‭SELF MANAGEMENT SKILLS‬

‭DEFINITION‬

‭Self-management, also referred to as ‘self-control,’ is the ability to control one’s emotions,‬

‭thoughts and behavior effectively in different situations. This also includes motivating‬
‭oneself, and setting goals. People with strong self-management skills are better in doing‬
‭certain things than others. Therefore, employers too strongly prefer people with good‬
‭self-management skills‬

‭BASICS OF SELF MANAGEMENT‬

‭To perform well at work and life in general, you must be able to manage and improve‬
‭yourself in various skills including discipline and timeliness, goal-setting, problem‬
‭solving, teamwork, professionalism, etc. Once you develop your personality and abilities‬
‭in these areas,you will be able to succeed in personal as well as professional life.‬

‭●‬ ‭Self-awareness: Ask for honest feedback. Gather insights on your personality and‬
‭work-specific proficiencies. Think about your daily interactions and how you‬
‭handled situations well or could have handled them differently.‬
‭●‬ ‭Responsibility: Taking responsibility for your tasks is very important. Taking‬
‭ownership is the step towards self-development. For example, if you have been‬
‭assigned a task by a teacher; ensure you take complete ownership. Even if you are‬
‭unable to complete the task on time, you must report it and then correct it.‬
‭●‬ ‭Time Management: Prioritize the things you have to do. Remove waste and‬
‭redundancy from work. Make a time table and follow it diligently.‬
‭●‬ ‭Adaptability: Stay current with best practices and read up on new information‬
‭always. Prepare yourself for new changes, so that you can transition seamlessly.‬

‭STRESS MANAGEMENT‬

‭●‬ ‭Stress can be defined as our emotional, mental, physical and social reaction to any‬
‭perceived demands or threats. These demands or threats are called stressors.‬
‭●‬ ‭Stressors are the reason for stress‬
‭●‬ ‭Managing stress is about making a plan to be able to cope effectively with daily‬

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 ‭pressures.‬
‭○‬ ‭The ultimate goal is to strike a balance between life, work, relationships,‬
‭relaxation and fun.‬
‭○‬ ‭By doing this, you are able to deal with daily stress triggers and meet these‬
‭challenges head on.‬
‭○‬ ‭Always keep in mind the ABC of stress management‬
‭■‬ ‭A: Adversity or the stressful event‬
‭■‬ ‭B: Beliefs or the way you respond to the event‬
‭■‬ ‭C: Consequences of actions and outcomes of the even‬
‭●‬ ‭Stress management can help you to‬
‭○‬ ‭have a joyful life.‬
‭○‬ ‭focus and complete tasks on time.‬
‭○‬ ‭be a happy person as you are stress free.‬
‭○‬ ‭be more energetic and spend quality time with your friends and family.‬

‭●‬ ‭MANAGEMENT TECHNIQUES‬

‭○‬ ‭Time management‬
‭○‬ ‭Physical exercise and fresh air‬
‭○‬ ‭Healthy diet‬
‭○‬ ‭Positivity‬
‭○‬ ‭Organizing academic life,no procrastinating‬

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 ‭○‬ ‭Sleep‬
‭○‬ ‭Holiday with family and friends‬
‭●‬ ‭If you can become a calm and relaxed person, you will be have the ability to work‬
‭independently, which means.‬
‭○‬ ‭1. becoming self-aware, self-monitoring and self-correcting.‬
‭○‬ ‭2. knowing what you need to do.‬
‭○‬ ‭3. taking the initiative rather than being told what to do.‬
‭○‬ ‭4. recognising your mistakes and not blaming others.‬
‭○‬ ‭5. having the ability and the will to learn continuously.‬
‭●‬ ‭Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify and manage one’s own emotions,‬
‭as well as the emotions of others. It is generally said to include at least three skills:‬
‭○‬ ‭Emotional awareness: the ability to identify and name one’s own‬
‭emotions.‬
‭○‬ ‭Harnessing emotions: the ability to harness and apply emotions to tasks‬
‭like thinking and problem solving.‬
‭○‬ ‭Managing emotions: the ability to regulate one’s own emotions when‬
‭necessary and help others to do the same.‬
‭●‬ ‭Knowing how to manage one’s emotions is critical for all of us. You can manage‬
‭stress, keep your brain active and open minded, and easily overcome failures if‬
‭you can keep your emotions in check. Emotional intelligence can also help you‬
‭have better relations with your friends and family.‬
‭●‬ ‭Being emotionally intelligent enhances your chances of success and a balanced‬
‭life.‬
‭●‬ ‭Some steps to manage emotional intelligence are as given below.‬
‭○‬ ‭Understand your emotions: Observe your behavior and note the things you‬
‭need to work on. You can then work on the things you need to improve.‬
‭○‬ ‭Rationalize: Do not take decisions abruptly; be rational in your thinking.‬
‭○‬ ‭Practise: Do meditation and yoga to keep yourself calm.‬

‭SELF AWARENESS‬

‭●‬ ‭Being self-aware means that you can identify your strengths and weaknesses.‬
‭Self-awareness, therefore, will help you in converting your weakness into strength‬
‭and strength into an exceptional talent. Analyzing your strengths and weaknesses‬
‭helps you to attain success in life. However, strength and weakness analysis‬
‭begins with knowing yourself first.‬
‭●‬ ‭Understanding who you are, what you like or dislike, what are your beliefs, what‬

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 ‭are your opinions, what is your background, what you do well and what you do‬
‭not do well is important because only then can you actually measure your‬
‭strengths and weaknesses‬
‭●‬ ‭Understanding who you are means looking outside your usual characteristics,‬
‭such as your name, qualification and interpersonal relationships. In other words,‬
‭being self aware actually means knowing your inner strengths, hidden talents,‬
‭skills and even weaknesses‬

‭●‬ ‭Finding Strengths (or abilities)‬

‭○‬ ‭Think of anything that you are always successful at.‬
‭○‬ ‭Think about what others like in you.‬
‭○‬ ‭Take out time and think about what you do well.‬
‭●‬ ‭Finding Weaknesses‬

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 ‭○‬ ‭Point out the areas where you struggle and the things you find difficult to‬
‭do.‬
‭○‬ ‭Look at the feedback others usually give you.‬
‭○‬ ‭Be open to feedback and accept your weaknesses without feeling low about‬
‭it.‬
‭○‬ ‭Take it as an area of improvement. You can find your strengths and‬
‭weaknesses once you find answers to the questions given here.‬
‭■‬ ‭How am I different from others?‬
‭■‬ ‭What do I do better than others?‬
‭■‬ ‭What do other people admire in me?‬
‭■‬ ‭What makes me stand out?‬
‭■‬ ‭Where do I worry and struggle?‬
‭■‬ ‭Where, how and why do others perform better than me?‬
‭■‬ ‭What advice for improvement do I often receive from others?‬
‭●‬ ‭Difference between strengths and weaknesses‬

‭●‬ ‭When your interests do not match your abilities, you can either improve your‬
‭abilities or follow some other path.‬

‭SELF MOTIVATION‬

‭●‬ ‭Self-motivation is simply the force within you that drives you to do things.‬
‭Self-motivation is what pushes us to achieve our goals, feel happy and improve‬
‭our quality of life. In other words, it is our ability to do the things that need to be‬
‭done without someone or something influencing us.‬

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 ‭●‬ ‭Qualities of self motivated people‬

‭●‬ ‭Mr E Shreedharan, Former Managing Director, Delhi Metro Rail Corporation Ltd,‬
‭was a self-motivated and energetic person. With his dedication and respect for‬
‭others, he motivated his team to work hard and achieve results.‬

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 ‭●‬ ‭Mahashay Dharmapal Gulati, the founder of Mahashian Di Hatti (MDH) Private‬
‭Limited started with a small shop in Karol Bagh but with his focus, dedication and‬
‭clear ideas, MDH (Spice Company) became one of the most popular brands in‬
‭India besides having a good reputation all over the world.‬
‭●‬ ‭Building self motivation‬

‭SELF REGULATION - GOAL SETTING‬

‭●‬ ‭Goals:They are a set of dreams with a deadline to get them, for example, saving‬
‭pocket money to buy a favorite mobile phone by a particular date.‬
‭●‬ ‭Goal setting:It is all about finding and listing your goals and then planning on how‬
‭to achieve them. Goals allow you to separate out what’s important. It helps you to‬
‭focus on the end result instead of less important work. This will make you‬
‭successful in your career and personal life.‬
‭●‬ ‭Goal setting is a very essential factor in your personal life. The process of goal‬
‭setting in your life helps you decide on how to live your life, where you want to‬
‭be, and how you want to be in the future.‬
‭●‬ ‭HOW TO SET GOALS‬
‭○‬ ‭Specific‬
‭■‬ ‭A specific and clear goal answers six questions.‬
‭●‬ ‭Who is involved in the goal?‬
‭●‬ ‭What do I want to do?‬

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 ‭●‬ ‭Where do I start?‬
‭●‬ ‭When do I start and finish?‬
‭●‬ ‭Which means do I use?‬
‭●‬ ‭Why am I doing this?‬
‭○‬ ‭Measurable‬
‭■‬ ‭A measurable goal answers the questions‬
‭●‬ ‭“How much?”, “How many?” and “How do I know that I have‬
‭achieved results?”‬
‭○‬ ‭Achievable‬
‭■‬ ‭Breaking down big goals into smaller parts will make the goal‬
‭achievable.‬
‭○‬ ‭Realistic‬
‭■‬ ‭A realistic goal would be something that we want to achieve and can‬
‭work towards.‬
‭○‬ ‭Time bound‬
‭■‬ ‭A SMART goal should have a timeframe by when the goal needs to‬
‭be achieved. This encourages us to take actions to completely fulfill‬
‭the goals.‬

‭SELF REGULATION - TIME MANAGEMENT‬

‭●‬ ‭Time management is the ability to plan and control how you spend the hours of‬
‭your day well and do all that you want to do.‬
‭●‬ ‭Time management is the thinking skill that helps you to‬
‭○‬ ‭complete tasks on time.‬
‭○‬ ‭make a daily timetable.‬
‭○‬ ‭make a good guess at how long it will take you to do something.‬
‭○‬ ‭submit homework and assignments on time.‬
‭○‬ ‭not waste time during the day.‬

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 ‭●‬ ‭Tips for Practicing the Four Steps for Effective Time Management‬
‭○‬ ‭Avoid delay or postponing any planned activity‬
‭○‬ ‭Organize your room and school desk‬
‭○‬ ‭Develop a ‘NO DISTURBANCE ZONE’, where you can sit and complete‬
‭important tasks‬
‭○‬ ‭Use waiting time productively‬
‭○‬ ‭Prepare a ‘To-do’ list‬
‭○‬ ‭Prioritize‬
‭○‬ ‭Replace useless activities with productive activities‬

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