Protect Children Who Like To Ask For Goods Mama, I asked for this cake yes ", I hear

the cry of a child in the supermarket. "No dear, that's enough. See, it's so much stuff you're asking "replied the mother. "I just want this one too," cried the child. His mother was not able to move slightly longer because the child has been issued moves its flagship, the action cried and shed tears. The above illustration is a common thing we encounter in our lives, it could even happen to us. When experiencing this if we feel? Shy, nice, or irritated? Every parent would want their children and a happy heart to grant his wish. But let the kids always ask for the items when out shopping can also be a boomerang for us. What causes the child to have a lot of demand / interest for the purchase of goods and ultimately tends to be consumptive? There are several factors that affect it, namely the modeling of the behavior of their parents. Children see their parents when shopping at the supermarket / store / grocery, they can take things as they pleased. Children also begin to practice the same thing or it could be modeling comes from peers because of the environmental / peers have considerable influence on the development / behavior. Another factor that is not less important is the influence of advertising on television. Children are easy targets for manufacturers to market their products. Advertising on television is made in such a pull that affect the children to try their products. What can parents do if the child already has a habit of asking stuff like? Whether parents would just let go? Not an easy thing to do to address the child's behavior that is often asked for certain goods when we shop. But there is no harm if the parents started to give meaning to the children so that children are not being consumptive. Some way below can be tried as an initial effort to address the child's behavior that is often requested items while shopping. 1. Write your Shopping Cart. We first write down any items that we wish to buy. Then ask the child what items he wanted to buy. Of course not all the items we can grant my request. We also need to be selective in deciding. We give an explanation for why children may not be able to buy goods. This method aims to teach children to plan his own needs and understand the different meaning of the needs with the desire. 2. Give Kids Special Budget Another way is to give a special fund for the children. For example: when a parent will give the estimated expenditure of funds can be spent by the child. Then the children wrote a list of needs. If the funds provided have been exhausted there was a list of needs, the child must be willing if the goods are not bought. In this way children will learn to prioritize and train children to be careful in making financial calculations. 3. True to Shopping Cart When in the shopping / Supermarket, usually the mother will be tempted to buy other goods outside the shopping list. Try to remain firm on the list. Children will imitate the behavior of parents who do not follow a shopping list. When children see their parents can buy the goods out of the list, then the child will imitate the behavior. 4. Children prepare to their behavior It could be the child will still be whining even though he has made the shopping list. Well the parents should be alert to the situation. Child could do it his way for his parents embarrassment, such as screaming, crying, or even cranky. Older people to remain calm as possible but do not grant the request of children. When the parents to grant his request, it will be a powerful weapon for the kids to do it again. If the child appeared increasingly unpleasant attitude when he was refused, parents should quickly leave the shop. Address the demand / whining child in respect of goods when shopping is not easy. But the child should be trained so as not to be consumptive. Exercises like the above function to build the character of the child that not all requests and desires can be realized. Children will understand that he will be fine even though he did not get the toys, clothes, cakes and sweets that he saw in the store.

Modal verbs, also called modal auxiliaries or simply modals, are a type of auxiliary verb or helping verb. English has ten modal verbs: can may shall will must could might should would ought to

Modals express the mood a verb, such as ability, possibility, necessity, or another condition. They are used with a main verb to form a sentence or a question. Modals are not conjugated, have no tense, and cannot be used without a main verb. When used with modal verbs (except ought), main verbs always remain in the infinitive without to. In a statement the word order is subject + modal + main verb. subject modal They Mike can main verb come.

should walk.

In questions, the word order changes to modal + subject + main verb. yes-no questions modal Can Should subject main verb they Mike come? drive?

wh- questions wh- word modal When How can could subject they he main verb come? know?

Can The modal can indicates possibility or ability: Tom can help you. Wild animals can be dangerous. Dining out can be costly. In questions, the modal can requests permission to do something or to ask about possibilities: Can I help you? Can Mike come over for dinner? Who can answer the next question? When can we get back the results? Could Could indicates possibility or ability in the past: I could have told you that. It could have been a disaster. When I was young, I could run very fast. Could speculates about future posibilities. In the following examples could and might are synonomous. It could / might rain tonight. That could / might be dangerous. In yes-no questions, could speculates about present posibilities: Could she be the murderer? Could this be a mistake? It can also make a request. In these examples could and can are synonomous, but could is more polite. Could / Can you open your window? Could / Can you help me move this sofa? Could indicates an option: We could go see a movie. I could become a doctor. The modal could is also used to form the conditional. The conditional contains an if clause and a result clause. Could is placed in the result clause. In these examples, could expresses hypothetical situations: If I had time, I could play tennis with you. We could study together, if you want to.

If it weren't raining, we could go on a picnic. Could mentions something that didn't happen because a certain condition was not met: If we had left sooner, we could have taken the train. I could have passed the exam if I had studied more. I'm glad we took umbrellas. We could have gotten soaked. Shall and Will The modals shall/will + main verb are used to create future tenses. These modals indicate an intention or an action that is expected to happen in the future. When used in statements, there is no difference in meaning between these two modals; however, shall is rarely used in American English. I will / shall close the door for you. Tom will / shall meet us at the train station. They will / shall leave tomorrow at 8:00. In wh- questions, shall and will ask about options. Who will / shall drive the car? When will / shall I see you again? How will / shall you get here? What time will / shall we meet? In yes-no questions, shall and will have different meanings. Will asks a favor. Will / Shall you turn off the TV? Will / Shall you stop whining? Will / Shall you go with me? Will also asks for information or knowledge about somebody or something. Will / Shall Tom ever pay you back? Will / Shall Mars be visited by humans within twenty years? Will / Shall you be finished soon? Shall asks about a preference. In these examples, shall and should are synonomous. In American English, shall is rarely used; when it is, it's only in the first person singular and plural. Should / Shall I close the door? Should / Shall he close the door? Should / Shall they come back later? Should / Shall Tom bring food to the party? Should / Shall we stay here? May and Might The modals may and might indicate an uncertain future action. These two modals are synonymous. I may / might go to the park, or I may / might stay home. This may / might be a bad idea. It may / might rain tonight. iMay or can gives instructions or permission. You may / can now board the airplane. You may / can begin the exam in ten minutes. In yes-no questions that make a request, you can use may or can. May is more polite. May / Can I see your driver's license? May / Can we have some more water, please? You can might in place of may or can, but this is extremely rare in American English. May / Can / Might I be of some assistance? May / Can / Might we offer you a suggestion? Must The modal must indicates an obligation. You must see this movie. Tom must see a doctor immediately. Must also indicates an assumption or probability. My watch must be broken. He must have done that before moving to Spain. In wh- questions, must is an obligation and can be replaced with the modal should. In American English, should is much more common in these types of questions. When should / must we be there? Who should / must I talk to? Must can sometimes form rhetorical questions, when you want the person to stop doing something. Must you make so much noise? = Please be quiet.

Must he ask so many questions?

= I hope he stops asking questions.

Should and Ought (to) The modals should and ought to indicate an obligation. These two modals are synonymous. You should / ought to call your mother. I should / ought to go home now. When used in questions, should asks if an obligation exists. Ought is never used in questions in American English. Should he call her? Should we pay now? When should we leave? What should I wear? Would Would followed by like is a polite way of stating a preference. I would like white wine with my fish. We would like a room with a view. In questions, would + subject + like is a polite request for a choice to be made. Would you like soup or salad with your meal? Where would you like to eat dinner? When would Tom like this delivered? Would can make a request sound more polite. Come here! Stop making that noise! Would you come here? Would you stop making that noise?

Would explains an action as a result of a supposed or real condition. I would go with you if I didn't have to work. If I had not had to work, I would have gone with you. She would be surprised if you came to the party. Tom would drive, but he doesn't have a license. Would introduces habitual actions in the past. When I was a student, I would go swimming every day. When Tom lived in France, he would write me long letters. Mama, aku minta kue ini ya, aku mendengar teriakan seorang anak di supermarket. Jangan sayang, sudah cukup. Lihat, sudah begitu banyak barang yang kau minta sahut sang mama. Pokoknya aku mau yang ini juga, teriak sang anak. Mamanya pun tak dapat berkutik lagi karena sang anak sudah mengeluarkan jurus andalannya, yaitu aksi teriak dan mengeluarkan air mata. Ilustrasi diatas adalah hal yang umum kita jumpai dalam kehidupan kita, bahkan bisa saja hal tersebut terjadi pada diri kita. Ketika mengalami hal tersebut apakah yang kita rasakan? Malu, Senang, atau jengkel? Setiap orang tua pasti ingin membahagiakan hati anaknya dan mengabulkan keinginannya. Namun membiarkan anak selalu meminta barang-barang ketika sedang berbelanja juga dapat menjadi boomerang bagi kita. Apa yang menyebabkan anak mempunyai banyak permintaan / tertarik untuk membeli barang-barang dan akhirnya cenderung bersikap konsumtif? Ada beberapa faktor yang mempengaruhi hal tersebut, yaitu modeling dari perilaku orang tuanya. Anak melihat ketika orang tuanya berbelanja di Supermarket/toko/grocery, mereka dapat mengambil barang sesuka hati. Anak pun mulai mempraktekkan hal yang sama atau bisa jadi modeling tersebut berasal dari teman sebaya karena lingkungan / teman sebaya mempunyai pengaruh yang cukup besar terhadap perkembangan / perilaku anak. Faktor lain yang tak kalah pentingnya adalah adanya pengaruh iklan di televisi. Anak-anak merupakan sasaran empuk produsen untuk memasarkan produknya. Iklan di televisi dibuat sedemikian menariknya sehingga mempengaruhi anak untuk mencoba produknya. Apa yang dapat dilakukan orang tua bila anak sudah terlanjur memiliki kebiasaan suka meminta barang? Apakah orang tua akan pasrah saja? Bukanlah hal yang mudah dilakukan untuk mengatasi perilaku anak yang sering meminta barang-barang tertentu saat kita berbelanja. Namun tidak ada salahnya bila orang tua mulai memberikan pengertian pada anak agar anak tidak bersikap konsumtif. Beberapa cara dibawah ini dapat dicoba sebagai usaha awal untuk mengatasi perilaku anak yang sering meminta barang ketika sedang berbelanja. 1. Tuliskan Daftar Belanja. Kita tuliskan terlebih dahulu barang-barang apa saja yang hendak kita beli. Kemudian tanyakan pada anak barang apa saja yang hendak dia beli. Tentu saja tidak semua barang permintaannya dapat kita kabulkan. Kita juga harus selektif dalam menentukan. Kita beri penjelasan mengapa anak belum dapat membeli barang tersebut. Cara ini bertujuan mengajarkan anak untuk membuat perencanaan kebutuhan dirinya sendiri serta memahami perbedaan arti kebutuhan dengan keinginan.

2. Beri Anak Budget Khusus Cara lain adalah memberikan dana khusus untuk anak. Misal : ketika akan belanja orang tua memberikan perkiraan dana yang dapat dibelanjakan oleh anak. Kemudian anak menuliskan daftar kebutuhannya. Bila dana yang diberikan telah habis ternyata daftar kebutuhan masih ada, anak harus rela bila barangnya tidak terbeli. Dengan cara ini anak akan belajar untuk membuat skala prioritas dan melatih anak agar cermat dalam membuat perhitungan keuangan. 3. Teguh pada Daftar Belanja Ketika di tempat belanja/Supermarket, biasanya para ibu akan tergoda untuk membeli barang lain di luar daftar belanja. Usahakan untuk tetap teguh pada daftar yang ada. Anak akan mencontoh perilaku orang tua yang tidak mengikuti daftar belanja. Ketika anak melihat orang tuanya bisa membeli barang di luar dari daftar, maka anak akan mencontoh perilaku tersebut. 4. Mempersiapkan diri terhadup perilaku Anak Bisa saja anak akan tetap merengek walaupun dia sudah membuat daftar belanjanya. Nah orang tua harus siaga dengan keadaan tersebut. Bisa saja anak menggunakan caranya agar orang tuanya malu, seperti berteriak, menangis,atau bahkan ngambek. Orang tua sebisa mungkin tetap tenang tetapi jangan mengabulkan permintaan anak. Apabila orang tua mengabulkan permintaannya maka akan menjadi senjata yang ampuh bagi anak untuk melakukannya lagi. Apabila anak semakin menampakkan sikap yang tidak menyenangkan ketika permintaannya ditolak, sebaiknya orang tua cepat meninggalkan tempat belanja. Mengatasi permintaan/rengekan anak terhadap barang-barang saat berbelanja bukanlah hal yang mudah. Tetapi sebaiknya anak dilatih agar tidak menjadi konsumtif. Latihan seperti diatas berfungsi untuk membangun karakter diri anak bahwa tidak semua permintaan dan keinginannya dapat terwujud. Anak akan memahami bahwa dirinya akan baik-baik saja walaupun dia tidak mendapatkan mainan, baju, kue maupun permen yang dilihatnya di toko.