How to

Deal
with
LEARNING
COMPETENCIES
Identify ways to help one
become a capable and
responsible adolescent
prepared for adulthood
EsP- PD11/ 12DS-Id-3.3
At the end of the
lesson, you should
be able to:
1. identify the ways to become
responsible adolescent prepared for
adult life

2. share real-life experiences about

preparing from a responsible
adolescent to becoming an adult.
 In this world of working parents and video
games, in some families, teens can go through
childhood and adolescence without a real sense of
responsibility. They're occupied, but not prepared for
a successful life. Having responsibility for things that
matter and that contribute to the welfare of others are
part of a teen’s preparation for the future.
 Parents are modeling for their kids the
responsibility they feel for their community and the value
of contributing to the welfare of others outside
themselves. As you grow, you take it into yourself as
your own. When you fulfill responsibilities entrusted to
you, you gain a sense of empowerment. The praise you
receive for your accomplishments is authentic, and you
know it's real.
 What's most important is moving you from
dependence to independence, as well as
providing experiences where your efforts
contribute to someone else, or the family as a
whole, and then to those outside yourself and
your family. Eventually, you can provide for your
own needs, and recognize the necessity of your
own effort to make your way in the world.
ACTIVITY:
CHOOSE HEALTHY!
Direction: Read each item carefully. Identify
whether the following activities are for your
PHYSICAL, SOCIAL, or PERSONAL.

PHYSICAL SOCIAL PERSONAL

1.Having a sense of who you are
2. Personal hygiene
3. Sharing feelings
4. Accepting disappointments, defeats,
losing, and rejections
5. saying NO to alcohol and smoking
6. Standing up for yourself
7. Trusting Others
8. Introducing yourself and others
9. Forgiving yourself when needed
10. Keeping in shape
THE PASSAGE TO
ADULTHOOD:
CHALLENGES OF
LATE ADOLESCENCE
Ways to Become a Responsible Adolescent Prepared
for Adult Life

Becoming responsible and being able to make good

choices are very important traits no matter what
developmental stage you are in. It holds true for
adolescents especially since you are just beginning to
internalize virtues, values, and other essential qualities.
 It may not be easy to be a teenager. There may be
lots of things going on in various facets of your life. The
demands and expectations of your parents and other
people around you can also be stressful. But the good
news is, you can treat these ‘difficulties’ as ‘challenges’
which can make your life exciting. Having that mindset is
also an indication of becoming a responsible and
mentally mature adolescent.
Eight (8) simple rules that could
help you, teenagers, to become
responsible adolescent who is
prepared for adult life:
1. Focus on your studies
and do well in all of your
endeavors.

There is time for everything.

2. Take care of your health and hygiene. A healthy
body and mind are important as you journey
through adolescence.
3. Establish good communication and relations with your parents or
guardian. Listen to them. This may be easier said than done at this
stage but creating A good relationship with them will do you good as
they are the ones you can lean on, especially in times of trouble.
4. Think a lot before doing
something. Evaluate
probable consequences
before acting. Practice self-
control and self-discipline.
THINK
Is what I want to say True?
Is what I want to say Helpful?
Am I the best one to say it?
Is it necessary to say it Now?
Is it Kind to this person and others?
5. Choose to do the right
thing. There are plenty of
situations in which it is
better to use your mind
rather than your heart.
6. Do your best to resist
temptations, bad acts,
and earthly pleasures
and commit to being a
responsible adolescent.
7. Respect yourself. You are
an adult in the making. Do not
let your teenage hormones get
into you. If you respect
yourself, others will respect
you too.
8. Be prepared to be
answerable or accountable
for your actions and
behavior.

It is a part of growing up
and becoming an adult.
Oral Recitation:

1. How will you ensure that you will

study well and avoid
procrastination?
2. What are your habits/activities
that keep you healthy?
3. How important is communication
in strengthening family
Lesson Summary
Being a teenager is not easy. There may be lots of things going on
in various facets of your life. The demands and expectations of your
parents and other people around you can also be stressful. But the
good news is, you can treat these ‘difficulties’ as ‘challenges’ which
can make your life exciting. Having that mindset is also an indication
of becoming a responsible and mentally mature adolescent.
Eight (8) rules to become a responsible adult.
1. Focus on your studies and do well in all of your
endeavors.
2. Take care of your health and hygiene.
3. Establish good communication and relations
with your parents or guardian.
4. Think a lot before doing something.
5. Choose to do the right thing.
6. Do your best to resist temptations, bad acts,
and earthly pleasures and commit to being a
responsible adolescent.
7. Respect yourself.
8. Be prepared to be answerable or accountable
for your actions and behavior.
ASSESS WHAT
YOU HAVE
LEARNED
Instructions: Read and answer the question briefly.

Given the Eight (8) rules to become a

responsible adult, which rule/s you are
already practicing best?
Which rule/s you are least practicing?
How are you going to improve it?
How to
Deal
with
Physical Development
 Most girls have completed the physical
changes related to puberty by age 15.
 Boys are still maturing and gaining strength,
muscle mass, and height and
are completing the development of sexual
traits.
Emotional Development
 May stress over school and
test scores.
 Is self-involved (may have
high expectations and low
self-concept).
 Seek privacy and time
alone.
 Is concerned about physical
and sexual attractiveness
Emotional Development
 May complain of parents
preventing him or her from doing
things
independently.
 Starts to want both physical and
emotional intimacy in
relationships.
 Try the experience of intimate
partnerships.
Social Development
 Shifts in relationship with
parents from dependency
and subordination to one
that reflects the adolescent’s
increasing maturity and
responsibilities in the
family and community,
 Is more and more aware of
social behaviors of friends.
 Seek friends that share the
same beliefs, values and
interests.
Social Development
 Friends become more
important.
 Starts to have more
intellectual interest.
 Explores romantic and
sexual behaviors with others.
 May be influenced by peers
to try risky behaviors
(alcohol, tobacco, sex).
Mental Development
 Becomes better able to set
goals and think in terms of
the future.
 Has a better
understanding of complex
problems and issues.
 Start to develop moral
ideals and to select role
models.
ENCOURAGEMENT
101: The Courage to
be Imperfect
By: Timothy D. Evans,
Ph.D
 Encouragement is the key ingredient for improving
your relationships with others. It is the single most
important skill necessary for getting along with others
so important that the lack of it could be considered the
primary cause of conflict and misbehavior.
Encouragement develops a person’s psychological
hardiness and social interest. Encouragement is the
lifeblood of a relationship. And yet, this simple
concept is often very hard to put into practice.
 Encouragement is not a new idea. Its spiritual
connotation dates back to the Bible in Hebrews 3:11
which states: Encourage one another daily.”
Encouragement, as a psychological idea, was
developed by psychiatrist Alfred Adler in the early 20 th

century and continued to evolve through the work of

Adler’s follower Rudolph Dreikurs. However, even today,
relatively new educators, parents, psychologists, leaders
or couples have utilized this valuable concept. Most of
the time, people mistakenly use a technique like praise
in an effort to “encourage” others.
 Half the job of encouragement lies in avoiding
discouraging words and actions. When children or
adults misbehave, it is usually because they are
discouraged. Instead of building them up, we tear
them down: instead of recognizing their efforts and
improvements, we point out mistakes: instead of
allowing them to belong through shared decision-
making and meaningful contributions, we isolate and
label them.
 Most of us are skilled discouragers. We have
learned how to bribe, reward and, when that fails,
to punish, criticize, nag, threaten, interrogate and
emotionally withdraw. We do this as an attempt to
control those we love, bolstered by the mistaken
belief that we are responsible for the behavior of
everyone around us, especially our spouses and
children. These attempts to control behavior create
atmospheres of tension and conflict in many
houses.
Most commonly, we discourage in five several ways:
 We set standards that are too high for others to meet
because we are overly ambitious.
 We focus on mistakes as a way to motivate change or
improve behavior.
· We make constant comparisons
(self to other, siblings to one another).
 We automatically give a negative spin to the actions of
others.
 We dominate others by being overly helpful, implying that
they are unable to do it as well.
 Encouragement is not a technique nor is it a special language
used to gain compliance. Encouragement conveys the idea that all
human beings are worthwhile, simply because they exist. In one
sentence, Mr. Rogers does more for a child’s sense of adequacy
than a hundred instances of praise when he says, “I like you just
the way you are.” Not I like you when you do it well enough, fast
enough, and get it all correct. Encouragement develops children’s
psychological hardiness—their ability to function and recover when
things aren’t going their way.
 Encouragement enhances a feeling of belonging
which leads to grater social interest Social interest is the
tendency for people to unite themselves with other human
beings and to accomplish their tasks in cooperation with
others. The Junior League’s mission of “developing the
potential of women and improving communities through
the effective action and leadership of trained volunteers” is
rooted in the idea of social interest.
 The first step to becoming an encouraging
person is to learn to distinguish encouragement
from discouragement. As a rule, ask yourself:
Whatever I say or do, will it bring me closer
together or farther apart from this person?
Reading: THE POWER OF PERSONAL DECLARATIONS
By: Dr. Emily De Carlo
 So often we accept the declarations that others
have made concerning our own lives, well-being or
fate. It is imperative that we recognize that in order
to achieve what we want in life, we must not give
our power away to others by accepting heir
declarations concerning our affairs. When one
decides that he or she will boldly declare good
fortune, wellness, joy, etc. relative to his or her life,
all of heaven will break loose! Goodness and mercy
shall surely follow.
 From birth, we are often told what we are going to be.
Sometimes, this is a good thing, but suppose you have been
told time and time again that “you will not amount to anything
just like your mother and father?” this is a dangerous
declaration because it sets into motion the actualization of an
unwanted occurrence. All of us want to amount to something!
In order to counteract this and all of the negative declarations
with their destructive potential, one must consciously replace
them with one’s own declarations. In so doing, you are now
in control of setting into action what you really want to occur.
You can declare that goodness and mercy shall surely follow
you all the days of your life!
The following are some declarations that you may want
to make concerning your life:

I declare:
That I am totally free of all addictions.
That I will survive any attempts of others to
control my life.
That I am free in my mind, body, and
emotions.
That I am free to set goals and reach them.
That I am a loving individual with the
capacity to give love.
That I am a child of a God with all rights and
privileges thereof.
That I will contribute to the welfare of others.
That I will be an ambassador of goodwill to
all I meet on the journey.
That I will be a good example for others to follow.
That I will help all that I can to reach their goals.
That I will speak words of encouragement to others.
That I will find the goodness in life and focus on it.
That I will not succumb to the negative influences of
others.
That I will read the information that will encourage
my personal, and spiritual growth.
That I will commit to being the best I can be.
 These declarations are meant to encourage you to take control
of the influences in your life. They are suggestions as to what positive
things you can speak about your own life instead of accepting
whatever has been said about you in the past. You now have the
authority to plant the seeds of love, encouragement, and victory in
your garden., thereby crowding out the weeds of negativity that may
already have taken root! Just as in the garden, you may have to pull
and pull until you get some weeds out. Sometimes, the negative
comments and declarations of others have taken such a stronghold in
our lives, that we must persist until we see the bough not only fall but
break into pieces. Don’t be discouraged if you don’t reach your goals
overnight. Just remember that even a small stream of water will
crack concrete eventually!!
ASSESS WHAT YOU HAVE LEARNED
Instructions: Write TRUE if the statement is correct and
FALSE if otherwise.
1. Stress is a common psychological concern among
adolescents.
2. Family associations are important in adolescent
development.
3. adolescents are concerned about physical attractiveness.
4. Transitioning from high school to college/ work is not a big
responsibility for adolescents.
5. Adolescents do not ask for independence from their parents.
6. Most girls have completed the physical changes
related to puberty by age 10.
7. In the adolescence stage, friends become more
important.
8. They may be influenced by peers to try risky behaviors
(alcohol, tobacco, sex)
9. They have a better understanding of complex
problems and issues.
10. They start to have less intellectual interests.
Give the Eight (8) rules to become
a responsible adult