Senior High School

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
QUARTER 2 – MODULE 1
 Republic of the Philippines
Department of Education
REGION I
PANGASINAN SCHOOLS DIVISION OFFICE II

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
(MODULE 1/PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
QUARTER 2, WEEK 1)

MELC: Discuss an understanding of teen-age relationships, including the

acceptable and unacceptable expressions of attractions.
: Express his/her ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment.
 K to 12 BEC CG: EsP-PD11/12PR-IIa-9.1
: EsP-PD11/12PR-IIa-9.2

Prepared by:

JOHN BEE A. ALCANICES

JILL A. MANANGAN
SHS Teacher II
Tayug National High School
PART I.

A. Introduction
Personal Development
Melc: Discuss an understanding of teen-age relationships, including the acceptable and unacceptable
expressions of attractions.
: Express his/her ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment.
As English Poet John Donne said, “No man is an Island” is indeed a very meaningful and life-
changing reality to all of us, human beings living in this world. We cannot deny the fact that we cannot live
alone and we live here not just only by ourselves but with other people. We as social creatures who need
someone to lean on and someone who will help us to grow is a never-ending part of our lives. By living with
the people around us every day, we are also building different relationships including personal relationships.
B. Discussion
Personal Relationships refers to close connections between people, formed by emotional bond and
interactions. These bonds often grow from and are strengthen by mutual experiences. When we say
emotional bond, it is an intimate relationship or feelings which you did not experience from other people.
Mutual experiences in way that you and the person cannot be together if you don`t have something in
common but the following will help to build a strong bond for every relationship.
Love - is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own. It is a
practice.Where you feel a permanent sense of connection with someone else, regardless of what happens
(Heinlin, 1961).
Lust - it is a psychological force producing intense wanting for an object, or circumstances fulfilling
the emotion.
Infatuation - it is commonly termed as “crush”. It is a temporary emotion which usually adolescents
feel during a short period of months. (Ticada and Solano, 2018)
Different kinds of personal relationships:
1. FAMILY: The Bureau of the Census defines family as “two or more persons who are related by birth,
marriage, or adoption and who live together as one household”. But many people have family they don`t live
with or to whom they are not bonded by love, and the roles of family vary across cultures as well as
throughout your own lifetime.
2. PARTNERSHIPS: Romantic partnerships, including marriage, are close relationships formed between
to people that are built upon affection, trust, intimacy, and romantic love. In your stage towards adulthood, it
is very important for you to start a good foundation as far as partnership is concerned.
3. SOCIETAL RELATIONSHIP: This kind of relationship has something to do with people around you.
This can be at school or at work. They are the people who give help and are concerned about you.
This relationship is an engine towards a better society sharing a common goal for the betterment of society.

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4. DIVINE RELATIONSHIP: Divine Relationship is a mutual relationship between God and Man. This
kind of Relationship is very important like the first three. We need to have a constant relationship with our
Creator, the giver of life.
5. FRIENDS: Friendship can be thought of as a close tie between two people that is often built upon mutual
experiences, shared interest, proximity, and emotional bonding. Friends are able to turn to each other in
times of need. (Ticada and Solano, 2016)
C. Readings
Another relationship that can be included from the topic is Teen-age Relationship. Teenage
romance and relationships are an important part of overall development. Teenage relationships often involve
exploring physical intimacy, sexual feelings and sexual attraction.
Pre-teen and teenage romance and relationships:
Romantic relationships are a major developmental milestone. These relationships come with all the other
changes going on during adolescence – physical, social and emotional. They‟re linked to the way pre-teens
and teenagers explore body image, independence, privacy and identity. Romantic relationships can bring
many emotional ups and downs to an individual and even those who are in relationship. But these feelings
are leading to a certain individual towards a deeper capacity to care, share and develop intimate relationships.
When pre-teen and teenage romance and relationships start: There isn‟t a „right‟ age to start having
relationships. But changes often happen around these ages:
 From 9-11 years, your child might start to show more independence from your family and more
interest in friends.
 From 10-14 years, your child might start feeling attracted to others.
 From 15-19 years, romantic relationships can become central to teenage social lives.
 It‟s also common to an individual to have no interest in romantic relationships until their late
teens. Some young people choose to focus on schoolwork, sport or other interests.
(raisingchildren.net.au, 2021)
Acceptable expressions of attractions and ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment:
1. Communication - You‟ve definitely heard the very cliché “communication is key.” But here‟s the thing –
it‟s a cliché for a reason. Good communication is one of the most important aspects to having a healthy
relationship.
2. Respect - Listening to your partner (like actually listening, not just waiting to speak) and trying to
understand their perspective is a key way to show respect in your relationship.
3. Boundaries - We all have personal boundaries on what makes us feel good, comfortable, safe, etc. In a
healthy relationship, you should feel 100% comfortable communicating those boundaries and know that they
will be respected (and vice versa for your partner). Remember that you shouldn‟t feel nervous or scared to
set personal boundaries in any relationship.
4. Trust - This is a big thing. All healthy relationships require mutual and unguarded trust between
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partners. DO remember that it takes time to build trust in a relationship (it usually doesn‟t come right off the
bat!) and that when your partner fully trusts you with their feelings, you should respect them and not betray
their trust.
5. Support - One of the best things about being in a healthy relationship is having a supportive partner who
you know has your back. Whether it‟s sticking up for you when someone says something mean about you,
or always being that rock you can rely on, in a healthy relationship you and your partner will support each
other and treat each other as equals. (joinonelove.org, 2022)
6. Can`t keep their hands off you -. "They can't stop touching you, they want to be near you, and
they are intoxicated by your smell," relationship and wellness coach Shula Melamed, MA, MPH, tells Elite
Daily. When your partner always wants to hold your hands and don`t even want to let it go for a seconds or
minute, he or she can`t really keep her/his hands off you.
7. You catch them staring at you a lot - "They look at you for an extended period of time, taking it all in,"
Melamed adds. Everytime you look at him/her, you always see your partner looking at you especially to
your eyes.
8. They want to be near you - Wanting to be near someone as much as possible is definitely a
sign of physical attraction, Burr says. He/she always asks and tells this, “Where are you? I want to be with
you right now.” (CHRISTY PIÑA, 2018)
9. Acts - Another way to express love is to do something kind or helpful for
another person. By doing a chore or making a meal for your loved one, you can show them that they are
important to you. 10. Words - Some people feel and demonstrate love through words.
Giving compliments and encouragement, saying “I love you,” and leaving notes of affection and
appreciation are all ways of letting people know how much they mean to you. Cheerful messages can also be
an example of this. 11. Touch - Love can be expressed through physical
affection. Holding hands, giving a back rub, embracing, or kissing are often used to express love and
attachment. (Oregon Counselling, 2022) 12. Consider the Promise Ring - Perfect for
the couple that‟s somewhere in between casual dating and marriage, the promise ring is a visual indicator of
your commitment. 13. Have Standing Dates - You could set monthly
date nights one Friday each month, commit to watching the games of all your favorite sports teams or plan
dinner together a few nights a week. (QALO Inc., 2020)
Unacceptable Expression of Attraction - Every relationship has its ups and downs, and we all have to
compromise a little to make them work. But if your partner consistently does the following, it might be time
to walk away.
1. Cheating - If you are in a committed, monogamous relationship, cheating should be out of the question.
Many people will say infidelity is a deal-breaker. However, others will decide to stay with their partners
after an affair, and, under the right circumstances, it is possible to heal the relationship. If you do decide to

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maintain the relationship, your partner says they will never cheat again, and they do, it‟s likely that they will
continue to break your trust.
2. Putting you down - No one has the right to make you feel badly about yourself. Whether blatant or
subtle, if your partner criticizes your looks, your hair, your laugh, your intelligence, anything, they‟re not
worth your time.
3. Not supporting your dreams - In a relationship, you should be each other‟s cheerleaders. When you feel
discouraged, they should tell you all the things you‟re doing right. If you feel like throwing in the towel,
they should ask what he can do to help you reach your goals.
4. Controlling - You should have a life outside of your relationship, away from your partner. It is not their
place to tell you who you can see, when you can see them, what to eat, or how to dress. This controlling
behavior can be a warning sign of physical abuse, and should be taken seriously.
5. Lack of communication - You will never be able to grow together if you don‟t discuss your wants and
needs. You both need to feel comfortable openly expressing your feelings, good and bad, otherwise you
might begin to resent each other.
6. Unnecessary sacrifices - Compromise is a must in a relationship, but if you feel like you‟re giving up
everything, while your significant other is sacrificing nothing, something‟s not right.
7. Unreliability - When your car breaks down, you need advice, or you‟ve just had a bad day and need a
hug, do they come to your aid? If they‟re not there for you when you need someone the most, why are you
with them?
8. Forgetting the small stuff - There‟s a stereotype that men always forget anniversaries and birthdays.
Whether that‟s true or not, it‟s not okay. It‟s normal for something to slip our minds, but your man (or
woman) should remember those little things that are important to you.
9. Self-destruction - Sometimes we fall for people who are in rough situations. Though it can be difficult,
it‟s important to be there for your loved ones during these times, and encourage them to seek help if
necessary. However, if they are engaging in destructive behavior that is negatively affecting you, and they
refuse to seek help, you might want to consider leaving. There is only so much you can do, and it is not your
fault that they are not willing to help themselves.
10. Not caring about your friends and family - When you want to build a life with someone, you have to
accept every part of them, including the people they care about. Your partner not making an effort to get to
know your loved ones can cause a major strain on your relationship. (Parsons, 2017)
D. Examples

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PART II. Activity Proper

Activity I. Loop the following kind of Personal Relationships in the grid.

 Family
 Partnership
 Societal
 Divine
 Friends

F M O S I O N S E E H E I G H D
A A A O D H K L R M T E O D O I
R E M C O N I N G H F L I H D V
O A T I H U U C F T R E N B I I
G P H E L Y Y Y G I I L T E L N
B P G T F Y Z M H O E O E H Y E
E E E A I N T M F N N P R A P R
L H S L X W E I G H D J A V R E
I H S T X H S H X Z S E C I O L
E H F U E L I N G S Y N T O P A
F G N D F F A I T H G T I R O T
P A R T N E R S H I P Z O S I I

Activity II. Explain briefly the following quotations about the different kinds of Personal Relationships.
Write your answer on the space provided.

1. “Family is not an important thing. It‟s everything.” –Michael J. Fox

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2. “Many people will walk in and out of your life, but only true friends will leave footprints in your
heart.” -Eleanor Roosevelt

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PART III. SUMMATIVE EVALUATION

I. Directions: Write TRUE if the statement is correct, and FALSE if the statement is wrong.

_________1. Thoughts and expectations are as important in defining relationships as actual behaviors.

_________2. Limit emotional support to your family.

_________3. It is important to work on communicating our feelings in relationships.

_________4. Trying to understand where other people are coming from rather than judging them helps
us maintain relationships.

_________5. Expressing gratitude to our friends and family help us maintain good relationships

_________6. Don‟t trust anyone from the family.

_________7. Lust is commonly termed as “crush”. It is a temporary emotion which usually adolescents
feel during a short period of months.

_________8. Divine Relationship is a mutual relationship between God and Man.

_________9. Infatuation is a psychological force producing intense wanting for an object, or

circumstances fulfilling the emotion.
_________10. Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.

II. Directions: Complete the following sentences.

1. When I think about my family, I feel _____________________________________________
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2. When my friend broke up with her boyfriend, I_____________________________________
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3. I know God loves me because___________________________________________________
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4. When I hurt my friend, I _______________________________________________________
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5. The best time which I can decide is ______________________________________________
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III. Directions: Choose one from among the members of your family and paste a picture of him/her
in the box. Answer the questions that follows.

1. Name the person in the picture and his/ her relationship to you.
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2. How did the person in the picture show his/her help, love, and care to you?
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3. How did you show your help, love, and care in return?
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