PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT

Quarter 1 – Module 4-ADULTING 101: How to Deal with Adulting

At the end of the module, you should be able to:

 explain the importance of addressing the physical and psychological changes brought
about by adolescence ,
 examine the challenges presented to adolescents pertaining to the physical and
psychological areas, and
 acknowledge the different types of challenges that adolescents have to face and the
means of addressing them.

KEEP THIS IN MIND

Reading: THE PASSAGE TO ADULTHOOD: CHALLENGES OF LATE ADOLESCENCE

Ways to Become a Responsible Adolescent Prepared for Adult Life
Becoming responsible and being able to make good choices are very important traits no
matter what developmental stage you are in. It holds true for adolescents especially that they
are just beginning to internalize and imbibe virtues, values, and other essential qualities.
It may not be easy to be a teenager. There may be lots of things going on in various
facets of their lives. The demands and expectations of their parents and other people around
them can also be stressful. But the good news is, they can treat these ‘difficulties’ as
‘challenges’ which can make their life exciting. Having that mindset is also an indication of
becoming a responsible and mentally mature adolescent.

Eight (8) simple rules which could help you, teenagers, to become a responsible adolescent who
is prepared for adult life:
1. Focus on your studies and do well in all of your endeavors. There is time for everything.
2. Take care of your health and hygiene. Healthy body and mind are important as you
journey through adolescence.
3. Establish good communication and relation with your parents or guardian. Listen to them.
This may be easier said than done at this stage, but creating good relationship with them
will do you good as they are the ones you can lean on especially in times of trouble.
4. Think a lot before doing something. Evaluate probable consequences before acting.
Practice self-control and self-discipline.
5. Choose to do the right thing. There are plenty of situations in which it is better to use
your mind rather than your heart.
6. Do your best to resist temptations, bad acts, and earthly pleasures and commit to being a
responsible adolescent.
7. Respect yourself. You are an adult in the making. Do not let your teenage hormones get
into you. If you respect yourself, others will respect you too.
8. Be prepared to be answerable or accountable for your actions and behavior. It is a part of
growing up and becoming an adult.

Physical Development
 Most girls have completed the physical changes related to puberty by age 15.
 Boys are still maturing and gaining strength, muscle mass, and height and are
completing the development of sexual traits.

Emotional Development
 May stress over school and test scores.
 Is self- involved (may have high expectations and low self-concept).
 Seek privacy and time alone.
 Is concerned about physical and sexual attractiveness.
 May complain of parents preventing him or her from doing things independently.
 Starts to want both physical and emotional intimacy in relationships.
 Try the experience of intimate partnerships.

Social Development
  Shifts in relationship with parents from dependency and subordination to one that reflects
the adolescent’s increasing maturity and responsibilities in the family and community,
 Is more and more aware of social behaviors of friends.
 Seek friends that share the same beliefs, values and interests.
 Friends become more important.
 Starts to have more intellectual interest.
 Explores romantic and sexual behaviors with others.
 May be influenced by peers to try risky behaviors (alcohol, tobacco, sex).

Mental Development
 Becomes better able to set goals and think in terms of the future.
 Has a better understanding of complex problems and issues.
 Start to develop moral ideals and to select role models.

Reading: ENCOURAGEMENT 101: The Courage to be Imperfect

By: Timothy D. Evans, Ph.D

Encouragement is the key ingredient for improving your relationships with others. It is the
single most important skill necessary for getting along with others- so important that the lack of
it could be considered the primary cause of conflict and misbehavior. Encouragement develops
a person’s psychological hardiness and social interest. Encouragement is the lifeblood of a
relationship. And yet, this simple concept is often very hard to put into practice.
Encouragement is not anew idea. Its spiritual connotation dates back to the Bible in
Hebrews 3:11 which states: Encourage one another daily.” Encouragement, as a psychological
idea, was developed by psychiatrist Alfred Adler in the early 20 th century and continued to
evolve through the work of Adler’s follower Rudolph Dreikurs. However, even today, relatively
new educators, parents, psychologists, leaders or couples have utilized this valuable concept.
Most of the time, people mistakenly use a technique like praise in an effort to “encourage”
others.
Half the job of encouragement lies in avoiding discouraging words and actions. When
children or adults misbehave, it is usually because they are discouraged. Instead of building
them up, we tear them down: instead of recognizing their efforts and improvements, we point
out mistakes: instead of allowing them to belong through shared decision-making and
meaningful contributions, we isolate and label them.
Most of us are skilled discouragers. We have learned how to bribe, reward and, when that
fails, to punish, criticize, nag, threaten, interrogate and emotionally withdraw. We do this as an
attempt to control those we love, bolstered by the mistaken belief that we are responsible for
the behavior of everyone around us, especially our spouses and children. These attempts to
control behavior create atmospheres of tension and conflict in many houses.

Most commonly, we discourage in five several ways:

 We set standards that are too high for others to meet because we are overly ambitious.
 We focus on mistakes as a way to motivate change or improved behavior.
 We make constant comparisons (self to other, siblings to one another).
 We automatically give a negative spin to the actions of others.
 We dominate others by being overly helpful, implying that they are unable to do it as well.

Encouragement is not a technique nor is it a special language used to gain compliance.

Encouragement conveys the idea that all human beings are worthwhile, simply because they
exist. In one sentence, Mr. Rogers does more for a child’s sense of adequacy than a hundred
instances of praise when he says, “I like you just the way you are.” Not I like you when you do it
well enough, fast enough and get it all correct. Encouragement develops children’s
psychological hardiness—their ability to function and recover when things aren’t going their
way.
Encouragement enhances a feeling of belonging which leads to grater social interest
Social interest is the tendency for the people to unite themselves with other human beings and
to accomplish their task in cooperation with others. The Junior League mission of “developing
the potential of women and improving communities through the effective action and
leadership of trained volunteers” is rooted in the idea of social interest.
The first step to becoming an encouraging person is to learn to distinguish
encouragement from discouragement. As a rule, ask yourself: Whatever I say or do, will it bring me
closer together or farther apart from this person?
Source:http//carterandevans.com/portal/index.phpadlerian-theory/84- encouragement-101-thecourage-to-be-
imperfect

Reading: THE POWER OF PERSONAL DECLARATIONS

By: Dr. Emily De Carlo
So often we accept the declarations that others have made concerning our own lives,
well-being or fate. It is imperative that we recognize that in order to achieve what we want in
life, we must not give our power away to others by accepting heir declarations concerning our
affairs. When one decides that he or she will boldly declare good fortune, wellness, joy, etc.
relative to his or her life, all of heaven will break loose! Goodness and mercy shall surely follow.
From birth, we often told what we are going to be. Sometimes, this is a good thing, but
suppose you have been told time and time again that “you will not amount to anything just like
your mother and father?” this is a dangerous declaration because it sets into motion the
actualization of an unwanted occurrence. All of us want to amount to something! In order to
counteract this and all of the negative declarations with their destructive potential, one must
consciously replace them with one’s owns declarations. In so doing, you are now in control of
setting into action what you really want to occur. You can declare that goodness and mercy shall
surely follow you all the days of your life!
The following are some declarations that you may want to make concerning your life:
I declare:
That I am totally free of all addictions.
That I will sill survive any attempts of others to control my life. That I am free in my mind, body,
and emotions.
That I am free to set goals and reach them.
That I am a loving individual with the capacity to give love. That I am a child of a God with all
rights and privileges thereof. That I will contribute to the welfare of others.
That I will be an ambassador of goodwill to all I meet on the journey. That I will be a good
example for others to follow.
That I will help all that I can to reach their goals. That I will speak words of encouragement to
others. That I will find the goodness in life and focus on it.
That I will not succumb to the negative influences of others.
That I will read the information that will encourage my personal, and spiritual growth. That I will
commit to being the best I can be.

These declarations are meant to encourage you to take control of the influences in your
life. They are suggestions as to what positive things you can speak about your own life instead
of accepting whatever has been said about you in the past. You now have the authority to plant
the seeds of love, encouragement and victory in your garden., thereby crowding out the weeds
of negativity that may already have taken root! Just us in the garden, you may have to pull and
pull until you get some weeds out. Sometimes, the negative comments and declarations of
others have taken such a stronghold in our lives, that we must persist until we see the bough
not only fall, but break into pieces. Don’t be discouraged if you don’t reach your goals
overnight. Just remember that even a small stream of water will crack concrete eventually!!
Source:http://www.selfgrowth .com/articles/the_power_of_personal_declarations

PERFORMANCE TASK
In a short bond paper,
1. Write a slogan or personal declaration on how you can be committed to your self- development.
2. Explain your thoughts and feelings about it (3-5 sentences). Include specific ways in which you will
develop yourself further.
Module 4-ACTIVITY
Instructions: Write TRUE if the statement is correct and FALSE if otherwise.
1. Stress is a common psychological concern among adolescents.
2. Family associations are important in adolescent development.
3. Female adolescents are more concerned about weight.
4. The transition from high school to college/ work is not a bigger responsibility for
adolescents.
5. Adolescents do not ask independence from parents.
6. Most girls have completed the physical changes related to puberty by age 15.
 7. In the adolescence stage, friends become more important.
8. They maybe influenced by peers to try risky behaviors (alcohol, tobacco, sex)
9. They have a better understanding of complex problems and issues.
10. They start to have more intellectual interests.
Identify the following statements. Write P for personal, E for Emotional, S for Social and M for Mental.
11. May stress over school and test scores.
12. Starts to develop moral ideas and to select role models
13. Explores romantic and sexual behaviors with others.
14. Is more aware of social behaviors of friends.
15. Seeks privacy and time alone.
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 APPLY WHAT YOU HAVE LEARNED

Task 3: Copy and answer the following on your journal notebook. Try Me!
Positive Self- Talk Negative Self- Talk
Ex. I deserve love and respect as I am. No one will ever love me.

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Task 4:

How will you apply the 4 types of development in your daily task/ activity that will help you in
becoming a responsible adolescent.

REFLECT!

Congratulations!
You have just finished this module.
I hope what you learned from this
module will help you deal with
adulting.

GLOSSARY
The following terms used in this module are defined as follows:

Adolescence – the period following the onset of puberty during which a young person
develops from a child into an adult.

Discrimination- the unjust or prejudicial treatment of different categories of people or things,

especially on the grounds of race, age, or sex.

Emotional development-refers to the ability to recognize, express and manage feelings at

different stages of life and ton have empathy for the feelings of others.

Personal development- covers activities that improve awareness and identity, develop talents
and potential.

Physical development- involves developing control cover the body, particularly muscles and
physical coordination.

Self – esteem- confidence in one’s own worth or abilities.

Social development- refers to the process by which a child learns to interact with others around
them.
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 REFERENCES

Barbara Wong-Fernandez, Estesa Xaris Que-Legaspi, Carolyn C. Quiba, Mae R. Refanan, Zisa
Velasquez-Garcia, Personal Development Learner’s Guide First Edition (Department of
Education, 2016)

2020.http://deepblue.libumich.edu/bitstream/handle/2027.42/49326/179_ftp.pdf

2020.http://www.selfgrowth .com/articles/the_power_of_personal_declarations

0220.http//carterandevans.com/portal/index.phpadlerian-theory/84-encouragement- 101-the
courage-to-be-imperfect

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