12 Habits of Genuine People

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12 Habits Of Genuine People
Forbes Magazine
By Travis Bradberry
There’s an enormous amount of research suggesting that emotional
intelligence (EQ) is critical to your performance at work. TalentSmart
has tested the EQ of more than a million people and found that it
explains 58% of success in all types of jobs.
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People with high EQs make $29,000 more annually than people
with low EQs. Ninety percent of top performers have high EQs, and a
single-point increase in your EQ adds $1,300 to your salary. I could
go on and on.
Suffice it to say, emotional intelligence is a powerful way to focus
your energy in one direction with tremendous results.

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Copyright TalentSmart.com
But there’s a catch. Emotional intelligence won’t do a thing for you if
you aren’t genuine.
A recent study from the Foster School of Business at the University of
Washington found that people don’t accept demonstrations of
emotional intelligence at face value. They’re too skeptical for that.
They don’t just want to see signs of emotional intelligence. They want
to know that it’s genuine—that your emotions are authentic.
Include:
According to lead researcher Christina Fong, when it comes to your
coworkers, “They are not just mindless automatons. They think about
the emotions they see and care whether they are sincere or
manipulative.”
The same study found that sincere leaders are far more effective at
motivating people because they inspire trust and admiration through
their actions, not just their words. Many leaders say that authenticity
is important to them, but genuine leaders walk their talk every day.
It’s not enough to just go through the motions, trying to demonstrate
qualities that are associated with emotional intelligence. You have to
be genuine.

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You can do a gut check to find out how genuine you are by
comparing your own behavior to that of people who are highly
genuine. Consider the hallmarks of genuine people and see how you
stack up.
“Authenticity requires a certain measure of vulnerability,
transparency, and integrity.”
–Janet Louise Stephenson
1. Genuine people don’t try to make people like them. Genuine
people are who they are. They know that some people will like them,
and some won’t. And they’re OK with that. It’s not that they don’t care
whether or not other people will like them but simply that they’re not
going to let that get in the way of doing the right thing. They’re willing
to make unpopular decisions and to take unpopular positions if that’s
what needs to be done.
Since genuine people aren’t desperate for attention, they don’t try to
show off. They know that when they speak in a friendly, confident,
and concise manner, people are much more attentive to and
interested in what they have to say than if they try to show that
they’re important. People catch on to your attitude quickly and are
more attracted to the right attitude than what or how many people you
know.
2. They don’t pass judgment. Genuine people are open-minded,
which makes them approachable and interesting to others. No one
wants to have a conversation with someone who has already formed
an opinion and is not willing to listen.
Having an open mind is crucial in the workplace, as approachability
means access to new ideas and help. To eliminate preconceived
notions and judgment, you need to see the world through other
people’s eyes. This doesn’t require you to believe what they believe
or condone their behavior; it simply means you quit passing judgment
long enough to truly understand what makes them tick. Only then can
you let them be who they are.
3. They forge their own paths. Genuine people don’t derive their
sense of pleasure and satisfaction from the opinions of others. This
frees them up to follow their own internal compasses. They know who
they are and don’t pretend to be anything else. Their direction comes

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from within, from their own principles and values. They do what they
believe to be the right thing, and they’re not swayed by the fact that
somebody might not like it.
4. They are generous. We’ve all worked with people who constantly
hold something back, whether it’s knowledge or resources. They act
as if they’re afraid you’ll outshine them if they give you access to
everything you need to do your job. Genuine people are unfailingly
generous with whom they know, what they know, and the resources
they have access to. They want you to do well more than anything
else because they’re team players and they’re confident enough to
never worry that your success might make them look bad. In fact,
they believe that your success is their success.
5. They treat everyone with respect. Whether interacting with their
biggest clients or servers taking their drink orders, genuine people
are unfailingly polite and respectful. They understand that no matter
how nice they are to the people they have lunch with, it’s all for
naught if those people witnesses them behaving badly toward others.
Genuine people treat everyone with respect because they believe
they’re no better than anyone else.
6. They aren’t motivated by material things. Genuine people don’t
need shiny, fancy stuff in order to feel good. It’s not that they think it’s
wrong to go out and buy the latest and greatest items to show off
their status; they just don’t need to do this to be happy. Their
happiness comes from within, as well as from the simpler
pleasures—such as friends, family, and a sense of purpose—that
make life rich.
7. They are trustworthy. People gravitate toward those who are
genuine because they know they can trust them. It is difficult to like
someone when you don’t know who they really are and how they
really feel. Genuine people mean what they say, and if they make a
commitment, they keep it. You’ll never hear a truly genuine person
say, “Oh, I just said that to make the meeting end faster.” You know
that if they say something, it’s because they believe it to be true.

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8. They are thick-skinned. Genuine people have a strong enough
sense of self that they don’t go around seeing offense that isn’t there.
If somebody criticizes one of their ideas, they don’t treat this as a
personal attack. There’s no need for them to jump to conclusions, feel
insulted, and start plotting their revenge. They’re able to objectively
evaluate negative and constructive feedback, accept what works, put
it into practice, and leave the rest of it behind without developing hard
feelings.
9. They put away their phones. Nothing turns someone off to you
like a mid-conversation text message or even a quick glance at your
phone. When genuine people commit to a conversation, they focus all
of their energy on the conversation. You will find that conversations
are more enjoyable and effective when you immerse yourself in them.
When you robotically approach people with small talk and are
tethered to your phone, this puts their brains on autopilot and
prevents them from having any real affinity for you. Genuine people
create connection and find depth even in short, everyday
conversations. Their genuine interest in other people makes it easy
for them to ask good questions and relate what they’re told to other
important facets of the speaker’s life.
10. They aren’t driven by ego. Genuine people don’t make
decisions based on their egos because they don’t need the
admiration of others in order to feel good about themselves. Likewise,
they don’t seek the limelight or try to take credit for other people’s
accomplishments. They simply do what needs to be done without
saying, “Hey, look at me!”
11. They aren’t hypocrites. Genuine people practice what they
preach. They don’t tell you to do one thing and then do the opposite
themselves. That’s largely due to their self-awareness. Many
hypocrites don’t even recognize their mistakes. They’re blind to their
own weaknesses. Genuine people, on the other hand, fix their own
problems first.

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12. They don’t brag. We’ve all worked with people who can’t stop
talking about themselves and their accomplishments. Have you ever
wondered why? They boast and brag because they’re insecure and
worried that if they don’t point out their accomplishments, no one will
notice. Genuine people don’t need to brag. They’re confident in their
accomplishments, but they also realize that when you truly do
something that matters, it stands on its own merits, regardless of how
many people notice or appreciate it.
Bringing It All Together
Genuine people know who they are. They are confident enough to be
comfortable in their own skin. They are firmly grounded in reality, and
they’re truly present in each moment because they’re not trying to
figure out someone else’s agenda or worrying about their own.
What other qualities do you see in genuine people? Please share
your thoughts in the comments section below as I learn just as much
from you as you do from me.
Forbes Magazine May 2016
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