Why women swing
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The document discusses the culture and dynamics of swinging, highlighting its role in providing sexual variety while maintaining relational boundaries. It details reasons couples and individuals participate in swinging, variations in swinging practices, and the impact of swinging on jealousy and relationships. The text also explores the motivations for women and single participants in swinging, including the benefits and challenges they face.
Why women swing
- 1. Swinging Leanna Wolfe, PhD Swinging Leanna Wolfe, PhD
- 2. The Culture of SwingingThe Culture of Swinging • Provides sexual variety for the man who cannot afford a harem or a mistress or risk a clandestine affair • Clear distinctions are made between one’s spouse and those who are play partners • No Sex Object / Success Object Exchange • Female popularity based on willingness to say “yes.” • Male popularity based on appearing kind, considerate and sensitive to women’s needs.
- 3. Variations in SwingingVariations in Swinging • Watch / Be Watched • Engage Others As a Couple • Create a Three (or More) Way Menage • Engage Others As a Single • Anonymous Sex • Regular Play Partners • Regular Play Community
- 4. Reasons Couples SwingReasons Couples Swing • Enhance Their Relationship – Discuss people / adventures – Expand erotic repertoire – Sex is for FUN • Be Part of a Social Community – Friends/Activities – Bonded through group sexuality – Reduce possibility of “special” relationships
- 5. Swinging and AIDSSwinging and AIDS • Minnesota Club Tests • Lifestyles Organization Response • By 1987 50% drop in attendance • 1980s books on adultery and gender dynamics – Contrast to 60s and 70s books on open marriage and communalism.
- 6. Swinging TodaySwinging Today • House Parties (private) • Membership Clubs – New Horizons, LA Couples, Lush Club • Hotel Dances • Vacations and Resorts – Hedonism II, Lifestyles, Caliente • Conventions • Internet – Personal Ads, Links to Clubs
- 7. Sperm Competition Syndrome Sperm Competition Syndrome • Evolutionary Psychology Theory • When men witness their partners having sex with other men their own desire to inseminate their wives is increased promulgating an inter-uterine sperm war
- 8. How Swinging Limits Jealousy How Swinging Limits Jealousy • No Elaborate Seduction – taste but don’t surrender • Limited Sharing – preserve social/legal monogamy • Safer Sex – viral and emotional
- 9. Microdrama IMicrodrama I • Moment of Fear – watching partner look lost in someone else’s embrace…in passionate kisses – watching their body melt into someone else • Joy, Relief and Wild Passion – partner returns! (connection is reaffirmed) – momentary fears of loss and abandonment are over, BUT the adrenaline is still there
- 10. Microdrama II (the other side) Microdrama II (the other side) • Your partner is watching you make love with someone else – in some moments you’re lost in the embrace, the kiss, the considered passion – in other moments you sense your partner’s fears--you might never return – these fears confirm their passion for you – this fires up your adrenaline
- 11. Microdrama III (the return) Microdrama III (the return) • You bring the passion you created back to your partner • This passion becomes part of your own home fire • The adrenaline cycle becomes so satisfying that both of you openly invite more microdramas into your core relationship
- 12. How Women Become Swingers How Women Become Swingers • Husband’s Fantasy • Safely Practice Bisexuality • High Sex Drive • Curiosity
- 13. Why Single Women Swing Why Single Women Swing • Enjoy Sex • Emotionally Secure • Financially Independent • Not Necessarily Looking for a Relationship
- 14. Why Women Leave Swinging Why Women Leave Swinging • Not Fulfilling • Trouble with STDs • Husband Too Jealous • Difficulty finding compatible partners • Other obligations (family, work, etc.) • Marriage Ends
- 15. Why Women Stay Swingers Why Women Stay Swingers • Shift in Consciousness • Enjoy the Freedom to Express Themselves Sexually • Bond with other Women • Women Controlled Scene • Enjoy Voyeurism/Exhibitionism • Free to be a Slut and Still be safely Married