Tonya shirelle | Life Coaching And Personal Coaching
- 1. Life Coaching And Personal Coaching life coaching tips for business coaching, personal coaching - techniques for coaching success, performance, career and life-change Personal coaching - or 'life coaching' as it is commonly described and promoted - is a quite recent area of learning and development.
- 2. Life Coaching Personal Coaching Definitions And Geatures Life coaching and personal coaching are interchangeable terms - they mean the same. Life coaching aims to draws out a person's potential rather than puts in aims and knowledge from outside. It develops rather than imposes. It reflects rather than directs. Effective life coaching or personal coaching is a form of change facilitation - it enables people, rather than trains them. Life coaching is reactive and flexible - it allows for personal transition on an individual basis. Coaching of this sort makes no assumptions - it's not judgmental, nor is it prescriptive or instructional. Empathy is central to the coaching process. Good personal coaching seeks to help the other person's understanding of himself or herself. Life coaching is rather like a brand or label of the life coaching industry, but it potentially covers virtually every aspect of personal development that an individual might aspire to - for career direction and development, management, executive and leadership, business start-up and entrepreneurialism, life skills, personal fulfillment, life-balance, and the aquisition of specific skills or knowledge. Life coaching can be this adaptable because it is not concerned with delivery and specialized training - it focuses on enablement and reflection, so that the individual decides and discovers their required progression themselves.
- 3. Purposes Of Life Coaching And Personal Coaching Coaching is about getting the very best out of someone and enabling them to make decisions that will improve their life. Coaches are hired for very many different and diverse reasons, for example: to climb the career ladder faster; to feel more fulfilled at work; to improve relationships with family and partners; to learn parenting skills that benefit both the child and parent; to gain a spiritual meaning to life, or a desire to 'get sorted'. The profession is growing and coaching is becoming widely acknowledged also because people realize just how effective coaching is. Coaching is a relatively new and different profession - different to psychology, counseling or therapy. The big difference between coaching and these professions is that coaching doesn't claim to have the answers. A coach's job is not to go over old ground, be past-orientated or to force-feed information, but to work with clients to help them find the answers themselves.
- 4. Reasons People Become A Coaches Many people enter the life coaching profession having been coached first, enjoying and benefiting from the experience, and feeling inspired to help others in a similar manner. Life coaching offers a potentially rewarding additional or alternative career to people of all sorts. Whatever the reasons for people deciding to work with coaches; whatever the type of coaching given, and whatever results clients seek from coaching, a common feature in all coaching relationship is that coaching is a two-way process.
- 5. He two-way partnership is a main attraction for people to coaching. Both coach and client benefit. Personal development for the coach is a huge aspect of learning coaching and all coaches find that they themselves grow yourself, before starting to help others to do the same. An excellent coach finds out new things about themselves and is on a continuous learning journey. Indeed, becoming a coach means a lifelong quest for personal excellence. For many this quest is the motivation to become a coach in the first place. Helping clients discover where they want to go and helping them to get there is now a proven methodology, which is fuelling the increasing popularity of professional coaching. Significantly, good coaches are never motivated entirely by money. The very nature of coaching means that it's a profession that is centered around 'making a difference' and helping people. Focusing mainly on making money generally leads to a lack of concern for the client, with the result that the client exits the relationship, not surprisingly. Happily, coaches who enter the profession chiefly for financial gain leave coaching quickly - which helps to maintain the integrity of the coaching professional reputation.
- 6. Common factors and reasons for coaches entering the profession: • They like people and want to bring out the best in them • They want to do something more fulfilling in their lives • They want personal and financial freedom • Their family, friends and colleagues previously turned to them for advice and help - they have natural 'people' skills. Coaching entails helping yourself grow and become more self aware, at the same time, helping others to overcome problems in their lives.
- 7. How Life Coaching And Personal Coaching Typically Operates Interestingly, most life coaching and personal coaching is conducted on the telephone. Many coaches never actually meet their clients. For several reasons coaching is just as effective over the telephone as it is face-to-face. In fact, many clients prefer to speak over the telephone. This makes the process very convenient for both coach and client, and it offers greater flexibility for people with a busy lifestyle. Coaching using the telephone offers other obvious advantages: • coaching can be conducted wherever coach and client happen to be - anywhere in the world • there's no travelling time or cost involved • since little preparation needs to be done, telephone coaching sessions can be arranged with minimum prior notice • coaches do not need offices, meeting rooms, staff or other expensive overheads
- 8. Life Coaching And Personal Coaching Profession Attractions Being self-employed has its advantages in any area of business. Having the luxury to choose the hours you work, where you work and how much to charge for your service is a huge motivation for anyone considering joining the profession. Coaches can choose how many clients they want - one client, or twenty. And there are no overheads involved - working from home is a big incentive for people who want to enter the coaching profession. The flexibility of the coaching role, along with the rewarding aspects of the job, is likely to ensure that coaching and the number of practicing coaches grows considerably in coming years. Coaching, as well as being hugely satisfying, a means of personal development and very flexible, is also financially rewarding. Clients value and benefit from the support and are therefore happy to pay for it.
- 9. Life Coaching And Personal Coaching Profession Attractions Being self-employed has its advantages in any area of business. Having the luxury to choose the hours you work, where you work and how much to charge for your service is a huge motivation for anyone considering joining the profession. Coaches can choose how many clients they want - one client, or twenty. And there are no overheads involved - working from home is a big incentive for people who want to enter the coaching profession. The flexibility of the coaching role, along with the rewarding aspects of the job, is likely to ensure that coaching and the number of practising coaches grows considerably in coming years. Coaching, as well as being hugely satisfying, a means of personal development and very flexible, is also financially rewarding. Clients value and benefit from the support and are therefore happy to pay for it.
- 10. Coaches are attracted into the profession because it gives them: 1. Accelerated personal growth and understanding of self 2. A lifelong journey of personal excellence and knowledge 3. the ability to enhance any job-role in any organization and industry - coaching brings out the best in people and motivates them to be the very best in whatever they do - in all manner of jobs and careers 4. More options in life - important and rare choices of when to work and with whom 5. A right and good purpose and meaning in life, measured in real value terms of effort and reward, not lost in a corporate fog Little can compare to really making a difference in another person's life. The ability to help people make lasting, positive changes in their lives is very special. Good coaches have this very special ability, and it is therefore no wonder that people are attracted to the coaching role.
- 11. Challenges Coaches Face And How Coaching Overcomes Them On a day-to-day basis, coaches face many challenges. Coaching is an ongoing process, a method of continuous development and a significant learning experience for coaches and clients, so it's important to learn from 'mistakes' The key to this is realizing that these aren't 'mistakes' or failings in the first place. What many people regard as mistakes are lessons, experiences, and opportunities to learn and develop. Cherie Carter-Scott in her book 'If Life Is Game, These Are The Rules' has some helpful things to say about mistakes and learning. So does Don Miguel Ruiz in his book 'The Four Agreements'. See also the inspirational quotes, many of which help to approach mistakes and learning experiences positively. Perhaps one of the most powerful examples is "What does not kill us makes us stronger." (attributed to Friedrich Nietzsche, based on his words: "Out of life's school of war: What does not destroy me, makes me stronger." from The Twilight of the Idols, 1899).
- 12. “ Failure is only measured by time. If you look at the bigger picture, it's the 'failures' in our life that can actually turn out to be our greatest successes. What we learn from failure is invaluable. To give an example, when a football team loses an important match, they may regard themselves as failures; it's a natural thought process to go through. However, if they take it one match at a time, and look at where they went wrong in the game, and indeed, how they can improve for the next one, it means that these mistakes won't be made again - and they'll be successful in the future games they play. It can be a challenge to remove the 'failure' thought from clients. And showing them that it doesn't mean they can't achieve success in the future." Listening skills, and resisting the urge to give advice are key attributes and methods of successful coaching, and central to truly helping people find their own direction and solutions. Listening is the most important ability and behavior of a coach. This takes patience, tolerance and practice, especially in order to develop real empathic listening techniques. See the section on empathy, which explains more about the different types of listening. Communicating fully and expertly is a quality that most good coaches will possess. Many coaches draw on the techniques and principles of Neuro-Linguistic Programming to assimilate and master these important communicating capabilities.
- 13. Understanding the client's needs is also pivotal to the coach-client relationship, and a prerequisite for avoiding difficulties in the relationship and coaching support process. It is essential that coaches coach and do not give advice. There's a huge difference between coaching and advising: Coaching is centered around the client; whereas advising tends to be based on the beliefs, values and opinions of the advisor. In this respect a coach is most certainly not an advisor. The coach's role, and the coaching concept, is to help the other person find their own solutions, not to have them follow an advisor's recommendations or suggestions. This is a fundamental principle.
- 14. Client And Coach Relationships Often a coach's first experience of coaching or their first client will be someone already known to the coach. Many other coaching relationships will result from recommendations or referrals by clients' or from past clients. Integrity and trust are significant factors in successful coaching relationships, so it is logical that personal referrals and introductions are at the start of many coach-client relationships. It is a fact that most coaches are recommended by existing or past clients. Aside from this, coaches can and do market their services like any other professional provider, using a variety of appropriate methods, including internet websites, directories, brochures and leaflets. Many coaches offer free trial sessions.
- 15. Life Coaching As Part Of An Integrated Approach To Organizational Development Often a coach's first experience of coaching or their first client will be someone already known to the coach. Many other coaching relationships will result from recommendations or referrals by clients' or from past clients. Integrity and trust are significant factors in successful coaching relationships, so it is logical that personal referrals and introductions are at the start of many coach-client relationships. It is a fact that most coaches are recommended by existing or past clients. Aside from this, coaches can and do market their services like any other professional provider, using a variety of appropriate methods, including internet websites, directories, brochures and leaflets. Many coaches offer free trial sessions.