Why_Marriage_Fails_or_Does_Not_Realize

The document discusses the reasons behind the failure or non-realization of marriages, attributing it largely to modern feminism and its impact on female psychology. It argues that feminist ideals have led to traits such as greed and envy, which erode traditional values essential for successful relationships. The author suggests that a return to evolutionary principles and a sincere faith in God could help women adopt a mindset conducive to successful marriages.

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Why Marriage Fails or Does Not Realize

Mohammad M Rahman

Marriage defines a great part of human life. It requires a prolonged commitment in the setting
of long-term prolonged group (organization) living. As it defines a great part of life, the question
arises of the right way to live it. When couples of opposite sexes differ on this philosophy of life
due to their psychology rooted in the notion of gender equality deadlocks, and friction occur.
Depending on the extent and intensity of deadlocks and friction, marriage either fails or does
not realize. This article will discuss why marriage fails or is not realized from the correlational
perspective of today’s females.

Psychology can be defined as a biological, genetic, hormonal, and cultural inclination toward a
specific set of emotions, behavior, and cognition. This inclination can be common across the
species or tailored to the individual or gender. What is the psychology of females today that
causes the marriage to fail or not be realized on their part? It is called Feminism.

Today modern feminist female greed, envy, jealousy, and desire to be influencers are major
causes of failure in marriage and relationships. These qualities are resource-intensive,
relationship-eroding, and unsustainable, leading to great obstacles toward spiritual, moral,
survival, and reproductive success. Feminism unrealistically proposes similarity in cognition,
emotion, and behavior of the sexes and equality in the rights of the gender. Feminism has
become hateful of men due to men’s dominantly historical and continuing successes.

What has feminism done to the female psychology of humility, appreciation, and anticipation of
her male partner through protection, care, guidance, and resource-seeking which has defined
patriarchy throughout human evolution? Feminism has eroded the historical natural non-
engineered femininity consisting of traits of gentleness, sensitiveness, nurturing, delicateness,
gracefulness, cooperation, decorativeness, dependence, emotional, passiveness, and
psychological weakness into a form of hostile, confrontational, impulsive, apathetic and
masculine form.
If a man in the setting of group living also possesses some of these qualities deadlocks and
friction are the necessary consequences resulting in a failed marriage or non-realization of
marriage. The way to break the confrontation is gender hierarchical interdependency as
patriarchy practiced for millennia. The man is charged with responsibility for the woman while
the woman is obligated to be dutiful to the man and dependent on him due to resource
ownership geared towards men. Someone dependent on another and someone on whom
another is dependent creates an atmosphere and context of relationship enhancement,
intimate bonding, responsibility, and duty.

The traditional wife, who saw the man as stronger and the deserving sex, existed throughout
evolutionary history and sought men who were resourceful, protective, older, intelligent,
dependable, and mature; The patriarchy usually have been motivated by care, protection, and
leadership while a feminist by envy, greed, and impulse.

Through feminism and its unjust enabling factor of “Affirmative Action Policy,” women have
become attention-seeking, self-esteem-seeking, and masculine. The negative consequences of
self-esteem and attention-seeking personality are many and have made women seek the
perfect manservant by their standards; a matriarchial relationship. They desire the perfect man
primarily to be rich, powerful, and good-looking, who will be, loosely speaking, on standby for
the female, submissive and responsive to her demands and desires, and from a culturally and
ethnically superior background. Evolutionarily when ancestral women opted for resourceful
men, this did not necessarily translate to being rich and powerful but rather being dependable
and caring, i.e., possessing sufficient resources to protect and care for the woman and her
children.

The consequence of feminism is men’s reluctance to form romantic and sexual relationships
with them. The selfish feminist individual materialist and psychosocial achievements and
dominance drive the female choice of husband or mate today. Yet many men still enter such an
exploitative, selfish relationship because the lust for the female body impairs their judgment.
In-time relationship breaks. Morals such as sacrifice, loyalty, commitment, and contentment
almost do not exist, qualities that have defined our evolutionary familial past. While
togetherness in hardship and through simple living was essential for survival and reproductive
success, today, it has become a no-no for matrimonial and familial group living. Divorce has
been increasing worldwide in general, and divorce is detrimental to the survival of children and
their futures.

One of the major requirements of modern women is a non-polygamous family. This arises from
the feminist psychology of envy mostly. While polygamy is evolutionarily protective and
contributive to the species’ survival and reproductive success, modern female psychology
achieved through feminist cultural engineering is against this. Some of the benefits of a
polygamic family are: safeguarding from married and unmarried infidelity, resource
distribution, relationship building, cohesion, growth of family values, improved demography,
and enhanced sexual experience through virginity and chastity. Polygamous families should also
be the best friends' club.

A major reason for the non-realization of marriage is that feminism encourages a career over
marriage and childbirth. These women like to enter into frequent casual relationships for sex
and fun. Both are temporary and do not require long-term investments. The goal is to enjoy
each other sexually. From one moment of sex to the next, there is a period of fun time through
café hopping, cinemas, shopping, and partying.

Tolerance is not the solution to a successful marriage. It implies that the relationship is going
through each other’s dislikes. As dislikes from each other and towards each other pile up,
psychologically, this results in distance, disdain, envy, hatred, and finally, divorce. It is ok to
practice tolerance now and then but not as a norm. The couple must be together intimately
based on their likeness to each other and towards each other, and when the situation is like
this, the issue of tolerance does not exist.

What is the solution that women need to adopt to realize successful marriage? They must
change their psychology and philosophy of life. They must appeal to their evolutionary past,
which had defined women and families for the greater part of human existence, which also is in
tune with Islamic prescription. Universalizing marriage-related values, which Islam provides
sufficiently, would offer almost the same quality of husband and wife, so neither man nor
woman would be so choosy or find it difficult to choose a spouse.

Sincere and true faith in God is the greatest requirement for a successful marriage. God opens
up the cognitive power to hope for a greater reward and a greater understanding of existence
that things such as luxury, self-esteem, pride, envy, jealousy, and influencer attitude become
insignificant things. Theological, philosophical, and religious wisdom are deterrents against
these individualist qualities' temptations. The woman acquires a love for simplicity and fewer
financial requirements while prioritizing masculine values such as care, protection, industry,
hard work, responsibility, leadership, and empathy in a potential husband like the ancestral
women of our evolutionary past.

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