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The document discusses the importance of personal relationships, emphasizing their role in maintaining happiness, preventing isolation, and fulfilling interpersonal needs. It categorizes personal relationships into three types: family, friends, and partnerships, highlighting the evolving nature of these connections. Additionally, it outlines ways to nurture and maintain healthy relationships, as well as different dimensions and kinds of love within romantic relationships.

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The document discusses the importance of personal relationships, emphasizing their role in maintaining happiness, preventing isolation, and fulfilling interpersonal needs. It categorizes personal relationships into three types: family, friends, and partnerships, highlighting the evolving nature of these connections. Additionally, it outlines ways to nurture and maintain healthy relationships, as well as different dimensions and kinds of love within romantic relationships.

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Personal Development

Module 8:
Personal Relationships
Relationships are the framework of our lives. Therefore, how contented we are whether we
are friends or family, associated romantically or connected by way of careers lies on how
fulfilled our relationships are.

Relationship submits to a broad range of assortment of societal connections where varying


levels meet interpersonal desires. Interpersonal relationships are about relationships people
share with their parents, spouse, siblings, friends and associates, employer or employee,
teachers, instructors, among others.

Personal relationships refer to the close connections between people, formed by emotional
bonds and interaction. These bonds often grow and strengthened by mutual experiences.
Relationships are not static; they are continually evolving. And to fully enjoy and benefit from
them, we need skills, information, inspiration, practice, and social support. Attraction, love
and commitment together with attachment and intimacy are the keys to achieve and
maintain meaningful relationships.

Good relationships are fun and make you feel good about yourself. The relationships that you
make in your youthful years will be a special part of your life and will teach you some of the
most important lessons about who you are. Truly good relationships take time and energy to
develop. All relationships should be based on respect and honesty and this is especially
important when you decide to date some.
PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
The concept of relationship is very broad and complex. In our model, personal relationships
refer to close connections between people, formed by emotional bonds and interactions.
These bonds often grow from and are strengthened by mutual experiences.
Relationships are not static; they are continually evolving and to fully enjoy and benefit from
them we need skills, information, inspiration, practice, and social support. In our model there
are three kinds of personal relationships:
1. Family

The concept of "family" is an essential component in any discussion of relationships, but this
varies greatly from person to person. The Bureau of the Census defines family as "two or
more persons who are related by birth, marriage, or adoption and who live together as one
household". But many people have family but they don't live with or to whom they are not
bonded by love and the roles of family vary across cultures as well as throughout your own
lifetime. Some typical characteristics of a family are support, mutual trust, regular
interactions, shared beliefs and values, security, and a sense of community.
Although the concept of "family" is one of the oldest in human nature, its definition has
evolved considerably in the past three decades. Non-traditional family structures and roles
can provide as much comfort and support as traditional forms.
2. Friends

A friendship can be thought as a close tie between two people that is often built upon mutual
experiences, shared interests, proximity, and emotional bonding.
Friends are able to turn to each other in times of need. Nicholas Christakis and James Fowler,
social-network researchers and authors of the book Connected, find that the average person
has about six close ties—though some have more, and many have only one or none.
Note that online friends don’t count toward close ties—research indicates that a large online
network isn’t nearly as powerful as having a few close, real-life friends.

3. Partnerships
Romantic partnerships, including marriage, are close relationships formed between two
people that were built upon affection, trust, intimacy, and romantic love. We usually
experience this kind of relationship with only one person at a time.
Importance of Relationships

1. Relationships maintain happiness and health.


A positive correlation between happiness and relationships exists. Sadness, which can be due
to problems such as despair, marital argument, family hostility, and job discontent, at times
result from a lack of attention on relations or badly handled relationship troubles.
Nevertheless; family, friends, and associates can play as social support and assist in getting
through the stresses and confronts of life.
2. Relationships avoid isolation.
Generally, we all need person-to-person contacts. We endure even when we disconnect from
others. In fact, even our dreams mirror our longing to ending loneliness and feelings of
seclusion or drifting apart. When our social environment fails to replicate our requests and
desires, we attempt to fabricate situations that reveal them, even if unintentional. Human
beings therefore have the need to feel right and fit in.
3. Relationships meet interpersonal requirements.
We have a need to include others and be included; to control others and be controlled; and be
loved and to love others. Hence; inclusion is about our view, whether we are “in” or “out”.
Inclusions relate to the level to which we feel the need to ascertain and sustain a feeling of
shared interest with others, how much we take interest in others, and the other way around.
Control is about being “on top” or “at the bottom”. Control is the need to create and keep up
relationships that allow one to experience acceptable levels of influence and control. It relates
on the need to establish and maintain relationships that facilitate satisfactory levels of
influence and power. To varying degrees, we need to feel capable of having someone else in
charge.
Affection determines how “close” or “how far” we are from the relationship. It is the desire to
offer and accept love and experience relationships that are emotionally secured. Affection
relates to our need to give and receive love and to experience intimate relationships.
4. Relationships serve as behavioral anchor.
Aside from satisfying our need for inclusion, control, and affection, relationships serve as
directions for proper behavioral and emotional responses. They help convey sorrow, joy, and a
multitude of other feelings in culturally tolerable ways.
5. Relationships serve as communication channels.
Relationships are a type of communication channel; they are venues of communication
concerning whatever things can take place. They provided the prospect to speak about the
significant and unimportant, the momentous and the apparently immaterial.
6. Good relationships maintain self-worth.
When healthy and purposeful, relationships improve sense of self. Those with whom people
share relationships with, by supporting, attending to them, and providing them a sense of
community, they help defend self-worth and views of oneself.
How to Nurture Relationships

1. Connect with your family.


2. Practice gratitude.
3. Learn to forgive.
4. Be compassionate.
5. Accept others.
6. Create rituals together.
7. Spend the right amount of time together .

Keeping Healthy Relationships

Good relationships are fun and make you feel good about yourself. The relationships that you
make in your youthful years will be a special part of your life and will teach you some of the
most important lessons about who you are. Truly good relationships take time and energy to
develop. All relationships should be based on respect and honesty, and this is especially
important when you decide to date someone.
Romantic Relationships
The love we feel for the person we have a romantic relationship with that is different from our
love for friends or family. When a person enters into a marriage, we naturally anticipate it to
be enduring and that anticipation or permanence, at least in part, differentiates a romantic
relationship with others.
Dimensions of Love
1. Passionate love is what we feel when we first fall in love; it shows our attraction and focus
on a single person, while some succeed to withstand possible love or over a lifespan; it often
declines in intensity over time.
2. Companionate love intensifies over time. As a couple’s feeling of trust and caring for one
another nurtures, they involve themselves in one another’s life and reciprocally react to each
other’s needs.
Kinds of Love
1. Pragma is a style of love that emphasizes the practical aspects of love. It is an arranged
marriage.
2. Mania is a style of love characterized by volatility, insecurity, and possessiveness. It is more
likely an obsessive love.
3. Agape is an altruistic, selfless love. It has spiritual value, frequently described as pure.
4. Eros is a sexual love that carries couples together.
5. Ludis refers to a style of loving that emphasizes the game of seduction and fun where
partners do not see their relationship as permanent.
6. Storge in comparison is the love we have for good friends and family members. It does not
contain sex at all, although at one time or another, we may find ourselves sexual attraction.

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