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Lesson 8 Leaders Guide

This lesson focuses on using conflict as an opportunity for biblical reconciliation in marriages, encouraging couples to practice peacemaking as a lifestyle. Couples are guided to share their experiences with the reconciliation process and are reminded to be sensitive to each other's vulnerabilities. The lesson emphasizes the importance of ongoing support, patience, and the need for continued participation in group discussions.

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Lesson 8 Leaders Guide

This lesson focuses on using conflict as an opportunity for biblical reconciliation in marriages, encouraging couples to practice peacemaking as a lifestyle. Couples are guided to share their experiences with the reconciliation process and are reminded to be sensitive to each other's vulnerabilities. The lesson emphasizes the importance of ongoing support, patience, and the need for continued participation in group discussions.

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LEADER’S GUIDE

LESSON 8: RECONCILIATION

KEY CONCEPT

Identify conflict as an opportunity to biblically address barriers to oneness with God and each
other.

The goal of this lesson is for couples to practice the biblical peacemaking process. Couples will
address issues that have built up in their marriage, establish a practical exercise that will help
them get along and, most importantly, embrace the peacemaking process as a way of life. This
process is not normal for most couples in this world, but learning and applying it is central to
who we are as Christians.

QUESTION HIGHLIGHTS

• This lesson is different from others in that you are not looking to discuss answers to the
3 questions. You want couples to share their experience exercising the process. Ask
open-ended questions like:

o What was easy about the process? Difficult?


o How did you feel afterwards?
o How can you begin to make this a regular practice in your marriage?

If couples want to share specifics about the sins they discussed in Steps 1-4 then
embrace it, but that’s not the expectation and you certainly don’t want to pressure a
couple to share specifics. For some couples this will be very raw and they need time to
get comfortable sharing.

• Action Item 2: Be sensitive to anything couples may have listed. Make an offer to
connect and talk through next steps. Ideally you do this as a couple but, in some cases,
it may be better to connect one-on-one by gender.

REMINDERS

• This is a great lesson to pray for your couples and reach out during the week to see how
they are doing. Go out of your way to encourage them! Some participants will feel
particularly vulnerable this week because they’ve stepped out of their comfort zone and
owned or confessed things for the first time, and they are waiting to see the fallout.

• Be prepared for a wide range of responses from couples, from “for the first time we
worked through some long-time issues” to “we could not finish it” to a couple that may
not even show up this week.

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• The last section “When Conflict Is Unresolved” might trigger some frustrated spouses
because they want to see everything confessed and reconciled now. Remind them that it
took a while for them to get to this point in their marriage and it might take a while to
work out of it so be patient.

• Examples are your friend in this lesson. Appendix D is super helpful so make sure
participants are aware of it. Also be prepared to model the process by sharing a recent
conflict between you and your spouse.

• The Truth About Marriage is a great reminder that a reconciled relationship does not
necessarily mean trust has been rebuilt.

• Are your couples regularly attending the Large Group time? Around this time, some
couples start skipping, kind of a “been there, done that” attitude. Reinforce the need to
continue attending by starting group each week debriefing the Large Group.

DID YOU KNOW?

There is a Facebook group for re|engage leaders! Hundreds of leaders from across the country
are sharing best practices, encouraging one another, and asking for ideas. This is also the
place where the most up-to-the-minute national updates are shared to keep you in the loop with
what’s happening nationally with re|engage. Join the party!

LESSON LINKS

• Lesson 8 Preview Video


• Additional Resources for Participants on Reconciliation
• Recommended Testimony Video
• Lesson 8 Audio (Apple Podcasts)
• Lesson 8 Audio (Spotify Podcasts)

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