PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT

1ST TO 2ND QUARTER | 1ST SEMESTER

SELF DEVELOPMENT‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎‎ parts of one’s body that

distinguish us whether we are
is about the understanding of one’s male or female.
physiological, cognitive,
psychological, spiritual, and social ● Secondary sex characteristics
development. - features which appear at
puberty (ex: enlargement of
Adolescent stage – a very important breasts, increase in height,
aspect of growth of pubic hair)
development because it is considered
as a crucial stage. ● Cognitive domain – growth of
mental capacities; development
Talks about the summary of one’s of this is characterized by
childhood and an overview of an adult to thinking abstractly, reasoning
be. It is also socially inclined because of logically, thinking hypothetical
the possible impact to the changing possibilities and impossibilities
society which makes it an important about life.
aspect in understanding oneself. It is a
transitional stage wherein physical, Psychosocial domain – pertains to the
cognitive and psychosocial domains of emotional maturity of an individual.
development occur. These 3 domains ● 10-19 years old – Adolescence
are interrelated and ● 15-17 years old – Middle
may have big impact on the adolescent. Adolescence
● 17-22 years old – Late
During adolescent stage, the adolescent Adolescence
is expected to establish a strong sense
of identity, Puberty – the time when sudden and
for who they are and learn about their dramatic changes occur in an
strengths and weaknesses, which can adolescent’s body; 10 yearold girls and
help them in projecting their future self. 12 year-old boys commonly
experience rapid growth in both primary
Three domains: and secondary sex
characteristics.Identity VS. Role
Physical domain – most recognizable
among three domains; focus on how Confusion – it is based on Erik
adolescents look Erickson’s psychosocial stage, wherein
and project themselves to society. adolescence decide what tobelieve and
● Primary sex characteristics what to accept between the many
refer to the human genitals; the
options of values in life including career
options, choosing of friends Private Self – pertains to our past that
and even the search for identity. we refuse to show or expose to others
Blind Self – part of ourselves that are
Peer pressure can lead adolescents to unknown to us and only other people
serious knows it but maybe
deviant acts like substance abuse, early hesitant to discuss it openly to us
pregnancies and many others.
Undiscovered Self – include good and
Collectivist culture emphasizes family bad things that neither we see or is seen
and work group goals above individual by others and it may one day be
needs or desires. discovered.

Crossroad refers to a common dilemma Stress - Actions or behaviours that are

among adolescents wherein they are considered to be threatening or
constantly faced challenging to the physiological,
with making decisions in their life. emotional and cognitive aspects of a
person.
The three domains are considered to
be interrelated and may have a big 3 Kinds of Stressors (accdg.to
impact to an individual’s life but if not Diagnostic Statistical Manual for
successfully develop may lead to Mental Disorders 5):
serious deviant acts, early pregnancy
and maladaptive behavior. Natural Disaster - Unfortunate events
that are caused by nature
Life goals – target, mission, vision, or Frustrating day to day life experiences
an objective of a person. - these are daily unexpected turn of
events. Interpersonal Relationship
Self-Presentation is presenting oneself - the social interaction of an
to other people to gain favorable individual.Tension
impression. - term that describes person's response
to stress.
Career Development the series of
activities or the ongoing lifelong process Sympathetic nervous system is
of developing one’s work profession, responsible for involuntary physiological
occupation or vocation responses of a person under stress.

Robert Keeley emphasized that Coping Strategies - these are useful

discovering faith among adolescents are ways to cope and adjust to stressful life
formed by way of understanding and events.
interpreting religious beliefs.
The following are examples of
JOHARI’S WINDOW: different coping strategies:

Public Self – part of ourselves that we Talk it out - Confide yourself to some
explicitly show to others level headed people that you can trust.
 Be proactive - Do not withdraw when
Escape for a while - Immerse yourself obstacles come your way, make others
in reading a favorite book or take a long feel your presence
walk by yourself by being the frontrunner of certain
in a park or even at the beach. activities.

Work off your anger - Instead of Plan your leisure time - Having a
lashing out your anger to someone or leisure time to relax refreshes the mind
something, go to the gym instead. and allows the person to weigh his/her
options to make better decisions.
Give in occasionally - it is good to
have strong beliefs or principles in life Brain - organ of the body in the head
but there are also times when you know that controls functions, movements,
that you have to lower your standards or sensation and thoughts.
give in to request of a person in
authority. 2 Hemispheres:

Doing good deed for others - doing Right Hemisphere- The right brain is
random acts of kindness towards other dominant for spatial abilities, face
people can give recognition, visual imagery and music.
immeasurable satisfaction. The right side of the brain is responsible
for controlling the left side of the body
Doing things one at a time - try to list and may be
down the order of importance of each more dominant for creativity,
task that you are set to do. imagination, rhythm, feelings.

Determine your strength - determine Left Hemisphere - The left side of the
what are the skills that you considered brain is responsible for controlling the
to be your right side of the
strengths and engage in activities that body.It also performs tasks that have to
can utilize these skills. do with logic, such as in science and
mathematics like
Minimize criticisms - Every individual calculations.
has flaws and each individual should be
given equal Activities that stimulate the Left
opportunity to bring out the best in him. Hemisphere:

Do not compare yourself with ✓ Logic

another - Try to develop good working ✓ Analysis
relationship with others ✓ Linear
so you will not feel threatened, because, ✓ Mathematics
jealousy begins once you start ✓ Language
comparing the outcomes. ✓ Facts
✓ Think on words
✓ Words of songs
✓ Computation
 Neurotransmitter- Are chemicals that
Activities that stimulate the Right carry messages across the synapses or
Hemisphere: cell body of a receiving neuron.

✓ Creativity 1. Serotonin – involved in mood, sleep,

✓ Imagination and appetite.
✓ Holistic Thinking
✓ Intuition 2. Dopamine – controls sensory
✓ Arts experiences
✓ Rhythm involving pleasure.
✓ Non verbal
✓ Feelings 3. Acetylcholine – controls the arousal,
✓ Visual sensation attention, memory, and muscle
✓ Tune of songs contractions of the body.
✓ Day dreaming
4. Endorphins – involved in pain relief.

The 4 lobes of the brain: 5. Norepinephrine – involved in arousal

and
Frontal Lobe- known as the Brocas’ mood.
area (named after Paul Broca) Its
functions include 6. GABA (Gamma Amino Butyric
higher mental processes, decision Acid) –involved in sleep and inhibits
making, recognition and formulation of movement.
speech; and
voluntary motor movements. 7. Glutamate - involved the
development of nervous system.
Temporal Lobe- known as the
Wernicke’s area Glands - an organ in the human or
(named after Carl Wernicke) responsible animal body that secretes particular
for the sense of hearing and meaningful chemical substances,
speech. It is also responsible for explicit called hormones, for use in the body of
memory. for discharge into the surroundings.

Occipital Lobe- It is the area of the 1. Endocrine gland produce chemicals

brain that is located at the rear bottom of called hormones. These hormones are
each cerebral hemisphere containing secreted directly into the bloodstream
the visual center of the brain. and influence the activities and functions
of the muscles and organs and different
Parietal Lobe- part of the brain that is glands.
located at the top and back of each
cerebral hemisphere. It controls touch, 2. Pituitary gland secretes of growth
taste and hormone
temperature sensations. and other important hormones
3. The pineal gland produces melatonin 2. Anxiety is characterized by
which is a hormone that affects the irrational fear and worry towards a
wake-sleep pattern. situation.

4. The thyroid gland regulates growth 3.Sudden change of mood and behavior
and development by producing thyroxin. person’s usual mood or behavior is not
present anymore.
5. The pancreas produces hormones
such as insulin which turn controls the 4. Poor performance a person cannot
level of sugar in maximize his or her potential due to his
the blood. or her problem.Defense Mechanism
assist the individual to adopt and cope
6. The adrenal glands controls the with whatever situation the
stress reaction through the adrenal found himself in. It is used toward of
medulla's production of adrenaline. The anxiety.
adrenal cortex
secretes many different kinds of Types of Defense Mechanism
hormones which can help in regulating
salt intake, stress Rationalization involves inventing of
and sexual development. excuses or reasons for behavior that is
inadequate, unacceptable or damaging
7. The gonads are reproductive glands to personal integrity
which are ovaries (in women) or testes and status.
(in men). They
produce hormones to controls sexual Projection is unconscious aggression
growth and reproduction. reaction
wherein there is a transfer of
Mental Health is a psychological state of inadequacies towards an outside object
an individual, which may be positive or or another person.
negative. A Displacement is when an individual
person who has a positive mental health shifts a response or reaction from its
shows good signs of original object to
well-being.Well-being is a holistic view less dangerous or threatening object.
of mental health which includes physical
wellness, spiritual wellness and Repression is an unconscious
psychological wellness. Having a forgetting of shameful thoughts, guilt
positive well-being can promote the producing memories, painful
mental experiences, or distasteful task that
health of the individual. areremoved from awareness or forced
below the level of
Signs of failing Mental Health consciousness.

1. Depression a person cannot Ego centrism is the unconscious

maximize his or her potential due to his pretension to superior qualities and
or her problem. traits
Reaction Formation is a defense EQ is more important than IQ when it
mechanism where urges that are not comes to doing well in school or being
acceptable to the successful at work.
consciousness are depressed and
opposite attitudes or modes of behavior IMPROVING YOUR EQ
are repressed.
Emotional intelligence is a combination
Regression is an escape reaction in of several different skills:
which an individual falls back on
thoughts, feelings, or behavior which BEING AWARE OF YOUR EMOTIONS
works successfully during
the earlier phase of life. Simply noticing them as we feel
them-helps us mange our own
Identification is the mechanism where emotions; It also helps us understand
the individual enhances self-esteem by how other people feel.
patterning
him/herself after another person. UNDERSTANDING HOW OTHERS
Suppression the process consciously FELL AND WHY
and deliberately pushing awayunwanted
thoughts Being able to imagine what emotions a
and impulses. person is likely to be feeling (even when
Fixation attachment of the libido onto an you don't actually know) is called
earlier, more primitive stage of empathy.
development.
It guides us on what to say and how to
Introjection incorporating positive behave around someone who is feeling
qualities of another person into their strong emotions.
own ego
MANAGING EMOTIONAL REACTIONS
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
means knowing when, where, and how
*Emotional Intelligence to express yourself
- is the ability to understand, use, and
manage our emotions; When you understand your emotions
and know how to manage them, you can
- sometimes called EQ (or IE); use self-control to hold a reaction if now
is not the right time or place to express
- this can predict success in social and it.
emotional situations;
CHOOSING YOUR MOOD
-it helps build strong relationships, make
good decisions, and deal with difficult We have the power to decide mood is
situations; right for situation, and then to get into
that mood.... Choosing the right mood
- it is part of being People-Smart; can help someone get motivated,
concentrate on a task, or try again
instead of giving up. A close tie between two people that is
often built upon mutual experiences,
TYPES OF RESPONSES: shared interest, proximity, and emotional
bonding.
Passive response: means not
expressing your own needs and 3. PARTNERSHIP
feelings, or expressing them so weakly.
Romantic partnerships, including
Aggressive response: means asking marriage, are close relationships formed
for what you want or saying how you between two people that are built upon
feel in a threatening, sarcastic or affection, trust, intimacy, and romantic
humillating way that may offend the love.
other person.
Why personal relationships are
Assertive response: means asking for important?
what you want or saying how you feel in
an honest respectful way that does not Live longer
infringe on another person's right or put
the individual down. Deal with stress

PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS Be healthier

Personal Relationships Feel richer

refer to close connections between Low social support is linked to a number

people, formed by emotional bonds and of health consequences:
interactions. Relationships are not static;
they are continually evolving, and to fully Depression
enjoy and benefit from them we need
skills, information, inspiration, practice, Decreased immune function
and social support.
Higher blood pressure
THREE KINDS OF PERSONAL
RELATIONSHIPS: 25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP
PROBLEMS
1. FAMILY
1. Affairs/infidelity/cheating
an essential component in any
discussion of relationships; the Bureau 2. Sexual Issues
of the Census defines family as "two or
more persons who are related by birth, 3. Core values and beliefs
marriage, or adoption and who live
together as one household". 4. Life stages (outgrown each other)

2. FRIENDS
5. Traumatic and/or Life Changing 22. Long term depression/mental issues
Events
23. Significant differences
6. Responses to prolonged periods of
stress: 24. Long term stress.

WORK-RELATED STRESS, ILLNESS, 25. Unsupportive partner during

MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES, pregnancy
FINANCIAL PROBLEM, INFERTILITY,
ETC. TEN RULES FOR FINDING LOVE AND
CREATING LONG-LASTING
7. Bored in with Your Relationship AUTHENTIC RELATIONSHIPS

8. Dealing with jealous partner 1. YOU MUST LOVE YPURSELF

9. Having "blended" family issues. A prerequisite to creating a successful

and authentic union with another
10. Domestic violence.
2. PARTNERSHIP IS A CHOICE MUST
11. Knowing you should not have NURTURE THE RELATIONSHIP FOR
married in the first place IT TO THRIVE

12. Lack of responsibility: finances, 3. CREATING LOVE IS A PROCESS

children, health issues.
4. RELATIONSHIP PROVIDE
13. Unrealistic Expectations OPORTUNITIES TO GROW

14. Addictions 5. COMMUNICATION IS ESSENTIAL

15. Excessive reliance on social media 6. NEGOTIATION WILL BE REQUIRED

16. Lack of support 7. YOUR RELATIONSHIP WILL BE

CHALLENGE BY CHANGE
17. Manipulation.
8. YOU MUST NURTURE THE
18. Lack of communication RELATIONSHIP FOR IT TO THRIVE

19. Lack of responsibility for chores and 9. RENEWAL IS THE KEY TO

task LONGEVITY

20. Perceived lack of concern, care, 10. YOU WILL FORGET ALL THIS THE
MOMENT YOU FALL IN LOVE
attention
GOOD LUCK!
21. Disappointments and traumas