Brown university obom - 3.9.22 - presentation
- 1. #OurBodiesOurMinds Brown University Wednesday, March 9, 2022 Sign-in here
- 2. #OurBodiesOurMinds About Your Facilitator Carly D. Weckstein, she/they ● Theatre Director ● Intimacy Choreographer ● Sex Educator ● Bookworm ● Cat mom @thespomancer
- 3. #OurBodiesOurMinds Brought to you by… ● Campus workshops ● Monthly film competition ● Short film production grants ● Global community
- 4. #OurBodiesOurMinds Here’s the Plan • Introductory conversation • Monologues and activities • Panel of speakers • Digital evaluation
- 5. #OurBodiesOurMinds Heads Up • Mental health is personal – YOU are the expert on your own experience, identity and needs • Shared public space – can’t guarantee confidentiality • It’s okay to feel, and it’s okay to be uncomfortable •Uncomfortable vs. Unsafe • Conversations and activities might be triggering • Please take care of yourself however you need, including asking for help (MH support is here!) • Photos taken for AWI sites, let us know if you don’t want that
- 6. #OurBodiesOurMinds Community Agreements - What do you need to feel as brave and supported as possible here today? •Ask before you touch policy •Listen to each other / active listening •No interrupting •Take excellent care of yourself and each other •Be mindful of the space we take up (take space / make space) •It’s ok to make mistakes - compassion and accountability •Everyone gets the grace to speak in draft •Be mindful of the open chair (who isn’t in the room?) •No pressure to answer a question / “no” is always an option •Be respectful of the weight of these topics (SV, MH)
- 7. #OurBodiesOurMinds • Personal definition • Has been through a potentially traumatic sexual/ intimate experience, or set of experiences • Experience was against their wishes and/or crossed a boundary that they had set and/or left them feeling violated, used, scared, unsafe or hurt Sexual Violence Survivor
- 8. #OurBodiesOurMinds • Personal definition • Has been through a potentially traumatic sexual/ intimate experience, or set of experiences • Experience was against their wishes • and/or crossed a boundary that they had set • and/or left them feeling violated, used, scared, unsafe or hurt • Focus on: mental health and mental wellness / impact of traumatic events on ability to be full self Sexual Violence Survivor
- 9. #OurBodiesOurMinds What are ways that sexual violence might impact survivors? MH? Other? - Can develop mental illness if not supported (especially in childhood) - Trust issues - Impact relationships with other people (i.e. group dynamics, spaces you want to go to), social life - Personal habits (eating, sleeping, etc) - Change your relationship to sex and sexuality - Personal space (hugging, touching) - everyday physical interactions - Communication with others about other experiences - Erodes sense of self esteem and personal control - Feelings of shame and guilt
- 11. #OurBodiesOurMinds In small groups… •Read the monologue out loud •Discuss initial reactions
- 12. #OurBodiesOurMinds How does Naomi What might Naomi seem to feel? be thinking? •Invalidated •Disconnected from her own body •Feeling the need to meet criteria to identify with the role of ‘victim’ •Sense of inevitability •Feeling not supported from mother, level of disappointment •Numbness or apathy •So much shame •Deflating - image of balloons, and heart, joy was stolen ● Patriarchal Influences - can’t be comfortable in her house ● “I know it, but feeling it?” - difficult to change how you feel ● Family trauma and family history - coming to realization that something similar happened to her mother. Passing on intergenerational trauma / victim blaming
- 13. #OurBodiesOurMinds Activity Walk As and Statues De-roling and Discussion
- 15. #OurBodiesOurMinds Monologues Dane (she/her) 21 Patrice (she/her) 63
- 16. #OurBodiesOurMinds In small groups… •Read both monologues out loud •Discuss initial reactions
- 17. #OurBodiesOurMinds Dane Patrice Naomi Feelings: - Anger - Invalidated - Powerless - Guilty - Righteousness in taking power back Message: - “You aren’t angry or loud enough about this!” Message: - “This isn’t something we talk about” Feelings: - Regretful - Hopeful - Not sure how to communicate w/Naomi (lost, confused) - Proud Feelings: - There’s nothing I can do that’s right - Confusion/Conflic ting - I don’t have control over this
- 18. #OurBodiesOurMinds Changing the Message Naomi and Dane How can Dane change the message she is giving Naomi, so that it’s in line with her feelings and has a positive impact in supporting Naomi? - I have your back when you’re ready/ if you’re ready - How can I support you? - This isn’t your fault
- 21. #OurBodiesOurMinds What can we do? •Letting survivors decide what steps to take •Asking - is this something you’d like to do? Sending messages of support if they consent to it. •Respecting physical and emotional space •Vulnerability - “not sure how to support you, but I want to” •Letting them know that whatever they’re feeling in the moment is valid and real.
- 23. #OurBodiesOurMinds Art With Impact: Continued Connections bit.ly/awi-cc
- 24. #OurBodiesOurMinds Meet the Panel Nina Faynshtayn (she/her) Student, Voices of Brown, Brown University Ha-Jung (Haj) Kim (she/her) Student & Founder of ESV (End Sexual Violence), Brown University Tanya Purdy (she/hers) Director of BWell Health Promotion, Brown University Heather Aliotta, CNP (she/her) Nurse Practitioner/Clinical Education Coordinator - Brown University Health Services Angela Kemp (she/her) Director of Prevention and Special Projects Day One
- 25. #OurBodiesOurMinds Please fill out the evaluation! bit.ly/eval-brown
- 26. #OurBodiesOurMinds Stay in touch! Don’t forget to leave your name and email on the sign-up sheet! @artwithimpact [email protected]