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Respect - Understanding Relationship

The document discusses respect in relationships and how it is based on right evaluation of others. Respect means evaluating others based on a shared purpose, program, and potential rather than differentiating factors. Differentiation and evaluating others improperly based on body, beliefs, or other attributes is disrespectful. True respect involves recognizing similarities and seeing others as complementary based on shared natural acceptance.

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Respect - Understanding Relationship

The document discusses respect in relationships and how it is based on right evaluation of others. Respect means evaluating others based on a shared purpose, program, and potential rather than differentiating factors. Differentiation and evaluating others improperly based on body, beliefs, or other attributes is disrespectful. True respect involves recognizing similarities and seeing others as complementary based on shared natural acceptance.

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Harmony in Family

Understanding Relationship
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Respect
Harmony in the Family
1. Relationship is – between oneself (I 1) and other self (I2)
2. There are feelings in relationship – in one self (I 1) for other self (I2)
3. These feelings can be recognized – they are definite (9 Feelings)
4. Their fulfilment, evaluation leads to mutual happiness

Feelings in relationship:
1- Trust FOUNDATION VALUE 6- Reverence
2- Respect 7- Glory
3- Affection 8- Gratitude
4- Care 9- Love COMPLETE VALUE
5- Guidance ;

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Respect
Respect = Right Evaluation

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Cont.
Over evaluation – to evaluate for more than what it is

Disrespect
Under evaluation – to evaluate for less than what it is

Otherwise, evaluation – to evaluate for other than what it is

Whenever the evaluation is not right, it is disrespect

Check for yourself in every interaction with others whether it is respect


or disrespect

If we observe, we find in our day-to-day relationship, we tend to do one


of the above three, which is disrespect
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Respect: Right Evaluation – based on the Self (I)
1. Purpose
- I want to live with continuous happiness & prosperity
- The other also wants to live with continuous happiness & prosperity
Our purpose is similar (based on Natural Acceptance)
2. Program
- My program is to understand and to live in harmony at all 4 levels
- The program of the other is also to understand and to live in harmony at all 4
levels
Our program is similar
3. Potential
- Desire, Thought & Expectation ¼ ½ is continuous in me. I am endowed with
Natural Acceptance
- Desire, Thought & Expectation ¼ ½ is continuous in the other. The other is also
endowed with Natural Acceptance
Our potential is similar

The Other is Similar to Me 5


Differentiation
Differentiation

Body Physical Facility Beliefs

Age Gender Race Physical Wealth Post Isms Sects Info


Strength

Differentiation = Disrespect
Not Naturally Acceptable… Opposition…
Movement…

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Differentiation
Differentiation

Body Physical Facility Beliefs

Age Gender Race Physical Wealth Post Isms Sects Info


Strength

· Evaluation based on Body, Physical Facility or Beliefs (preconditioning)


turns out to be differentiation and therefore disrespect

· Differentiation like this has led to resentments and protests. E.g.,


Women's Lib, Generation Gap, Black vs White, Powerful vs Oppressed,
Rich-Poor, Communism-Capatalism, Hindu-Muslim and so on

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Respect: Right Evaluation – based on the Self (I)
1. Purpose – Our purpose (Natural Acceptance) is similar
2. Program – Our program is similar
3. Potential – Our potential is similar
The Other is Similar to Me
4. Competence – On the basis of right evaluation of our mutual
competence, I recognize our complementarity:
If the other has more understanding, is more responsible than me
- I am committed to understand from the other
If I have more understanding, I am more responsible than the other
1. I live with responsibility with the other, unconditionally,
unperturbed by the behavior of the other
2. I am committed to facilitate understanding in the other (once
the other is assured in relationship, and not before that)

The Other is Similar to Me. We are complementary to each other


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Self Confidence, Ego & Depression

Under / Otherwise
Right Evaluation Over Evaluation
Evaluation
Self Confidence Ego Depression
I am self referential The other is my The other is my
(swatantrata) reference (partantrata) reference (partantrata)
Definite Conduct Indefinite Conduct Indefinite Conduct

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Differentiation Respect – based on Self (I)
I evaluate based on body, physical 1. Our purpose (Natural Acceptance)
facilities or belief is similar
(preconditioning). I compare, 2. Our program is similar
compete, differentiate… 3. Our potential is similar
I am different from the other The other is like me
We are competitors: We are complementary to each
other, program for harmony
I make effort to accentuate the If the other has more
difference, to manipulate, exploit understanding
the other, program for - I am committed to understand from the
excitement other
If I have more understanding
1. I live with responsibility with the other
2. I am committed to facilitate
understanding in the other (once the
other is assured in relationship, and
not before that)

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Sum Up
Respect is Right Evaluation

Under evaluation, over evaluation or otherwise evaluation is disrespect


Differentiation is disrespect

Respect on the basis of Self(I) – The other is like me. We are complementary to each
other. The only difference is in our level of understanding (how much of our desire,
thought & expectation is based on our Natural Acceptance)

If the other has more understanding & is more responsible than me


- I am committed to understand from the other

If I have more understanding & I am more responsible than the other


1. I live with responsibility with the other, unconditionally, unperturbed by the
behavior of the other
2. I am committed to facilitate understanding in the other (once the other is
assured in relationship, and not before that)
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