Parenting Styles and Outcomes

Thought:
We know that the way children are
parented when they are young influences
the type of people they become. How?
Why?
A Kentucky father of a teenage boy says
his hardest job is getting his son to realize
that “no” is a complete answer.
 Competencies / Objectives

The student will be able to:

• Identify parenting styles, including positive guidance
techniques that help children develop positive self-concepts,
self-management, and responsibility.
• Identify parenting types and styles.
• List ways to foster a child’s self-concept.
• Identify positive guidance techniques.
• Write an abstract and a personal analysis of a child guidance
articles.
• Apply positive guidance techniques to child-rearing
problems and/or case studies.
Match

1. Responsive to A. Hostile and

children's’ needs. antisocial
2. Indifferent to B. Poor self-control,
children, ignore difficulty with social
them interactions when
3. Reject their children teenagers.
4. Critical, derogatory, C. Compliant with
dissatisfied with parent’s wishes
their children. D. Happy and friendly
5. Warm, E. Dissatisfied with
understanding and themselves.
accepting.
Matching Key

1. Responsive to A. Hostile and

children's’ needs. antisocial
2. Indifferent to B. Poor self-control,
children, ignore difficulty with social
them interactions when
3. Reject their children teenagers.
4. Critical, derogatory, C. Compliant with
dissatisfied with parent’s wishes
their children. D. Happy and friendly
5. Warm, E. Dissatisfied with
understanding and themselves.
accepting.
 Types of Parenting Styles and
Outcomes

Most parent can be classified into

three main types by the style in
which they guide their children. As
we discuss each, think about where
your own parents fits most
appropriately. Do each of your
parents use the same style? Do you
fit the outcome?
 Authoritarian:
Limits without Freedom.
Definition:
Parents’ word is law, parents have absolute
control.
Misconduct is punished
Affection and praise are rarely give
Parents try to control children's’ behavior
and attitudes
They value unquestioned obedience
Children are told what to do, how to do it,
and where to do it, and when to do it.
 Outcomes of Authoritarian Style

•Obedient Children from authoritarian

•Distrustful homes are so strictly
•Discontent controlled, either by
•Withdrawn punishment or guilt, that
they are often prevented
•Unhappy
from making a conscious
•Hostile choice about particular
•Not High Achievers behavior because they are
•Often Rebel overly concerned about
what their parents will do.
 Permissive:
Freedom without limits.
Definition:
Parents allow their children to do their own
thing.
Little respect for order and routine.
Parents make few demands on children.
Impatience is hidden.
Discipline is lax
Parents are resources rather than standard
makers
Rarely punish
Non controlling, non-demanding
Usually warm
Children walk all over the parents
 Outcome of Permissive Parenting

•Aggressive Children from

•Least self— permissive homes
reliant receive so little
•Least self- guidance that they
controlled often become
uncertain and anxious
•Least exploratory
about whether they
•Most unhappy are doing the right
thing.
 Democratic:
Freedom within limits.
Definition:
Middle ground between the two above
Stress freedom along with rights of others and responsibilities
of all
Parents set limits and enforce rules
Willing to listen receptively to child’s requests and questions.
Both loves and limits
Children contribute to discussion of issues and make some of
their own decisions
Exert firm control when necessary, but explain reasoning
behind it.
Respect children’s interest, opinions, unique personalities.
Loving, consistent, demanding
Combine control with encouragement
Reasonable expectations and realistic standards.
 Outcomes of Democratic Style

•Happy Children whose parents

•Mostly self-reliant expect them to perform
•Mostly self- well, to fulfill
controlled commitments, and to
participate actively in
•Content, friendly,
family duties, as well as
generous family fun, learn how to
•Cooperative formulate goals. They also
•High-achiever’ experience the satisfaction
•Less likely to be that comes from meeting
seriously disruptive responsibilities and
or delinquent achieving success.
In groups of three or four have student
develop a case study or story that fits each
parenting style.
Have group pass their stories to other group
and have them read them to see if they
can identify the parenting style.
 Ways to foster a child's self-esteem.
Provide more
successes than Give lots of
failures for the encouragement.
child. Give them
freedom to fail
with acceptance.
Allow
Give independence.
uncondition
al love.
Do not set
standards
unreasonably
high. Avoid
Eliminate the
negative. ridicule.
 Ways to foster a child's self-esteem.
Be available. Be a good role
model.
Give your children
responsibility

Help your child

Take their ideas, emotions develop talents
and feelings seriously.

Set Limits Allow exploration and

encourage questions.
Assignment: Building Self-esteem

In each of the situations, what would you

say or do to build a child’s self-esteem?
Assignment: What are some appropriate
solutions to the following situations?
Assignment: What are some appropriate solutions to the following
situations?
1. Tommy is throwing a ball in the living room and knocks over a lamp.
2. Nicole is throwing sand at the other kids in the sand pile.
3. Your three children are bickering in the backseat while you are
driving on the interstate.
4. Jerry, eating in a restaurant with you, creates a disturbance and
humiliates you by belching and giggling loudly.
5. Amy keeps forgetting to take her lunch money to school. You are
always having to remind her to do it or take it to her at school.
6. Jon won’t come in the house when you call him for dinner.
7. Heather takes her brother’s money from his piggybank and spends it.
8. Your teenager keeps the car out past the agreed time.
9. Jocelyn refuses to do her homework.
10. Craig leaves his dirty clothes on the floor instead of putting them in
the hamper where they are supposed to go.
I’m Hooked

Have students complete the I’m Hooked

Sheet (write down what you learned today
and how will you use this in your life).
 Summary:

One of the most important things to

remember as a parent is to be yourself. You
can only use those methods with which you
feel comfortable. A child can spot a fake a
mile away. Children know if you mean
what you say or if it is just another threat.
Select the methods that you believe in, that
you feel comfortable with, and then be
consistent.