observant, observe the guys who seem comfortable and the ones who don't.
Look at things from the woman's point of view.
Without the pressure to flirt or talk to women, you can start enjoying the environment and creating safe
associations with it, rather than seeing it as a high-pressure place where you MUST play.
Now that you have the first C of confidence, we can go for the second…

Comfort interacting with Beautiful Women

Well, she has seen you and judged you as trusting from a distance. You also haven't made any of the basic eye
contact mistakes (breaking contact downward or being uncomfortable with it) and it's time for the actual
approach. How will she decide if you are a confident man when you are talking to her?

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who doesn't feel confident when interacting with her? How could this ever be attractive? Well, maybe in the
2% of cases where she thinks you're "cute." But 2% of cases is not any kind of game, other than a numbers
game.

That's why you have to feel comfortable talking to women.

Example: Guys who own modeling agencies, strip clubs or run restaurants with waitresses who are very good
at sleeping with. One of the main reasons is that they are so used to interacting with beautiful women that it is
the only way to feel comfortable. Someone who works for a modeling agency for 2 years will not shake,
sweat, break eye contact or get nervous and uncomfortable if he finds another beautiful woman. She will
know subconsciously or consciously that her beauty doesn't break you down and this will mean that you won't
be seen as an inferior life form like the other guys who are obviously very affected by her looks.

How to get it: Go to sites with a high concentration of very beautiful women. Places like strip clubs,
exclusive department stores, high-end clubs, and countries like Latvia . In these situations, choose an
achievable goal to open and leave. Have your opener ready and your escape line ready (in strip clubs this is
not necessary). Desensitize yourself to their gaze, try to find comfortable eye contact, and stay calm. Gain
experience and realize that they are not that different or difficult to talk about. What this will mean is that
these women will begin to see you as confident in the way you relate to them, because you feel comfortable,
greatly increasing your chances of building attraction and closure.

Comfort in your own skin

This way, you will seem confident from a distance (and most guys don't!), you seem confident when you
approach her. What does she do? It will test you . She will challenge you, give you shit tests and see how you
react. He might ask you why you're wearing those shoes or if you're a flirt or why you don't go to the gym. It
tests you to see if you are internally confident or comfortable in your own skin by observing how you react.
This should start happening once she wants to find out if you are a man she needs. These kinds of tests will
continue and you will have to measure up, displaying various types of confidence, including physical and
sexual confidence.
Example: a guy who always gets to be with very good women and feels comfortable with who he is, will be
non-reactive and unmoved by tests. To get to this point you have a little work. I have a theory that someone is
shy because they are worried about exposing their weaknesses to others. They are afraid of being seen as ugly,
having a dumb voice, being poor or anything else. Then they say little and do less so that they are not
discovered. Someone with a good disposition will not be shy to expose themselves and will not react as much
to tests.

How to achieve it: Do the following exercise:

Write down each of your weak points. The things you are not happy with. Next to each one, write an
action you can do to help. This might fix the issue 100% or maybe just 20%, but the act of improving your
situation and having a plan to improve will immediately affect your confidence and self-love positively.
Earlier in my book, I talked about how I did this and I can say that it was a decisive factor in me becoming
the confident person I am today. I don't consider myself perfect, I still have things that I'm not completely
satisfied with but they are smaller and less important than they used to be.

Reduce your Boarding Anxiety. Feel yourself with a High Status and You Will Really
Achieve a Higher Value.
There is something out of sync with the way men and women think, and this creates a strange situation
when guys approach each other. He looks at TB in a club and thinks “wow, what a princess, I want to

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sleep with her, I want to hug her, hold her hand to take her to dinner and I want her to be my girlfriend,
I'm sure she's a great person and I really love her.” ”. Everything she does he will frame positively “wow
she dances and has fun, I want a fun and nice girl”, or “oh she seems boring, she must be calm, she would
be a good girlfriend”.
When a woman looks around at a club she doesn't do this, she thinks "look at that insecure loser who
doesn't know how to have fun" or "oh look, Mr. Cool , she thinks he's some kind of seducer." Women are
right to think this because most guys present a false image and lie to them and they are used to not trusting
this first impression too much. So what you have in the first few seconds is a disharmony, a woman gives
the guy very little value no matter how good he really is, and the guy gives the girl a very high value in his
mind no matter how good she is. really.
The problems with this are:
• When you get close you will carry a lot of pressure with you and you will have more Approach Anxiety
because you have raised its value so much in your own mind. You have decided that you already want it
and then you have a chance to fail and not get what you want.

• You sub-communicate (no matter how you try to block it) that you consider her of much higher value.
This will be picked up on by her and she will consider you of low value just because of this.

• If you really get into a conversation you will force rapport and if you get into a relationship you will try
and force things to make it work even if this woman is not for you. You do it because you have already
fixed your mind. This will later lead to harm for both of you when the relationship inevitably breaks
down. At some point you stop working so hard to force something to work, which is when it breaks. This
lack of harmony is responsible for most of the problems in most relationships. The reason why two people
separate is always there, in the first weeks or the first hours.
Here's what we need to do to approach you more confidently, present a stronger frame, and have more
satisfying long-term relationships...

Your value + their value = the value of the interaction in your own head.
This restrictive framework has to be careful and there are three ways to do it. It involves the value
perceived by you and the woman you approach. A nega is something that is used to lower a woman's
value but to do it well you must present a high value image in your behavior and not make completely
unnecessary negas . There is a big difference in how men who are great frame an interaction with a
beautiful woman and how guys who are not. The following will help you adopt that framework much
more quickly.

Increase your own value by thinking about the following:

Are you a good boyfriend? If so, you are better than most men. Women say that “all men are pigs” and are
generally very unhappy with their relationships and disappointed in the quality of the guys there.
How many kids know the game? The fact that you have read this and practice it puts you in a powerful
minority. You will still make mistakes but you will know how to correct them, you have 'seen the light' and
you will continue to become a more attractive man as time goes by.

Reduce its value in your mind by thinking about the following:

Here is that beautiful girl, that means that she will be very conditioned by her appearance. She 's more likely
to be stupid than not. He probably spends hours getting ready each day while you spend that time learning and
becoming a more interesting person. She's probably looking for a rich guy to pay for her drinks and a purse. If
she is in a club she probably gets very drunk and sleeps with a lot of guys. This will be the most likely
scenario, approach it and find out if this turns out to be true or you may be in for a pleasant surprise.

This is what women usually do - guilty until proven guilty.

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Reduce the value of the interaction by thinking about the following:
Most relationships don't work. Most women are not perfect for you. I'll take it step by step:

I know she's pretty, so I want to talk to her. I'll decide if I want to continue talking to her once I find out a
little more and only then will I know if I want to escalate. If this works out and we get into some sort of
relationship - if she becomes my girlfriend or we only go on dates a couple of times - that's fine, maybe we'll
be friends and she can come to parties with us, or maybe I'll find out it's not worth it. It's worth spending some
time with her.

Affirmations
Something that I recommend to people to control states and change in the long term are affirmations.
Affirmations with self-made statements that act on your subconscious, over time, affect our self-image,
confidence and beliefs. You can test the effectiveness of affirmations by writing a list of all the things you like
about yourself on one side of the paper and all the things you don't like about yourself on the other side.
Notice how your mood is affected when you read each side of the paper. By writing and using positive
affirmations, you counteract the negative influences that other people, the media, and society in general have
on your self-esteem.

Some books suggest reading your affirmations out loud in front of a mirror twice a day, I don't think you need
to go that far. I think you can keep them in your notebook and read them before you go on a date or other
sweaty situation, to put yourself in a positive state. You can also record your affirmations on an MP3 and play
them on a loop for hours. They will be burned deep into your subconscious. It is important to follow these
rules when you are going to write your affirmations.

Otherwise they will not be as effective:

1. A positive statement written in the present indicative – “I am kind.” Instead of “I'm going to be nice.”

2. You are not allowed to use negative words – “I'm not an idiot”, it should be “I'm smart”. “I don't reject
myself” should be “all women adore me.” The subconscious does not understand refusals, which is why if you
generally use phrases like “not very good” instead of “bad” you will feel better. He
classic NLP example of telling you not to think about anything except a pink elephant, it simply says think
about a pink elephant. You have all your thoughts on a pink elephant. So saying “I'm not a loser who gets
rejected and everyone hates” is just as bad as saying “I'm a loser who gets rejected and everyone hates.”

3. Affirmations should be based on the image of your ideal self. In the person you would like to be. Your
best self.

4. They should make you feel something when you say them. If they don't, change the way you say it or
don't say anything at all.

You can write affirmations as statements and in a paragraph. Below are some examples of affirmations.
However, make sure you create a meaning for yourself that identifies you.

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I wrote my first affirmations in mid-2003 – it all became real within a couple of years! At the time they were
out of my reach, but I think my subconscious helped me make them a reality. Now I have written new
affirmations and I hope they also come true.

Examples:
· I'm friendly.
· I am a lover of fun.
· I am an open person.
· I'm interesting.
· I am clever.
· I am a leader, I am the boss.
· I am a challenge.
· I am successful in everything I do.
· I know how to attract any woman I want.
· I know my purpose.
· I am sure of who I am.
· I am an attractive man.
· I have a powerful reality.
· I am cool, calm and complete.
· My world and my life are attractive and interesting.
· People like me are looking forward to meeting me.
· I am very interested in other people.
· I want to meet fun, positive and interesting people.

Universal frame
I am of high status
Status is something that is often talked about in the community but is rarely well defined or presented in a way
that is immediately usable. However, it is very important. Whether with friends, at work or with a girl, a
person has a higher status than the rest. This person is the one who makes the decisions and who the group has
given power to. If you are one of those who is asking “do you think we should go to place X?”, you have a
low status. You are handing over decision making to someone. If you say “let's go to place X” and everyone
follows you, you are the person with the most status in the group. If your friend always ends phone calls first,
it means that he is of higher status than you. Examples of high status are everywhere and in the media. A
high-status person never gives power to another person. Does not delegate. He doesn't seek approval. Doesn't
ask permission.

The most beautiful woman of all, she is used to being given the highest status. A man will ask you about
decisions to make on everything from whether he agrees to give you his number, to when he will be available
to meet, to where he would like to go, whoa! if it suits your clothes and if the food is good. This is actually
very unattractive. It is so common for men to give up power, that they are rarely appreciated.

Although in the example I gave you about status it was about your friends and co-workers, there is no point in
trying to change the dynamic with these people. These relationships could be endangered, I'm happy to be a
beta and lower the status with good friends. But, with women, this is simply unattractive.

Status is communicated primarily through the words you choose. Use this combination with women: let your
words be limited to being rude while appearing to be said in an adorable way and touch her. This mixture will
allow you to avoid his thought that you are too cocky, arrogant, cocky and you will be very attractive. The
rules for maintaining status when dealing with women are:

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1) Don't ask too many questions.
2) Do not give them the power to decide. Just give them the opportunity to accept your choices – “where
would you like to eat?” You give them the power to decide, but - “Let's go to Italian, okay?” You already give
him the opportunity to support you in your decision.
3) Don't seek their approval. “Is everything okay?” “Are you comfortable with all this?” “What do you think
of my jacket?”
4) Lead. –“I'm hungry, let's eat”, “I'm thirsty, let's drink”.

Mental framework during an interaction

Here's an attractive mindset for interacting with women:
· I am the most important person in this relationship.
· What she says is not a problem.
· Don't do anything that makes him think "what a coward."
· All the women want me, they harass me.
· Everything she does is cute: “Wow! Look at her face when she's crazy."
· I'm super hot.
· She is lookin good. Okay, but what else does he have besides that?
· I'm a super cool guy, can she see this or is she stupid?
· Assume sex.

· Everything she does is a sign of interest.

Mental framework in a relationship

How does an attractive man act when he is dating a girl or in a serious relationship with her? What follows are
some of the principles of attractive male behavior in a relationship:

1) Don't ask too many questions. An unattractive man is always asking if things are going well and if the girl
is happy. It conveys that you are seeking approval, weakness, neediness, all the bad things. An attractive man
knows how to look for signs in the girl and calibrate his behavior accordingly, he is not rude, but he assumes
that things are going well and is generally comfortable.

2) Direct, make decisions and surprise. This is very important. The man needs to be the one who directs
things. Questions like this should be avoided:
“Where would you like to go tonight?” "What would you like to do today?" "what movie are we going to
watch?" “What do you want to do for your birthday?” Giving decision-making power to the woman gives her
status and takes away yours. This is not being polite, kind or fair, this is being boring and unattractive.
Women love to be directed at all times and to be surprised, do it! Examples: “I'm hungry, let's go eat” “let's go
and watch a movie” “he's wearing casual clothes, we're doing something active!”

3) Send mixed messages and make her work. It's about being less accessible and still being challenging.
Don't have many long phone conversations, call her every day, send lots of emails and try to see her every
day. Of course, when you are with her, give yourself completely. When you are separated, continue with your
life. Attraction is based on the fact that you have things to do and she has to work to get you. Again, it's not
being rude, it's being a man. Don't chase her and change the framework of the relationship. As long as she
works for you she will be interested.

4) Don't change for her. There will be things about you that she doesn't like. In some she will have good
reasons, if you agree, change them. If she doesn't like your clothes, music, hobbies, friends but you do, don't
change for her. When a woman transforms a man into her ideal, she will get bored and look for the next
project. It's part of the reason she prefers the bad boy, she wonders if she could be the one to tame him.

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The Laws of the Inside Game

1. MAKE YOUR FRAME AN INTERNAL REFERENCE.

A major source of unhappiness in most people's lives is caused by the discontent of comparing ourselves with
others. We see a man with a Ferrari, a beautiful girlfriend or a great lifestyle and we feel jealous. The fact is, if
you always compare yourself to other people, you will always be unhappy. There's always someone with
more money, more women, better looks, whatever. I used to judge myself by other people, I tried to catch up
to them and I was never happy. Now I can say that my frame of reference is of a more inner beauty and I am
much happier for it. Which means you judge yourself only in reference to yourself. Let's say you didn't use to
have women at all and now you have numbers and dates with them. It's something to be proud of and happy
about. Judge for yourself, you have made great progress. If you want to feel bad, look at the guy who sleeps
with five women a week and you won't be happy.

In terms of seduction, the best way to fabricate the reference of your internal framework is:

· Keep track of your progress - have a written report each month of where you are, so you can chart progress. I
do this, and every time I have a setback or want to compare myself to someone or something, I can take a
look. I will see the great progress I have made and feel happy.

· Make plans for the future. Record your goals and each of the steps necessary to get there. Make it happen. If
you hesitate and have no direction, this will cause you to focus on other people.

· Reduce hours of watching television and bad habits. If you watch MTV all day they will be selling you a life
that is not real and that 99.9999% of people cannot have. Do you want to live like Hugh Hefner? It will
frustrate you even when you have a beautiful girl- if you let it!

· Remember that everyone has strengths and weaknesses. Just because someone is rich doesn't mean they are
happier, in fact they may not be. The guy in the Ferrari probably works 12 hours a day or was born rich, that
way he won't feel like he's earned it. Most people have something that you might be jealous of. But remember
that if your goal is to be balanced, a whole human being, this should not bother you.

2. ELIMINATE THE CONCEPT OF FAILURE

When you start going out and approaching women you will make mistakes. There is no way to fully prepare
for any eventuality before heading out. Expect to make mistakes. Mistakes are good. What is important is the
way you treat them. When you make a mistake, you learn from it and know what you should do in the future.
What you can say is: “ I'm glad I made that mistake. Now that I have learned from him, I will never make a
mistake in that situation again .” Most of the pain of failure is caused by the belief that you can fail again. If
you analyze what happened, what you should have done, and how you will prevent it from happening again,
then you will feel better. Remember, most millionaire entrepreneurs have a string of failures behind them. The
average PUA has hundreds of rejections and disqualifications behind it. The guy who goes out and makes 100
approaches a day and gets 80 rejections is better than the guy who only makes 2 and gets them absolutely
right. The first will learn much more, losing fear and inhibition of the process. Of course you will get more
numbers, dates, kisses, sex, girlfriends and everything you want.

3. SURROUND YOURSELF WITH SUCCESSFUL MODELS

It's helpful to be influenced by people with qualities you would want for yourself. I needed to learn how to be
outgoing, striking and sociable. All my old friends were like me, so hanging out with them only reinforced my
old habits. If you want to change you will have to connect with people with qualities that you lack. After
mating with extroverted people for a while, I became more outstanding and acquired the skills that made them
socially good. Now, if I lack a quality I know that the best way to get it is to find someone who has it and
learn from them. If you have trouble finding people you admire, read books, watch videos and listen to audio
from people like: David DeAngelo, Anthony Robbins, Nicolai Tesla, Lance Armstrong and Thomas Edison.

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4. SURROUND YOURSELF WITH POSITIVE PEOPLE
When we are entering a period of change in our lives, it means that we will leave our social circle and begin to
act differently and change in the eyes of our friends. This can cause many problems. Most people stay the
same and don't get better. These people reinforce their bad habits and bad behavior. It's like being a drug
addict and being with other drug addicts. This reinforces your bad habits and does not encourage you to
change. When you are good with women, your friends will be able to celebrate your return. A large
percentage of people are negative and find problems with all your new ideas. Even if someone is a good
friend, you need to be careful about the effect their thoughts have on your mental state. The way to judge this
is this, if you spend an hour with this person, does it make you feel better or worse? If you feel worse, reduce
the number of times you are with this person. Similarly to the above, if you lack positive people you can put
them in your life by studying great behavioral models throughout history.

5. USE THE TIME WHEN YOU ARE NOT FLIRTING – CONSCIOUSNESS AND IDEAS.
An important skill of the PUA is the ability to be socially aware. What is an indicator of interest and what is
not? Who are a couple? who is looking for a man? When you are in a social situation, look around you, make
your best judgment, and then try to check it out. Over time, social awareness will allow you to be in an
interaction and know exactly where you are.

The second thing you can do is be anywhere – supermarket, bookstore, train station – and imagine what you
would use to open it and continue. Don't wait until you see an HB to start thinking about things you would say
to her. Walk around and think of situational openers to flex your mental muscles. Even use them with non-TB
to practice being a fun, spontaneous and sociable guy.

6. BALANCE LEARNING, PRACTICE AND IMPROVEMENT

Some people spend 12 months just with the theory. There are enough e-books, videos and audio products to
always be at home and still think that this is useful to you. I made that mistake for a few months, spending
thousands of hours studying before I really tried something in the field. Practice is the hardest part, which is
why it is the most important thing you can do now. I learned more in two weeks of going out to practice than
in my months of theory.

Some people start leaving. They do not perfect their approaches and do not learn new techniques. These
people will not experience rapid growth. The best approach is to learn some theory (whatever you have now!),
go out and practice (tonight). Then go back, look at what you did and perfect it. Rinse and repeat. Now you
have the best and most effective method to get good quickly.

7. STOP IDEALIZING WOMEN AND RELATIONSHIPS

Most men put women on a pedestal, super value them based on their physical appearance, and would commit
to a date, relationship, or maybe even more, based purely on their appearance. Most women don't agree with
you! Also, most relationships don't work! This allows you to rethink your approach with more confidence and
be more cautious.

8. ELIMINATE NERVOUS TICKS AND UNATTRACTIVE MANNERISMS

It is important to be aware of how they see you at all times. Ask your friends to tell you about the things you
do that are unattractive or stupid. I used to have a nervous laugh, bite my lip, touch my face and fidget among
other things.

9. LEARN HOW TO HAVE AN INTERESTING CONVERSATION WITH A WOMAN

Visualization techniques
Visualization techniques are something that can be used very effectively to improve your seductive skills.
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relaxed state, because a fully conscious and alert state has many distractions. Likewise, testing openers on the
field in a real-world situation is all well and good but there are tons of things trying to capture your attention.
Visualization will allow you to come up with new material, you will see what works and what doesn't and you
will practice your delivery. The visualization process is as follows:

1. Achieve a very relaxed state using self-hypnosis. If you have never tried self-hypnosis, what you need to
do is start breathing deeply, bring your focus of attention to your body, and notice the sensations throughout
your body. Close your eyes. A good time to do this is right before bed.

2. Think about an opener and transition that you want to field test. Imagine a close-up and see yourself
performing your opener. Look at their reactions. See how you should react to their reactions and let the
interaction flow.

Overcoming Boarding Anxiety

Temporary anxiety
When you do something outside your comfort zone, a natural fear appears. The best description of transient
anxiety is the feeling you get in your stomach every time you consider doing something outside your comfort
zone. Whether it's the fear of riding a roller coaster, jumping out of a plane, signing up for a course, meeting
new people at a party, taking an exam, speaking in public or approaching a woman. What all of these things
have in common is that they can cause that feeling in our stomach to varying degrees.

This sensation that paralyzes us does not serve us. Something that is outside our comfort zone, that we have
not done before or that puts us in a situation of uncertainty that we do not feel equipped to overcome
temporary anxiety. This would be fine if the sensation saved us from being eaten by a lion or doing something
dangerous. But this feeling is actually what stops our development, learning and change.
We have a comfort zone within which we experience security - daily routines, people we know. However,
staying in this comfort zone makes it difficult to make big changes or improvements in your life. If you look
back in your life and remember the times you have experienced transient anxiety and continued forward
anyway. You will see that every time you have taken action, it has impacted your life in a positive way. If this
were to be taken to a new area, change the job, taking some lessons, signing up for a course. These things
would benefit you greatly. Anyone who decides to change that part of their life and enrolls in a course with
me will feel temporary anxiety before clicking the button. Many others will feel this and never press the
button, it's a fact!

That's right, what is it with these crazy people who always try new things and never feel uncomfortable?
Nothing, they welcome the new situation of uncertainty. They have done? They have traded the feeling in
their stomach that makes them recoil for something that spurs them to action. This is what they have done. I
used to be a complete “scary cat” when it came to almost anything that involved leaving my house. Now if
this feeling ever comes back to me, I know I have to take action and put an end to it. I will be a better person.
As a result, fewer and fewer things intimidate me, I feel capable of handling anything. Embrace transient
anxiety and you'll thank me later. It will affect all areas of your life and make you a better person.

Boarding Anxiety
Approaching a woman you are attracted to is one of the most momentous things you can do. You know there's
no point in being as scared as if you were fighting a thief. In the worst case she says no instantly, the worst
thing that can happen to you in life is serious physical injuries. About 95% of the people I work with have
some degree of approach anxiety. Overcoming anxiety is not something that NLP or affirmations can help you
with quickly. There is no easy way to achieve this. However, I can recommend the most painless way
possible. With my experience, 30 approaches will be enough to free you from the burden of anxiety. There
may still be some left but you've opened enough groups to do well.

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First of all let's remove some of the fears (dependence on the result). As long as you continue to have anxiety
about this, it will be the first thing to work on. The first approaches are not “to close”, you are just opening
and executing. You are practicing opening. Just get up, ask “What time is it?” Thank her and let yourself go is
much easier than approaching her with the intention of spending hours getting her to go somewhere with you.

The next thing to do is to use indirect openers. These minimize the chances of rejection and allow you to
practice openers without worrying if she is attracted or has a boyfriend. Lastly, it helps not to be picky.
Practice approaches and developing interaction, but do it with any group. Don't try to get rid of your fear by
practicing these skills only with women you find attractive. It will take you a long time. You need to practice
20 openers a day. You should focus on practicing, not closing. When I started I opened 20 groups a night.
Now I'm focused on only approaching girls who meet my requirements. But that's because my skills as a
whole don't need to be refined or polished. If I tried to improve, only opening one or two a night, it would take
ten times longer!!

Missions: set your own missions. Simply open groups for the sake of opening them even if they kick you out.
Test openers and see how many groups you can hook. Hang out with a friend and get into the action! Find it
as a way to motivate yourself where you do it and feel good. I perform well under pressure so this is good to
motivate myself and be able to open any group they tell me to. Other people may want to do nothing under
these circumstances. So find it as a motivator to get closer and make this pressure make you happy. Some
guys feel good with an ALA, you can experiment.

Reframing Uncomfortable Situations

In some situations you may feel uncomfortable. When approaching a girl you may be thinking that you may
be rejected and that she won't accept you because you haven't had sex in six months, that's uncomfortable.
Even going to a club that you know well, you will probably also feel uncomfortable. As always, many of the
discomforts you feel in all situations have to do with the mental framework you have. If you reframe
situations differently, that's when you'll feel relieved about yourself. I do this with the people who train with
me, so that they are completely aware. What I do is that I take them for a few minutes to a street that is very
crowded, where they can't see in front, behind, down, or to the sides. They will inevitably feel like everyone is
watching them and feel uncomfortable. What I do is I repeat that they imagine in their minds that many of
their friends are going to appear in the distance and that when they arrive they are going to go have a cup of
coffee. They do this and usually feel very comfortable in their own skin.

In a similar way it can be done in a club, we can re-frame the situations in which you are waiting for friends
and that you feel very comfortable. Even with this you can convince yourself that it is happening and that you
will expect it in a few hours. Now you can feel more comfortable in the club if you are alone and nothing is
really going to change. This is how the method works.

You can apply this when approaching a woman. Instantly having a seduction frame in your head. You can
have the framework: "I'm someone who is very sociable, I'm going to talk to a lot of people. And I'm going to
have a nice conversation with a girl that I consider attractive, I feel very natural." This is a healthy framework
that can help you a lot to lose the fear of anxiety, dependence on the result and need. You can reframe any
situation where you feel uncomfortable.

Final Thoughts
My journey over these six years has been interesting, stimulating and fun. I've felt almost as good leading up
to this point as I do now, when I've achieved most of my goals. When you plan to do something, whatever you
set as a goal, do it in a way that you can constantly progress, so that when you see yourself along the way and
look back you immediately feel happy because you know that you have made a lot of progress.

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Being a PUA is not a good target for a goal. Or having a certain amount of money is not a healthy goal either.
It is much better to find that woman who will be with you for the rest of your life and will make you happy.
Your ultimate goal in terms of relationships can be anywhere, but you have to be happy with yourself first.
Money may materially enrich your life, this may be among your main ones, but not especially for money. It is
best to have a clear vision of what you truly want in your life.

Keep your life balanced. Enjoy the present as much as you can, but strive for more. When you start to achieve
some success, it's okay to be happy and enjoy. You just need that initial pain and discomfort to force you to
take action.

The key to happiness in everything you do to improve yourself is to maintain a balance. Because if you make
everything go one way in your life then things will go badly for you. You have to have options. For example,
time to focus on SARGEO, money, work, your girlfriend, your studies, all of this you have to keep under
balance and control. There is no way to be happy with just one woman, leaving behind other important aspects
of your life. By putting this into practice you will improve a lot and along the way you will learn many things,
making a big difference. Just like when you are stressed or in trouble, if you are patient and think carefully,
things will work out.

Use my inner game techniques and you will surely save yourself from many things. Use the techniques that I
explain in this book responsibly and put them into practice so that they improve all areas of your life.
Now everything is in your hands.

This book contains almost everything I know. I say almost everything because there are many other small
bites that I don't include. What I can say is that this book will give you the potential to be better with women
than I am. I have not applied all the techniques in this book. If you do it and put your own qualities into it, I
can't imagine how good you can be.

Thanks for reading me. I welcome your thoughts/opinions/complaints!

[email protected]

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