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PERDEV M4

Act. Development task


Assess your level of development.

- What are the expected tasks you have


successfully Accomplished?

- What are the expected tasks you have


partially accomplished?

- What are the expected tasks you have not


Think!

T - Is what I want to say is TRUE?


H – Is what I want to say is HELPFUL?
I – Am I the best one to say it?
N – Is it necessary to say it NOW?
K – Is it KIND to this person and
others?
THE PASSAGE TO ADULTHOOD:

‘CHALLENGES OF LATE
ADOLESCENCE’
‘Successful people are
always looking for
opportunities to help others.
Unsuccessful people are
always asking: ’What’s in it
for me?”
- Brian Tracy
By 1960, most men and
women navigated the
passage to adulthood – as
measured by completing
school, leaving home,
having full-time job,
marriage and parenthood.
Development in the
Passage to Adulthood

* Physical
* Emotional
*Social
*Mental
Physical
*Most Girls have completed
the physical changes related
to puberty by age 15.
*Boys are still maturing and
gaining strength, muscle
mass, and height and are
completing the development
of sexual traits.
Emotional
*May stress over school
and test scores.
*Is self-involved (may
have high expectations
and low self-concept)
*Seeks privacy and time
alone
Emotional
*Is concerned about
physical and sexual
attractiveness.
*May complain that
parents prevent him or
her from doing things
independently.
Emotional
*Starts to want both
physical and
emotional intimacy in
relationship.
*The experience of
intimate partnership.
Social Development
*Shifts in Relationship with
parents from dependency and
subordination to one that
reflects the adolescent’s
increasing maturity and
responsibilities in the family
and the community.
Social Development
*Is more and more aware
of social behaviors of
friends.
*Seeks friends that share
the same belief, values,
and interests.
Social Development
*Friends become more
important.
*Start to have more
intellectual interest.
Social Development
*Explore romantic and
sexual behaviors with
others.
*May be influenced by
peers to try risky behaviors
(alcohol, tobacco, sex)
Mental
• Becomes better able to set
goals and think in terms of the
future.
• Has better understanding of
complex problems and issues.
• Starts to develop moral ideals
Kanais-
nais ka,
Tandaan
mo Yan!
Encouragement
101:
‘The Courage to be
Imperfect’ Kaya
Mo Yan!
Encouragement is the key
ingredient for improving your
relationship with others. It is the
single most important skill
necessary for getting-along with
others, so important that the lack
of it could be considered the
primary cause of conflict and mis-
behavior.
Encouragement develops a
person’s psychological
hardiness and social interest.
Encouragement is the
lifeblood of relationship. And
yet this simple concept is often
very hard to put into practice.
Encouragement is not a new
idea. Its spiritual connotation dates
back to the Bible in Hebrew 3:11
which states ‘Encourage one
another daily’. Encouragement as a
psychological idea, was developed
by psychiatrist Alfred Adler in the
early 20th century and continued to
Rodolph Dreikurs.
However, even today relatively
educators, parents,
psychologist, leaders or
couples have utilized this
valuable concept. Most of the
time, people mistakenly use a
technique like praise in an
effort to ‘encourage’ others.
Half the job of encouragement
lies in avoiding discouraging
words and actions. When
children/adults misbehave, it is
usually because they are
discourage.
Instead of building them up, we
tear them down; instead of
recognizing their efforts and
improvements, we point out
mistakes; instead of allowing
them to belong through shared
decision-making and meaningful
contributions, we isolate and
label them.
Most of us are skilled
Discouragers. we have
learned how to bribe,
reward and when that fails,
to punish, criticize, nag,
threaten, interrogate and
emotionally withdraw.
We do this as an attempt to
control those we love, bolstered
by the mistaken belief that we are
responsible for the behavior of
everyone around us, especially
our spouses, and children. These
attempts to control behavior
create atmosphere of tension and
conflict in many houses.
We
DISCOURAGELY
in
FIVE (5)
General ways
• We set standards that are too high
for others to meet because we are
overly ambitious.
• We focus on mistakes as a way to
motivate change or improved
behavior.
• We make constant comparisons
(self to others, siblings to one
another).
• We automatically give a negative
spin to the action of others.
• We dominate others by being
overly helpful, implying that they
are unable to do it as well.
Encouragement is not a
technique nor a special
language used to gain
compliance. Encouragement
conveys the idea that all human
beings are worthwhile simply
because they exist.
Encouragement develops
children’s psychological
hardiness– their ability to
function and recover when
things aren’t going their way.
Encouragement enhances a
feeling of belonging which leads
to greater social interest.
Social interest is the tendency for
the people to unite themselves
with other human beings and to
accomplish their task in
cooperation with others. The first
step to becoming an encouraging
person is to learn to distinguish
encouragement from
discouragement.
As a rule, ask yourself; whatever I
say or do, will it bring me closer
together or father apart from this
person?

We all have the power to be more


encouraging people. The choice, as
always, is yours.

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