5-Days Challenge

Building
SELF-DISCIPLINE
In Your Family’s Language Journey &
Your Life

Follow along, take notes & reflect with this practical little
helper to make the most of this CHALLENGE in shaa Allah
 ‫َرِّب اْش َرْح ِلي َص ْد ِري َوَيِّس ْر ِلي َأْم ِري َواْحُلْل ُعْق َد ًة ِّمن ِّلَس اِني َيْف َق ُهوا َقْو ِلي‬
MY LORD! UPLIFT MY HEART FOR ME, AND MAKE MY TASK EASY, AND REMOVE THE
IMPEDIMENT FROM MY TONGUE, SO PEOPLE MAY UNDERSTAND MY SPEECH,

- QURAN SURAH TA HA ‫طه‬

(20: 25-28)

WELCOME ‫َم ْرَحًبا‬

Al hamdullil'Allah, you have joined our 5-days
Challenge and you can be proud of taking this
STEP & invest in yourself to grow & improve!

This is a cause for celebration !

‫ْن‬ ‫َأ‬
‫ِت‬ ‫َس‬ ‫ْح‬
Good job

Self-Discipline CHALLENGE 1-1

 - DAY 1 -
EMPOWERING CHANGE
What is it and why do you need it

T I O NS
N
INTE UA
+D IN SHAA ALLAH I WANT TO...

‫َّٰل‬
‫َأْس َت ْغ ِف ُر ٱل َر ي َو وُب ِإ ْي ِه‬
‫َل‬ ‫ُت‬ ‫َأ‬ ‫ِّب‬ ‫َه‬

Ya Allah... ... ‫الَّلُه َّم‬

Al-Hadee, The Guide, we begin this journey seeking Your
divine guidance. You are the Light that illuminates our
path, and we trust in Your wisdom to lead us through the
twists and turns of life.

Ya Allah, Al-Aleem, The All-Knowing, You comprehend the

depths of our hearts and the intricacies of our minds. As
we gather here for this challenge, bless us with
understanding, clarity, and the knowledge to navigate the
challenges that lie ahead.

Allahuma, Grant us the strength to face life's trials with

resilience, the patience to endure, and the wisdom to learn
from every experience. May these sessions be a source of
enlightenment, growth, and self-discovery.

Ya Allah, as we embark on this collective journey, shower

us with Your mercy and blessings. Guide our intentions,
our thoughts, and our actions, so they align with Your
divine will.

‫آمين‬
Self-Discipline CHALLENGE 1-3
 EXPLORING ‘CHANGE’

Q1: What is Change? ‫الَّتْغ ِيير‬

CHANGE = Process or result of _________________, ______________,

or ____________________ something.

‫ِإَّن الَّلَه اَل ُيَغ ِّيُر َم ا ِبَق ْو ٍم َحَّتٰى ُيَغ ِّيُروا َم ا ِبَأْنُفِس ِه ْم‬
ALLAH DOES NOT CHANGE THE CONDITION OF A PEOPLE UNTIL THEY
CHANGE WHAT IS WITHIN THEMSELVES.

- QURAN SURAH AR-RA’D

(13: 11)

Change happens when you make new choices

& make them consistently

ES
NOT

Self-Discipline CHALLENGE 1-4

 ‫ِلَم اَذ ا‬
Q2: Why do we want change?

Strengthening Ourselves
1- Relieve Pain 2- Desire for success

Problem? Success?

‫َأْن‬
Q3: What would Change look like for YOU? ‫ِت‬

Self-Discipline CHALLENGE 1-5

 DEFINING ‘SUCCESS’
‫الَفاَل ح‬
Q1: What is success ?

SUCCESS = _________________?______________ _______________

‫َيا َأُّيَه ا اَّلِذيَن آَم ُنوا اَّتُق وا الَّلَه َواْبَتُغ وا ِإَلْي ِه اْلَوِس يَلَة‬
‫َوَجاِه ُد وا يِف َس ِبيِلِه َلَع َّلُكْم ُتْف ِلُحوَن‬
O BELIEVERS! BE MINDFUL OF ALLAH AND SEEK WHAT BRINGS YOU
CLOSER TO HIM AND STRUGGLE IN HIS WAY, SO YOU MAY BE
SUCCESSFUL.
- QURAN SURAH AL-MAIDAH
(5: 35)

ES
NOT

Self-Discipline CHALLENGE 1-6

 ‫الَغ اَية‬
Q2: What is the purpose of our lives?

Remembering our ultimate purpose

‫َوَم ا َخ َلْق ُت اْلِج َّن َواِإْل ْنَس ِإاَّل ِلَيْع ُبُد وِن‬
I DID NOT CREATE THE JINN AND THE HUMANS EXCEPT TO WORSHIP ME.

- QURAN SURAH ADH-DHARIYAT

(51:56)

Q3: How can we reach success?

Purpose Success

____________ _____________

____________________

Our path in life is a manifestation of how we CHOOSE

to worship Allah in this dunya
ES
NOT

Self-Discipline CHALLENGE 1-7

 Let’s Reflect
- DAY 1 -
EMPOWERING CHANGE

Getting CLARITY on Our Reality

What is bringing me pain in my life right now?

What would success look like for me in this dunya

for the benefif of my Akhirah?

Self-Discipline CHALLENGE 1-8

 - DAY 2 -
SELF-DISCIPLINE EQUATION
How can we ensure we are fulfiling our purpose

WORKING TOWARDS CHANGE

‫َم اَذ ا‬
Q1: What can help us create CHANGE?

MOTIVATION SELF-DISCIPLINE

Self-discipline is about doing what ______________ to be

done when it _________________ to be done whereas
motivation is doing what you ___________________ doing
when you __________________ doing it.

SELF-DISCIPLINE IS MORE POWERFUL

THAN MOTIVATION

ability to ____________ ourselves

forward and take action,
regardless of how we’re __________,
SELF-DISCIPLINE _____________ or _______________.

what you _____________ to do is

what is ______________ for you

Self-Discipline CHALLENGE 2-1

 The Self-Discipline equation

VALUE EXPECTANCY

IMPULSIVITY DELAY

‫االْن ِض َباط الَذ اِتي‬

Q2: How can we increase our self-discipline?

INCREASING OUR _______________ + __________________

REDUCING OUR ____________________ + _______________

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NOT

Self-Discipline CHALLENGE 2-2

 INCREASING SELF-DISCIPLINE
‫الَّر ْغ َبة‬
FACTOR #1: DESIRE

‘I want to do this!’

LOVING MYSELF! Doing what is ________________

for me instead of wanting

_______________________ (instant

gratification).

How?

_______________________________________

_______________________________________

_______________________________________

_______________________________________

ES
NOT

Self-Discipline CHALLENGE 2-3

 INCREASING SELF-DISCIPLINE
‫الِّث َق ة‬
FACTOR #2: CONFIDENCE

‘I am confident I can do this, with the help of Allah.’

TRUSTING IN ALLAH Using the __________________

Allah gifted me to use them to

my __________________.

How?
_______________________________________

_______________________________________

_______________________________________

_______________________________________

_______________________________________

ES
NOT

Self-Discipline CHALLENGE 2-4

 INCREASING SELF-DISCIPLINE
‫الُم ْل َه َيات‬
FACTOR #3: DISTRACTIONS

‘I won’t let anything get in the way.’

REALITY CHECK Beware of the ________________

distractions & the inclination of

the _______________

How?
_______________________________________

_______________________________________

_______________________________________

_______________________________________

_______________________________________

ES
NOT

Self-Discipline CHALLENGE 2-5

 INCREASING SELF-DISCIPLINE
‫ْأ‬
‫الَّت ِج يل‬
FACTOR #4: POSTPONING

‘I will commit to making it work!’

MAKING A DECISION Taking ____________________ of

my choices & __________________

them.

How?

_______________________________________

_______________________________________

_______________________________________

_______________________________________

ES
NOT

Self-Discipline CHALLENGE 2-6

 Let’s Reflect
- DAY 2 -
SELF-DISCIPLINE

Prioritizing the most URGENT!

With which one of those 4 factors do I struggle
the MOST?

DESIRE
CONFIDENCE
DISTRACTIONS
POSTPONING

Reflect on why:

What SMALL action or task can I put in place

today?

Self-Discipline CHALLENGE 2-7

 - DAY 3-
SELF-AWARENESS
Exploring how we can reach our full potential

‫ِإْم َك اِنَيُتَن ا‬
Q1: How can we reach our potential?

ACKNOWLEDGING WHAT ALLAH HAS GRANTED US

#1: KNOWING MYSELF

#2: UNDERSTANDING MYSELF

#3: AFFIRMING MYSELF

Q2: How does it relate to self-discipline?

DESIRE CONFIDENCE

DISTRACTIONS DELAY

ES
NOT

Self-Discipline CHALLENGE 3-1

 KNOWING OURSELVES

Activity: Who are YOU?

‫َأ‬
‫ْع ِر ف‬
Q1: How can I know myself?

Understanding my story, roles, personality,

qualities, weaknesses, values, and spirituality

WILL HELP ME NAVIGATE LIFE WITH CLARITY

Q2: What has been the BIGGEST obstacle to discovering

who you truly are?

PAUSE & REFLECT

Self-Discipline CHALLENGE 3-2

 UNDERSTANDING OURSELVES

Q1: What are we made of?

Mind ‫عقل‬
Our thoughts & Belief
System will ____________
our _____________

Heart ‫قلب‬
Soul Our emotions
‫نفس‬
‫حواس‬ Senses ______________ our
___________ and __________
Our senses allow us
to ______________ the
world around us And all is under the supervision
of our __________ or _________
________

Our Body

‫َرَّبَنا َم ا َخ َلْق َت َٰه َذا َباِط ًل‬

OUR LORD, YOU DID NOT CREATE THIS IN VAIN

- QURAN SURAH AL-IMRAN

(3: 191)

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NOT

Self-Discipline CHALLENGE 3-3

 UNDERSTANDING OURSELVES

Q2: How does it work?

Nafs

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NOT

What do we need to explore?

_______________________________________

_______________________________________

_______________________________________

_______________________________________

Self-Discipline CHALLENGE 3-4

 Let’s Reflect
- DAY 3 -
SELF-AWARENESS

Discovering YOU! Hum

an Musl
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What are my roles? nt Da

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What are they?
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Family

My Values:

My Positive Qualities:

My Negative Qualities:

My strengths:

My weaknesses:

Self-Discipline CHALLENGE 3-5

 - DAY 4-
BELIEF SYSTEM
Strengthening the way we see and interpret the world

Our thoughts depend on the way we

were __________________ to
______________ the external stimuli we
FILTER encounter.

Q1: What’s our FILTER made of?

‫ُم ِّه م‬
Q2: Why is it important to understand this?
L et ’s ex p lo re !
What is Death?

ES
NOT

Self-Discipline CHALLENGE 4-1

 Our belief system
is the lens through which we filter the world

It influence the CHOICES we make

CREATING CHANGE

Pain Success

Q1: What is the ULTIMATE success ? Failure?

‫َفَأَّم ا َم ْن َط َغ َوآَثَر اْلَحَياَة الُّدْنَيا َفِإَّن اْلَجِح يَم ِه َي اْلَم ْأَوٰى‬

‫َوَأَّم ا َم ْن َخ اَف َم َق اَم َرِّبِه َوَنَه ى الَّنْف َس َعِن اْلَه َوٰى َفِإَّن اْلَجَّنَة ِه َي اْلَم ْأَوٰى‬
AS FOR THOSE WHO TRANSGRESSED AND PREFERRED THE ˹FLEETING˺
LIFE OF THIS WORLD, THE HELLFIRE WILL CERTAINLY BE ˹THEIR˺ HOME
AND AS FOR THOSE WHO WERE IN AWE OF STANDING BEFORE THEIR
LORD AND RESTRAINED THEMSELVES FROM ˹EVIL˺ DESIRES, PARADISE
WILL CERTAINLY BE ˹THEIR˺ HOME.

- QURAN SURAH AN-NASI’AT

(79: 37-41)

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NOT

Self-Discipline CHALLENGE 4-2

 Q2: How can we create change?

Short Term Change

Long Term Change

Developping an Akhirah Mindset

How?
_______________________________________

_______________________________________

_______________________________________

ES
NOT

Self-Discipline CHALLENGE 4-3

 CREATING CHANGE

Reframing Our Core Beliefs

‫ الَّلُه الَّص َم ُد‬- ‫ُقْل ُه َو الَّلُه َأَحٌد‬

SAY, ˹O PROPHET˺ “HE IS ALLAH—ONE ˹AND
INDIVISIBLE˺, ALLAH—THE SUSTAINER ˹NEEDED BY ALL˺
- QURAN SURAH AL-IKHLAS
(112: 1-2)

‫ِإَّنا ِلَّلِه َوِإَّنا ِإَلْي ِه َراِج ُع وَن‬

“SURELY TO ALLAH WE BELONG AND TO HIM WE WILL ˹ALL˺ RETURN.”
- QURAN SURAH AL-BAQARAH
(2: 156)

‫اْلَحَياُة الُّدْنَيا ِإاَّل َم َتاُع اْلُغ ُروِر‬

THE LIFE OF THIS WORLD IS NO MORE THAN THE
DELUSION OF ENJOYMENT.
- QURAN SURAH AL-HADID
(57: 20)

ES
NOT

Self-Discipline CHALLENGE 4-4

 Let’s Reflect
- DAY 4 -
STRENGTHENING
OUR BELIEF SYSTEM

Reflect !
Think about a recent challenge and engage in these reflections:

What was I telling myself?

What was my understanding around this issue?

How can I reframe that towards the akhirah?

Write one sentence reminder if you are to

experience that challenge again:

Self-Discipline CHALLENGE 4-5

 - DAY 5-
TAKING ACTION
Planning for CHANGE!

Are you ready to take RESPONSIBILITY?

POWER
Guilt
Victimhood

Responsibility

You CAN choose

to respond differently!

ES
NOT

Self-Discipline CHALLENGE 5-1

 How?
_______________________________________

_______________________________________

_______________________________________

_______________________________________

CREATING POSITIVE CHANGE

‫َنْب َد أ‬
Q1: Where do we START?

1- Relieve Pain 2- Desire for success

ES
NOT

Self-Discipline CHALLENGE 5-2

 WORKING TOWARDS CHANGE
‫َأ‬
‫ْه َد اف‬
Setting S.M.A.R.T. Goals

Setting tailored Goals according to our life & needs

S M A R T
Specific Measurable Achievable Relevant Tawakkul
What do I want to How much? How Can I realistically Is my goal Have I put my Trust
accomplish exactly ? will I know it’s achieve this ? coherent with my in Allah subhanahu
accomplished ? situation ? wa ta'ala ?

Self-Discipline CHALLENGE 5-3

Q2: What’s NEXT?

Developing our SELF-DISCIPLINE around that goal

INCREASING DESIRE

INCREASING CONFIDENCE

REDUCING DISTRACTIONS

REDUCING DELAY

Self-Discipline CHALLENGE 5-4

 Let’s Do this!
- DAY 5 -
TAKE ACTION

Planning for SUCCESS

Set your intentions

Make a plan (S.M.A.R.T. goal)

Assess

Adjust OR unto the next one!

YOU DID IT
ma shaaAllah

You have just completed the

Building
SELF-DISCIPLINE
Challenge

Self-Discipline CHALLENGE 5-5

 ASKING FOR ALLAH’S HELP

DUA

‫ َوَأْس َتْغ ِف ُرَك ِلَم ا اَل َأْع َلُم‬، ‫الَّلُهَّم ِإِّني َأُعوُذِبَك َأْن ُأْش ِرَك ِبَك َوَأَنا َأْع َلُم‬

What do I want to ask Allah?

D u a C h ec k li s t
BE MINDFUL

HAVE CERTITUDE

ASK
What name(s) of Allah can I use? FREQUENTLY &
BE PERSISTENT
BE FIRM

TRUST IN ALLAH

ASK FOR OTHERS

‫ َو الَّص َالُة والَّس اَل ُم َع َلى َم ْن ال َنِب َّي َبْع َد ُه‬، ‫الَح ْم ُد ِلَّلِه َو ْح َد ُه‬

Ya Allah... ... ‫الَّلُه َّم‬

 MAKING A PLAN

Setting S.M.A.R.T. Goals

In shaa Allah, I want to...

What tasks cane

help me achiev
this?
How can I make easier on me?
 TRACKING GOALS
ASSESSMENT ROUTINE (DAY, TIME, PLACE)

MY GOAL FOR CHANGE

S PECIFIC
‫ ال َه َد ُف‬GOAL

M EASURABLE
A CHIEVABLE
R ELEVANT
TAWAKKUL

Assessment - ‫الَّت ْق ِي ي ُم‬

1- IS THIS GOAL ADEQUATE? YES - ‫َنَع ْم‬ NO - ‫اَل‬
2- HOW CAN I MAKE IT BETTER? 3- NEW DEFINED GOAL

4- ACHIEVEMENT (TO CELEBRATE):

MY GOAL FOR CHANGE

S PECIFIC
‫ ال َه َد ُف‬GOAL

M EASURABLE
A CHIEVABLE
R ELEVANT
TAWAKKUL

Assessment - ‫الَّت ْق ِي ي ُم‬

1- IS THIS GOAL ADEQUATE? YES - ‫َنَع ْم‬ NO - ‫اَل‬
2- HOW CAN I MAKE IT BETTER? 3- NEW DEFINED GOAL

4- ACHIEVEMENT (TO CELEBRATE):