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Positive Discipline

The document discusses positive guidance and discipline for children, emphasizing that discipline should be about teaching and guiding rather than scaring or threatening. It outlines various techniques for effective discipline, such as consistency, positive modeling, and providing limited choices, while also contrasting different parenting styles: authoritarian, permissive, and democratic. The ultimate goal of positive guidance is to foster self-control and self-discipline in children, enabling them to manage their behavior independently.

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Positive Discipline

The document discusses positive guidance and discipline for children, emphasizing that discipline should be about teaching and guiding rather than scaring or threatening. It outlines various techniques for effective discipline, such as consistency, positive modeling, and providing limited choices, while also contrasting different parenting styles: authoritarian, permissive, and democratic. The ultimate goal of positive guidance is to foster self-control and self-discipline in children, enabling them to manage their behavior independently.

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Positive Guidance

and
Discipline
“OK, here are your options:
jump and discover the joy
of flight, or don’t jump and I
kick you out of the nest.

Scaring and
threatening
is NOT discipline.
- Discipline is
teaching, training,
and guiding.
- The goal is to train a child
who can self-control, self-
discipline, and self-guide
Positive Guidance
6. Consistency is
Suggestions: the key to
guidance. It
3. Discipline should be helps children
relevant to the misbehavior feel secure.
2. Attention is a powerful
5. Children may rebel reinforcer to guide
when parents punish children: they often
rather than discipline misbehave for attention
7. Respond to aggressive behavior in
non-aggressive ways 4. Positive Modeling: is a
very effective way to teach
1. Children feel safe and secure children desired behavior
when they have Limits. These (don’t curse bad words
help a child gain self-control around them or fight).
Discipline is teaching,
training, and guiding.
The goal is to train a child
who can self-control, self-
discipline, and self-guide
even when you are not
around.
More Positive Guidance
Suggestions: 11. Give reasons along with
rules to help them learn why.
9. Follow through with your
requests. Do not make 8. Use routines to help
threats. children know what to expect
and how to manage their
12. Treat children as behavior.
responsible adults. Children 10. Focus on their
become what you believe they good behavior.
are

13. The purpose of discipline is to learn (self-control (be incharge


of your emotions, words and actions). NOT just obedience. This
is the ultimate goal of positive guidance.
14. Make sure the message of
LOVE always gets through:

warmth humor
Types of Guidance
Techniques
1. Natural and Logical
Consequences
• Logical Consequences: should be • Natural Consequences: occur
relevant to the misbehavior (not without interference, child
clean room, we not go out can see the result of their
choices
• Imposed by the caregiver to make
the punishment fit the crime. • Cannot be used if the
• Short in duration, not imposed in consequence will cause harm
to self, others or property, or
anger, provide opportunities for
too far in the future.
children to learn from their
behavior
• Example: If Billy leaves his
• Example: If Sally spills the paint, bicycle outside, it will get
she must clean up the mess that is stolen.
made
2. Reverse Attention
•Ignoring the negative,
reinforcing the positive
•When a child’s behavior is
inappropriate, focus on a
child who is displaying the
appropriate behavior and
make a positive comment
•If the first child
changes his behavior, he
should be immediately
reinforced with a
positive statement.
3. Redirection
•Children can be easily
distracted. Get them to focus on
something else.
•Substitute acceptable
activities for unacceptable
ones.
•Example: If he is angry at
the block area, lead him to
a different area of the
room and introduce a
different activity
4. Positive Statements
•Clearly states what is expected,
then help them get started
•When guiding children,
phrase all requests in a
positive manner
•When giving
directions
talk to children on their eye
•level
Example: say, “Let’s walk to
the blocks,” rather than,
“Don’t run to the blocks”
DON’T – PLEASE DO
Negative statement Positive
Statement
• Don’t sit on the counter • Please sit on the chair
• Don’t you ever clean • Please keep your room
your room clean.
• Don’t hit your brother • ________________
• Don’t run • ________________
• Don’t go in the road • ________________
• Don’t yell at me • ________________
• Don’t put your dish in • ________________
the sink
5. Limited Choices
•Do not give him an
unlimited choice unless he
can really have what is
chosen.
•Give “Either – Or” and
“When-Then” choices
•Only give choices that are
available.
•Example: “Do you want
juice or water for a drink?”
rather than, ‘What would you
like to drink?”
•Use a place where there are no

6. Time Out distractions or positive reinforces.


•When a child has disobeyed a rule,
(s)he will be sent to a predetermined
place to distance self from the problem
Excellent way to
and gain composure.
put an
immediate stop •The time spent in time out
to a child’s
action. Strong relates to the child’s age.
message, “This
To give the child & parent the
behavior is
time and space to cool off and
unacceptable
calm down
and it will stop
now.”

•Should be a last option, limited use.


7. Be a Good Role Model
• Remember that children imitate you.
– Don’t expect them to be different than what you are.
If swearing is not OK for them to do, then you
shouldn’t swear.
– Be polite and courteous and treat them
with respect.
– Treat them as responsible people.
What type of
parent are
you?
Match
1. Responsive to children's’ A. Hostile and antisocial
needs. B. Poor self-control, difficulty
2. Indifferent to children, with social interactions
ignore them when teenagers.
3. Reject their children C. Compliant with parent’s
wishes
4. Critical, derogatory, D. Happy and friendly
dissatisfied with their
E. Dissatisfied with
children.
themselves.
5. Warm, understanding and
accepting.
Matching Key
1. Responsive to children's’ A. Hostile and antisocial
needs. B. Poor self-control, difficulty
2. Indifferent to children, with social interactions
ignore them when teenagers.
3. Reject their children C. Compliant with parent’s
wishes
4. Critical, derogatory, D. Happy and friendly
dissatisfied with their
E. Dissatisfied with
children.
themselves.
5. Warm, understanding and
accepting.
Authoritarian:
Limits without Freedom.
• Parents’ word is law, parents have absolute
control.
• Misconduct is punished
• Affection and praise are rarely give
• Parents try to control children's’ behavior and
attitudes
• They value unquestioned obedience
• Children are told what to do, how to do it, and
where to do it, and when to do it.
Outcomes of Authoritarian Style
• Obedient • Children from authoritarian
• Distrustful homes are so strictly
controlled, either by
• Discontent punishment or guilt, that they
• Withdrawn are often prevented from
making a choice about a
• Unhappy particular behavior because
• Hostile they are overly concerned
• Not High about what their parents will
do or say.
Achievers
• Often Rebel
Permissive:
Freedom without limits.
• Parents allow their children to do their own thing.
• Little respect for order and routine.
• Parents make few demands on children.
• Impatience is hidden.
• Discipline is lax
• Parents are resources rather than standard makers
• Rarely punish
• Non controlling, non-demanding
• Usually warm
• Children walk all over the parents
Outcome of Permissive Parenting
• Aggressive • Children from
permissive homes
• Least self-reliant receive so little
• Least self-control guidance that they
often become
• Least exploratory uncertain and anxious
• Most unhappy about whether they are
doing the right thing.
Democratic:
Freedom within limits.

• Parents set limits and enforce the rules


• Stress freedom along with rights of others and responsibilities of all
• Willing to listen receptively to child’s requests and questions.
• Provides both love and limits
• Children contribute to discussion of issues and make some of their
own decisions
• Exert firm control when necessary, but explain reasoning behind
it.
• Respect children’s interest, opinions, unique personalities.
• Loving, consistent, demanding
• Combine control with encouragement
• Reasonable expectations and realistic standards.
Outcomes of Democratic Style
• Happy • Children whose parents
• Most self-reliant expect them to perform
• Most self-control well, to fulfill
commitments, and to
• Content, friendly, participate actively in
generous family duties, as well as
• Cooperative family fun, learn how to
• High-achiever’ formulate goals. They also
• Less likely to be experience the satisfaction
seriously disruptive that comes from meeting
or delinquent responsibilities and
achieving success
Activity

Act out an authoritarian style parent

Act out an permissive style parent

Act out an democratic style parent


“OK, here are your options:
jump and discover the joy
of flight, or don’t jump and I
kick you out of the nest.

Scaring and
threatening
is NOT discipline.
- Discipline is
teaching, training,
and guiding.
- The goal is to train a child
who can self-control, self-
discipline, and self-guide

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