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PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
Semester I/II - Week9
Building and Maintaining
Personal Relationships

CONTEXTUALIZED LEARNING ACTIVITY SHEETS

SCHOOLS DIVISION OF PUERTO PRINCESA CITY
Personal Development – Grade 11/12
Contextualized Learning Activity Sheets (CLAS)
Quarter 4 – Week 1: Building and Maintaining Relationships: Personal
Relationships
First Edition, 2020

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 Lesson 1
Personal Relationships
MELC:
Discuss an understanding of teen-age relationships, including the acceptable
and unacceptable expressions of attractions (EsP-PD11/12PR-IIa-9.1)

Express his/her ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment

(EsPPD11/12PR-IIa-9.2)

Identify ways to become responsible in a relationship (EsP-PD11/12PR-IIb-

9.3)

Objectives:
1. Discuss an understanding of teenage relationships, including the
acceptableand unacceptable expressions of attractions,
2. Express your ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment; and
3. Identify ways to become responsible in a relationship.

Let’s
Let’s Try
Try
A. Multiple Choice. Carefully read each item and circle the best
answer.

_____ 1. Which of the following is NOT a positive impact of a teenage romantic

relationship?
A. enhanced self-esteem C. no feelings of social anxiety
B. popularity and social status D. sexual health risk

_____ 2. Which of the following might be a problem of Student A who started being
sexually active with her partner?
A. Sexually Transmitted Illness and unplanned pregnancy
B. substance abuse
C. involvement in delinquent behaviour
D. depression

______3. The following are common relationship problems among couples. Which
is the most common among teenagers?
A. one-sided lack of responsibility for chores and tasks
B. an unsupportive partner during pregnancy
C. dealing with a jealous partner
D. domestic violence

______4. The following statements about expression of love are true EXCEPT:
A. Learn to appreciate/express gratitude
B. Be demanding from your loved one
C. Be creative with your gifts.
D. Be thoughtful.
______5. Which statement shows being responsible in a relationship? A.
Respecting the limits and values of others.

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 B. Having my own feelings and ideas and sharing them without worrying
about how my dating partner will react.
C. Speaking up when I think my dating partner’s actions or language are
unfair or hurtful.
D. Expressing my opinions and be heard by my partner.

B. True or False. Put a check mark ( ) if the statement is true, cross mark (X) if the
sentence indicates a false statement. Write your answer on the line before each
number.
_____1. It is important to work on communicating our feelings in relationships.
_____2. In our relationships, it is vital that we practice forgiveness when a loved
one has hurt us.
_____3. Our loved ones can help us in dealing with stress.
_____4. Excessive reliance on social media can be a cause of tension in
relationships.
_____5. To respect the privacy of others, including their rights to private
conversations, phone calls, text messages, social networking activities,

Let’s Explore and Discover

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bonds and evolving, and to fully enjoy and benefit from them we need
interactions. skills, information, inspiration, practice, and social support.
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 Understanding Teenage Relationships
The relationships we have with friends, romantic partners, family, teachers and
workmates have a significant impact on our mental health and wellbeing. If
relationships are positive then they can provide us with a feeling of being respected
and cared for.

Romantic Relationships
It can be difficult to appreciate the impact that a romantic relationship can have
on a young person's life. Given that they are sometimes short-lived and seemingly
unstable, adolescents' romantic relationships are often dismissed as 'puppy love',
unimportant or failed to be taken seriously.

It has become increasingly clear that young people's romantic relationships

warrant much more attention than they have traditionally been given. They play an
important role in young people's day-to-day lives, and have a significant impact on
their current mental health, their on-going development and future romantic
relationships.

Why is it important to consider the impact of romantic relationships in the

lives of young people?
Romantic relationships are a common topic of
conversation, a significant source of preoccupation and
rumination, and a major cause of strong emotions in
adolescence.

Young people say that romantic relationships and

experiences - whether real, potential or fantasised –
account for many of their strong emotions both positive
(e.g., excitement, happiness), and negative (e.g. jealousy,
anger, distress). The negative emotions associated with
Figure 4- Teenage Relationship romantic relationships can't be avoided simply by not
getting involved in one.

Young people (particularly girls) spend a lot of time thinking and talking about
romantic relationships, whether the focus is on past relationships, or potential future
relationships, even when they are single. And young people who are not in a romantic
relationship often say that not having a boyfriend/girlfriend is very stressful,
particularly in early adolescence. In addition to having a major impact on a young
person's day-today lives, romantic relationships impact significantly on their on-going
emotional and social development. They also lay the foundations for romantic
relationships in adulthood.

While it is true that young people's romantic relationships tend to be shorter in

duration than adult relationships, and typically involve less intimacy, attachment and
commitment, they still play a very important role in adolescents' lives.

The impacts of a romantic relationship

Romantic relationships cannot be generalised as being either 'good' or 'bad' for
adolescent development. The many benefits and risks of adolescent romantic
involvement often co-exist. Positive outcomes can include enhanced self-esteem,
popularity and social status, social competence, autonomy/independence, increased
feelings of self-worth and protection against feelings of social anxiety.

Negative outcomes can include substance use, academic difficulties, stress and
involvement in delinquent behaviour (particularly in relation to early sexual and
romantic experiences), sexual health risks and unplanned pregnancy, risk of
experiencing 'dating violence' or 'partner violence' and increased vulnerability to
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experiencing depressive symptoms (particularly for girls, and particularly following
break-ups)
Supporting a young person during a relationship break up
Some things to consider:
• Avoid assumptions about the significance of a relationship or the impact of a
break-up
• Don't dismiss distress resulting from a relationship break-up - young people
may be at increased risk of developing a depressive episode following a break-
up
• Don't make assumptions about how significant a relationship was/is based on
duration or age
• Be sensitive to the ways in which a romantic relationship may affect existing
friendships and/or family relationships
• Do not dismiss their distress or assume they will simply 'get over it in time'.
They may be feeling embarrassed or ashamed about seeking help for a
problem they think they should be able to deal with alone - if your reaction
reinforces this belief it can be very damaging
• Discuss acceptable and unacceptable ways of coping with difficult emotions
(e.g., stalking behaviour, cyber-bullying; see dealing with relationship break-
ups)

(Source: ”Understanding Teenage Relationships” accessed March 11,

2021 https://headspace.org.au/friends-and-family/understanding-teenage-
relationships/)

Here is the list of the most common relationship problems most often encountered by
couples:
ISSUES DESCRIPTION
1. Affairs / infidelity / This includes emotional infidelity, one-night stands, internet
cheating relationships (including ‘sexting’), long- and short-term
affairs and financial infidelity
2. Sexual Issues Particularly loss of libido and including questions around your
gender, or your partner's gender
3. Life stages You have ‘outgrown’ each other or have ‘changed’ significantly
for whatever reason.
4. Responses to prolonged Such as Work-Related Stress, long-term illness, mental health
periods of Stress issues, Financial Problems, problems with the children, infertility
and many more
5. Domestic violence Which includes verbal as well as physical abuse: The most
serious relationship problem.
6. Lack of responsibility regarding finances, children, health and many other issues
7. Unrealistic Expectations still thinking your partner / spouse is the princess / knight and
not seeing the 'real' human being
8. Addictions substance abuse
9. Lack of support during difficult times from people that matter to you. Even
during pregnancy and/or significant problems after
the birth of your baby.
10. Manipulation over-involvement in your relationships with family or friends
11. Lack of communication about important matters
12. Poor division of lack of responsibility for chores and tasks. It is not always
responsibility women who complain about this relationship problem.
13. Perceived lack of Even concern, care and consideration attentiveness:
affection feeling the relationship is one-sided is a big one.
14. Personal that lead to a change in relationship dynamics
disappointments, traumas
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15. Depression or other suffered by one partner or both
mental health issues
16. Long-term stress particularly when not taking responsibility for doing
something positive to address the cause, or about
learning to handle it if it cannot be changed
17. Others Differences in core values and beliefs. Traumatic and/or
life-changing events. Dealing with a jealous partner.
Having 'blended' family issues. Excessive reliance on
social media, at the cost of the relationship.
We wouldn’t be surprised if you have found that you are experiencing several of
these relationship problems, but you know what? However difficult this time is for you
we promise you that this too will pass. We are rooting for you and we know that you
will be happy again. You don’t have to wait and hope for better times – together we
can do something about it now!

The person you love (or used to love) was always bound to hurt you - it's sadly a
fact of life and we all do it to each other. However, we can become better at solving
our relationship problems by taking responsibility for ourselves.
(Source: “Common Relationship Problems” accessed March 11, 2021 http://www.professional-
counselling.com/common-relationship-problems.html)

Love is a choice as much as it is a feeling or a decision. Those who give love

receive love. Here are ways to express your attraction, love and commitment to your
special someone, your friends, family, children. By expressing love, we bring
ourselves joy knowing that love is not just a short-lived moment, but an on-going,
free-flowing experience that enriches our lives.
1. Learn to appreciate/express gratitude. Tell someone how much you
appreciate their presence in your life.
2. Be thoughtful. Remember special occasions such as birthday, anniversary of
your loved ones.
3. Set aside time. Give the gift of listening. Make a date if you must, in your
own home or at a quiet little neighborhood place, for coffee or a drink and just
listen to each other’s thoughts.
4. Be creative with your gifts. Flowers and other gifts are nice but you can
also create your own such painting, collage, letters, poems and songs.
5. Offer an act of kindness. Say to your love or someone you care about,
“What can I do for you today that will make your life easier and less stressful?”
Then do it.
6. Be forgiving. Be more understanding and forgiving with each other’s
shortcomings.
7. Be supportive/Cheer each other up. In both the good and bad times, make
sure that you got each other’s back.
My Relationship Rights My Relationship Responsibilities

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  To be respected and treated equally.  To determine my limits and values.
 To say no to someone who asks me out.  To respect the limits and values of
 To suggest activities or refuse activities.  others.
 To have my own feelings and ideas and To give my dating partner space to be
share them without worrying about how  their own person.
my dating partner will react.  To own my actions and feelings.
 To speak up when I think my dating  To communicate clearly and honestly.
partner’s actions or language are unfair To compromise when needed without
or hurtful.  compromising myself.
 To express my opinions and be heard by  To ask for help when I need it.
my partner. To check my actions and decisions to
 To have my limits and values respected.  decide if they are good or bad for me.
 To refuse physical touch with anyone, at Not to try to have power or control over
any time for any reason. 
 my partner.
To have friends and space aside from my To respect the privacy of others,
dating partner. including their rights to private

To leave the relationship. conversations, phone calls, text

To have my privacy rights respected, messages, social networking
including the rights to private activities, emails, etc.
conversations, phone calls, text, etc.

(Source: “Relationship Rights and Responsibilities” accessed March 11, 2021

https://www.iamcourageous.org/courageous-youth/relationship-rights-and-reponsbilities)

Let’s Practice
Directions: Discuss an understanding of teenage relationship issues being identified
in the first column. Write your answer on the second column.
Teenage Relationship Issues Answer/Definition
1. Personal relationships

2. Love

3. Puppy love

4. Affairs/infidelity/cheating

5. Expressing gratitude

Directions: Discuss the ideas that you have learned in teenage relationships, create a

graphic organizer that shows acceptable and unacceptable

expressions of attractions, love and commitment. Use the box below for your answer.

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Let’s Do More
Directions:Express your ways of showing attraction, admiration and love by
writing a letter to your special someone. Write your answer inside the box.

Direction: Write TRUE if the statement is correct and FALSE if the statement is
incorrect.
_______________1. It is my responsibility to determine my limits and values as well as others.
_______________2. It is my responsibility not to ask for help when I need it.
_______________3. It is my right to be respected and treated as an equal.
_______________4. It is my responsibility to check my actions and decisions to decide if they
are good or bad for me.
_______________5. It is not my responsibility to respect the privacy of others, including their
rights to private conversations, phone calls, text messages, social
networking activities, emails, etc.

Let’s Sum It Up
Directions: Answer the following questions. Write your answers in the
space below each item. Your answers will be graded using the scoring
rubric.

Scoring Rubric:
Skills 5 4 3

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 Demonstrates a Demonstrates a Demonstrates a
conscious and thorough basic
thorough
Depth of understanding of understanding of understanding of
Reflection the subject matter. the subject matter. the subject matter.
Organization Information is very Information is Information is
organized with organized with organized but
wellconstructed wellconstructed paragraphs are
paragraphs. paragraphs. not well-
constructed.
Demonstrates Demonstrates Demonstrates
control of the control of limited control of
Writing conventions with the the conventions,
Conventions essentially no conventions, exhibiting
errors. exhibiting frequent errors.
occasional errors.
1. Are you in a romantic relationship right now? If not, how about your family,
friends? Discuss your relationship with them.
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2. In what way do you express your attraction/love/admiration?
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3. Why is it important to become responsible in your relationship? Give examples of
being responsible in a relationship.
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_______________________________________________________________________________

Let’s Assess
A. True or False. Put a check mark ( ) if the statement is true, cross mark (X)
if the sentence indicates a false statement. Write your answer on the line
before each number.
_____1. It is important to work on communicating our feelings in relationships.
_____2. In our relationships, it is vital that we practice forgiveness when a loved
one has hurt us.
_____3. Our loved ones can help us when we deal with stress.
_____4. Excessive reliance on social media can be a cause of tension in
relationships.

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 _____5. To respect the privacy of others, including their rights to private
conversations, phone calls, text messages, social networking activities,
and emails is one of our responsibilities in our relationship

B. Multiple Choice. Carefully read each item and circle the best answer.

_____ 1. Which of the following is NOT a positive impact of a teenage romantic

relationship?
A. enhanced self-esteem C. no feelings of social anxiety
B. popularity and social status D. sexual health risk

_____ 2. Which of the following might be a problem of Student A who started being
sexually active with her partner?
A. Sexually Transmitted Illness and unplanned pregnancy

B. substance abuse
C. involvement in delinquent behaviour
D. depression

______3. The following are common relationship problems among couples. Which
is the most common among teenagers?
A. one-sided lack of responsibility for chores and tasks
B. an unsupportive partner during pregnancy
C. dealing with a jealous partner
D. domestic violence

______4. The following statements about expression of love are true, EXCEPT:
A. Learn to appreciate/express gratitude B.
Be demanding from your loved one
C. Be creative with your gifts.
D. Be thoughtful.

______5. Which statement shows being responsible in a relationship? A.

To respect the limits and values of others.
A. To have my own feelings and ideas and share them without worrying
about how my dating partner will react.
B. To speak up when I think my dating partner’s actions or language are
unfair or hurtful.
C. To express my opinions and be heard by my partner.

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 References
BOOK

Dr. Barbara Wong-Fernandez, RGC et.al. Personal Development Reader. Department

of Education Sunshine Interlinks Publishing House, Inc. 2016.

WEBSITES
“Common Relationship Problems” accessed March 11, 2021
http://www.professionalcounselling.com/common-relationship-problems.html)

“Understanding Teenage Relationships” accessed March 11,

2021 https://headspace.org.au/friends-and-family/understanding-
teenagerelationships/)

“Relationship Rights and Responsibilities” accessed March

11, 2021 https://www.iamcourageous.org/courageous-youth/relationship-
rights-andreponsbilities)

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