PERSONAL

RELATIONSHIP
GROUP 3:
Balida, Gisselle Hope
Bustillo, Edita Marie
Eslera, Cj
Torevillas, Cassandra Marie
Cerro, Meldreth Heaven
Juano, Eunice
Villaverde, Donna Lyn
I. TEENAGE RELATIONSHIPS
Your relationship during this stage is pretty much different from
what you had when you were still a child, when you focused on
play activities and had few close friends. During your teenage
years, you form friendships and start to develop intimate
relationships with members of the opposite sex.

Intimate or close relationships are characterized by self-

disclosure and your capacity to trust others.
Also, you become more involved in your relationships that make
you psychologically attached with significant people, allowing
yourself to share sensitive and private topics about yourself.
 FRIENDSHIP
Friendship is a form of relationship between two or more people. It
means being with others and not just thinking about yourself. It is
during adolescence that you make time for friends and even hang
out with them. However, at this stage, friendship is characterized by
a more mutually satisfying relationship of caring and sharing. You
are more loyal to your friends and become more critical about your
friendship. Also, you spend more time with your peers. Hence,
emotional investment is also great at this stage. As such, you look at
your friends as confidants or people whom you can share your
thoughts and feelings, which you sometimes talk about with your
family.
Parker and Asher (1993) identified three types
of friendship during this stage.

 The first is called acquaintances, which are a type of friendship

whom you join only once in a while or occasionally such as fellow
members of a choir or school organizations.
 The second is called companions, which are a type of friendship
where you share same interests through regular interactions such as
teammates in basketball team.
 The third is called intimates or best friends, which are type of friendship
where you give and receive opinions and support. You find ways to regularly
communicate with your best friend through text messages, telephone calls, or
social media. You may opt to have one or two close friends, but some
teenagers find it very easy to mingle with others, resulting in them having a
circle of friends.
Arthur (1999) describes two types of peer groups where most
teenagers associate – cliques and crowds.

• A clique is usually composed of smaller members (four to six

members) and is exclusive to peers who share the same
interests. Members of a clique may have the same interests in
clothes and hobbies such as watching movies, playing
basketball, and swimming.
• On the other hand, a larger peer group, composed of 10 – 20
members, is called a crowd. Members of a crowd share similar
social activities such as parties.
In the study conducted by Furman (1999), it was found
out that among girls, having friends as a source of
social support is more common, compared with boys.

• Girls are more expressive than boys and usually show their intimacy by
talking about personal matters;

• Boys, on the other hand, show intimacy in nonverbal ways (Newcomb,

Bukowski, and Bagwell, 1999). Thus, buys tend to get together for
certain events or to compete (e.g., in sports) whereas girls tend to get
together to have bonding moments through emotional sharing where they
talk about their crush their happy moments, their frustrations, and even
their dreams. Girls tend to easily trust others;
Berndt (1994) said that they are more intimate and emotionally attached to
others. They are easily affected by threats or relationship problems and are
more sensitive to rejection issues.

Moreover, becoming very close with your friends and failing to identify your
limitations may affect other areas of your life. For instance, in your attempt to
become part of the group whom you consider as friends, you may dwell in the
so-called interpersonal relationships or pakikisama. You even join them in
group activities that are not in congruence with what you believe (e.g., cutting
classes and drinking alcoholic beverages). Therefore, choosing a friend is
really important at this stage. As most people would say, real friends are
honest and will not push you to do something wrong. Real friends are like
brothers and sisters who motivate and encourage you to become your best.
II. ATTRACTION AND ROMANTIC
RELATIONSHIPS
■ ATTRACTION refers to the feeling of being drawn
toward someone or something. In the context of
romantic relationships, it often involves a combination
of physical, emotional, and intellectual attraction.
■ ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS typically involve
mutual feelings of affection, connection, and a desire
for companionship between individuals.
TYPES OF ATTRACTION AND
ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS;
Physical Attraction: This is based on
someone’s appearance, including aspects  Spiritual Attraction: This type of
like body type, facial features, and attraction centers around shared
overall attractiveness spiritual beliefs, values, or a
connection at a soulful level.
Emotional Attraction: It involves a deep  Sexual Attraction: This involves a
connection at an emotional level. People desire for physical intimacy and is a
may be drawn to each other based on crucial component of many
shared values, interests, or a sense of
romantic relationships.
understanding
 Romantic Attraction: This is a
 Intellectual Attraction: Some complex blend of various
individuals are attracted to others attractions, including emotional,
based on their intelligence, wit, or the physical, and intellectual attractions,
ability to engage in meaningful leading to a romantic interest in
conversations. someone.
TYPES OF ATTRACTION AND
ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS;
 Platonic Attraction: This type  Cultural Attraction: Shared
of attraction is non-romantic cultural background, traditions,
and often involves deep or values can be a basis for
friendship, companionship, and attraction in some
emotional support without a relationships.
romantic component.
 Practical Attraction: This can
 Aesthetic Attraction: It refers involve being attracted to
to being attracted to someone’s
someone based on practical
artistic or creative qualities,
considerations like shared
appreciating their beauty in a
non-romantic way. goals, lifestyles, or the ability
to build a life together.
 WAYS ON HOW ATTRACTION TO
SOMEONE IS EXPRESSED
When you talk about your crush with your friends, you sometimes feel
very much excited. All these feelings of excitement about a crush are
normally experienced at your age. However, how you express your
feelings of attraction or admiration is another area of concern.
For some, having a crush is like having an inspiration. They become
more motivated to study their lessons and perform well at school.
However, for some, having a crush becomes a distraction. They cannot
concentrate on their studies and spend more time talking and thinking
about their crush. This is one common problem that a teenager must be
aware of.
 WAYS ON HOW ATTRACTION TO
SOMEONE IS EXPRESSED
Having a crush is normal; however, you need to deal with your feelings or how you
express such feelings of being attracted to someone.
For example, when you see your crush at the campus, you may react in various ways
such as smiling by yourself and becoming more encouraged to do well in class. Or you
may talk to a friend and share your thoughts about seeing your crush on that day. You
may even find ways on how your crush might notice you so you try to look your best to
also become physically attractive to your crush.
All of these are normal reactions. However, these reactions may be considered not
normal when feelings of attraction exceed your boundaries.
For example, it is not normal if you can no longer sleep and concentrate on your tasks
because you tend to think so much about your crush, or you feel very shy when your
crush is around, making it difficult for you to participate in class activities. Thus, being
aware of your feelings is not enough; managing your emotions is also essential.
WAYS ON HOW ATTRACTION TO
SOMEONE IS EXPRESSED
Being attracted to someone is different from attraction, although loving
another person begins with liking or being attracted. People engaged in
romantic relationships experience a special type of feeling called LOVE.
Romantic relationships are commonly observed among adolescents who
are involved in girl and boy relationships. Although some boys are
generally unexpressive about their feelings, girls are more likely to
demonstrate self-disclosure and sensitivity to how others feel.
Also, love, emotional involvement, and intimacy are more transparent
among girls because of their early sexual development (Montgomery,
2005). Hence, they are observed to be more caring, supportive, and
emotionally attached.
WAYS ON HOW ATTRACTION
TO SOMEONE IS EXPRESSED
According to Steinberg (2011), romantic relationships may
involve three phases;
■ The first phase is the discovery of interest through socialization
with potential romantic partner.
■ The second phase is called dating.
■ The third phase is commitment, or the stage where adolescents
think about survival and growth in their relationship with others.
DATING
Dating is very common among adolescents. It is usually done
as a way to get to know each other. Moreover, dating may be
seen as a form of establishing emotional and behavioral
autonomy from parents (Dowdy and Kliewer, 1999;
Steinberg, 1999). It is also a way of understanding oneself in
romantic relationships (Furman and Simon, 1999), or a way
of maintaining popularity among peers. Dating, as a form of
courtship and of getting to know one another, is usually
followed by the teenagers’ engagement in the relationship,
where a special feeling called love is experienced and
expressed.
After dating, teenagers may start to become engaged in a relationship
where they promise to be with one another through thick and thin. Thus,
you may notice that some people who are engaged in a relationship eat
together, do their assignment and projects together, and even take each
other home. They stick to the relationship and become more emotionally
involved with each other. The experience of loving and caring is
commonly observed. Over the years, social psychologists have
investigated love and how intimate and loving relationships work (Dion
and Dion, 1988, cited by Sutton and Douglas, 2013).
Love is often described as something that is mysterious, a powerful
feeling that allows you to sacrifice your own happiness for the sake of
others. Love is a process wherein you give a part of yourself by
understanding and accepting others even if they have shortcomings.
A very powerful definition of love by Scott Peck (1978)
states that love is “the person’s ability to extend himself or
herself for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s
spiritual growth.” This definition of love involves not only
taking care of oneself but also of the other person. As an old
saying goes, you cannot give what you do not have. As
such, you and your partner should grow and develop to the
best that you can be in the relationship.
You help each other grow and become better persons. You
can help each other overcome weaknesses and be more
empowered to perform well especially at school.
III. EXPRESSION OF LOVE AND
COMMITMENT
You express your love to another person not because you are forced
to do so, but because you have decided to share yourself with another
person.
Love also involves trust and commitment.
As a form of commitment, love entails being loyal to your partner,
you are there to support and care for him or her during good or bad
things.
Some teenagers fail to define their boundaries of their romantic
relationship.
■ Conflicts and misunderstanding may also arise in romantic
relationship.
III. EXPRESSION OF LOVE AND
COMMITMENT
■ Some teenagers who do not establish a clear
boundary fall into traps of temptation when they got
too emotionally attached to their partners.
■ You may hear some teenagers saying “I cannot live
without him or her” because of this they forget that
each if them is different from the other, and that their
role is to nourish the personal growth of each other.
WAYS TO BECOME RESPONSIBLE
IN A RELATIONSHIP
■ Personal relationship during adolescence stage is
both exciting and challenging. You may
encounter ups and downs in your dealings with
people whom you encounter. Thus, you should
be guided on how to positively handle and be
more responsible in your personal relationship.
WAYS TO BECOME RESPONSIBLE IN A
RELATIONSHIP
CLARIFY YOUR BOUNDARIES
- setting clear limits is essential in personal
relationships. This may include physical distance
(e.g., the ability to not always stay together) and
even socio-emotional limitations (e.g., the ability
to stand even without the other partner).
WAYS TO BECOME RESPONSIBLE
IN A RELATIONSHIP
LEARN TO COMMUNICATE
- communication is a very powerful tool to maintain healthy
relationships, whether they be friendships or romantic relationships.
Through communication, you express your thoughts and feelings that
may help clarify your expectations with one another. When you can
clearly communicate your needs and wants, boundaries can be properly
set. Also, conflicts and disagreements can be avoided if you know how
to state your points of view in a nonaggressive manner. Your ability to
express your thoughts and feelings, as well as your capacity to listen
well with others, may truly promote healthy relationships.
WAYS TO BECOME RESPONSIBLE
IN A RELATIONSHIP
INVEST IN AN “EMOTIONAL BANK
ACCOUNT”.
Steven Covey (1989) states that an emotional bank account is a
metaphor describing the amount of trust that we invest in our
relationship.
In your relationship with others, you should not only trust your
partner but also invest in depositing positive emotions. You can do
this by making small but frequent sacrifices for others and also by
making efforts to appreciate the kindness or generous acts of others
to us.
WAYS TO BECOME RESPONSIBLE IN A
RELATIONSHIP
LEARN TO FORGIVE OTHERS
In any relationship, conflict or the experience of
being hurt is part of our experience. To maintain positive
and healthy relationships, our ability to forgive and to
understand the shortcomings of others are important.
Forgiveness means starting ail over again and not
dwelling on past negative experiences with someone.
WAYS TO BECOME RESPONSIBLE
IN A RELATIONSHIP
CONSULT PROFESSIONALS
At times when you feel bothered about a
relationship, do not hesitate to talk to a teacher, your
adviser, or your guidance counselor. He or she may
provide you with a lot of options on how you can
positively deal with your personal relationships.
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