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 Love and Destiny
Discover the Secret Language of Relationships

Sharon Jeffers

Copyright © 2008
by Sharon Jeffers
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Jeffers, Sharon, 1947-
Love and destiny: discover the secret language of relationships / Sharon
Jeffers.
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Summary: “A divining method that uses a regular deck of playing cards
and a birth date to determine personality types and good/bad
relationships”--Provided by publisher.
 ISBN 978-1-57174-590-3 (6.5 × 7.5 hc : alk. paper)
1. Fortune-telling by cards. 2. Interpersonal relations--Miscellanea. 3.
Love--Miscellanea. I. Title.
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 This book is dedicated to all of humanity.

May we learn to appreciate what we have been given in one another.

Be fearless in our expression of love and kindness.
And realize that it's our relationships that bring love, value, and wisdom
into our lives.
And to my beautiful sons, Spencer and Jonathan, who have taught me
more than they will ever know.
 Contents
Acknowledgments
Introduction
The Hidden Conversations in Our Relationships
The Chemistry of Love
The Reflections of Our Soul
The Secrets of the Ancients
Unveiling the Intention of Time
Our Connections Are Sacred
The Relationship Reading
The Four Personal Significators
Relationship Composite Cards
How to Find Your Relationship Composite Cards
The Sacred Symbols
The Heart Suit: Springtime and the First Season of Life
The Club Suit: Summertime and the Second Season of Life
The Diamond Suit: Autumn and the Third Season of Life
The Spade Suit: Wintertime and the Fourth Season of Life
The Power of Numbers
The Fifty-Two Relationship Combinations
The Relationship Composite Cards
Reference Charts
What's Your Card?
Solar Values of the Cards
Spirit and Soul Card Chart
Planetary Ruling Cards
Acknowledgments
Special thanks to MacGregor Historic Games for the use of its beautiful
reproductions of the 16th Century French Playing Cards deck.
Much gratitude to the great team of wonderful people that composes the
soulful body of Hampton Roads Publishing Company; thank you for your
support, for embracing this project with such enthusiasm, and for creating
this beautiful book. Special thanks to Jack Jennings and Greg
Brandenburgh, for your interest and insight, and to Jane Hagaman and
Tania Seymour, for your warm welcome, artistic sense, great direction, and
support.
To Jo Ann Deck, for her kind support and unfaltering guidance in a time
when I most needed it, thank you for being there. To Bill Gladstone, for his
initial recognition of my work. To Amy Rost, for her insight and skill as an
editor, and her willingness to listen for the voice of the oracle. To my dear
friends who called and emailed in the final days of this project with
encouragement, love, and support. I now believe that it takes a village to
write a book, and if I forgot any villagers, please forgive me; I am grateful
to all of you.
Tom Johnson, royal salutes to you for your brilliant work with this
oracle. I am so grateful for the time we spent together while you were on
this planet. You are a true grand master of the Magi.
Here's to the relationship book that we almost wrote, my friend. I know
you're still here in spirit, and you will be missed. Bless you on your
journey.
And, to my beloved son Spencer, who through his journey here and in
spirit has brought me to be where I am in my life. You carried me to my
destiny. I love you and I miss you beyond what words can say. To my one
and only Jon, you are a magnificent son and I am so blessed to have you in
my life. Thank you for your love, support, and unending wisdom. Please
keep me laughing until I die.
To the Order of the Magi—you certainly make your agendas clear, one
way or another. I am eternally grateful for the opportunity.
Thank you.
 Introduction
It's so easy to feel alone sometimes, we try to fit in each other's dreams, but
somehow I know there's a real connection, soaring so deep, inside you and
me.
—From the song “It's a Real Love” by Fuzzbee Morris and Kim
O'Leary

What is it that drives us to be in relationship? Is it the need to be loved? Is

it a need to love another? Is it both? Is it because we feel empty when were
alone? Or is it simply that we are meant to share our lives intimately with
others so that we have someone to bear witness to that fact that we actually
exist?
Within each one of us there is a tendency to think of ourselves as being
alone and separate from the rest of the world. The great philosophers,
spiritual teachers, and quantum physicists tell us differently. The collective
agreement of the higher minds of humanity suggests that we all are one and
that, indeed, we all are connected. If this is so, is it then our limited
perceptions and unconscious beliefs that keep us from embracing our
oneness with humanity and life itself? Is it our lack of this awareness that
causes our loneliness and feelings of separation? And is it loneliness that
motivates us to make uninformed, unconscious decisions regarding our
relationship choices? Perhaps the answer to all of these questions is yes.
In presenting the material in this book, I do not profess to be a
relationship expert. I'm not a therapist, nor do I have a degree in
relationship counseling. I am, however, someone who has been blessed and
gifted with profound knowledge from an ancient source of wisdom that
reveals the most significant insights that we can have regarding our
connections with one another—why they exist, what they bring to us, and
what can be found within them.
I have worked with thousands of people, facilitating their personal
transformation, for more than twenty-five years. In my studies I have
learned and applied some of the profound methodologies, such as applied
kinesiology, light therapy, behavior and educational kinesiology,
numerology, and astrology. I've worked with young children and parents,
kids at risk and prison inmates, police academy instructors, teachers,
corporations, health institutions, and celebrities. In all my years of training,
teaching, and facilitating, and with all that I have done, all of which has
been very valuable, the information that I share in this book is, to me, the
most important thing for me to share at this time in my life. I value this
ancient system because it reveals precisely who we are as individuals and
as a whole as humanity, what our destiny is in life, and who we are when
were in relationship with one another.
The information in these pages is a small fraction of a mystical science
gifted to humanity by the Ancient Order of the Magi. This ancient system
has changed my life and the lives of others. Knowing and understanding,
first, who we are and the energetic composition that we embody as
individuals and, second, how that energy transforms to express itself when
we are with another can give us amazing insights into our relationships. As
you read on, may you be delighted as you discover the secret language that
has been whispering in our ears for a very long time. And may you be
empowered to see yourself and others with greater wisdom, understanding,
and compassion.
Endless gratitude to the Ancient Order of the Magi.
Many blessings to all of us.
Sharon Jeffers
 The Hidden Conversations in Our
Relationships
Man is a knot into which relationships are tied.
—Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, Flight to Arras (translated from French
by Lewis Galantière)

We've all experienced feeling a certain way with one person and
completely different with another. With one person we may show one side
of our personality, and with another we experience just the opposite. With
one individual we are inspired, and with another left feeling stifled. We are
excited and attracted to one person, and then have the exact opposite
reaction to somebody else. What changes? Do we change with each person
we're with? Or is it the dynamics created with another person that change
with each individual we encounter? What motivates our behaviors and the
ways we choose to communicate with each individual we connect with?
And how closely do we pay attention to the subtleties of our interactions
with one another? We may witness these dynamics in varying degrees, but
how often do we stop and think about what's actually taking place or, more
importantly, why these variations in our behaviors, interactions, and
feelings are happening at all?

The Chemistry of Love

The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical
substances if there is any reaction, both are transformed.
—Carl Jung
When we come together with another person, a third entity is formed,
and we call this entity “a relationship.” What most of us may not be aware
of is that relationships are living, breathing personifications of energy. Each
relationship has its own distinct personality. It embodies its own brand of
challenges and opportunities, and it has a life path and a destiny. A
relationship has a temperament and preferences, and it is filled with
specific intentions for its self-expression. When we enter into a
relationship, we step into an invisible cosmic bubble that's filled with the
substance of its own intelligence and its own agendas. The influences that
exist within the domain of the relationship immediately began to interact
with each of us as individuals, and those influences have undeniable and
profound effects on our personal awareness and our interactions with one
another. When attraction and magnetism show up between us and another
person, and we step into an intimate relationship, many unseen dynamics
are stirred into the recipe that we have named love. These dynamics can be
intense at times and mysterious at others.

The Reflections of Our Soul

Love is, above all else, the gift of oneself.
—Jean Anouilh
Mirror, mirror on the wall, am I seeing me at all?
Relationships are our mirrors, and we must remain open and pay
attention to what we see in them. Those we love, those we encounter, and
those we desire are reflections that enable us to see with greater clarity not
only who we are, but also the dynamics that are occurring within our own
heads and hearts. Just as the eyes are the windows of the soul, our
relationships are the windows to our inner world and the most important
and most primary relationship of all: the one we have with our self. When
we see something in a partner, friend, or loved one that causes us to react,
we are being given the opportunity to turn inward and look at the scenario
that's playing out within our subconscious.
For most of us, relationships are a major part of our lives. They add
depth and meaning to our experiences, they stir the pot of our emotions,
and they take us to places within our self where we might not otherwise go
on our own. They challenge us, and they nurture us; they make demands of
us, and they bless us. Relationships are the most powerful initiators of
change that exist for us as human beings. We are attracted to and draw
others to us for a reason, always. Each person we come into contact with
has a gift to give us, a gift to receive from us, or both. Each person brings
us lessons to be learned and opportunities for our personal growth. The
people we bring into our lives are our teachers and mirrors, and when we
see them in this way and are curious and grateful, we can see the magic of
life playing with us through our connections with others.
The secret to relationship success lies in understanding ourselves first,
then the person we are in relationship with, and finally the dynamics that
are created when we come together with that person in a relationship.
What if we could understand the invisible dynamics that govern each
one of our relationships? What if we could see exactly what the
relationships mean, what our learning is, what the gifts and strengths are,
what the challenges are, and perhaps why we have chosen them? What if
we had a way to see exactly what's going on in a relationship with someone
and why we feel one way with one person and another with someone else?
It would be exceedingly helpful, insightful, and empowering.
There are many tools, bodies of knowledge, and techniques that focus on
relationship compatibility. Some examples would be the various schools of
astrology and numerology that observe the dynamics between two people
with great accuracy. In the realms of traditional therapy, the focus is on the
psychological dynamics between people and the individuals' personal
issues that show up in their relationships. All of these bodies of wisdom are
important for the development of self-understanding and the cultivation of
a partnership; however, there's something being overlooked if we stop
there. There's another school of wisdom that reveals something more—
something very significant that, when understood, can enlighten us and
liberate us to greater self-awareness and understanding, and empower us to
have happier, more successful relationships in our lives.
There is a hidden language in relationships, and this secret language is
defined and revealed in an ancient little book of wisdom. This little book
was originally used as a map of humankind's journey through time, of our
destinies as they unfold, and to the meaning of our personal relationships
with one another. This little book, given to humanity by an ancient order of
magi, is designed to guide us through time, show us who we really are,
describe what life has to offer each of us as individuals, and direct us on
our paths of self-mastery. In the realm of relationships, I have seen nothing
else that so specifically reveals the hidden influences that are at work in our
relationships with other human beings.
This sacred language comes from an ancient science, and the little book
of wisdom that I speak of is actually the deck of playing cards.
 The Secrets of the Ancients
Destiny grants us our wishes, but in its own way, in order to give us
something beyond our wishes.
—Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

If you are new to this mystic science of the cards, welcome to an amazing
oracle that reveals the structure of time and where we are in our journey as
we move through time. This ancient body of wisdom also gives us greater
insight to who we are, what we innately bring into this experience we call
life, and the dynamics that exist within our relationships.
I first came upon this system in 1990 while perusing a metaphysical
bookstore in the San Fernando Valley of southern California. I knew there
was something in that store for me, and when I found it, I felt like I had
been reunited with a very dear old friend. It was this oracle. The book I
joined with on that day was The Sacred Symbols of the Ancients, published
in 1947. As I wandered through its pages, I knew I was being reminded of
something that I, for sure, had known a long time ago.
It was some time before I began writing about the oracle in my own
words, and as I embarked upon that journey, I was amazed at how the cards
continuously revealed their wisdom to me. The accuracy that I found
hidden within the sacred symbols of the card deck was nothing short of
impressive. I soon discovered that, in addition to keeping time and making
predictions with amazing accuracy, this system, when applied to
relationships, was unsurpassed in its delineations of the character and
nature of our connections with one another. Some of those connections are
dreamy and juicy, some are difficult and filled with challenges, and some
are powerful in their ability to further define our character and our creative
expression. The learning potential within the connections we have with
others is vast and varied, and using this oracle to observe the invisible
influences at work in a relationship is a powerful way to gain insight and
understanding of our relationships and ourselves.

Unveiling the Intention of Time

 In ancient times, in many civilizations, it was recognized that time has
intention. Each day carried a name, and that name was filled with meaning
—a destiny, if you will. In some cultures, a child was given the name of the
day he or she was born on, and everyone understood that the child
embodied the energy of that day for his or her entire lifetime. Our
civilization has lost touch with many things, including any
acknowledgment of the meaning of time that we might have had. We have
entered a collective unconscious agreement of what time is and how time is
structured. We don't question that it's Tuesday, or August, or 2008.
The ancient system of the cards shows the intention of each day of the
year. Interestingly, the deck of cards corresponds with our current
Gregorian calendar in several key ways. There are:

52 cards and 52 weeks in the year

12 court cards (jacks, queens, kings) in a deck and 12 months in a
year
4 suits (hearts, clubs, diamonds, spades) in a deck and 4 seasons in a
year
13 cards in each suit (ace through king), 13 weeks in each season,
and 13 lunar cycles in the year
7 cycles of 52 days in a year and 7 days in the week

When you add all the cards together by the number of pips on the card
(1+2+3, etc., through the entire deck) the sum total is 364. Add the Joker,
and the final sum is 365, the number of days in the calendar year.
Furthermore, this ancient system defines the intention that time has for
each of us personally, day by day and year by year, from our birth onward.
Imagine, all the while we've been playing with the deck of cards, we've
been holding in our hands the secret of how our lives inherently unfold
through time. We've also been holding onto the keys that unlock the secret
language that is hidden within our relationships.
This system is a most excellent tool for determining relationship
compatibility. When I speak of compatibility, I am not referring to whether
or not we are compatible; I am referring to the discovery of how it is that
we are compatible with one another.
 As each day of the calendar year is governed by a specific card (see the
chart titled “What's Your Card?”), the day we were born on determines our
birth card. Following the birth card, there are twelve additional cards that
form a thirteen-card personal life path for each one of us. Every one of
those thirteen cards represents a significant influence and/or specific cycle
of time throughout our life. Our personal life path defines who we are and
where we are in time, including the many cycles that we have throughout
our lives. The details revealed by this mystic science are uncanny in their
precision.

Our Connections Are Sacred

When you step into relating with me, fresh dynamics come into play
within each of us and between the two of us. These dynamics are filled
with intention. These intentions emerge from the combination of the sacred
symbols and numeric energies that compose each of the cards. Every one of
the cards embodies special traits, wisdom, challenges, and gifts. Each
connection is sacred in that it embodies its own special gift of wisdom,
which is there for us to discover as individuals in relationship together. The
compatibility reports for each of the composite cards define, one by one,
the energetic compositions of our relationships.
The focus of this book is on the cards that govern the relationship itself,
the energies each card will evoke, and the potential of the relationship in
general. In addition to finding the composite cards of a relationship, as
described in “The Relationship Reading” section, there is another way to
gain insight through these relationship composites. If your birth card is a
Jack of Diamonds, you can read the Jack of Diamonds compatibility report
to more deeply understand how the Jack of Diamonds behaves when in a
relationship. Apply the wisdom of the cards that you find in this book, and
your awareness of yourself, your partner, and your relationship will be
enhanced. If you are looking for a relationship, or if you're dating, you can
use this information to know in advance what a relationship is going to be
like and whether or not it's the best choice for you.
Some composite cards indicate an extremely challenging relationship. I
do tell you to think twice about these connections. I think that it's important
to be realistic in regard to our relationships with one another. Fantasy rules
strongly over the heart and mind when romance steps onto the dance floor.